acxlers2014:
My experience buttresses the point that human nature is such that they look out for self first. I met, dated, proposed and did introduction with a lady in her thirties with the anticipation to marry her three months after that. Well I was charged up and ready to go and I was excited about the whole thing. She came over to my station in one of these northern states and she left after few weeks. I had thought everything was fine when I saw her off to the airport. Well a week after her attitude became funny, she started by asking for a postponement on the wedding, then she became very aggressive and later on she barred my numbers and started acting funny. Before I knew what was happening she started insulting me and saying different things about my capabilities as a man. Well by the grace of God I am a doctor in A government hospital and I own a flourishing practice in my domicile. Sadly no matter how much I tried she never seemed to be ready to come back. Well at a point in the deterioration of our relationship she returned my rings engagement and wedding bands and all the gifts I had given her
She was interviewed by her pastor, my pastor, my folks and she reiterated that she was not coming back. I did not relent even after all these but I had even a stronger resolve to carry on with the whole process. I thought it was a moment of temporary set back that maybe she may come through. How wrong was I. Several texts afterwards. She came out with a bold statement " MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AS I HAVE MOVED ON WITH MINE". IT hurt but is didn't matter to me. Then the deal breaker.......... she sends me conversations between her and a guy who was chiking her via whatsapp and was professing his love to her and she was tripping. With the caption " I WOULD RATHER MOVE ON WITH THIS GUY, HE IS A BETTER MAN TO YOU". She calls up my folks and tell them that I should stay off her back as well as my siblings. That was the CLOSURE I needed and I must say it was a tough call.

As for her family, they supported their own.
Lessons learnt.
The truth is when it is gone don't fight it, just move
on.

Never put your eggs in one basket, the concept of a side chick for every guy is valid, it is for your sanity, little wonder our fathers always seemed to have one

Old women, middle aged women, girls and baby girls are all the same their psyche is way different maybe it has something to do with hormones.

Never stick to an opinionated women, you can't be so silly to think feminism can work in our society

Beautiful women always feel they have an option.

Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.

Move on bro. Share almost same story with me. You made cool points up their. #Especially when she is beautiful#

These types ALWAYS come back. Either for the crumbs or the real meal but they just ALWAYS do...

Have you ever listen to Let Her Go by Passenger? this fit your story well. But the good thing is, it happened while you were yet married to her because I envy those with divorce case. Well, take heart bro, move on as she said. Don't drink ooo,just grow above it.

fuckshit:
OP; shιt happens; can fυcking tell you've fυcking moved on and still fυcking standing strong; you're fυcking blessed; and a big fυcking thanks for sharing this;

OP; again; you're fυcking blessed for this comment; from fυcking experience; without a fυcking side chick; it's fυcking terrible;

guys fυcking wise up; most ladies fυcking know this rule and are fυcking good at it; most ladies do not restrict their pυssy to only one diςk

Why are you so vulgar? Do you think it's cool?
Does it make you feel hipp?
Does it boost your little ego?
This seems like over compensation for lack in more matured spheres of your character, or are you lacking in more obvious parts?
Your post is offensive and best fit for a public toilet not here where same minds interact

DEAFandDUMB:
Malaysian boys at work.. Her eyes will clear soon. Take heart my dear.. If the ring is still available bring it on cos my fingers seems to be the perfert match for it..

I have a ring for u

OP sorry for your misfortune, shit happens.
On a personal note I think it's wrong of you to generalize n stereotype all women as being the same.
Poor guys have married rich girls n vice versa.
Couples are celebrating 30,40 n more yrs in marriage and are still living together happily....
Besides, we never hear the Lady own story...
It takes two to Tango!!

Ishilove:

Guy your wahala too much. Are you not the same dude whose girlfriend of seven months beats him up?

https://www.nairaland.com/2540809/girlfriend-beats-me

I think this previous post puts everything in perspective - working on the premise that he is telling the truth on both occasions
https://www.nairaland.com/2536855/needed-share-she-stopped-loving

Too many gaps in the whole story and the OP isn't being honest with himself.

'Ho...as usual you are looking for d1ck on this thread!!!!!!

misspicy:


So we still have truthful men

God bless your discerning spirit,inasmuch as I don't agree with the way the lady went about it,her response points to one thing ,Op might be impotent or have a small member,not every woman can manage such.

BTW do you still flow?

dazzlinglyme:
come marry me abeg I dey find Doctor wey go marry me

you have big yansh? pm me

You guys are missing the point or reason the woman left him...the doctor can not do the do..or his manhood is small..."like that old Yoruba egba goes "o ni ehn me de gba chin chin...She says she can't accept small diek.

He is less of a man which translates to HE CAN'T PERFORM SEXUALLY or HIS JOYSTICK IS TINY. Which lady wants a tiny Peepee? Oga Medical Doctor is not telling us the whole truth, just castigating the poor lady. Accept my sympathy bro

acxlers2014:
My experience buttresses the point that human nature is such that they look out for self first. I met, dated, proposed and did introduction with a lady in her thirties with the anticipation to marry her three months after that. Well I was charged up and ready to go and I was excited about the whole thing. She came over to my station in one of these northern states and she left after few weeks. I had thought everything was fine when I saw her off to the airport. Well a week after her attitude became funny, she started by asking for a postponement on the wedding, then she became very aggressive and later on she barred my numbers and started acting funny. Before I knew what was happening she started insulting me and saying different things about my capabilities as a man. Well by the grace of God I am a doctor in A government hospital and I own a flourishing practice in my domicile. Sadly no matter how much I tried she never seemed to be ready to come back. Well at a point in the deterioration of our relationship she returned my rings engagement and wedding bands and all the gifts I had given her
She was interviewed by her pastor, my pastor, my folks and she reiterated that she was not coming back. I did not relent even after all these but I had even a stronger resolve to carry on with the whole process. I thought it was a moment of temporary set back that maybe she may come through. How wrong was I. Several texts afterwards. She came out with a bold statement " MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AS I HAVE MOVED ON WITH MINE". IT hurt but is didn't matter to me. Then the deal breaker.......... she sends me conversations between her and a guy who was chiking her via whatsapp and was professing his love to her and she was tripping. With the caption " I WOULD RATHER MOVE ON WITH THIS GUY, HE IS A BETTER MAN TO YOU". She calls up my folks and tell them that I should stay off her back as well as my siblings. That was the CLOSURE I needed and I must say it was a tough call.

As for her family, they supported their own.
Lessons learnt.
The truth is when it is gone don't fight it, just move
on.

Never put your eggs in one basket, the concept of a side chick for every guy is valid, it is for your sanity, little wonder our fathers always seemed to have one

Old women, middle aged women, girls and baby girls are all the same their psyche is way different maybe it has something to do with hormones.

Never stick to an opinionated women, you can't be so silly to think feminism can work in our society

Beautiful women always feel they have an option.

Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.

pls as a medical doctor I really need ur help

acxlers2014:
My experience buttresses the point that human nature is such that they look out for self first. I met, dated, proposed and did introduction with a lady in her thirties with the anticipation to marry her three months after that. Well I was charged up and ready to go and I was excited about the whole thing. She came over to my station in one of these northern states and she left after few weeks. I had thought everything was fine when I saw her off to the airport. Well a week after her attitude became funny, she started by asking for a postponement on the wedding, then she became very aggressive and later on she barred my numbers and started acting funny. Before I knew what was happening she started insulting me and saying different things about my capabilities as a man. Well by the grace of God I am a doctor in A government hospital and I own a flourishing practice in my domicile. Sadly no matter how much I tried she never seemed to be ready to come back. Well at a point in the deterioration of our relationship she returned my rings engagement and wedding bands and all the gifts I had given her
She was interviewed by her pastor, my pastor, my folks and she reiterated that she was not coming back. I did not relent even after all these but I had even a stronger resolve to carry on with the whole process. I thought it was a moment of temporary set back that maybe she may come through. How wrong was I. Several texts afterwards. She came out with a bold statement " MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AS I HAVE MOVED ON WITH MINE". IT hurt but is didn't matter to me. Then the deal breaker.......... she sends me conversations between her and a guy who was chiking her via whatsapp and was professing his love to her and she was tripping. With the caption " I WOULD RATHER MOVE ON WITH THIS GUY, HE IS A BETTER MAN TO YOU". She calls up my folks and tell them that I should stay off her back as well as my siblings. That was the CLOSURE I needed and I must say it was a tough call.

As for her family, they supported their own.
Lessons learnt.
The truth is when it is gone don't fight it, just move
on.

Never put your eggs in one basket, the concept of a side chick for every guy is valid, it is for your sanity, little wonder our fathers always seemed to have one

Old women, middle aged women, girls and baby girls are all the same their psyche is way different maybe it has something to do with hormones.

Never stick to an opinionated women, you can't be so silly to think feminism can work in our society

Beautiful women always feel they have an option.

Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.

So if a woman gets dumped too we should encourage all women to start having side boo too abi?

am sorry for the pains u went through. Somethings or some relationships are not just meant to be. Take it as one of the lessons of life. Dissapoint,ents dont mar us rather they make us strong and wiser. Dont worry, come to me. I promise not to hurt you. Will love and make u smile everyday.

acxlers2014:
My experience buttresses the point that human nature is such that they look out for self first. I met, dated, proposed and did introduction with a lady in her thirties with the anticipation to marry her three months after that. Well I was charged up and ready to go and I was excited about the whole thing. She came over to my station in one of these northern states and she left after few weeks. I had thought everything was fine when I saw her off to the airport. Well a week after her attitude became funny, she started by asking for a postponement on the wedding, then she became very aggressive and later on she barred my numbers and started acting funny. Before I knew what was happening she started insulting me and saying different things about my capabilities as a man. Well by the grace of God I am a doctor in A government hospital and I own a flourishing practice in my domicile. Sadly no matter how much I tried she never seemed to be ready to come back. Well at a point in the deterioration of our relationship she returned my rings engagement and wedding bands and all the gifts I had given her
She was interviewed by her pastor, my pastor, my folks and she reiterated that she was not coming back. I did not relent even after all these but I had even a stronger resolve to carry on with the whole process. I thought it was a moment of temporary set back that maybe she may come through. How wrong was I. Several texts afterwards. She came out with a bold statement " MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AS I HAVE MOVED ON WITH MINE". IT hurt but is didn't matter to me. Then the deal breaker.......... she sends me conversations between her and a guy who was chiking her via whatsapp and was professing his love to her and she was tripping. With the caption " I WOULD RATHER MOVE ON WITH THIS GUY, HE IS A BETTER MAN TO YOU". She calls up my folks and tell them that I should stay off her back as well as my siblings. That was the CLOSURE I needed and I must say it was a tough call.

As for her family, they supported their own.
Lessons learnt.
The truth is when it is gone don't fight it, just move
on.

Never put your eggs in one basket, the concept of a side chick for every guy is valid, it is for your sanity, little wonder our fathers always seemed to have one

Old women, middle aged women, girls and baby girls are all the same their psyche is way different maybe it has something to do with hormones.

Never stick to an opinionated women, you can't be so silly to think feminism can work in our society

Beautiful women always feel they have an option.

Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.

Brother, this girl is not meant for you. You will get someone who is a lot better.

wailing:


I have a ring for u

You wanna break the Doctor's heart the second time?..
Lemme wait till tomorrow if I do not hear from him I will then port to your ring...

One love..

FoxyFlow:
I did not want to say something that would hurt you because of the fact that you sound hurt already... Back to the matter, what happened when she came to spend some weeks in your place? Returned home and started acting funny? Tell me, why did you say you are less of a man?

Okay, you work in a hospital and practice privately but is money everything that a Lady wants?

About the side chick, how did you feel when you discovered she left you for the side dude who was a far "better man" than you?

I will drop my pen here. Nobody knows about the bravery of the dead lion, only the living hunter who has tales to tell.

I remain Foxy and I Flow...

You just said my mind. She came to his place and stayed a few weeks and left and started behaving funny. Something must have trigad it. There is no smock without fire. The op was not sensitive enough to notice a change in her attitude towards him before she made it plain, even befor she left.. Op look inwards and reflect on all that happened when she came, you might get a clue to why she changed her mind. Because i dont want to believe the watsapp guy just met her after she came to your place. The guy has been there and she had to change her mind after coming to your place and seeing something i may not know. Though i must say the way she went about the break up was very wrong.

@OP i'm indees very sorry for your current circumstance. It's just a "mere or temporal loss" albeit. It's called Life, and there is nothing new about it, just rotations.

We may not know what the real cause is, but I know you can start again.... and pls by all means be TRUE to yourself. No blaming, No regrets, and No revenge... its hard, but pls try.

Nothing, I repeat nothing in this World is worth depriving you of your Joy. Such things cant hold you down, If you got a light heart from time.

Pele..

....when a woman says 'you are not man enough' she may not be referring to the cash in your pockets but the size of the preeq in your boxers.

Dear Op, did you hit home base very well when she came over?
See, Naija women love some big something, they are just being slut-shamed into acting coy, don't be deceived.

[quote author=FoxyFlow post=I did not want to say something that would hurt you because of the fact that you sound hurt already... Back to the matter, what happened when she came to spend some weeks in your place? Returned home and started acting funny? Tell me, why did you say you are less of a man?

Okay, you work in a hospital and practice privately but is money everything that a Lady wants?

About the side chick, how did you feel when you discovered she left you for the side dude who was a far "better man" than you?

I will drop my pen here. Nobody knows about the bravery of the dead lion, only the living hunter who has tales to tell.

I remain Foxy and I Flow...[/quote] You just said my mind. She came to his place and stayed a few weeks and left and started behaving funny. Something must have trigad it. There is no smock without fire. The op was not sensitive enough to notice a change in her attitude towards him before she made it plain, even befor she left.. Op look inwards and reflect on all that happened when she came, you might get a clue to why she changed her mind. Because i dont want to believe the watsapp guy just met her after she came to your place. The guy has been there and she had to change her mind after coming to your place and seeing something i may not know. Though i must say the way she went about the break up was very wrong.

[quote author=FoxyFlow post= Back to the matter, what happened when she came to spend some weeks in your place? Returned home and started acting funny?

I remain Foxy and I Flow...[/quote] You just said my mind. She came to his place and stayed a few weeks and left and started behaving funny. Something must have trigad it. There is no smock without fire. The op was not sensitive enough to notice a change in her attitude towards him before she made it plain, even befor she left.. Op look inwards and reflect on all that happened when she came, you might get a clue to why she changed her mind. Because i dont want to believe the watsapp guy just met her after she came to your place. The guy has been there and she had to change her mind after coming to your place and seeing something i may not know. Though i must say the way she went about the break up was very wrong.

brownsug:
Yup

You may be right tho

Guy ur points are right and we should nt rely on a lady. Men let's learn from this

N101:


I think this previous post puts everything in perspective - working on the premise that he is telling the truth on both occasions
https://www.nairaland.com/2536855/needed-share-she-stopped-loving

Too many gaps in the whole story and the OP isn't being honest with himself.

He's obsessed with this ex of his. He cheated on her, lady couldn't forgive and she left him. Now he comes here to make it seem like the lady just upped and left for no reason.

He's fooling himself

2undeee:
So sorry for your lost, every disappointment is a blessing but my brother in case of next time never beg for a relationship because u will end up been a slave to that union, dont pray for next but if a gal is meant to b yours she will always stay and fight for her place

Spot on bros... Nice one jawe egbon

[quote author=acxlers2014 post=46497404]My experience buttresses the point that human nature is such that they look out for self first. I met, dated, proposed and did introduction with a lady in her thirties with the anticipation to marry her three months after that. Well I was charged up and ready to go and I was excited about the whole thing. She came over to my station in one of these northern states and she left after few weeks.


Bro? Move on...

God saved you from a disaster..
U might not realise now but u will see later.

Mine to messed up January this year after dating since 2010 July that we met and went through thick and thin all because I travelled and got busy. And don't call often. She knacked a guy I had accused her off and forgot I had password of her old iPhone.read her sexchat and while I even tried to forgive? She was telling me I caused it. I thank my stars she's gone n

tyson99:
women are evil dats how mine too messed up two months back after 5yrs

Thank God for your life.

I want to see the kind of person that will make take her back. Girls??

She came to my crib accusing me I wanna leave her after all this years meanwhile one big dick guy was fucking her.

She said it was just 2 times. Ohh boy let her go and double your hustle. I free like a bird now.

(God forgive me for d vulgar languages jare)

Haha.

desdichando:
'Ho...as usual you are looking for d1ck on this thread!!!!!!

STFUareyouG0d:


If Snake don bite you before, if you see rope, you go run

Snake never bite me, but I still run when I see rope.

acxlers2014:
My experience buttresses the point that human nature is such that they look out for self first. I met, dated, proposed and did introduction with a lady in her thirties with the anticipation to marry her three months after that. Well I was charged up and ready to go and I was excited about the whole thing. She came over to my station in one of these northern states and she left after few weeks. I had thought everything was fine when I saw her off to the airport. Well a week after her attitude became funny, she started by asking for a postponement on the wedding, then she became very aggressive and later on she barred my numbers and started acting funny. Before I knew what was happening she started insulting me and saying different things about my capabilities as a man. Well by the grace of God I am a doctor in A government hospital and I own a flourishing practice in my domicile. Sadly no matter how much I tried she never seemed to be ready to come back. Well at a point in the deterioration of our relationship she returned my rings engagement and wedding bands and all the gifts I had given her
She was interviewed by her pastor, my pastor, my folks and she reiterated that she was not coming back. I did not relent even after all these but I had even a stronger resolve to carry on with the whole process. I thought it was a moment of temporary set back that maybe she may come through. How wrong was I. Several texts afterwards. She came out with a bold statement " MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AS I HAVE MOVED ON WITH MINE". IT hurt but is didn't matter to me. Then the deal breaker.......... she sends me conversations between her and a guy who was chiking her via whatsapp and was professing his love to her and she was tripping. With the caption " I WOULD RATHER MOVE ON WITH THIS GUY, HE IS A BETTER MAN TO YOU". She calls up my folks and tell them that I should stay off her back as well as my siblings. That was the CLOSURE I needed and I must say it was a tough call.

As for her family, they supported their own.
Lessons learnt.
The truth is when it is gone don't fight it, just move
on.

Never put your eggs in one basket, the concept of a side chick for every guy is valid, it is for your sanity, little wonder our fathers always seemed to have one

Old women, middle aged women, girls and baby girls are all the same their psyche is way different maybe it has something to do with hormones.

Never stick to an opinionated women, you can't be so silly to think feminism can work in our society

Beautiful women always feel they have an option.

Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.

You said the lady is in her thirties. Na you cause problem for yourself.