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Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by repogirl(f): 8:19am On Sep 30, 2016
kaboninc:


Both should submit and love themselves.

But when it comes between a man and a woman, naturally, a man expects submission from his wife. You just can't take that away from him.

But you can help mould a caring and loving generation of men as a woman when you have your son by teaching him how and why he should love his woman.
okay.....as a man expects submission, a woman expects to be loved, you also can't take that from her.

Then again, about me teaching my son how to love.... shouldn't that be his father's job, since boys are more likely to learn from their fathers by emulating their attitude?
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 8:20am On Sep 30, 2016
Beamborla:
The problem is trying to hinge one on the other. Let husbands love their wives come what may and women submit to their husbands come what may.

The OP is emphasizing on the woman's submittion while excusing the man's inability to love is wife on the basis that she's not submissive.

The Bible mandated both parties to play their roles and did not give any condition whatsoever. Even the most unruly man wants submission when he's not playing his part and the OP is justifying it making them believe they need not be good. Wait for your wife to submit before loving her and even if you don't treat her right, suffer not yourself, she must submit.

The Bible has placed the man as the leader and Lord the house, no problem. How many men are ready to be a leader and not a boss? Don't forget that to be a leader, you'd have to serve your subjects first and always. I'm not denying that some women are poison as well.

But a biased writeup of this nature will do more harm than good. OP, your writeup is biased.

Since she must submit even if he's not worth it, do you agree that he must love and treat her right even if she's not submissive?

My sis you are right to believe my thread is biased but the sincere truth is that it is not.

The first step for a woman to live a happy life in this cruel world of men is to see herself as an endangered specie.Indeed it is a cruel world of men so if you refuse to submit because a man is not living up to expectation you will be the one to lose at the end and i have seen many ladies who think they are so hot and would leave their marriage in a jiffy but i always tell these ladies that its a move in futility because each man you meet will always have a character you must tolerate and when these ladies get to certain ages they become so vulnerable and lonely and will not mind to take worse shits.


I have my reasons for directing my threads to ladies more because if they can try to get it right then they will be happier. Men are stubborn and even if you preach to them,that crazy ego will still override them so the best is to preach to ladies who seem to be more receptive.

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Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Ngokafor(f): 8:20am On Sep 30, 2016
.....I honestly pity the gullible and ignorant males on Nairaland who swallows @toks2008 silly posts on marriage and relationships hook,lline and sinker..


..You will simply end up like him..alone and single cos of failed relationships if you do not do the right thing and act responsibly as a man and head of your home.


....Most males on-line are consummed with unrealistic impression of how a wife should be,they just love to have 'a stepford wife' kind of woman...Unfortunately for you all,women are waiting off-line to jolt you to reality.

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Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 8:22am On Sep 30, 2016
shotin:
The problem is we are in a more expose society, where women want to be like men in every way.... Most women will not agree with the op, submission doesn't mean slavery, Some feminists go to great lengths to try to argue that the Greek word for “head” means “source” and carries no notion of authority. Which is ludicrous. A loving, sensitive husband will not force his wife to do anything against God’s will, and he will not push her into anything distasteful or harmful to her. He will never assert his authority to get his own way. When there are disagreements, they should be worked through calmly in love. In making decisions, a wise husband will solicit and carefully weigh his wife’s insights, so that most decisions will be
mutually agreed on. Submission should not be abused by husbands... If only husbands and wives follow this simple instruction by God, there will be absolute happiness and joy in such marriages....
Thank you.... you know it's hard preaching submission to people who don't fear God. How can a lady who does not fear God submit to her husband. It's rare and hard. Same things goes for the men.
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by coolviv: 8:22am On Sep 30, 2016
Toks2008:


Nice question.

The issue of a man cheating will forever be a pain in the minds of many ladies but I'm so so sorry to tell you this truth that submitting to your husband is unconditional.

In submittion you can table your grievances and the fact that your hubby cheats on you is not a ground for disrespect. If you want to leave the union because of that then it's your choice but that must not make you disrespect him.

Your husband is your lord.

Oh so loving your wife is not unconditional? I'm sorry to tell you the painful truth in many men's mind is that a submissive wife is fast becoming a thing of the past and as long as men don't accept that, they shall continue to have broken homes and be divorced, twice divorced and eventually separated from their wives.
This goes for the women as well who are greater victims of this.

God can not be mocked or manipulated. When he tells the man, FIRST, to love his wife as Christ loves the church before telling the woman to be submissive, He who created us knows that what a woman needs is love and a man needs respect. One cannot exist without the other, it is humanly impossible. If you see anywhere it is happening then know that it is surface submission.

Only God can help today's marriage. The man that should till the soil is no longer doing so..now needs the woman to follow him and till the soil and still be calling him Lord when she is providing for him instead of the other way round.

Guys just need to realise that a woman is just naturally created just like them in emotions, intellect and exposure no matter what their Nigerian society tells them, it is society that molds and forces her to be quiet and allow you to talk.

Girls should also realise that they are at a disadvantage physically and biologically than men. And God created men stronger in other to protect them and their children. Though many men have abused this strength and have used it to harm instead of defending you, God still gave them that position of a protector. So no matter what, if you can't be submissive because he doesn't provide financially, emotionally or otherwise, be submissive because he is your protector in this terrible world.

And for the viewing public who have never experienced any problem in these regard, don't judge either party until you walk in their shoes.

For men, in this increasingly gay world, think of being under the power of a stronger man than you and being raped and beaten at his will and society will still blame you for it and support him.

For the women, think of someone you should protect and love constantly abusing, insulting, disobeying you or ridiculing you in the public and you are unable to touch them because society will give you a bad name. A home you are expected to control yet you can not speak freely or give directives and expect them to be obeyed for the good of the home.

In all things, for a marriage to succeed, both parties have to use their church mind or else...una go land for Linda Ikeji.

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Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by safarigirl(f): 8:24am On Sep 30, 2016
BornInApril:
what I really meant was that submitting to your husband is without a condition. Let it be as unto God. Do it because God has instructed you to even when he is not acting how you want him to act. And I tell you there is a reward for that.
Same way men were instructed to love their wife in all conditions.
I doubt you follow all of God's instructions

Jesus says do unto others as you want to be done unto you, so if God forbid you marry a stubborn mule, how in heaven's name can you be submissive to such an animal? If a man wants submission, he should earn it
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by jaci02: 8:24am On Sep 30, 2016
BornInApril:
This is where people miss it. Submission to your husband is a commandment.

You don't get it then, because the husband loving the wife is the first commandment after which comes submission from the wife.

A good marriage is one nurtured in love and trust not with blind submission or fear. You can only submit to someone when you know that person loves you , cares for you and has your best interest at heart. It's like the same thing in the scriptures where Christians are to lay all their cares on the Lord and trust him. Why? Because he loves and cares for us.

When a woman sees that you truly love and care for her only then can she submit to you totally trusting you with her life.
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 8:27am On Sep 30, 2016
Ngokafor:




.....I honestly pity the gullible and ignorant males on Nairaland who swallows @toks2008 silly posts on marriage and relationships hook,lline and sinker..


..You will simply end up like him..alone and single cos of failed relationships if you do not do the right thing and act responsibly as a man and head of your home.


....Most males on-line are consummed with unrealistic impression of how a wife should be,they just love to have 'a stepford wife' kind of woman...Unfortunately for you all,women are waiting off-line to jolt you to reality.

Did you say alone?

Im sorry to say this.... i am too cute,intelligent,financially stable and confident to be alone.

If you must know i could have a 3some every night and each night if i so desire so please stop fooling yourself with a presumed perception of who toks is.

I have a passion for writing and all i write here is independent of my persona but because you are not intelligent enough to understand my threads you will always troll. It is because of this anomaly in our today's world that has kept me from picking a lady yet.

If you must know, i am not on nairaland to look for a woman and i have never wooed any lady on nairaland in my 9years of membership.

I really pity the type of men or women that will make the big mistake of marrying an unintelligent person because that is a disaster.

Please tell me what on earth is the problem with this thread rather than troll.

I hate trolls.

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Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by odohemma(m): 8:28am On Sep 30, 2016
safarigirl:
how about engaging the man to pound the yam?

In my family, it's the men that pound yam because it's strenuous activity and I'm skinny as a twig anyway, can barely wrap my hands around a pestle handle

LOL. Didn't say you (or the woman) should pound, but what if the man is at work? Is it a biggie to engage someone else to do the pounding?

P.S: In my place, the man is to pound if he is available.
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 8:28am On Sep 30, 2016
histemple:


I have followed your comments and I just pray that you were rather sarcastic and perhaps just joking because there are really preposterous.
I'm just trying to get answers and to understand more, please don't mind my negative comments, it's part of learning smiley
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Sgwash: 8:29am On Sep 30, 2016
Only a very few percentage of right thinking ladies will understand and appreciate the power of submission... And only a foolish man will disregard and maltreat a lovable and submissive woman. With a sane man, there is nothing a lady can't achieve with submitting. And like OP said, submission ain't slavery...

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Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by etienn: 8:29am On Sep 30, 2016
Berbierklaus:

[b]Grandpa no one asked you for your life history,so please relax and take to corrections. tongue

if You were my husband/boyfriend,I would have told You to "shutup and listen" I said "Relax" coz You are my grandpa wink

Now to the argument You both are having,Everyone has an opinion,trust me I have come to understand You and your writeups,(You are only been realistic while most of us are striving to be idealistic).The challenge is finding a balance because all these rules and regulations for marriages and relationships are unique to every relationship,some men don't take NO,no matter how submissive the wife is(been realistic,I'm sure You will agree with me) and some men are in awe or their wives and a very agressive NO will do the trick(I'm been realistic),so the problem I have with most of your rightups is that "they are not a standard for relationships,coz every relationship is unique" but from your tone of words,You type like that's all that should be done because it is in the "BIBLE" forgetting that even Jesus said in "MARK 2:27" The sabbath(law) was made for man not man for the sabbath(law),
meaning most of this bible injunctions can be used uniquely not universally. (I hope You know what happened in that verse and why he made that statement?).


secondly,I want to say I agree with your rightup once again,although it is a little bit flawed "to me". Any idiot can see the emphasis You made on "WIVES SUBMISSION" I think its good but I also think it would have been appropriate if You emphasized as much on the "HUSBAND's LOVE". (I think this is where most relationship experts get it wrong).

Now lets use the scripture You qouted as an example,did You realise that Ephesians 5:33 has two parts(part A and B)
Did You realise that part A was talking to the husband?
Ephesians 5:33
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself

Did You realise that the bible spoke to the husband first? That tells You that Submission is "EARNED" so its flawed for You to say "THE BIBLE SAID THAT THE WIFE MUST BE SUBMISSIVE TO HER HUSBAND NO MATTER WHAT"







because grandpa,the bible has put an unspoken condition in that verse,(You can't respect/submit to your abusive father,You "FEAR" him,likewise if You say wives should be submissive unconditionally,You are only telling her to "FEAR" him,that is not submission according to the bible)

Part B
Ephesians 5:33
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord


Every man that loves his wife,automatically has earned her respect and submission,it is a known fact,and a man that doesn't love his wife(cheating on her "glaringly" abuse her,doesn't do his roles as a husband etc) will be "FEARED" not respected/submitted to).

So grandpa,all this tunranchi is what the bible is preaching(Idealistic) not what our pastors are interpreting the bible to, not what You have interpreted the bible to,which is sadly the (realistic) point of what we have in the world today because our religious leaders have knowingly or unknowingly led some men astray by repeatedly preaching and emphasizing on "SUBMISSION" while skimming through "LOVE".

The kingdom of God is a hot race,I fear for most people,as I have come to a stage in my salvation where,I read and ask the holy spirit to interpret and explain what this really means to me,instead of listening to one marriage counsel/counsellor and corrupting my heavenly journey grin.

I hope You will settle down and read my epistle,and may the holy spirit help You to realise the truth.[/b]


Tears flowing from my eyes. once again u have humbled me. Great, I will contact u. we have. much to talk about
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 8:31am On Sep 30, 2016
safarigirl:
I doubt you follow all of God's instructions

Jesus says do unto others as you want to be done unto you, so if God forbid you marry a stubborn mule, how in heaven's name can you be submissive to such an animal? If a man wants submission, he should earn it



All right.. Do whatever you think is right.

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Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 8:31am On Sep 30, 2016
Kay17:
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What happens when God endowed the woman with great wisdom and your husband with foolishness? Wouldn't it be foolish to obey a foolish man?
you can disagree to a foolish man in a submissive manner smiley
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 8:32am On Sep 30, 2016
Sgwash:
Only a very few percentage of right thinking ladies will understand and appreciate the power of submission... And only a foolish man will disregard and maltreat a lovable and submissive woman. With a sane man, there is nothing a lady can't achieve with submitting. And like OP said, submission ain't slavery...
that's just it.

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Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by ElsonMorali: 8:32am On Sep 30, 2016
uzolexis:


The fact that a woman has a say in the home does not make her contentious. God bless my parents and pls God give me a man like and better than my Dad. The way my Dad respects my mum, the way he regards her opinion and she reciprocates this as well. They make maor decisions together and one party does not agree with something, the other party does not go ahead with it, they argue about issues and my Mum is allowed to express her displeasure even shout sometimes and my Dad has never raised a finger on her cos of that or treated her less than she desrves and they make up almost immediately after. So, I have seen and lived in a loving home with loving Parents where the wife is treated as an equal partner in the relationship so I know what it means so all this poo you guys are saying here makes no sense to me at all.

I guess you mean the Bible was also saying poo when it specifically asked the woman to be submissive to her husband.

Maybe what you're saying is that God didn't know what he was talking about in Genesis when he said the woman would be under the authority of the man.

You know the problem of ladies nowadays? Pride. I believe that was the cause of Satan's fall right?

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Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Gboyee4fun(m): 8:33am On Sep 30, 2016
Toks2008:
THE SUBMISSIVE WOMAN

Most ladies spend so much time and energy preparing for a wedding ceremony but very unprepared for just one condition responsible for a formidable union called SUBMISSION.

The modern day woman has allowed sophistication as a result of sound education and several other factors to make her see herself as equal to a man hence finds it difficult to be extremely submissive and this is one of the triggering factors for a break up. Being fully submissive to your man is one of the greatest secret to longevity of any romantic affair so Lets see what the Quran and Bible has to say concerning the act of submission from the woman.


Al-Tirmidhi 3272 - "When Allah's Messenger was asked which woman was best he replied, 'The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves'."

Ephesians 5:22-24 :Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

No woman has any business with marriage or any serious romantic affair with a man until she is ready to "submit,honor,respect,reverence her husband to the maximum level just as she will respect the lord.Show me a submissive woman and I will show you a peaceful and lasting union.Being submissive does not mean you should obey your man blindly or go against the commandments of GOD neither does it make you a zombie or a mindless person but it means being meek,humble and serene even when you disagree with your man as many times as possible.Believe it or not,no matter how many relationships you get involved in,you will always have issues if you don't learn how to submit yourself to your man.

And as the man,for whatever reason you choose to marry that lady, if you are not ready to love that woman with her imperfections and without exception with behavior worthy of respect and esteem, always seeking the best for her with an attitude of loving-kindness all the days of your life please don't propose marriage to her.

GOD commands the man to love the wife and the wife to submit to the husband. Refusal to do this is rebellion against GOD himself.By loving your wife you are honoring GOD and not doing your wife a favor and by submitting to your husband, you are demonstrating an act of obedience to GOD and not to your husband.

I hope this makes sense.



may God blesses you richly.

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Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by ElsonMorali: 8:34am On Sep 30, 2016
Kay17:
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What happens when God endowed the woman with great wisdom and your husband with foolishness? Wouldn't it be foolish to obey a foolish man?

Look at you. Why would a wise woman marry a foolish man. It means she isn't so wise.

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Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by etienn: 8:34am On Sep 30, 2016
Toks2008:


Lol!

This is exactly why many ladies will always have issues in their marriage cos they will always want to see a reason to go against that simple instruction concerning unconditional submission to the husband.

Did you read that part where I wrote that different adjectives were used in place of submission like reverence and some interpretations actually used fear....

Ephesians 5:33

But every husband must love his wife as he loves himself and let the wife'see that she fear her husband.

Why do you think God specifically juxtapose the man as your lord?

trust me, any lady who believes she has a reason to disrespect or not be 100% submissive to her hubby has already failed the litmus test of marriage and it's better she remains single.

When you choose to say no to your hubby you must say it in awe of him.

This is not about being realistic but it is the blueprint for marital tranquility. You miss it you miss out.

You are just a freelance writer , u don't study the Bible , you just read it. please stop searching but study the bible
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 8:34am On Sep 30, 2016
uzolexis:


My dear, I don't think you know this OP. He is a known male chauvinist and any one (male or Female) who takes him serious does that at their own peril. You can try from today till eternity to make him understand that women should also be treated right cos they have feelings and are not zombies but he will never get it....ust look at my signature.

This is why i have resorted to getting a village uneducated lady as a wife because some of these ladies are more intelligent than many so called educated ladies.

Please can you make intelligent submissions like some smart and brainy ladies have done on this thread? I am definitely positive that you did not read the thread as usual but barge in to comment.

Even if you are too lazy to read at least try and read a paragraph every hour before making comments.

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Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Kiddams: 8:36am On Sep 30, 2016
Berbierklaus:

[b]Grandpa no one asked you for your life history,so please relax and take to corrections. tongue

if You were my husband/boyfriend,I would have told You to "shutup and listen" I said "Relax" coz You are my grandpa wink

Now to the argument You both are having,Everyone has an opinion,trust me I have come to understand You and your writeups,(You are only been realistic while most of us are striving to be idealistic).The challenge is finding a balance because all these rules and regulations for marriages and relationships are unique to every relationship,some men don't take NO,no matter how submissive the wife is(been realistic,I'm sure You will agree with me) and some men are in awe or their wives and a very agressive NO will do the trick(I'm been realistic),so the problem I have with most of your rightups is that "they are not a standard for relationships,coz every relationship is unique" but from your tone of words,You type like that's all that should be done because it is in the "BIBLE" forgetting that even Jesus said in "MARK 2:27" The sabbath(law) was made for man not man for the sabbath(law),
meaning most of this bible injunctions can be used uniquely not universally. (I hope You know what happened in that verse and why he made that statement?).


secondly,I want to say I agree with your rightup once again,although it is a little bit flawed "to me". Any idiot can see the emphasis You made on "WIVES SUBMISSION" I think its good but I also think it would have been appropriate if You emphasized as much on the "HUSBAND's LOVE". (I think this is where most relationship experts get it wrong).

Now lets use the scripture You qouted as an example,did You realise that Ephesians 5:33 has two parts(part A and B)
Did You realise that part A was talking to the husband?
Ephesians 5:33
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself

Did You realise that the bible spoke to the husband first? That tells You that Submission is "EARNED" so its flawed for You to say "THE BIBLE SAID THAT THE WIFE MUST BE SUBMISSIVE TO HER HUSBAND NO MATTER WHAT"







because grandpa,the bible has put an unspoken condition in that verse,(You can't respect/submit to your abusive father,You "FEAR" him,likewise if You say wives should be submissive unconditionally,You are only telling her to "FEAR" him,that is not submission according to the bible)

Part B
Ephesians 5:33
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord


Every man that loves his wife,automatically has earned her respect and submission,it is a known fact,and a man that doesn't love his wife(cheating on her "glaringly" abuse her,doesn't do his roles as a husband etc) will be "FEARED" not respected/submitted to).

So grandpa,all this tunranchi is what the bible is preaching(Idealistic) not what our pastors are interpreting the bible to, not what You have interpreted the bible to,which is sadly the (realistic) point of what we have in the world today because our religious leaders have knowingly or unknowingly led some men astray by repeatedly preaching and emphasizing on "SUBMISSION" while skimming through "LOVE".

The kingdom of God is a hot race,I fear for most people,as I have come to a stage in my salvation where,I read and ask the holy spirit to interpret and explain what this really means to me,instead of listening to one marriage counsel/counsellor and corrupting my heavenly journey grin.

I hope You will settle down and read my epistle,and may the holy spirit help You to realise the truth.[/b]


U got it twisted bro. There's nothing more realistic than the Bible. Excusing pple's failures as reality is lame at best. The institution of marriage and of coz the world is in entropy simply becoz pple don't want to follow the instructions of the Bible. Difficult as it is to keep the instructions, it is the only peaceful & best way. Shalom!

Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 8:37am On Sep 30, 2016
missslimfit:
You are blessed! thats d point right there, noone should enforce submission on a woman simple becos he married her, dats crap. love your wife unconditionally and she wud forever respect you, it wud come naturally. no one is saying a man shouldnt be d head.. dat had already been certified, but that doesn't mean he a "LORD" for wat? if a man is nt illiterate ,den he shud know that wen u work in Union with ur wife, seek her opinion about something, his marriage wud be blessed. pls Toks ders no such tin as extreme submission and lordship in marriage. Don't enforce ur ideas on odas

My man is my Lord, my partner is my king. Do you know why I say so? Because he deserves it . calling him such names means he is matured and flexible. I have never disrespected my man and sleep well, EVEN when he forgives me. I don't have any issue submitting to somebody like that, in fact what can I hold against him? The issue here is, does the said man deserves a submissive wife? No body is perfect, of course, but it's wise to acknowledge that one will/may be treated as he/she treats others. There are way matured folks who still go out of their way give to reverence to those who don't deserve it, those are the people that can withstand major turbulence in marriage. Those are the people I can take marital advice from and learn from, not all these half baked marriage experimentalists, who lost the battle even before it started.

I still hold traditional values of marriage, and I prefer it that way. If I can kneel to show everyone who my husband is as tradition demands, then I will continue to kneel for as long as I can for HIM . BUT HE MUST DESERVE IT. Being submissive is a very small thing, it's just that many men enforce it with their bad characters. We are all human beings, no body loves being disrespected, irrespective of gender.
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by ElsonMorali: 8:37am On Sep 30, 2016
elektra:


Where in my post did you see money?

I can read in between the lines dear. Besides I was just making a general point.
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Ishilove: 8:38am On Sep 30, 2016
Toks2008:


Im sorry to say this.... i am too cute,intelligent,financially stable and confident to be alone.

If you must know i could have a 3some every night and each night if i so desire so please stop fooling yourself with a presumed perception of who toks is.
Baba to segzy! Baba to sure baje!! Tall, dark and sexy wink wink wink

Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 8:38am On Sep 30, 2016
jaci02:


You don't get it then, because the husband loving the wife is the first commandment after which comes submission from the wife.

A good marriage is one nurtured in love and trust not with blind submission or fear. You can only submit to someone when you know that person loves you , cares for you and has your best interest at heart. It's like the same thing in the scriptures where Christians are to lay all their cares on the Lord and trust him. Why? Because he loves and cares for us.

When a woman sees that you truly love and care for her only then can she submit to you totally trusting you with her life.
Exactly... By submission I don't mean fear or slavery.
It is the duty of everyman to love he's wife. Men should do this without any condition.
But there are parts of a man where the woman will need to submit fully to her husband. Thus doesn't mean the man does not like the woman or the woman.
The problem is women wants to be equal in authority to their husbands.
Men love your wife and women submit to your husband.

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Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 8:39am On Sep 30, 2016
doveda:
Like we don't have married men who disagree with him?

Wise people don't seek advice from those that failed ventures especially not from a divorcee who has been unable to find a woman to settle down with since the divorce. undecided



How old is grandpa now?:-(


he's looking for a submissive wife which is hard to come by. A submissive lady is scarce, hence valuable
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by ElsonMorali: 8:40am On Sep 30, 2016
repogirl:
okay.....as a man expects submission, a woman expects to be loved, you also can't take that from her.

Then again, about me teaching my son how to love.... shouldn't that be his father's job, since boys are more likely to learn from their fathers by emulating their attitude?

You are absolutely right and I wish other ladies will see it this way.

The man should expect submission and respect from his wife and the woman should expect unalloyed and unconditional love from her husband. Simple.

Though a boy has a lot to learn from both father and mother and not just the father.

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Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Taryur3(m): 8:40am On Sep 30, 2016
CindyeMerAld:

young man u better nt quote me again if u dnt want thunder 2 blast ur brain...carry ur advanced slavery and come and be going.
Lols...young woman may the god of the thunder you just mentioned visit you and remove all your teeth this season.u get craze for brain abi?

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Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by sagod: 8:40am On Sep 30, 2016
Diplomaticbeing:
@OP


Stop sounding like you're an authority or one who has monopoly of wisdom.

Your postulation is flawed to someone like me, because I believe that love or submission when given (earned or not), should be maintained so as to sustain it.

In my altruistic nature, every living human being is automatically qualified for my love, care, respect etc - free of charge - however, to sustain any of these free goodies from me (especially a wife) she must continually improve (maintain) on all virtues.

In summary, I say altruism plus reciprocation equal to a healthy and happy marriage.

It seems you prefer to be wise in your own eyes. You certainly, are not wiser than God. His ways are different from man's ways.

Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by doveda: 8:41am On Sep 30, 2016
We can be of help you knowsmiley
ItsQuinn:
he's looking for a submissive wife which is hard to come by. A submissive lady is scarce, hence valuable
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 8:41am On Sep 30, 2016
CindyeMerAld:

what of if ur husband is shouting and raising his voice at u,u shld be submissive...OR what of if he wants 2 beat u,u shld submit to the beating as per goat na
No, you should beg for your life grin
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by ElsonMorali: 8:42am On Sep 30, 2016
ItsQuinn:
he's looking for a submissive wife which is hard to come by. A submissive lady is scarce, hence valuable

I'm glad you realise that a submissive lady is very valuable and the price a man must pay to get her is absolute love.

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