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Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 7:34am On Oct 28, 2016
Billiondoe:
What are the characteristics of a good marriage, am 25 and single and staying in a relationship is like world war 2... seems like love is not all it takes... am in a relationship with a 27yr old man and we r In love and we are both university graduates but I dont think we can make it to the alter cos it's a different drama everyday, never caught him cheating and he respects me but his family controls a better part of him and he isn't ready for marriage anytime soon and I have this ex who is very willing all I have to do is tell him am ready and am no longer in a relationship, he is rich and has different cars and houses but am not so into him but he loves me for sure....
I think you should first of all have a serious communication with your present guy on the issues troubling you. These days nairaland is not the best place to seek for advice. Everybody have his/her own orientation and experiences of which they would use to give their opinion. Help your self by communicating with the guy. Ask him if there is a future for both of you. Follow your heart and makes decisions for yourself, nairaland is not dependable.
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Itzcaleb: 7:37am On Oct 28, 2016
Billiondoe:
What are the characteristics of a good marriage, am 25 and single and staying in a relationship is like world war 2... seems like love is not all it takes... am in a relationship with a 27yr old man and we r In love and we are both university graduates but I dont think we can make it to the alter cos it's a different drama everyday, never caught him cheating and he respects me but his family controls a better part of him and he isn't ready for marriage anytime soon and I have this ex who is very willing all I have to do is tell him am ready and am no longer in a relationship, he is rich and has different cars and houses but am not so into him but he loves me for sure....

Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Realhommie(m): 7:44am On Oct 28, 2016
Antoeni:
He is rich and has different cars and houses. ( wise yahoo-boy) remember all dat glitters is not gold,
#Deep...
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by princeso2020(m): 7:46am On Oct 28, 2016
Billiondoe:
What are the characteristics of a good marriage, am 25 and single and staying in a relationship is like world war 2... seems like love is not all it takes... am in a relationship with a 27yr old man and we r In love and we are both university graduates but I dont think we can make it to the alter cos it's a different drama everyday, never caught him cheating and he respects me but his family controls a better part of him and he isn't ready for marriage anytime soon and I have this ex who is very willing all I have to do is tell him am ready and am no longer in a relationship, he is rich and has different cars and houses but am not so into him but he loves me for sure....

from your write up, you have made up your mind why seeking our option on this matter. Well I do not know if you are a beleiver , all that glitters is not Gold. Do not be in a Hurry God's time is the best.
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Wininno(m): 7:50am On Oct 28, 2016
Joavid:


abeg calm down, madam long-throat.

first, free that 27 year old bobo cos nothing he does for you is enough as long as the thought of your ex bank account gives you orgasms.

besides, what have you done with your life so far since you graduated?
Do you have a career?
Do you have goals and plans?

marriage is not an achievement.
Best answer so far! I trowey salute for you.

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Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Jethrolite(m): 7:50am On Oct 28, 2016
Billiondoe:
What are the characteristics of a good marriage, am 25 and single and staying in a relationship is like world war 2... seems like love is not all it takes... am in a relationship with a 27yr old man and we r In love and we are both university graduates but I dont think we can make it to the alter cos it's a different drama everyday, never caught him cheating and he respects me but his family controls a better part of him and he isn't ready for marriage anytime soon and I have this ex who is very willing all I have to do is tell him am ready and am no longer in a relationship, he is rich and has different cars and houses but am not so into him but he loves me for sure....
Even if your 27 years old boy friend gives no drama at all, in this situation you'll always spice things up. Your mind is already made up, go with it. Just remember marriage is a life long decision and be sure rich boy friend is who you can stay with for the rest of your life. If he doesn't beat or disrespect you publicly I see no reason why you shouldn't be with him.

Broke boyfriend will sulk for sometime but will get over it. And when it comes to marriage, love has no role to play. You need to think clearly, love is like a thick smoke that blocks sound judgement, the smoke will eventually go away and you will be left with reality. Ask yourself if you can tolerate and live with the reality and I mean for both men. Personally, peace of mind and understanding from my partner is way more important than love, when those are in place then love can grow.

The right word for love is infatuation and that's what I was referring to up there. Love itself still makes a person look stupid but with very clear judgement.

Have a nice life.

PS: Remember to keep my chicken and Satzenbrau-hmmm, I know it is a cheap beer but that's what I like.
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 7:50am On Oct 28, 2016
Billiondoe:
What are the characteristics of a good marriage, am 25 and single and staying in a relationship is like world war 2... seems like love is not all it takes... am in a relationship with a 27yr old man and we r In love and we are both university graduates but I dont think we can make it to the alter cos it's a different drama everyday, never caught him cheating and he respects me but his family controls a better part of him and he isn't ready for marriage anytime soon and I have this ex who is very willing all I have to do is tell him am ready and am no longer in a relationship, he is rich and has different cars and houses but am not so into him but he loves me for sure....

My dear,I Dont think its a good idea for u to wait for the guy because he doesn't have a mind of his own.I guess he is waiting for his family to tell him to go and marry before he would......Run away from any guy who wholly depend on his family and is being controlled by them because there will b so much trouble when u marry
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 7:54am On Oct 28, 2016
BETWEEN THE DEVIL AND THE DEEP BLUE SEA. DILEMMATIC.

The former is an ex for a reason.
What previously separated both of u might still separate the marriage.
In marriage, money is something, but not everything.
Except if u know that ure d one that broke it up Cos of One flimsy reason like that. Some ladies can be childishly crazy some times.

The later? Loves u, but is a puppet.
No, marriage is meant for men (someone that can stand up for u, even when others (including family) is against u.

Believe me, in marriage, love is something, but not everything.


THE TWO RELATIONSHIPS AIN'T EVENING RIGHT TO ME.
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Wininno(m): 7:57am On Oct 28, 2016
Billiondoe:
What are the characteristics of a good marriage, am 25 and single and staying in a relationship is like world war 2... seems like love is not all it takes... am in a relationship with a 27yr old man and we r In love and we are both university graduates but I dont think we can make it to the alter cos it's a different drama everyday, never caught him cheating and he respects me but his family controls a better part of him and he isn't ready for marriage anytime soon and I have this ex who is very willing all I have to do is tell him am ready and am no longer in a relationship, he is rich and has different cars and houses but am not so into him but he loves me for sure....
Marriage alone is not entirely an achievement. Apart from your BAP, what other things have u got to bring to the table? Probably ur 27yrs old guy could be thinking same towards you.
Choose your ex or your current guy, either way, you are right and still a LIABILITY to any of the party.

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Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by santosesq1(m): 8:02am On Oct 28, 2016
Some questions are Not worth asking make & take ur own decision. Go were u celebrated not were u tollerated !
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by seunakin231(m): 8:04am On Oct 28, 2016
I need to see ur pishure before I give u ans for this question, either ways, am certain u have low self esteem
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Realhommie(m): 8:05am On Oct 28, 2016
beautiful232:
@27 his not ready?


when do you think he will be ready !
In Nigeria how many guyz are ready @27? Stats
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by tayorshd: 8:13am On Oct 28, 2016
the issue is that if u are acting drama different day and u don't like it and yet hid family still controls him and if u are ready to marry please go back to ur ex because I believe girls love were they will have a better happy stay and living without drama and yet girls do like guys with cash and independent too..ok

give ur ex another chance
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 8:21am On Oct 28, 2016
oluwashedy:
My ex told me my duty is to be providing while she gives me sex. Often times when I try share my problems with she simply tells me its not her problem that as long as I'm dating her I'll suffer.

My broda, na so i see am too oh
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Rapture07: 8:29am On Oct 28, 2016
My question to you op. Do you know this your rich x can loose all he has with a sec. When that happens what will u do? Think hard
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by cybriz82(m): 8:31am On Oct 28, 2016
i see a future where u will keep coming bk to ur present bfrnd for congo polishing after marryin ur ex....hmmmm e dn balance sha.
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 8:34am On Oct 28, 2016
DarkRebel101:


This man walks on a cloud of whispering shadows.
I doubt you could ever find me, not even if you search with the eye of the illuminati in the trinacria. grin



What do you mean by "hit me up"? grin You mean pm? It depends.

Yea i mean pm..pls reach me on whatsapp on 08109950498
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 8:34am On Oct 28, 2016
What ever makes you get involve with your ex again, he's goin to torment u all ur life. cos he will believe you came back to him cos of his money. world of advice "NEVER GO BACK TO YOUR CHEAT NO MATTER HOW IT HAVE BEEN PACKAGED". WHETER YOU WHERE THE ONE THAT F**KED UP THEN OR HIM LET IT BE GONE.
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by kingwise5050: 8:34am On Oct 28, 2016
what is the reason who you broke up with your x it will help me to comment but without it i will not comment
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by kaycshine(f): 8:36am On Oct 28, 2016
TreasuredLeidy:
u're in love with ur present guy buh you are desperate to get married.
he doesn't cheat n he respects u, good to hear. Stick with him Gurl. when he's ready, sooner or later, he would propose.
I guess d drama is cos his folks control him, when u both are married, I don't think they wil control him again.

don't think of going back to ur ex cos it's obvious ur not in love with him but his Money.

#Shalom
but have u considered that this present guy may have money tomorrow n no longer want her again for a wife n start looking for his own ex....think Gurl n follow ur heart, life itself is a risk there's no guarantee anywhere

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Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Realhommie(m): 8:42am On Oct 28, 2016
originalmachine:
..try this, tell that ur rich ex that there won't be pussssy till he has done the marriage, even if we know he has blippped you in the past ( abi no be him say he won marry you ) .let's see how genuine that so called marriage proposal is....I tell you ladies, one easy way to take a girl to bed and blippppped her continuously is by tell her you want to marry her, especially when you are financially cool...she will fall for you and by all means develope love feelings for you.......the story of Esther : Esther was dating my friend in school those days, there was no pet name she didn't call this my friend because as a student, my friend was financially cool than 80% of male in my school then.................fast forward to year 3 second semester : Esther met a banker , who has a car, she started disturbing student friend with marriage ideas , everyday she must talk about marriage not knowing yo my guy that Esther has been seeing this so called banker who has promised her marriage... finally, Esther broke up with my student friend. she started seeing her new found love who will not let her rest by telling her how superb the marriage will look like......Esther was fully in love. to end the long story short, Esther started living with this banker,............oboy, till we graduated, no marriage took place, hahahahahahahahaha......till today, no marriage, it should be like 6 years since the whole thing happened, ..my story may look incomplete and yours may not be like that of esther................but trust me, tell that your ex that no sex till after the marriage he is telling you....make him fix a date, not I will marry you talk, take action, let him fix a date for the marriage...... quote me after the date he will tell you
Interesting story... I have a friend who had similar experience, his gf left coz a guy came along and was promising heaven on earth including marriage.. That's how the guy shined her kongo anyhow like it's no man's biz, lol..


In the end the relationship lasted only a few months, imagine... You know, the funny thing is that these things happen everyday yet they keep making same mistakes, it's annoying that they never learn..


Honestly, I do not have any words for the Op.

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Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Realhommie(m): 8:44am On Oct 28, 2016
Anoruo:
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This are the reasons why divorce will increase over a period of short time. 85℅ of unmarried youths marry for the wrong reasons.
#Fact...
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by chunkuli: 8:45am On Oct 28, 2016
seriously consider a career in writing fictions/nonfiction. think you have sometihin there
DarkRebel101:


But, if we have them both placed on a measuring scale, the chances of her marriage to the rich guy – who likes her but whom she does not like very much – making it unscathed through the vicissitudes of marital life, pales in comparison to the chances of the success of her marriage to the one wherein a symmetrical love-liking exists, even though the relationship as she said, is fraught with quarrels and disagreements — which I think is a normality and nothing out-of-synchro. I mean, who wants to be in a relationship where everything is always peaceful and as boring as a nondescript Swiss village? A little disagreement every now and then pumps in litres of excitement into a relationship.

[...]

She is only 25 and the guy is only 27. I do not see why there is the rush to get a rock on her finger, except it's a personal touchstone she set for herself, but I highly doubt it. I think she is being shoehorned by family or she feels left behind because her friends have long embarked on the marital voyage.

She says the guy she likes-loves is hooked to the strings of his family's aprons, but if we have this cast upon the screen of investigation, we would discover that she is also being pressurized into marriage by her family, and is only pandering to their wishes in her hankerings for a man – any man at all – to lead her down the aisle. In other words, she is also being controlled by her family members in a way, and already entering, or rather, about to enter into the marriage institution for the "wrongest" reasons.

I believe the story is laced with mistruths or is a total hoax.
How many Naija babes would come online to ask you whether or not to marry a rich guy with different houses and cars, or whether she should stick with a not-too-financially-bouyant guy who has shown no inkling of his interest in getting married to her in the foreseeable future? Now that's a curious thought bubble we should mull over.
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by beautiful232(f): 9:17am On Oct 28, 2016
Realhommie:
In Nigeria how many guyz are ready @27? Stats


have seen lots under 25 getting married na
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Sultty(m): 9:19am On Oct 28, 2016
...don't be too much in a hurry to leave ur current bf for d other, y not ask an experienced relationship counselor to put u through because not all that glitters is gold
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Realhommie(m): 9:24am On Oct 28, 2016
beautiful232:



have seen lots under 25 getting married na
I do not dispute that as i'm aware... But it's only a few, i mean very few.


The average age for guys to get married in Naija is 30, even then most/majority like say over 80% aren't ready.
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by 9jatatafo(m): 9:24am On Oct 28, 2016
All for the money two for the show
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by beautiful232(f): 9:28am On Oct 28, 2016
Realhommie:
I do not dispute that as i'm aware... But it's only a few, i mean very few.


The average age for guys to get married in Naija is 30, even then most/majority like say over 80% aren't ready.



that's why I asked when they will ever get ready??
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by QueenEKAMMA(f): 9:34am On Oct 28, 2016
If only u will read to this page in order to read my own contribution. My question is, are u a believer? if yes then seek the face of God. Go down on your kneels and talk to God. Ask him to direct you in order not to make a wrong choice. He will surely reveal to you who your own is. please dnt let anyone confuse u because marriage is not dating. if non of them is urs God will reveal to u. pray with sincererity of heart and with a fast and focus. May God help you.
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by CashVessel(m): 9:35am On Oct 28, 2016
Marlvin:




You rather marry yet to be made or already made ? don't preach to me about luv.

Dey there dey deceive ur self.
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 9:36am On Oct 28, 2016
donbenedict:
she is just seventeen.. cmon darkenedrebel grin do u include teenagers in ur harem of females grin

Ever heard this phrase, "Catch them young"? It was only a mirthful gibe. grin grin
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by donbenedict(m): 9:38am On Oct 28, 2016
DarkRebel101:


Ever heard this phrase, "Catch them young"? I was just gibing, though. grin grin
lol these young fishes are just so clueless dey don't know jack about life

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