LaDivva:


Been weeping, lost my son as a result of IC. I actually had a rescue cerclage but it was too late so I had premature labour, he died two hours after delivery. It's well.
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So sorry dear for your loss. May God give you a reason to smile soon.

Gr8fulHeart:

welldone cappo. pls update me. gender xy. edd 26 april. ladivva so sorry 4ur loss. ul be back sooner dan u tink.
mydreams25 how u dey..pls send me a pm as i hv sent u pm sometym ago bt u no respond

Sorry I couldn't respond then because my phone was bad I have sent you a pm now,hope you will get it?

LaDivva:


Thank you dear, and please don't be tired of being pregnant or hate being pregnant as long as in the long run you have your baby with you.
Here I am, lactating but my baby is not with me.

sorry for ur loss oo. May God comfort yu. amen.

Olukunle5:
Team surprise
EDD is April 28/29


We have been good and God has been good. Just been lazy to login and comment but I always come here

am happy to see u my fellow edd mate... its been a nice journey so far. may God see us through successfully... pls if I may ask how many weeks are u..am 26wks

Thank you mamas for the prayers and wishes. May God bless you all



Plss does anyone know where I can buy a postpartum belt in Abuja?

AyPortable1:
today them they call me proud girl, make I kukuma rock am till I born next month, then anoda chapter go unfold " omugwo things".

My sis take it easy Depends on your relationship with your SIL or how you want your relationship to be. I have a friend that regularly requests for me to send her my pics. And I am not pregnant yet o. Imagine when I become pregnant! I oblige her sometimes cos I know she means no harm and we are close.
For your SIL, handle her with wisdom. I would have said, send her the pix if you trust her and all is well with you guys cos many of us wives read meanings into things our in-laws do (I am not exempted). And create barriers/issues for ourselves.
But you have your reasons like you stated and you have a right to your privacy. Me I like privacy too.

So since you are not sending the pix, let your DH give her a good excuse for you guys not being able to send it. Its easier to accept if it comes from her brother.
If not, post her till you guys conveniently forget or you deliver. You mentioned she will be hurt n some reactions that may occur from telling her directly you won't send it. Also, You said mother Inlaw was hurt you told your BIL to remove your pics from fbk. So you now know how your in-laws react so shouldn't you be a bit more diplomatic now? I would be hurt too. Diplomacy is one thing I have learnt in life. With in-laws, it is indispensable. Do not pretend but also dont be too blunt or harsh in your communication with them. You can't avoid them if you will stay married to their bro. Dont misundastand me
But if they prove to be terrible, then stay on your lane o.
Good luck, sis.

Ladivva , so sorry for the loss of LO. Can imagine how painful. Be strong. Another will come.

I want to take a moment and say thank you Lord and to all the wonderful friends I have made in dis forum!The has journey has bin smooth thus far n 2day,i gallantly start my 3rd trimester journey,d count down has began-12 more wks to go!It has bin you Lord,i wldnt have done it on my own!Thank you Lord,to all dos starting dis journey wit me n also those yet to,i pray the Lord will see us tru and will grant us a short,tear-free n complication-free delivery!Thank you Lord for these precious gift you gave me and am sorry that I tot of terminating it!May your name b praised!
#Team April-supernatural delivery#

Ah mothers, d devil raised its ugly head in my family 2day. Woke up as usual to go n wee,cudnt go back 2sleep agn so I decided 2surf d net. Suddenly a msg popped up after I switched on my data. It was frm a lady insulting my via facebook chat. Hmmm... I waited 4hubby 2wake up n den show him cos I knew it definitely wasn't me. Ahh, he immediately started pleading n all dat. Got curious n probed further in2 his chats n saw wonders. Started crying

Whyterose:
Ah mothers, d devil raised its ugly head in my family 2day. Woke up as usual to go n wee,cudnt go back 2sleep agn so I decided 2surf d net. Suddenly a msg popped up after I switched on my data. It was frm a lady insulting my via facebook chat. Hmmm... I waited 4hubby 2wake up n den show him cos I knew it definitely wasn't me. Ahh, he immediately started pleading n all dat. Got curious n probed further in2 his chats n saw wonders. Started crying

Mama pls u don't need anything that will stress u now so ur BP don't go very high. Just keep calm and put everything in God's hands. Like my husband will say baby feels ur emotion so be stable and happy for ur lo. Cheers up dear

Still got ready for work in that state only 2receive a sack letter by 10am by my employer, reason was dat I had lukewarm attitude to work dat day. My world crumbled. Called my elder sister in lagos to inform her dat I wanted 2come visiting n spend abt a month with her along with my little bby girl. She got suspicious as I am already 36weeks gone. She probed further n I finally opened up 2her dat I suspect my hubby is cheating n I av also lost my job 2, I Jst needed a place 2cool off. She was making arrangements 4my flight ticket cos she refused to let me go by road. Next thing my fone started ringing nonstop, mum n dad was calling

My hrt froze, I refused 2pick up. My fear was confirmed wen my elder brother came knocking cos he also stays at abj. My parents had sent him. It turned out that my elder sister spilled the beans. All hell was let loosed. My mom scattered my hubby with fone calls in which all tru he kept apologizing. I felt bad, cos I Neva intended for such to happen. My elder sister called to explain, I dished out my anger to her n dropped d call,haven't picked her call since then.And to think that my parents was against my wedding 4abt 3yrs b4 d finally gave in due to inter tribal differences complicates d problem more with me being the last in d family too. My mum has been telling me we warned u bt u didn't listen, nw dance 2d music. Haba was I wrong 2marry 4luv?

Now my home is tensed. Hubby is completely withdrawn, my eyes is soo swollen n red frm crying,also I losted my job 2...all this in a day. Mamas I don't know how to handle this situation anymore.I also feel the neighbors have a clue 2 as their eyes are piercing wen we met. Was I wrong to av wanted 2do small Shakara to go 2lagos? How awkward will my omuguo be wen mum n hubby meet? My relationship with my elder sister is nw affected. I am in a dilemma my dear Mamas. Pls help me out, can't even sleep anymore

[quote author=Giddyperson post=52887069]Team April Mamas that haven't answered present in a long time, Kloness, Tutucious, Folamee. And those that hardly come online, U

Present Cappo #team April.. Doing fine..up to date on immunisations, waddling graciously into 3rd trimester... Thank God for every.

Gods comfort to Ladiva and jazzyjazz, it will end in praise.

Whyterose:
Now my home is tensed. Hubby is completely withdrawn, my eyes is soo swollen n red frm crying,also I losted my job 2...all this in a day. Mamas I don't know how to handle this situation anymore.I also feel the neighbors have a clue 2 as their eyes are piercing wen we met. Was I wrong to av wanted 2do small Shakara to go 2lagos? How awkward will my omuguo be wen mum n hubby meet? My relationship with my elder sister is nw affected. I am in a dilemma my dear Mamas. Pls help me out, can't even sleep anymore

Men and cheating, I think the reason they do it is because culture permits it and we women also take it lightly. After we have cried and sulked they will apologize and then some family members will ask you to go back, plus the fact that most of us are not financially independent.

As per hubby being withdrawn it doesn't concern you. He brought problem into the home. He should be the one looking at your face not you. He should be ashamed of himself causing problems for you in your condition. You crying and looking sad makes him feel he did nothing wrong. How did the Lady get your number in the first place. He clearly has no respect for you. If it were me I will take time off. Go and stay elsewhere, because treating it with kids glove will lead to repetition of something worse. But all depends on you, if you are comfortable staying in such a situation fine.

You have to be strong for your babies. Another job will come. Stop feeling guilty.

Goodmorning all. I have really missed you all. Happy New year. Chei e b like say Nairaland been block me ooo. I have been trying to change password since infinity. Congratulations to all those who have put to birth and all belleful mama's.

Please I urgently want to change clinic to UPTH. Anyone with idea of how much they register for antenatal? Other charges included. I'm 22 weeks now. Thanks all

Whyterose:
My hrt froze, I refused 2pick up. My fear was confirmed wen my elde?

aunty your hubby no try, there are men that cheat but mke it clear to their side chick that my wife and family comes first, 4 the other lady to be confident to chat u up on fbk , either she's extremely confident or a trouble maker, or hubby told her sometin or she has a child for him(just saying)...
because na main chick dey do that insulting stuff, not side chick( the rules say so)
another person that effed up is ur sister, I know u cudnt kip it to urself cos its not easy, but she telling your parents was just way out of line, d best she cudve done was simply book the ticket and allow u peace of mind in her house, no disturbing questions when u finally come.
as for dh dear don't feel like you are responsible, he should be the one begging and pleading, not the other way round... still wondering why men cheat self...

fruitfulhome:
Goodmorning all. I have really missed you all. Happy New year. Chei e b like say Nairaland been block me ooo. I have been trying to change password since infinity. Congratulations to all those who have put to birth and all belleful mama's.

Please I urgently want to change clinic to UPTH. Anyone with idea of how much they register for antenatal? Other charges included. I'm 22 weeks now. Thanks all

Antenatal fee 17k
Data capture 1k5
HIV test free
Other routine test just budget like 5k cos they just reviewed their prices.

Whyterose:
Now my home is tensed. Hubby is completely withdrawn, my eyes is soo swollen n red frm crying,also I losted my job 2...all this in a day. Mamas I don't know how to handle this situation anymore.I also feel the neighbors have a clue 2 as their eyes are piercing wen we met. Was I wrong to av wanted 2do small Shakara to go 2lagos? How awkward will my omuguo be wen mum n hubby meet? My relationship with my elder sister is nw affected. I am in a dilemma my dear Mamas. Pls help me out, can't even sleep anymore

i feel your pains dear, how i wish I know what to say. Ur sis no try at all. What you need is a place to cool down and have your baby in peace. You are already at the finishing line and the least one need now is having hbp. Assuming your parents are not aware I would have advised you to go and stay with them for the time being. May The Good Lord grant you wisdom to pull through.

Dazzle86:


If you don't mind me asking, what was the defect?

Major Omphalocele

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Whyterose:
Ah mothers, d devil raised its ugly head in my family 2day. Woke up as usual to go n wee,cudnt go back 2sleep agn so I decided 2surf d net. Suddenly a msg popped up after I switched on my data. It was frm a lady insulting my via facebook chat. Hmmm... I waited 4hubby 2wake up n den show him cos I knew it definitely wasn't me. Ahh, he immediately started pleading n all dat. Got curious n probed further in2 his chats n saw wonders. Started crying

My dear, men are something else, i dnt knw wat to say, bt ur family hv acted enof, they need 2 back off. Try to resolve things with ur DH, it wuldnt be easy n it will take long bt it can be resolved. Sorry abt u job my teamy b4 b4. Wipe ur tears pray abt it n leave it 2 God, u will feel better.

Loisemm:
Ladivva , so sorry for the loss of LO. Can imagine how painful. Be strong. Another will come.

Amen, thank you ma. To say it is painful is an understatement, I thank God for sending me comfort from above.

bolaalimat:



sorry for ur loss oo. May God comfort yu. amen.

Thanks ma'am, Amen.

favouredi:

So sorry dear for your loss. May God give you a reason to smile soon.

Thanks dear, Amen .

Gr8fulHeart:

welldone cappo. pls update me. gender xy. edd 26 april. ladivva so sorry 4ur loss. ul be back sooner dan u tink.
mydreams25 how u dey..pls send me a pm as i hv sent u pm sometym ago bt u no respond

A big Amen, thank you.

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Thanks dear, may God grant you and other preggy mamas full term and safe delivery.

phlakkeys:


I was advised to terminate the pregnancy @ 20 weeks because of a major defect so i was induced and gave birth to the baby boy.
Though it would have been noticed as early as 13 weeks if i had gone for scan but since i was fine all through i decided not to do any scan until 18 weeks just to know the sex and that was when the major defect was discovered.

Awww, must have been hard as well.

Whyterose:
Now my home is tensed. Hubby is completely withdrawn, my eyes is soo swollen n red frm crying,also I losted my job 2...all this in a day. Mamas I don't know how to handle this situation anymore.I also feel the neighbors have a clue 2 as their eyes are piercing wen we met. Was I wrong to av wanted 2do small Shakara to go 2lagos? How awkward will my omuguo be wen mum n hubby meet? My relationship with my elder sister is nw affected. I am in a dilemma my dear Mamas. Pls help me out, can't even sleep anymore

good day sis, I know it's not easy been in this present condition coupled with d fact that u are expecting soon. its really difficult for u right now but that should not in any way bring u down. my advice is dat u should just remain calm and pretend all is fine an keep praying hard as well, as u said the devil is at work but don't give him the devil the privilege to destroy ur home. I know ur sis has made a mistake of spilling at the wrong time but don't blame her its her concern for u dat made her do dat , try calling or sending her a message and make amendment with her. she is still ur sis and will always be there for you. As for your parent, just ignore them for now, I know they will kip saying 'I told u so' but never mind just remain quiet whenever they are speaking. lastly ur hubby, yes he has made a terrible mistake for cheating but he is still ur hubby n d father of ur girl n unborn. so just ignore him as well keep on with ur normal life pretend as if all is well an move on, he will definitely regret his action. Don't let anybody ask u what's wrong esp ur neighbors. don't let ur little girl see u in a bad mood. I know its difficult and crying, weeping is inevitable, after pouring it out quietly in ur room wash ur face and brighten up gain. as for ur job, its not the end as they say when there is life there is hope so don't worry another one will come ur way soon.

Whyterose, please take a deep breath. You don't need stress at this period. Your sister spilled the beans to your parents which I think it's good because that will make him change. Why I said this is because, if he is a serial womanizer he would stop womanizing and want to be in your parents good books. He will do anything to win your trust and your parent's.

But if it was just a 'by the way' cheating, your sister shouldn't have told your parents. She could have just let you come over and clear your head. Then scold your hubby not to cheat on you ever again.
You are suppose to be d one carrying face and not hubby. Don't feel guilty because you did no wrong at all . he should control his tin.

@whyterose, things like this happen sometimes. Ur parents didn't need to get involved in this, its a pity they are already. Try not to communicate more abt the issue with them, u need peace of mind to birth your LO. I would have adviced u go elsewhere to cool off probably have ur baby there but it seems it won't be anymore. Pls try as much as u can, look for a friend whom u trust that u can visit everyday but don't stay away for too long, ur hubby will come around am sure he has an explanation to make.

phlakkeys:


I was advised to terminate the pregnancy @ 20 weeks because of a major defect so i was induced and gave birth to the baby boy.
Though it would have been noticed as early as 13 weeks if i had gone for scan but since i was fine all through i decided not to do any scan until 18 weeks just to know the sex and that was when the major defect was discovered.

Awww, must have been hard as well.

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