firstking01:
Hmmmm, i think the write up is a food for thought but op, telling a nigerian girl this is just like coming to say that lionel messi is better than ronaldo which is the blunt truth and far too obvious to argue about...i always tell my female colleagues, until a man pays your bride price still keep your options open...i don't even know were this engagement, dating and courting thing came from sef cos it's not even in the bible....in the olden days if you see a young damsel/virgin(as it's what they used to adress a young girl in the days of our fathers and mothers), you just make enquiry about her parents and before you know you guys are getting married....and most times you are only meant to see each other on an approval occations by both parents not to talk of having sex, but today the world don spoil.

pocohantas:
Oh Lawd!
Which rule women go follow now...I done confuse sef.

https://www.nairaland.com/3753080/get-marriage-proposal-women-should <<<This thread was trying to say same thing...women should keep their options open, though it advised women to sleep with multiple men, which is wrong. Without reading through or getting its implicit meaning, lots of people started bashing, calling it advanced oloshoism.

I don't support unnecessary flaunting, but I am all for full concentration is a relationship. When you keep the so called options open, you make room from distractions. Humans are emotional beings...slowly, things begin to go wrong.

Toks2008:
You ask an obviously unmarried lady out and she says "sorry I'm in a relationship" and many ladies will quickly change their status on their social media handle to...."in a relationship or Engaged" ...worse still some will go as far as putting up the pics of a man who is not yet officially theirs and I keep wondering what goes on in the minds of some ladies ..

Shall we call that being faithful or being naive?

Every lady reading this should wake up and understand that until a man is officially married to you,he can not be trusted in anyway and that a man is even engaged to you does not guaranty marriage

Each time you tell a guy who asks you out that you are taken while still unmarried,you are simply shutting the door on yourself too soon and many ladies have shut out their husbands simply because they got carried away by an unserious man who is only good at mouthing their love and giving them forlorn hope.

Don't get it twisted, this is not about being unfaithful to that particular guy you truly desire but it is about tactfully leaving your options open by not flaunting him on or offline thereby driving away possibly more willing suitors.

Many ladies remain taken for years without wedding bells and I have seen several ladies who have been engaged for years.

The bottom line is that you should stop flaunting any guy you are courting and only flaunt your husband

Ladies should stop blocking their chance cos In the real world...there is no in between and there is no such word like "I'm taken" while you are still unmarried.

You are either single or married

Don't know if this makes sense.

refiner:
I'm taken...guys keep off!

refiner:
I'm taken...guys keep off!

Toks2008:


When you tactfully leave your options open,it does not mean you will start sleeping with different men..

Omotayor123:
I'm Taken

Toks2008:


When you tactfully leave your options open,it does not mean you will start sleeping with different men..

I don come back......

Cholls:
my sister come back here

obi58:


Monkey.

babyfaceafrica:
leaving options open is dangerous... How many men will date you without finding ways to sleep with you..look I have never in my life dated two women at the same time,If I find out that a lady I am dating has other options ,she is a gonner!!.people should be focused

generalbush:
Bullshit thread with nothing to offer the Economy!!

#Trash!!

Yewandequeen:


Nah
Ure wrong. Are you saying you cant keep a relationship without being intimate?