Op, do not commit murder by abortion. If she does not want to marry you, its fine. But she should keep the baby. Tell her you'll support her every step of the way. If she insists she's aborting, I hope you know abortion is against the Nigerian law. If she dies, you are in trouble, no one will remember/hear that you offered to marry her. Nobody in her family probably knows she's pregnant now and if they eventually find out, you are in trouble.

To be on he safe side, inform her family members (maybe sisters ) and let them know you are taking responsibility for the baby but their sister wants to abort. Don't give her money for it. Leave them to make their decision.

mzjaney:

Its Better u go see her parents.
Don't try aborting that baby.

exactly,she's grown already.op go see her parents no matter what they say or do to you be ready to take responsibility for your action.thats what makes you a better man and parent hopefully.am speaking from experience of a friend bro,so you won't regret it tommorow.i believe you have something doing if not get prepared.if you do this it wouldn't be easy at the beginning but much later it will be worth it believe me.oluwa is your iroko.

she should be glad that you are willing to take responsibility and even marry her. Please try n convince her to keep it and take steps that will enable her to see your seriousness. and hope she agrees to keep it

Charlieeeboi:


how effective z d dry gin?

OP, Nairaland is not the place to find drugs for your issue. Visit a good medical practitioner since you claim you can afford it. DNC is better than taking any drug orally.

But be aware that after the deed is done, you both will live with the regret of taking a life, most especially her. When she is finally married, and begins having children, she will remember the one she wasted away and what could have been. So, make the right choice.

solasolasola:
I wonder o. Some people will just be talking out of scope shit. The op needs an answer to a question yet some people will be saying something else. I'm sick and tired of this.

Don't abort ooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Please don't abort o

mekybabe1:
Start making marriage arrangements so that she will know that you really want her to keep the baby. Start with introduction, registry and traditional marriage. Pls let her keep the baby.

Pls follow this advice.

"I've asked her to keep it but she refused, she said she doesn't want to be a disgrace to her family, that none of her sisters have gotten pregnant before marriage so why should she be the one"


This is the kind of pressure our society puts on people that makes them do even worse or riskier things to cover their mistakes.
Many threw away their babies just to save their faces only to have the same family members accuse them of being barren in future.
I would advice that you do what is right for u n ur baby n forget about people. they will always talk as if they are without sin

There is no need beating about the bush........Go straight and be the first to report the situation to the girl's parents......dobale dada for them and tell them you are ready to marry her and take full responsibility of the pregnancy......

That's the right thing to do.....

Stop being a kid here......when you guys were rumbling under the sheets, you never asked us for advice. why asking us now?


Don't ever abort that baby......God sent him/her for a purpose......don't cut it short as your parents never cut yours!!!

ebukahandsome:
She want to remove it or you want her to remove it.
Examime Your conscience bro
If her mother removed her, you wouldnt have known her and vice versa

Seems u have problem understanding question or u just wan make noise. The Op just told us he wants her to keep it and u r taking rubbish

You have to have pray for 40days and 40 night

i don't know why you're using that phrase "You don;t what her to said it because of the baby and so on...

Charlieeeboi:
Good day.

I've been reading stories as a guest and I decided to register today to share my own story that has been bothering me. l had unprotected sex with my gf and she called last week to say that her period is 10 days late, I know we had sex and I came inside her so I asked her to go for a pregnancy test so we can be sure.. The test was done on Saturday and the results came yesterday that it's positive and shes 2 weeks gone.

I know abortion is a sin and I've asked her to keep it but she refused, she said she doesn't want to be a disgrace to her family, that none of her sisters have gotten pregnant before marriage so why should she be the one,I've pleaded all I can and it seems her mind is made up, so I need you all to tell me the drug we can use safely.

Thanks

Na wa o. Stop the lie abeg. 2 weeks pregnant?!! Haba Pregnancy is yet to be discovered at such an age.
Which lab gave you such a result? She has not even missed a period yet. cook another lie bro.

kidaby you hit the point "that if he truly loves her"

kidaby:
Op, do not commit murder by abortion. If she does not want to marry you, its fine. But she should keep the baby. Tell her you'll support her every step of the way. If she insists she's aborting, I hope you know abortion is against the Nigerian law. If she dies, you are in trouble, no one will remember/hear that you offered to marry her. Nobody in her family probably knows she's pregnant now and if they eventually find out, you are in trouble.

To be on he safe side, inform her family members (maybe sisters ) and let them know you are taking responsibility for the baby but their sister wants to abort. Don't give her money for it. Leave them to make their decision.

pro choice. but at 24 I wonder what she shld b afraid of

Charlieeeboi:
Good day.

I've been reading stories as a guest and I decided to register today to share my own story that has been bothering me. l had unprotected sex with my gf and she called last week to say that her period is 10 days late, I know we had sex and I came inside her so I asked her to go for a pregnancy test so we can be sure.. The test was done on Saturday and the results came yesterday that it's positive and shes 2 weeks gone.

I know abortion is a sin and I've asked her to keep it but she refused, she said she doesn't want to be a disgrace to her family, that none of her sisters have gotten pregnant before marriage so why should she be the one,I've pleaded all I can and it seems her mind is made up, so I need you all to tell me the drug we can use safely.

Thanks

Before i advice u...
Were there when the pregnancy test was conducted?

go meet her parent and talk with them.

Charlieeeboi:


am ready to be a father but shes not ready to be a mother, so should I force her to? the deed has already been done and am aware dat abortion z a sin..buh wat can I do?

Insist and stand your ground...possibly involve her close relative...What if she dies in the process? Giving your consent and demanding for the drug to use negates your not wanting the abortion done. So brother do not participate in the murder...do everything within your power to stop her...if she dies in the process or kills the child eventually after your efforts then you can be exonerated. Good luck

johnjay4u2u:
Na wa o.
Stop the lie abeg.
2 weeks pregnant?!! Haba
Pregnancy is yet to be discovered at such an age.

Which lab gave you such a result?
She has not even missed a period yet.
cook another lie bro.

I had to go and check if d mods removed that her period z late.. stop sampling your senseless brain online if u have nothing to say

Stelvin101:



Seems u have problem understanding question or u just wan make noise. The Op just told us he wants her to keep it and u r taking rubbish

Your father left nyash

Sheungbengar:

Mrs favour, can u hint me on the free/safe sex period?

honestly ,its possible .I have kids and that's my method of preventing unwanted pregnancy .

Damibiz:
Mix Otapiapia with ogogoro nd rat killer with petrol nd honey the original honey oh,nd them put both ur blood small quantity withe ehmmmm if u like oh u go put the leaves of kerosine mango...drink first them after two days gv her to drink.that is all thank me later

are u a killer

Look who's making sense..whose consent did you seek before having sex with her which I believe is on numerous counts.Grow up nd stop been a cry baby.

Charlieeeboi:


you wanna get likes right?.. I said abortion z a sin..I never said premarital sex wasn't.. taking drugs to terminate d pregnancy z abortion too..isn't it? get urself straight before making useless comments

Charlieeeboi:


I had to go and check if d mods removed that her period z late.. stop sampling your senseless brain online if u have nothing to say

Don't reply anyone foul post anymore. It doesn't help your present situation. Pls, how old are you, you working aldy? Even if it's lil job. Don't abort the innocent baby, tell ur gf you're keeping it. If she really loves u and even plans marrying you, she shouldn't object to that option, she should rather be happy.

I was once in your shoes, abortion should have been our options considering my spiritual background and my now wife's position in the church, but we didn't. We got married shortly when it occurred, today we're blessed with a baby boy and doing okay with our lives.

Don't let anyone condemn you. God forgives.
Embrace this challenge, an elaborate wedding doesn't tell the success of a marriage or what the children from that marriage will be like. Tell that to your lady

I am a testimony. I don't want to talk too much.
I didn't have close to elaborate wedding, but God has been good to us. My baby boy grows bigger everyday and in intelligence.

OP give her two alabukun missed with dry gin half glass. let her take it in the morning before she eats.

better go and report yourself to the parent they are the only ones that can stop her.as most girls are air heads and recieve advice from fellow airheaded friends..i no get tym to judge u pass how u don already judge yourself.for the sake of the baby man up for both of you...and next time biko.use protection...

Omotayor123:
The girl is not serious. when she knows she can't marry with pregnancy why agree to unprotected sex?

You're a man and you must stand your ground. Tell her you're keeping the baby at all cost and you will never forgive her if she aborts it.

Threaten to go tell her parents, I'm sure they won't support abortion either.

if she's really serious about it, you guys can get married before the baby bumb would be spotted.
The choice would be hers only to make.!

You can't force someone to do this. The baby is in her body. She will carry him/her for nine months. Birth. And tend to him/her afterwards.

You simply cant force this.

Why not go to there house, come there when are parents are around and tell him not to dare abort ur child . make sure her parents will hear it, then let d parents now force her to keep it.

Charlieeeboi:


she wants to.. I've asked her to keep it but she said she can't, I don't want to force her..I don't want her to say someday dat d reason she married me z cos of d baby she had for me

are u ready 2 marry her now, if yes, elope wit her, if no, let her execute her plans

stiles009:

liar!! small boy seeking attention
which sort of pregnancy test takes 24 hrs to get the result?

did I just read your question? my gosh!! no offense, you need to read.