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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Nobody: 10:42pm On Aug 23, 2017
LaurelP:


U are lying. U can't leave Ikorodu by 6:30am and get to Ajah axis by 8am. It's not possible, unless u use a powerbike.

Ikorodu to ajah wake 6am get there8.30am is a big lie... From Ojodu berger to Ajah alone is 2hours
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by MrSly(m): 10:43pm On Aug 23, 2017
alexialin:
There is this neighbor of mine, hes a bachelor and lives on my street. Few houses from mine. Hes a nice man, has a reasonable job, hes responsible, and good looking in his late 30s. We greet each other, have small talks as friends. I know he likes me due to the way he gists with me, help me with my car like changing tyre if its flat in the wee hours of the morning before he heads to work. Infact hes a concerned neighbor.
But yesterday evening, as I came back from work, my phone was ringing nd I saw his number and picked. He said he would like to discuss something important and delicate. I said ok no probs. I will come over to your place, lemme freshen up first.

So fast forward, I knocked on his door he opened, and smiled nervously, I smiled back. He ushered me to his sitting room. So I was like John, whats up? Whats going on?
He sat close to me and was now going Into long story of how hes planning to move down to a serene area in ikorodu, he has gotten a three bedroom flat, all tiled amd spacious. I was like wow! So u are moving to ikorodu? Are u not scared with badoo and the killings there?

He laughed nervously he said ha! No badoo there again! Ikorodu is now safe. I said seriously? He said yes! And moreover he has already paid for the place.
I said ok o.. I wish u safe relocating then. He said thank you
Then he said but there is one more issue.

I said ok, u want to throw send off party? I was laughing

He said noooo!

Hmm mm, hmmmm, I said what nah? Why hmmm?
Then he knelt down and said alexia weve known each other for quite a while and i can say am comfortable with you around me. And u are exactly what i need in my life.
Pease will u marry me? Will u be my wife? Am ready to go see your people and do all the necessary marriage rites. And towards end of this year, we are married.

I was like wait, wait!

Marry you? Ha!
Its not that u are good as a husband but sorry I can never live in ikorodu.
Not wit the killings going on there

Am sorry I cant cry

Wow! Pls stand up abeg.. I can't

He felt so bad, I couldnt bear to see the hurt in his eyes. As I stood up, he said wait pls.. I said am coming.


Sighs


Now peeps look at this scenario

I can't jeopardize my life cos of getting married.

Ikorodu for me is a no go area.


Do u guys and ladies feel I was unreasonable sad

I know am not a spring chicken but I can't put my life in danger cry
And even apart from danger? I feel the distance from where hes moving to and where my office @is just too long. Hold up alone eveyday will make me weary and tired

Pls I need reasonable views and replies about this issue

I don't want to feel like am a bad person sad

Pls dont mind my grammatical errors!
Hmmmmm! It seems your village people are at work with their remote. Good luck rejecting though.
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by sircrabo: 10:43pm On Aug 23, 2017
alexialin:
There is this neighbor of mine, hes a bachelor and lives on my street. Few houses from mine. Hes a nice man, has a reasonable job, hes responsible, and good looking in his late 30s. We greet each other, have small talks as friends. I know he likes me due to the way he gists with me, help me with my car like changing tyre if its flat in the wee hours of the morning before he heads to work. Infact hes a concerned neighbor.
But yesterday evening, as I came back from work, my phone was ringing nd I saw his number and picked. He said he would like to discuss something important and delicate. I said ok no probs. I will come over to your place, lemme freshen up first.

So fast forward, I knocked on his door he opened, and smiled nervously, I smiled back. He ushered me to his sitting room. So I was like John, whats up? Whats going on?
He sat close to me and was now going Into long story of how hes planning to move down to a serene area in ikorodu, he has gotten a three bedroom flat, all tiled amd spacious. I was like wow! So u are moving to ikorodu? Are u not scared with badoo and the killings there?

He laughed nervously he said ha! No badoo there again! Ikorodu is now safe. I said seriously? He said yes! And moreover he has already paid for the place.
I said ok o.. I wish u safe relocating then. He said thank you
Then he said but there is one more issue.

I said ok, u want to throw send off party? I was laughing

He said noooo!

Hmm mm, hmmmm, I said what nah? Why hmmm?
Then he knelt down and said alexia weve known each other for quite a while and i can say am comfortable with you around me. And u are exactly what i need in my life.
Pease will u marry me? Will u be my wife? Am ready to go see your people and do all the necessary marriage rites. And towards end of this year, we are married.

I was like wait, wait!

Marry you? Ha!
Its not that u are good as a husband but sorry I can never live in ikorodu.
Not wit the killings going on there

Am sorry I cant cry

Wow! Pls stand up abeg.. I can't

He felt so bad, I couldnt bear to see the hurt in his eyes. As I stood up, he said wait pls.. I said am coming.


Sighs


Now peeps look at this scenario

I can't jeopardize my life cos of getting married.

Ikorodu for me is a no go area.


Do u guys and ladies feel I was unreasonable sad

I know am not a spring chicken but I can't put my life in danger cry
And even apart from danger? I feel the distance from where hes moving to and where my office @is just too long. Hold up alone eveyday will make me weary and tired

Pls I need reasonable views and replies about this issue

I don't want to feel like am a bad person sad

Pls dont mind my grammatical errors!

so simply because he rented a house in Ikorodu , you do not want to marry him. Is he the owner of Ikorodu ? did he even build a house in Ikorodu ? Its either you just don't like him well enough to marry him or you aren't ready to settle down
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Nobody: 10:45pm On Aug 23, 2017
Tosinex:
OK good, then date him to know if he will be a good husband. But the ikorodu issue, kindly strike it out with him.



I can't. Hes married and cunningly hid it from me

I want to keep living a peaceful and stress free life in nigeria, void of charms and assassins trailing me cos his wife is somewhere in Lagos, crying for justice without my knowledge.
I cant come and die because I want to marry.
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Nobody: 10:54pm On Aug 23, 2017
alexialin:





I like him cause of his sense of responsibility

Have not thought about love with him, cos am in the school of thought that one shouldn't date neighbors, cos we dont know if it will end in marriage or breakup as usual.
Thats one.. So inlove? Nope am not but I like him.. Hes a good responsible guy.

Sighs but my fear is ikorodu
With the killings going on there and the terrible traffic to and fro to my buisness, I can't risk both at all

First my biz? It took me 11years to keep it running, stable and successful. If am going to relocate my biz, not anywhere near ikorodu at all!

I can't afford to loose my company for anything in the whole world and I can't afford to move my biz to a location where it wil not prosper.
And ikorodu is too fetish for my liking sad
With oro festivalsa and all

Then thieves abeg.

Where I live is very secured and safe

Am very paranoid about safety.
Due to past experience. Sighs

And on the second hand, I would love to start a family but not at the detriment of my peace of mind.
sad

I just taya.



sit him dwn tell him abt ur plan mayb you can win his heart wit ur decition
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Erums(m): 10:55pm On Aug 23, 2017
Some guys and marriage foemat eeehn.... Seriously sick

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Topmaike007(m): 11:01pm On Aug 23, 2017
@op why not seek the face of GOD,pray at your closet for God to direct u..for the bible said my people perish cos of lack of wisdom.
if he is your own how wil u know?if i he is not urz hw wil u know?dat z why u need GOD,and i know u will nt regret it.
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by remzor(m): 11:06pm On Aug 23, 2017
I hope u will read this. Ok, I stay in ikorodu. I live in an estate here in ikorodu. Ikorodu is very ok. I'm not in ikorodu per se, but along ikorodu road. Ask him where in ikorodu. I love ikorodu, I don't know why. Besides, u can get a straight brt bus to ur destination. There's no baddo here. Use ur tongue to count your teeth
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by larrypourl(m): 11:07pm On Aug 23, 2017
He's a good guy but running away from a 5year marriage cos d wife couldn't conceive is evil. Run away from such men. Is the lady God that produce babies? infact I take my good guy compliment back grin

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by mrmax1(m): 11:09pm On Aug 23, 2017
alexialin:





I like him cause of his sense of responsibility

Have not thought about love with him, cos am in the school of thought that one shouldn't date neighbors, cos we dont know if it will end in marriage or breakup as usual.
Thats one.. So inlove? Nope am not but I like him.. Hes a good responsible guy.

Sighs but my fear is ikorodu
With the killings going on there and the terrible traffic to and fro to my buisness, I can't risk both at all

First my biz? It took me 11years to keep it running, stable and successful. If am going to relocate my biz, not anywhere near ikorodu at all!

I can't afford to loose my company for anything in the whole world and I can't afford to move my biz to a location where it wil not prosper.
And ikorodu is too fetish for my liking sad
With oro festivalsa and all

Then thieves abeg.

Where I live is very secured and safe

Am very paranoid about safety.
Due to past experience. Sighs

And on the second hand, I would love to start a family but not at the detriment of my peace of mind.
sad

I just taya.

[b]
alexialin:





I like him cause of his sense of responsibility

Have not thought about love with him, cos am in the school of thought that one shouldn't date neighbors, cos we dont know if it will end in marriage or breakup as usual.
Thats one.. So inlove? Nope am not but I like him.. Hes a good responsible guy.

Sighs but my fear is ikorodu
With the killings going on there and the terrible traffic to and fro to my buisness, I can't risk both at all

First my biz? It took me 11years to keep it running, stable and successful. If am going to relocate my biz, not anywhere near ikorodu at all!

I can't afford to loose my company for anything in the whole world and I can't afford to move my biz to a location where it wil not prosper.
And ikorodu is too fetish for my liking sad
With oro festivalsa and all

Then thieves abeg.

Where I live is very secured and safe

Am very paranoid about safety.
Due to past experience. Sighs

And on the second hand, I would love to start a family but not at the detriment of my peace of mind.
sad

I just taya.

[/b][quote author=alexialin post=58580942]




I like him cause of his sense of responsibility

Have not thought about love with him, cos am in the school of thought that one shouldn't date neighbors, cos we dont know if it will end in marriage or breakup as usual.
Thats one.. So inlove? Nope am not but I like him.. Hes a good responsible guy.

Sighs but my fear is ikorodu
With the killings going on there and the terrible traffic to and fro to my buisness, I can't risk both at all

First my biz? It took me 11years to keep it running, stable and successful. If am going to relocate my biz, not anywhere near ikorodu at all!

I can't afford to loose my company for anything in the whole world and I can't afford to move my biz to a location where it wil not prosper.
And ikorodu is too fetish for my liking sad
With oro festivalsa and all

Then thieves abeg.

Where I live is very secured and safe

Am very paranoid about safety.
Due to past experience. Sighs

And on the second hand, I would love to start a family but not at the detriment of my peace of mind.
sad

I just taya.

first and most important thing is to ask yourself if he's someone you wouldn't mind settling down with, if you would love to settle down with him, you can sit down with him and talk it out, you can even end up convincing him to look else where, sure he will cos he truly loves u
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Nobody: 11:10pm On Aug 23, 2017
Nigerians!!! So you guys cannot read? The Op said she investigated the man and found out that he is married!! Can't you all read Haba! Una still dey give mumu advice like Husbands are scarce, age is not on your side, ikorodu this and that, bla bla bla da bla..... The man is married. Thread closed!

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by wrongnumber: 11:11pm On Aug 23, 2017
alexialin:
There is this neighbor of mine, hes a bachelor and lives on my street. Few houses from mine. Hes a nice man, has a reasonable job, hes responsible, and good looking in his late 30s. We greet each other, have small talks as friends. I know he likes me due to the way he gists with me, help me with my car like changing tyre if its flat in the wee hours of the morning before he heads to work. Infact hes a concerned neighbor.
But yesterday evening, as I came back from work, my phone was ringing nd I saw his number and picked. He said he would like to discuss something important and delicate. I said ok no probs. I will come over to your place, lemme freshen up first.

So fast forward, I knocked on his door he opened, and smiled nervously, I smiled back. He ushered me to his sitting room. So I was like John, whats up? Whats going on?
He sat close to me and was now going Into long story of how hes planning to move down to a serene area in ikorodu, he has gotten a three bedroom flat, all tiled amd spacious. I was like wow! So u are moving to ikorodu? Are u not scared with badoo and the killings there?

He laughed nervously he said ha! No badoo there again! Ikorodu is now safe. I said seriously? He said yes! And moreover he has already paid for the place.
I said ok o.. I wish u safe relocating then. He said thank you
Then he said but there is one more issue.

I said ok, u want to throw send off party? I was laughing

He said noooo!

Hmm mm, hmmmm, I said what nah? Why hmmm?
Then he knelt down and said alexia weve known each other for quite a while and i can say am comfortable with you around me. And u are exactly what i need in my life.
Pease will u marry me? Will u be my wife? Am ready to go see your people and do all the necessary marriage rites. And towards end of this year, we are married.

I was like wait, wait!

Marry you? Ha!
Its not that u are good as a husband but sorry I can never live in ikorodu.
Not wit the killings going on there

Am sorry I cant cry

Wow! Pls stand up abeg.. I can't

He felt so bad, I couldnt bear to see the hurt in his eyes. As I stood up, he said wait pls.. I said am coming.


Sighs


Now peeps look at this scenario

I can't jeopardize my life cos of getting married.

Ikorodu for me is a no go area.


Do u guys and ladies feel I was unreasonable sad

I know am not a spring chicken but I can't put my life in danger cry
And even apart from danger? I feel the distance from where hes moving to and where my office @is just too long. Hold up alone eveyday will make me weary and tired

Pls I need reasonable views and replies about this issue

I don't want to feel like am a bad person sad

Pls dont mind my grammatical errors!
Your life and your choice but just understand that marriage proposals are hard to come by these days.
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by geezynoni: 11:15pm On Aug 23, 2017
Sighs..

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by uglodoh(f): 11:17pm On Aug 23, 2017
ww007:
others are running away from ikorodu and he's moving there? well, if the location is the only obstacle, why don't u tell him? if he loves you and wants you as a wife, he should ask for a refund from the land lord and get a decent place in a better area. but i honestly don't think u are in love with the guy. just don't play along and hurt him later.

Because of the social media news you read about Ikorodu. Millions of people living there. I can't not live outside. Ikorodu is safe.

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by franzis(m): 11:17pm On Aug 23, 2017
amedualiyu:
People are just generalizing ikorodu for Badoo. I live in Ikorodu( agric ) and work in Lekki. I leave by 5am everyday and I won`t be back until pass 9pm.Am not ready to leave this area for anywhere in Lagos except Lekki,Ikoyi & V.I. Badoo guys only operate in the remote area in ikorodu. I don`t expect your assumed fiancé to get accommodation in such area. Please, ask him the area in ikorodu before you conclude. please, revert back!
No mind them , I reside at irawo and never for once have I heard badoo killings there , You can't live in a flat with burglary proof maybe with fence /gate and badoo attacks you ..no no no . The media blew this badoo issue out of proportion

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Orpe7(m): 11:18pm On Aug 23, 2017
alexialin:
There is this neighbor of mine, hes a bachelor and lives on my street. Few houses from mine. Hes a nice man, has a reasonable job, hes responsible, and good looking in his late 30s. We greet each other, have small talks as friends. I know he likes me due to the way he gists with me, help me with my car like changing tyre if its flat in the wee hours of the morning before he heads to work. Infact hes a concerned neighbor.
But yesterday evening, as I came back from work, my phone was ringing nd I saw his number and picked. He said he would like to discuss something important and delicate. I said ok no probs. I will come over to your place, lemme freshen up first.

So fast forward, I knocked on his door he opened, and smiled nervously, I smiled back. He ushered me to his sitting room. So I was like John, whats up? Whats going on?
He sat close to me and was now going Into long story of how hes planning to move down to a serene area in ikorodu, he has gotten a three bedroom flat, all tiled amd spacious. I was like wow! So u are moving to ikorodu? Are u not scared with badoo and the killings there?

He laughed nervously he said ha! No badoo there again! Ikorodu is now safe. I said seriously? He said yes! And moreover he has already paid for the place.
I said ok o.. I wish u safe relocating then. He said thank you
Then he said but there is one more issue.

I said ok, u want to throw send off party? I was laughing

He said noooo!

Hmm mm, hmmmm, I said what nah? Why hmmm?
Then he knelt down and said alexia weve known each other for quite a while and i can say am comfortable with you around me. And u are exactly what i need in my life.
Pease will u marry me? Will u be my wife? Am ready to go see your people and do all the necessary marriage rites. And towards end of this year, we are married.

I was like wait, wait!

Marry you? Ha!
Its not that u are good as a husband but sorry I can never live in ikorodu.
Not wit the killings going on there

Am sorry I cant cry

Wow! Pls stand up abeg.. I can't

He felt so bad, I couldnt bear to see the hurt in his eyes. As I stood up, he said wait pls.. I said am coming.


Sighs


Now peeps look at this scenario

I can't jeopardize my life cos of getting married.

Ikorodu for me is a no go area.


Do u guys and ladies feel I was unreasonable sad

I know am not a spring chicken but I can't put my life in danger cry
And even apart from danger? I feel the distance from where hes moving to and where my office @is just too long. Hold up alone eveyday will make me weary and tired

Pls I need reasonable views and replies about this issue

I don't want to feel like am a bad person sad

Pls dont mind my grammatical errors!


Soon and very soon na 5litre anointing oil ur pastor go pourfor ur head when u don dey pass 30. Better forget this childishness and say yes to him. Except u do t love him before
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by uglodoh(f): 11:19pm On Aug 23, 2017
AryaSand:

If your locs look scruffy and you don't have a Car please don't come. But if it's neat and you can pack it well, you should. I know a couple of people with locs that live in Ikorodu. Just make sure you Dress decently, avoide carrying a back pack (The NPF/Sars working in Ikorodu are useless, they see a guy carrying a back pack and he is labelled a Yahoo boy and your dreads would even make it worse sef) have your ID in your wallet and notify your sister when coming.

This is a general thing in Lagos not only in Ikorodu.
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Nobody: 11:19pm On Aug 23, 2017
Sophyrocks:
Nigerians!!! So you guys cannot read? The Op said she investigated the man and found out that he is married!! Can't you all read Haba! Una still dey give mumu advice like Husbands are scarce, age is not on your side, ikorodu this and that, bla bla bla da bla..... The man is married. Thread closed!




God bless you dear kiss

No mind the men urging me to marry him cause men are scarce!
Scarce Yea I know. But thats not the end of life.

I rather be single and live a smooth safe life, than marrying another woman's husband cos age is not on my side.

Please everyone thanks for your advises but truly this THREAD is CLOSED!

Moderator please abeg close this thread!


GOODNIGHT Everyone oooo!

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Ladyjumong(f): 11:21pm On Aug 23, 2017
Twist of fate grin
cool
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by xtremeTall(m): 11:21pm On Aug 23, 2017
ikorodu is nw safe though undecided undecided undecided undecided
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by uglodoh(f): 11:26pm On Aug 23, 2017
alexialin:




I investigated him and I found out his married, he left his 5years old marriage without considering his wife's feelings.

Thats y he choose inside ikorodu, where d wife cannot easily locate him

I was dumbfounded when the results of my investigation started pouring in.
I confronted him, and guess his excuse for leaving his wife?

Cause she couldn't bear him a child in their 5 years of marriage and hes fedup already.

Can u beat that?

Abeg hes filled with so much baggages and am not into married men.
At all!

Why Was this reason not stated when narrating your story. Your story does not add up. I live in Ikorodu and there is nothing wrong with Ikorodu. Maybe you are seeking attention.

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Nobody: 11:26pm On Aug 23, 2017
alexialin:




I can't. Hes married and cunningly hid it from me

I want to keep living a peaceful and stress free life in nigeria, void of charms and assassins trailing me cos his wife is somewhere in Lagos, crying for justice without my knowledge.
I cant come and die because I want to marry.
wow, you see. That's it. I wonder why some men are so terrible like this. Thank God you discover that. It would have been hell if you have let down your guard. Well congratulations. However there are some men out there, that could be really sincere with you, I just hope we could talk better on this.
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by silver94(m): 11:28pm On Aug 23, 2017
Who is the mod that move this nonsense to front page?

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by ozimec(m): 11:30pm On Aug 23, 2017
alexialin:






Abi?

You are right on that.

Although he wanted us to date but I told him I dont do neighbor relationship, Infact street relationship I no do

And maybe he feels, am scared he will dump me after sexxx? Which is one paranoia I have as well. U know how guys are? After sexxx? They move on.
I don't want such to happen to me on the same street. I will just die of shame! God!

So I made it clear to him, no dating.
So he came up with marriage and he said I can ask people around, he's a good man and husband material.


My problem is ikorodu. I can marry a man am not in love with, as long as hes presentable, has a good job, and he cares for me and hes good, loving and faithful, I have no problem. With time I will fall in love. Love is overrated jare

I pray he doesn't take it to heart I said no

If only he had consult me before taking such drastic steps!

It would have been a different story. I would have gladly say yes! And hang my boots on dating, just focus on making my new family work! And also understand him too.

If only he asked for my opinion!

A potential husband slipping off my hands. sad

Cos hes indeed a gentle man.

Going by how you described him, I think he's a nice man and you liked him. However, relocating to Ikorodu may be a concern to you because of the prevalent insecurity in the area but, I don't think it's enough reason to reject a potential suitor. I understand he made a mistake of not consulting you before making such important decision since he had you in his plan but nevertheless, you guys can still sit down together and see how you can reach a compromise from both side. In relationship, some sacrifices must be made from both partner for it to work. Engage him in a sincere discussion about all your worries, I bet you you guys will strike a balance.
Good luck.
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Nobody: 11:32pm On Aug 23, 2017
alexialin:





God bless you dear kiss

No mind the men urging me to marry him cause men are scarce!
Scarce Yea I know. But thats not the end of life.

I rather be single and live a smooth safe life, than marrying another woman's husband cos age is not on my side.

Please everyone thanks for your advises but truly this THREAD is CLOSED!

GOODNIGHT!

Tell mods to close the freaking thread. I knew that comments coming from Dull Nairaland dudes will not exceed mumu advice such using age factor to blackmail you. Nairaland is not the best place to seek for advice on sensitive matters as marriage my dear. Can you see the horrible advice you are getting now? A lot of dudes here are daft. Heck they can't even read to know that you revealed that the man is MARRIED!! You should have known that by now. Next time, make the vital investigation about men that come around you and don't be too quick to seek advice from such a horrid place as Nairaland. NEVER EVER BECOME DESPERATE BECAUSE OF A MAN! You did the right thing by delaying before considering his marriage proposal. No matter how flattering it feels to have a man proposing to you, snap out of the fantasy and find out all you need to know about that man first before making any move.
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by immortal145: 11:33pm On Aug 23, 2017
u are not even serious or know what u want my dear...u even seem deceitful to me already!...y wont u just tell him i like u or i dont like u...instead of using badoo as an excuse...am sure d guy can even relocate somewhere else...

but u cant even say d important thing...

u are so fake my dear...

go away!...

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by pendragon35(m): 11:35pm On Aug 23, 2017
Sis, you can lie for Africa oooo,go clear the allegation levelled against you by Sisioge nd Co.
You have like 10monikers with diffrnt super stories smh grin

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Gist247(m): 11:37pm On Aug 23, 2017
pryme:


Op am having problems trying to pass the Tibet stage on Relic Run, can you share any tips or ideas?

You play relic run?

Finally... Someone. And yes me too I'm tired of Tibet lipsrsealed embarassed
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by ojun50(m): 11:40pm On Aug 23, 2017
alexialin:





I like him cause of his sense of responsibility

Have not thought about love with him, cos am in the school of thought that one shouldn't date neighbors, cos we dont know if it will end in marriage or breakup as usual.
Thats one.. So inlove? Nope am not but I like him.. Hes a good responsible guy.

Sighs but my fear is ikorodu
With the killings going on there and the terrible traffic to and fro to my buisness, I can't risk both at all

First my biz? It took me 11years to keep it running, stable and successful. If am going to relocate my biz, not anywhere near ikorodu at all!

I can't afford to loose my company for anything in the whole world and I can't afford to move my biz to a location where it wil not prosper.
And ikorodu is too fetish for my liking sad
With oro festivalsa and all

Then thieves abeg.

Where I live is very secured and safe

Am very paranoid about safety.
Due to past experience. Sighs

And on the second hand, I would love to start a family but not at the detriment of my peace of mind.
sad

I just taya.

if u really like or love him why nt discuss all this with him,... I will advice u give him a chance befor u finally said yes to him
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by poseidon12: 11:42pm On Aug 23, 2017
I don't believe you are serious. But just in case you are, does he have to move to Ikorodu? If you really like him and would have said yes to his proposal then you can still give a yes answer on the condition that he locates to an area acceptable to you. He should be able to get a part of his money back.
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Marshalxv(m): 11:43pm On Aug 23, 2017
From your post and response to quotes here ,I can say that you're indecisive and afraid to loose a potential husband like you said.My humble advice is to agree to his initial proposal of going into relationship,it will be better since he's leaving ur neighborhood so u won't say ur dating someone in the same street ,you'll get to know if he's truly a husband material or a seeing material.

Here's my reason for suggesting that you date him.As it is now you're already feeling like ur letting something slip off ur hand,but by dating him first,you'll get to know if you're trowing away something possibly good or if you're saving yourself from future harm.
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by tunde37(m): 11:43pm On Aug 23, 2017
alexialin:
There is this neighbor of mine, hes a bachelor and lives on my street. Few houses from mine. Hes a nice man, has a reasonable job, hes responsible, and good looking in his late 30s. We greet each other, have small talks as friends. I know he likes me due to the way he gists with me, help me with my car like changing tyre if its flat in the wee hours of the morning before he heads to work. Infact hes a concerned neighbor.
But yesterday evening, as I came back from work, my phone was ringing nd I saw his number and picked. He said he would like to discuss something important and delicate. I said ok no probs. I will come over to your place, lemme freshen up first.

So fast forward, I knocked on his door he opened, and smiled nervously, I smiled back. He ushered me to his sitting room. So I was like John, whats up? Whats going on?
He sat close to me and was now going Into long story of how hes planning to move down to a serene area in ikorodu, he has gotten a three bedroom flat, all tiled amd spacious. I was like wow! So u are moving to ikorodu? Are u not scared with badoo and the killings there?

He laughed nervously he said ha! No badoo there again! Ikorodu is now safe. I said seriously? He said yes! And moreover he has already paid for the place.
I said ok o.. I wish u safe relocating then. He said thank you
Then he said but there is one more issue.

I said ok, u want to throw send off party? I was laughing

He said noooo!

Hmm mm, hmmmm, I said what nah? Why hmmm?
Then he knelt down and said alexia weve known each other for quite a while and i can say am comfortable with you around me. And u are exactly what i need in my life.
Pease will u marry me? Will u be my wife? Am ready to go see your people and do all the necessary marriage rites. And towards end of this year, we are married.

I was like wait, wait!

Marry you? Ha!
Its not that u are good as a husband but sorry I can never live in ikorodu.
Not wit the killings going on there

Am sorry I cant cry

Wow! Pls stand up abeg.. I can't

He felt so bad, I couldnt bear to see the hurt in his eyes. As I stood up, he said wait pls.. I said am coming.


Sighs


Now peeps look at this scenario

I can't jeopardize my life cos of getting married.

Ikorodu for me is a no go area.


Do u guys and ladies feel I was unreasonable sad

I know am not a spring chicken but I can't put my life in danger cry
And even apart from danger? I feel the distance from where hes moving to and where my office @is just too long. Hold up alone eveyday will make me weary and tired

Pls I need reasonable views and replies about this issue

I don't want to feel like am a bad person sad

Pls dont mind my grammatical errors!
hmm I smell lies

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