Preshy561:
and the ones that have been washing and cleaning nko?where did you keep them?
aren't they now call exes?
stupid lazy old fool, see how dirty and shabby his kitchen looks,tomorrow this one go open mouth deh curse girls with smelly pussy.



idiotic fool.
wife material kill you there.

Preshy561:

did he say something like that In his post?
no!!.

he doesn't owe the lady any obligation to keep her finances high,same way the lady doesn't owe him anything in cleaning his house.
he shouldn't be a lazy youth.

Lisaflex:
It depends on how it all went down....

First of all, she didn't sleep over 4 you to say she didn't do any chore in the morning before leaving (depends on how early she needs to leave sef).

Secondly, she was visiting for the first time... The only reason i will offer to do the dishes in a boyfriend's house(not sleeping over) I'm visiting for the first time is if i ate food during the time of visit...The dude is even supposed to be gracious enough to refuse the offer, except the girl insists.

If i am a dude and a girlfriend visits me for the first time ,and for no reason goes on a hunting expedition for dirty dishes , i'll definitely find that weird.... I won't be surprised if this same guy in question comes on the internet to blast the girlfriend and girls in general for being a pretentious lot if that happened to be the case.

Finally, I think ladies should have good manners(not restricted to ladies) and also be themselves at all times...It isn't cool to over do things, eg turning yourself into a slave/maid just to impress a boyfriend (everything should be done in moderation).... The truth is,whoever loves you loves you in spite of your shortcomings....Don't goan kee yourself on top chores ,cos you want to please somebody whose heart is already with another girl who probably doesn't even do anything at all.

Okoyeebos:
See girls coming online to castigate the guy for expecting such from his girlfriend but offline, most of them do much more for their boyfriends.

HaneefahRN:



First impression truly matters and that is why the guy should have cleaned up and done his chores while expecting a visitor. The only justification he would have is if the girl had eaten at his place and not washed the dishes afterwards. That is something I can't do, not minding who I visit even if it's a friend of same gender.

Why would I visit a man for the first time and the next thing I'm supposed to be doing is chores just to show I'm 'wife material'?!

engrelvis:
Thunder fire u .if u want house cleaner go n hire a maid.na yr wife?when boys visit their girlfriend homes do dey do man jobs in d house.boys always looking for excuse to dump girls.is d girls I blame sha.it was nt like dis in d past.every guy now want a live in lover so dat( according to him) he can assess her wifey attributes whereas Na their dick dey do d thinking.v always maintain most youth actions in a relationship r being govern by their dicks.love fire.dey will never agree sha but deep down dey know am saying d truth.luk at what is happening in our campuses today.students living together.d males will just be enjoying free pussy n food all in guise of living as husband n wife.postinor 2 will now b d female companion.in most cases dey will not marry.what is now left is a damage womb.d guy will go n marry another babe.girls wise up

Preshy561:
and the ones that have been washing and cleaning nko?where did you keep them?
aren't they now call exes?
stupid lazy old fool,see how dirty and shabby his kitchen looks,tomorrow this one go open mouth deh curse girls with smelly pussy.



idiotic fool.
wife material kill you there.

Preshy561:
and the ones that have been washing and cleaning nko?where did you keep them?
aren't they now call exes?
stupid lazy old fool,see how dirty and shabby his kitchen looks,tomorrow this one go open mouth deh curse girls with smelly pussy.



idiotic fool.
wife material kill you there.

Preshy561:
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trash trash trash.
take your respect to the kitchen by doing the needful.keep your kitchen neat,sweep and scrub.
don't be a lazy youth.

so long she's your girlfriend and not wife, you have no reason whatsoever to complain about not being birthed,brushed or cooked for.Dafuq,what are you guys turning ladies into??

is she your slave or your Nanny?

bizza45:
girlfriend not wife oo, were u expecting her to do your house chores for u.. baba employ a house help and stop ranting on Twitter ... if u do it yourself will ur hand fall down

sanpipita:


Does your culture also say men should be dirty and never do things for themselves even in their own home? please tell me does this your culture say women should bath men too since hunting for food seems only thing they are allowed to do.

XhosaNostra:
Let's assume she left in a hurry & had other things to do for the day.

All this wife material stuff aside, it is a proper thing to do, to tidy up just a little bit if you've slept over at someone's place. It's common decency & courtesy.
Personally, I'd never leave a relative's, a friend's or any house for that matter, without making sure that everything is in order before I leave. It just doesn't feel right to leave a mess behind. That kitchen is not even that dirty, just disorganized. It wouldn't even take more than a few minutes to straighten it out & call it a day. No skin off your back. Some people are taking this "girl power" thing way too far imo. Just clear off a few things, it's the decent thing to do if you've spent the night at someone's house. It takes absolutely nothing from you.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
I don't think this is about feminism. I girl visiting for the first time is not expected to do about do house chores.
The guy is even a pig to keep his kitchen looking that bad when he's expecting a firstime visitor. The girl might have seen that the whole place was disorganized and left thanking her God that she saw it early enough not after she has entered deep into the relationship.
If I visit a guy for the first and finds out that he's a pig, nothing will ever carry my legs to his house again. For God's sake he lives alone and should be responsible for his house chores. He either should do it himself of employ a house keeper.
I've seen neat guys and no neat guy will even allow a girl visiting for the first time enter his kitchen, cook for him or wash his dishes even if they are the food together.
You guys on nairaland should stop this feminism of a thing. It has taken your sense of reason when it comes to matters concerning women. You guys don't even wait to read and understand anything that relates to women but rush into including that it's feminism.
Keep yourselves and your surroundings clean and you won't notice that someone left dishes in your sink because there won't be dirty dishes there.

XhosaNostra:
Let's assume she left in a hurry & had other things to do for the day.

All this wife material stuff aside, it is a proper thing to do, to tidy up just a little bit if you've slept over at someone's place. It's common decency & courtesy.
Personally, I'd never leave a relative's, a friend's or any house for that matter, without making sure that everything is in order before I leave. It just doesn't feel right to leave a mess behind. That kitchen is not even that dirty, just disorganized. It wouldn't even take more than a few minutes to straighten it out & call it a day. No skin off your back. Some people are taking this "girl power" thing way too far imo. Just clear off a few things, it's the decent thing to do if you've spent the night at someone's house. It takes absolutely nothing from you.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Oh my Xhosa where have you been?I haven't seen your comments in a while hope you are doing great and good morning sis.

XhosaNostra:
Let's assume she left in a hurry & had other things to do for the day.

All this wife material stuff aside, it is a proper thing to do, to tidy up just a little bit if you've slept over at someone's place. It's common decency & courtesy.
Personally, I'd never leave a relative's, a friend's or any house for that matter, without making sure that everything is in order before I leave. It just doesn't feel right to leave a mess behind. That kitchen is not even that dirty, just disorganized. It wouldn't even take more than a few minutes to straighten it out & call it a day. No skin off your back. Some people are taking this "girl power" thing way too far imo. Just clear off a few things, it's the decent thing to do if you've spent the night at someone's house. It takes absolutely nothing from you.

bizza45:
girlfriend not wife oo, were u expecting her to do your house chores for u.. baba employ a house help and stop ranting on Twitter ... if u do it yourself will ur hand fall down

Girlfriend or wife, courtesy demands u do it. Let’s just call a spade a spade. If it was u would u rather employ a house girl to clean u ur girls /wife’ mess

engrelvis:
my dear u r missing d point n yr integrity.d girl was his guest .he shud take care of her.d attitude of dat guy is a typical Nigerian guy attitude .is nt taking care of house I v issue with.is attitude she must do it otherwise she has failed d wife test.poverty n per pressure has finished our girls

Preshy561:
and the ones that have been washing and cleaning nko?where did you keep them?
aren't they now call exes?
stupid lazy old fool,see how dirty and shabby his kitchen looks,tomorrow this one go open mouth deh curse girls with smelly pussy.



idiotic fool.
wife material kill you there.

naijalodge:
nd u think u av sense, i pity d unfortunate man that will put u in his hux cos u only a bleeping material, a sex object who has nothing to bring to d relationship other than doggy style.

BdorianGray:


You must be from planet Venus!! With this your manner of reasoning.
You sounded profound, analytical and quite objective.
You will never miss what you deserve Miss.

XhosaNostra:


Good morning, hun

I'm doing great, thanks. You? I've been around, in spectator mode It's not everyday you must talk lol.

makydebbie:
True, that's when you know the illiterates among us. When your view doesn't go well with them, you're a feminist.

Then secondly, when a normal guy is having a lady for the first time, trust me he makes sure everywhere is neat even if he's world's dirtiest. I've a brother lol, trust me on this. They're even faster and more dedicated when doing chores.


Now I've looked at the kitchen critically. We've more than two glasses, an empty pizza box, a nylon, some plates.
I'm of the opinion that, this guy went to buy some food and he and the lady messed up the kitchen that way. Not that the guy left it like that knowing he had a visitor. He and the lady made the kitchen that way probably when they were eating and all.


Now, if this was me, I'm naturally a neat person. I can't stand dirt. I'll clean it up. Not because I'm trying to impress but because I CONTRIBUTED TO THE MESS, and I generally can't stand dirt especially the one that I caused. What I'll not take is the guy feeling entitled that I should be washing his dishes all the time. That's when there'll be issues.

This thing is nothing, it doesn't take a thing of you. All these girl power and I don't take shiit nonsense should stop. How can I go to somebody's house, I'll mess the place up and I won't clean it? That's me being dirty. Even when I go visiting a friend for the first time (female) I'll clean if we got the place dirty. What's the big deal? You'll soon understand there's more to life.

bizza45:
girlfriend not wife oo, were u expecting her to do your house chores for u.. baba employ a house help and stop ranting on Twitter ... if u do it yourself will ur hand fall down

AkpaMgbor:

What has bathing got to do with this thread? You Nigerians like comparing apples and oranges..always sentimental in reasoning.

onatisi:

you know that it is an innsult for a lady visiting her boyfriend to eat and leave the dishes dirty. this is not only an african thing but global , it is a different issue entirely if the lady offers to wash the dishes and the man refuses ,it will be on record that she at least offered to wash them . this particular act has spoiled many ladies chances with their men . except the lady knows that she isnt ready for the man or not serious with him . but if she is really serious about marrying the guy then she must start showing the man and his family the kind of wife and woman she will be in the mans house

engrelvis:
my dear u r missing d point n yr integrity.d girl was his guest .he shud take care of her.d attitude of dat guy is a typical Nigerian guy attitude .is nt taking care of house I v issue with.is attitude she must do it otherwise she has failed d wife test.poverty n per pressure has finished our girls

Preshy561:

imagine.
that she didn't do the work of girlfriending.
some of these guys are annoyingly useless.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Theres nothing wrong in cleaning a place if you messed it up if if you are a first time visitor. And there's also nothing wrong if you tell your visitor to just relax while you clean up the plates you used in serving him or her food. I can't allow my friend even a female who just visited for the first time to wash plates just because she ate from them not to talk of a guy washing plates unused to serve him food. Now if it was take away food that they got from a restaurant that will be more easy because there will be no outs to wash. Just to trash the take easy pack and wash off the glasses. Is that what you can't do for your visitor.
She didn't sleep over and might have been a shy person being her first time. I would have blamed the girl if she slept over or had been his girlfriend for sometime.
Some girls will offer to even do your laundry and now at your feeta at their first visit. While some like me won't even eat your food.
Stop making giving girls more power, they already have enough. That she didn't was plates doesn't mean she's showing power or being a feminist. It doesn't make her worse than the ones that will worship you.
I don't have a problem with a girl doing dishes in a guys house. My problem is whether she's doing it for duties sake or she's doing it to end something.
Some people just like eye service.