PrimadonnaO:


But most guys don't want those. They want the flashy looking girls... fresh skin, nice hair, fine clothes and bags and shoes. It's not easy keeping up with all these, trust me.

Y'all should just have it in mind that if you approach a girl who always like to look good, she'll expect you to contribute to that.

MarieSucre:


Then you're not ready to get married. Goodluck being single till you're 80.

Aladeintl:

That where you got it wrong. But please bro before you spent your life earning on your gf do remember to spend on your parents and siblings. Atleast, you should be responsible to them too.

JERRY1925:


at this point in my life...am not looking for a girl frnd to show off...am looking for a wife, I can gladly have peace with..just someone who wud understand bad times and good times..and smile with both.
I am very educated, so my wife have to be..maybe not to my level but I'll help her fulfill all her dreams.
u know I learnt a lesson wen my dad passed away..we wud have suffered a lot if he had not put my mum on the right path..he helped her..
so, I'll help my wife.

JERRY1925:


at this point in my life...am not looking for a girl frnd to show off...am looking for a wife, I can gladly have peace with..just someone who wud understand bad times and good times..and smile with both.
I am very educated, so my wife have to be..maybe not to my level but I'll help her fulfill all her dreams.
u know I learnt a lesson wen my dad passed away..we wud have suffered a lot if he had not put my mum on the right path..he helped her..
so, I'll help my wife.

PrimadonnaO:


Dear, Jerry. . Your wishes are noble. Formal education isn't a big deal anymore these days, though. I wish you goodluck in your search... May both of you be right for each other.

MarieSucre:

Why not to your level?

Boland:
You see; That's where the problem lies:

If you want a real relationship, of course Marriage should be in the plan, if not it's just flings and that is more of a contract. If you want her to be your sex mate, what will you be bringing to the table?

If the lady feels like she's bigger than what you're offering, there shouldn't be a fuss about it.
It's simple, you're the one that wants to purchase a commodity, the price on it shouldn't give you headache.
And if you say both of you will enjoy the sex thing, just remember that you were the one that asked her out, you asked for it, you should be able to deal with whatever comes with it.

ModelX:
Okay I think the point you guys are missing in this entire argument is that the ALL of the female folk in naija have turned into demanding gold diggers. The sluts, the virgins, the single mothers, spinsters, married, the young, the old... ALL of them! Therein lies the frustration of the men.
So at the end of the day, it becomes NOT a question of game. @2buffagain

MarieSucre:



It's our culture for a guy has to prove he can take care of a woman.

Boland:
You see; That's where the problem lies:

If you want a real relationship, of course Marriage should be in the plan, if not it's just flings and that is more of a contract. If you want her to be your sex mate, what will you be bringing to the table?

If the lady feels like she's bigger than what you're offering, there shouldn't be a fuss about it.
It's simple, you're the one that wants to purchase a commodity, the price on it shouldn't give you headache.
And if you say both of you will enjoy the sex thing, just remember that you were the one that asked her out, you asked for it, you should be able to deal with whatever comes with it.

lilbest4:
The dumbest set of males are the ones who believe ladies are doing them a favor by having sex with them. Girls beg real guys for sex that's something you might never know sha.

kneehighbootz:


Wow. Do men like Boland exist on nairaland? I'm impressed
Marry me boo. I swear I will pay your groom price. loooool

victorian:









Honestly am impressed too. Never knew guys like him exist!
Biko Boland, marry me too o.
Am single and not married You are the just best suitor in nairaland right now.

Rozaytee:
lolzz.,.stories....some Nigerian men will never change some will just meet u and after 2weeks there start talking sex...lolz...majority are just looking for who to satisfy there sexual urges at a time...

Olifiz:


Yea it is. Providing for you doesn’t mean u have to be lazy n shit day in day out.

I like it when a lady is smart n helpful. When partners either married or not do things together both financial n otherwise for a common goal.

Anyways thanks for the nice replies. Bless u

kneehighbootz:


And real guys take care of their women. Whether girlfriend or wife.

A guy that doesn't offer anything in a relationship apart from his p.r.i.c.c.k is a gigolo.

MarieSucre:

You too. It does not matter if we are on opposite planes ideologically, we can agree to disagree civilly. It's nice chatting with you, hope you have a lovely day.

kneehighbootz:


My sister! some of them are truly useless. Imagine one that I exchanged numbers with only once calling me to sleep over at his place and cook "small stew" for him!
I blocked the fooool's number!

kneehighbootz:


Loool

2buffagain:


And who's fault is that?
It is men in Nigeria that created this environment of lecherous vagina-weilding leeches by themselves (using money to toast instead of game), and it is only men that can change it.

You guys in naija need to band together and Apply the law of supply and demand in reverse.
If they keep demanding, and there is no supply, their brains will eventually reset no?

victorian:


Yes o!


When a woman sees the right one, no need wasting time for too much long things.

He's a rare breed

kneehighbootz:


My sister! some of them are truly useless. Imagine one that I exchanged numbers with only once calling me to sleep over at his place and cook "small stew" for him!
I blocked the fooool's number!

2buffagain:


LOL good you X'd all that but "fuckfolk mentality" isn't exclusively a male trait (aka fuckboi).
You don't date girls, so you don't know that females are just as likely to act like fuckgirls.

If I had a dollar for everytime I exchanged numbers with a naija girl who immediately began asking for innappropriate things from recharge card to transport money to come visit me.

There are fuckfolk in both gender.
You simply cross them out and keep it going.

nahzyla:
Boland, don't mind these people telling you you are wrong, you are very correct it's just that many men of nowadays have an entitlement mentality.

The basics of a male/female relationship still remains that the man has the duty of providing and, the woman does any housework and childcare. They might decide to assist each other but the fundamentals remain the same.

If you cannot provide Co's your girlfriend or wife is demanding excessively then dump her and get a low maintenance partner. Simple.

But many men want to date and marry supermodels with expensive beauty regimes and flashy lifestyles and then complain when they start asking for money.

lol a supermodel with flashy lifestyle asking for money from a guy? For where abeg independent ladies don't ask for money. you can't imagine dj cuppy asking for hair money from her boyfriend. If you are a broke girl, you are a broke girl. You can never justify it. A beggar is a beggar

nahzyla:
Boland, don't mind these people telling you you are wrong, you are very correct it's just that many men of nowadays have an entitlement mentality.

The basics of a male/female relationship still remains that the man has the duty of providing and, the woman does any housework and childcare. They might decide to assist each other but the fundamentals remain the same.

If you cannot provide Co's your girlfriend or wife is demanding excessively then dump her and get a low maintenance partner. Simple.

But many men want to date and marry supermodels with expensive beauty regimes and flashy lifestyles and then complain when they start asking for money.

They want their wives to contribute 50/50 when it comes to finances but expect 100% submission from her without questions. Yimu

nahzyla:

I can see so many men coming to praise you and even propose marriage to you for thinking like this. Of course men like when women say things like this, they want you to provide for yourself and still be very obedient and submissive, you should only ask for money from them on very few occasions.
The truth is that once a man notices you have money to spend on yourself he will expect you to join him in taking care of finances while he himself will never ever join you in daily cooking or share authority with you.
Many if these people are just so selfish.

nahzyla:


I can see so many men coming to praise you and even propose marriage to you for thinking like this. Of course men like when women say things like this, they want you to provide for yourself and still be very obedient and submissive, you should only ask for money from them on very few occasions.
The truth is that once a man notices you have money to spend on yourself he will expect you to join him in taking care of finances while he himself will never ever join you in daily cooking or share authority with you.

Many if these people are just so selfish.

2buffagain:


So now you have resolved to start insulting women who are also fine and independent by alluding that if she is fine then she must be a dummy?
.