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Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Raskasal(m): 1:07pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Mac2016: I understand you quite well. And I'll put that into action. Thanks bro |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Raskasal(m): 1:09pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Cumtroller: The fact that you are a bastard doesn't make everyone here a bastard. OK? It would have made sense you keep your mouth shut, else we'll teach you some sense here |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Raskasal(m): 1:09pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Cumtroller: The fact that you are a bastard doesn't make everyone here a bastard. OK? It would have made sense you keep your mouth shut, else we'll teach you some sense here. Fucking fool |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Raskasal(m): 1:11pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Abdogood: There are Rich posts here. Please let's learn from the good and bad. |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Raskasal(m): 1:11pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Abdogood: There are Rich posts here. Please let's learnt from the good and bad |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Raskasal(m): 1:13pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
sammylink: Hmm. What an experience. You surely gave me a way and I appreciate it. Thank you sir |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Raskasal(m): 1:17pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
urose93: I don sight am tey tey and I don find him size give. He's obviously bittered |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by MissRaine69(f): 1:20pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
How old is she? The problem is you have been persistentlly rewarding bad behaviour. By apologising and trying to make amends all the time and taking blame even when the fault is not yours makes it look like you are a walk over. If she is not talking to you tell her to leave your house and tell her why you are asking her to go as no one wants to have an adult who behaves like a petulant child. And also make it clear that unless she changes that will be the end of things. You are both adults and her behaviour is beyond juvenile. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Nobody: 1:24pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Not married yet but I have learnt a lot from this thread. There are good women out there... 2 Likes |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Raskasal(m): 1:34pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
isybeke: Yes. That's what am on now. It's painful tho, but I'm trying all my best to do that and I think I'm having headway |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Raskasal(m): 1:40pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
SOPAW: Ohh thanks for signing up and the rich advice. I would definitely learn from you. Thanks a million |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Raskasal(m): 1:49pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
SlimBrawnie: I understand you. Even though I don't sound rude when talking to her, and of course am an adult too, I would definitely address her the way I want to be addressed, so I do that with some humor, but I though not all times but in most cases. But the later you said, about her not defending herself is what I'll put into trial. I have decided to call it off, but I will give a last chance with this you've said and if it ever repeats, it will be our last moment together. Thanks a millie 1 Like |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Raskasal(m): 1:52pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Victoriaomotola: So pathetic |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by drnoel: 2:07pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Raskasal: Actually it wasn't an advice. Surprised u thought it was one. It was an assessment based on Ur comments and how u came through in Ur writings. Maybe a little assumption also raised its ugly head there,.....(ah! falling into the same thing I was accusing u of). For that my apologies. My take on this issue is alittle contrary to others here. It's not the end of the world and u could still have the best of both worlds. You only need to make more effort to effect change where such is possible and if at all she was/is willing to learn. But where I agree with the rest here is that if she is unteachable and refuses to learn then u let her go, though I don't thing anyone is unteachable. |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by drnoel: 2:12pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
CoolAmbience: I don't agree with u. I have also been married as long as u have been and I always believe in the good in others. One can still teach the lady and there is room to change. |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Raskasal(m): 2:15pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
hollagokay: Really? Women could be funny atimes. Thanks for the tip anyway |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by drnoel: 2:23pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
MissRaine69: Exactly, this is my own mindset too. I didn't want to advice the op before now but his comment to be before has pushed me to do so and I do agree with u. I will be speculating now but I believe in his bead to please he created a monster that is the girl's character. That is why I kept saying from the beginning that that is not the end and their is room for changes. My wife was very stubborn when I met her and quite prone to similar behaviour as the Op described. I worked on her intensively, showed her pepper when the case arose till she changed and now she is wonderful. The op can work on the lady I question but it's not by force. |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Cumtroller: 2:27pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Raskasal:I pity you. Spineless Bastard. Guess you are menstruating already. Bitch Nigga |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by MissRaine69(f): 3:28pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
drnoel:You don’t sulk because you can’t have your own way that’s juvenile but because he enables all that behaviour how will she change? Imagine she is a guest, eating your food, staying in your house but does not talk to you? That’s unacceptable. 1 Like |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by CoolAmbience(m): 3:33pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
drnoel: You are at liberty to disagree with me, and I guess that is because you didn't understand the OP. He was crystal clear that the ugly attitude had lingered and that there hasn't being any sign of an improvement despite his efforts....and you think he should marry her and ruin himself? You can only teach someone who is willing to learn and make amends, not someone who is incorrigible. 1 Like |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by gbogboija: 3:46pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Kindly read Proverbs 21:9 and decide on what to do. |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by HEFAIROHLUWA(m): 4:00pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
hollagokay:lol..we aren't heady ooo... .. |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by HEFAIROHLUWA(m): 4:04pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
cityabbey01:o lord.. he married a terrrorist 1 Like |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by drnoel: 4:18pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
CoolAmbience: U guys forget bad character doesn't necessarily mean bad person or bad wife. Everybody needs a second chance. |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Elliot2(m): 4:29pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
BestDude:I dey teach u for free nw! b damn gud in bed n u will nt b disrespected by any woman with a pussay. |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Raskasal(m): 4:55pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Cumtroller: I know your brain is already working anti clockwise. And like I said, not everyone is a bastard like u |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by Skmoda360(m): 5:02pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Elliot2:tell it to that nigga as per his relationship cuz I think it can never help. |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by CoolAmbience(m): 5:06pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
drnoel: You make me laugh...what is good about a stinking character? Isn't it character that define whether someone is good or bad anymore? I never said that people can't improve for the better. My point is simple and clear, if they are unwilling to change, you have to move on without them. Spousal offences are on the rise. People must go for partners that they are compatible with. Relationships and marriages shouldn't be imprisonment. 2 Likes |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by lanresodiq: 5:07pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Have played this kind of game on my girl and it worked. It is better u ignore her for that attitude becos it will affect u on the long run, but if she comes back to apologize fine n if she does nt, it is better for u to look for another lady... the ends speak a lot in any relationship cos u may end divorce wen married. But I believed if she loves u she will do the right thing. |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by rosalieene(f): 5:57pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Raskasal, nairalAnd is the wrongest place to bring your relationship to. of course, the lots of immature ones would end up insulting your Queen and you know how annoying that is. Truth is that no one is perfect. Everyone has something odd about them. That's her temperament. You know her better, so you should seriously talk to her, there is need for a compromise. 1 Like |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by NightHound(m): 6:47pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Let her go; you seem to be no good for each other. Okay, this is Africa; let's not pretend like some men don't carry 18year old girls from the village to "make" them into compliant wives. And let's not pretend like some women don't let themselves be molded for men who would look after them. On that premise: The next time you look for a wife to "train" be mindful of the fact that every human being has an ego regardless of gender, and as such they should be treated with respect. Even if you get someone from the village who is used to a different way of doing things, don't assume you can simply bark orders like "Shut the toilet door! Don't you know this is the city?". You have to be kind when "training" your wife to suit your purpose. I'm saying this because, from your story, she closed the toilet door as soon as you asked her to, but she was still upset. I believe that you might be condescending when "correcting" your wife-in-training. That would explain her reaction. And it would also explain why you would want to make her apologize for her mistakes after the toilet door was closed upon your instruction. Not all women might be teachable, but not all men are good teachers either, and vice versa. Which is why some people just find compatible mates and prepare themselves to live with the quirks. But, if you are the type of man who doesn't want to make adjustments yourself in order to blend with a woman who is already refined, learn skills to train your wife. Even dogs get rewarded with treats, which means that their will isn't taken for granted, what more a person. Learn to "correct" someone with love and see if the lesson won't take. Just ask yourself: if this was me, how would I want to be told? Empathize! In her mind, she may not just be keeping malice, she may actually be thinking "I'm done! what does he want? I cook, clean, support him, and still he treats me like trash". And when you come begging, she's thinking "He's not so bad after all, let me give him another chance". It's all a matter of perspective. So, while everyone seems to be calling her names, I'm saying check yourself too. 3 Likes |
Re: My Experience With A Lady I Intend To Settle Down With by LabUdegbe(m): 7:07pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Raskasal:Pls explain this line... |
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