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Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by yeyeosoronga: 11:09am On Nov 10, 2019
AdeeT:


I love her with all my heart, God knows cry cry. I was cornered with a game that I didn't really know it's rules, that's the genesis, the act happening more than once, well God knows. My human side prevails me. Women are tricky ma. I fell so hard.

Dont blame it on any woman. You are responsible for your own actions, and learn to be accountable too.
She seduced you the first time, yet you fell again the 2nd, 3rd, 4th ,5th etcth times and even the last one for the road when she was finally leaving your place.
You were at fault.
True repentance only comes when you take responsibility for your wrong doing.

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Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Nobody: 11:09am On Nov 10, 2019
AdeeT:


For days I've been so weak bro, I'm so out of thoughts. I really bleeped up, I know.

I actually kept my distance from her, the first day, she slept in the bedroom, while I in the living room. I fell to some cheap plays, and she cornered me. I'm seriously regretting my actions.

This is a girl that have been praying with me(and for me) before I sleep or go to work the next day. I shouldn't have do this to her. It seems that I can't live with the guilt, neither do I wanna loose her.

Her friend is already ignored, both off and on-line.
Relax, you'll cheat on her again, trust me you'll. You're lucky her friend doesn't stay in Abuja. Just pray she doesn't get the job because that will be the final nail on the coffin.

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Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by ashawopikin(m): 11:10am On Nov 10, 2019
Don't do it, I repeat don't confess, after all she's not yet your wife, besides how do she's all 'pure and innocent
' as u portrayed her to be?

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Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by 15ssDRIVE(m): 11:11am On Nov 10, 2019
Guy,
One thing I guess here is,you saw it coming !

Secondly you are a bad guy and guys like you always ends up with good girls.

Just imagine say Na set up,and u don open up Agbaje stadium.... then madam and her sister come show up Na ayelala for kill u dat day!!

Bros no tell Madam oh,no even try am. Woman memory wey u no fit change their hard disk. Then you are waking into trouble,even when she truly forgives you go still Dey fear.

Imagine after every everything don cool down, then you guys go park... she said she want prank you make you tie a cloth over your eyes ? U no craze to agree..... lol

If woman mind enter auxiliary code,them no Dey stab person make he survive oh. Because dem go stab you like 20000 times,on the basis say you be hard man.....


Confess to your self and tell your fucking side to bleep up and stop the shit. If you can still show some remorse like Satan always do after doing bad tins.

Some people go come attack you,Na dem. Na dem,the baddest baddest badooooos.

Lassss lassssss local man don tire ......

Go for check up,and call Madam self to her senses,tell her you are no saint,but a mother fucker. She should stop bringing you closer to temptations.

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Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Jiva: 11:12am On Nov 10, 2019
Ladies, pls we men are not saints.. Stop tempting us. As I always tell my girlfriend. Dont allow ur friend or female companion come stay with me cuz I don't trust myself either.
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by stanliwise(m): 11:12am On Nov 10, 2019
AdeeT:
sad sad cry

I've betrayed her trust, I have really hurt her, I wish that I could undo all I've done. But it's too late, and I'm reek of guilt, it's all over me.

I just cheated on a beautiful lady that has stayed with me through thick and thin for years, a wonderful soul that anyone would dream to have. Cheating might be a common thing, but the moment you cheat on a pure soul, an innocent woman that gives you all, WITH HER BEST FRIEND, then it's beyond cheating.

I am charming, good looking working class guy, guys and girls easily comment how good looking I am, my fiancee is so proud of me, and my achievements that she easily shows me off at the slightest opportunity. She attended the same Uni with her friend, and ever since then, they've been a very good friend. They even served at the same place(worked out), to show you how close they her.

Now my fiancee works in the southern Nigeria, we planned to seal things up next year, and live together here in Abuja. Her friend came for a job interview here, and my woman advised that she rather stay with me for the period instead of her spending a lot on hotel accommodations since I live alone in a bedroom flat. I obliged, and she came down here, little did I know that things would get messy. Long story cut short, I fell in to her seduction the second night of her staying after some series of events. We ended up having sex couples of time before she left. I feel terrible now, though she felt nothing, I can't even flow well with my woman on phone again, guilt is all over me. I don't know how I will stand her whenever we meet. Of all girls in the world, she's the least anyone would want to cheat on.

I'm thinking of telling her. Mind you guys, I'm not a weakling, I've never been one. Before I met her some 3 years back, I was on the other end of life. She changed a lot for good for me, and helped stop many bad things, as well as starting several good ones. I don't know what her reaction would be after telling her. Her friend still communicates with her as if nothing happened.

I'm in pain guys. A serious one. I need advices.
Stop being pathetic. You have cheated, so be it.
Submit yourself for the punishment, tell her, beg her, give her the space she needs to make up.

Expect the worst. And finally be ready to leave her if she doesn't want you anymore, you actually dont deserve her.
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Eteka1(m): 11:12am On Nov 10, 2019
My guy don't chop clean mouth come dey find pesin wey him go laugh.
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by BrutusOj(m): 11:12am On Nov 10, 2019
midnighter:


If the babe was concerned about cost she would have told OP to help with some money for the friend to lodge in a hotel.

What she did doesnt make sense
At all. I will never accept or agree to that from my woman on any condition. Women are always the cause of their problem, why send a female friend to go stay with your man in a self contained apartment, the house has one bathroom, one bedroom, they will definitely get cossy.

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Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by DukeNija(m): 11:12am On Nov 10, 2019
AdeeT:
Abuse and curse me all you wished, the did is already done, the one I am not proud of, and never wished for to happen. I took all the blame, and only wanted a best idea/advice to safe landing.

My mind is pushing me towards visiting her to relate with her all that has happened. And again, another mind is telling me that all would be lost afterwards. I don't want to loose her, she's already an integral part of my life.

How best can I confront her without loosing her?

Don’t tell her. Forgive yourself and move on. If you tell her, say goodbye to your relationship.
How can you tell your girlfriend you slept with her best friend. How do you say such a thing? You want to kill her? You are truly a heartless mofo. She will never recover from such heartbreak, she might even be suicidal.
This is something you take to your grave and keep between you and your God.

Don’t listen to women telling you to confess, they’ve done worse and no soul knows about it.
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Henitan24(f): 11:13am On Nov 10, 2019
AdeeT:
sad sad cry

I've betrayed her trust, I have really hurt her, I wish that I could undo all I've done. But it's too late, and I'm reek of guilt, it's all over me.

I just cheated on a beautiful lady that has stayed with me through thick and thin for years, a wonderful soul that anyone would dream to have. Cheating might be a common thing, but the moment you cheat on a pure soul, an innocent woman that gives you all, WITH HER BEST FRIEND, then it's beyond cheating.

I am charming, good looking working class guy, guys and girls easily comment how good looking I am, my fiancee is so proud of me, and my achievements that she easily shows me off at the slightest opportunity. She attended the same Uni with her friend, and ever since then, they've been a very good friend. They even served at the same place(worked out), to show you how close they her.

Now my fiancee works in the southern Nigeria, we planned to seal things up next year, and live together here in Abuja. Her friend came for a job interview here, and my woman advised that she rather stay with me for the period instead of her spending a lot on hotel accommodations since I live alone in a bedroom flat. I obliged, and she came down here, little did I know that things would get messy. Long story cut short, I fell in to her seduction the second night of her staying after some series of events. We ended up having sex couples of time before she left. I feel terrible now, though she felt nothing, I can't even flow well with my woman on phone again, guilt is all over me. I don't know how I will stand her whenever we meet. Of all girls in the world, she's the least anyone would want to cheat on.

I'm thinking of telling her. Mind you guys, I'm not a weakling, I've never been one. Before I met her some 3 years back, I was on the other end of life. She changed a lot for good for me, and helped stop many bad things, as well as starting several good ones. I don't know what her reaction would be after telling her. Her friend still communicates with her as if nothing happened.

I'm in pain guys. A serious one. I need advices.

Please confess so that she will decide willingly whether to stay with a cheating man for the rest of her life or quit the relationship because obviously you can't stop being the beast in the relationship.
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Nobody: 11:13am On Nov 10, 2019
Why tell her you enjoyed yaself?
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Sanchezmillz: 11:14am On Nov 10, 2019
Oga why are u coming here to shed crocodile tears..so it took you couple of times sex with her before u realized you did wrong?anyways dont think i even believe this story sef,except if ur babe is frm zimbabwe,no Nigerian girl will allow her friend spend days in her bfs one bedroom house except if she one set am up

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Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by midnighter(f): 11:14am On Nov 10, 2019
Ariza:
It is called TRUST. She trusted both of them and that isn't a weakness.

And what kind of stupid trust is that?

Will you leave a sugar cane in front of an anthill and expect it to be there tomorrow?
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Nobody: 11:14am On Nov 10, 2019
AdeeT:
Abuse and curse me all you wished, the did is already done, the one I am not proud of, and never wished for to happen. I took all the blame, and only wanted a best idea/advice to safe landing.

My mind is pushing me towards visiting her to relate with her all that has happened. And again, another mind is telling me that all would be lost afterwards. I don't want to loose her, she's already an integral part of my life.

How best can I confront her without loosing her?
Dude! you have to tell her! You weren't man enough to be faithful to her, Are you also not man enough to be honest with her? Do you think this can remain a secret? Are you waiting for when the lady (her friend) will take advantage of the situation and claim she's pregnant or you raped her? Oh you think just sleeping with you is the end of it? Ah ah ah.
A Lady who can sleep with her friend's man is on a mission and can do anything.

Arrange a meeting asap! if in fact let your girlfriend's friend be there and open up. Confess to your girlfriend and prepare for whatever comes next. Be wise.

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Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Kalashnikov102(m): 11:15am On Nov 10, 2019
Put your self in her position that your best friend bleepd her ad she told you! Now immagine your reactions..in that way you can seek the answer you find..you can choose to tell her or nt! Some women lack the spirit of 4giv ad 4get..even she 4givs you she cnt 4get!! Stay Alpha bro dont tell her..get along with your plans for her..maintain frds with her bestie

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Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Shugargal(f): 11:15am On Nov 10, 2019
What's the need of confessing when you will always do it? you go know how far later if nobi both of them plan the deal. but you guys are bunch of cheats. God knows why I just de my thing because I go just tear your head with my � when you do this kind of shirt to me,cool better gal like me. walahi I go blow bomb for your head. can't continue to live with heartaches.
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by tegafej(m): 11:15am On Nov 10, 2019
peepydelano:
lol,just joking with the last statement na,The guy will still cheat with that his fiancée best friend again and again,it has just began I can bet with anything

Lol...

Seems the guy is remorseful.

But truth is people make mistakes.

And change genuinely.

But in all the guy bleeped up

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Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Simpleete: 11:16am On Nov 10, 2019
bestabigaelever:
You had sex several times with the best friend of the person you claimed you love undecided
You are a plaque, please leave that innocent girl alone and go for medical check up pls
But since u need advice, here is my own
Send a break up message, telling her how u are bad and foolish person, that you don't deserve her
If she calls back, answer the phone crying....dont day anything yet
After she persuade you, confessed what u did
If she forgive ND take you back, then go and sin no more


You are a great and experienced man,I concur with you and hope this is the best strategy.

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Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Nobody: 11:16am On Nov 10, 2019
AdeeT:
Abuse and curse me all you wished, the did is already done, the one I am not proud of, and never wished for to happen. I took all the blame, and only wanted a best idea/advice to safe landing.

My mind is pushing me towards visiting her to relate with her all that has happened. And again, another mind is telling me that all would be lost afterwards. I don't want to loose her, she's already an integral part of my life.

How best can I confront her without loosing her?

What's up bro!

The worst thing you will do is to get advise from all this nairaland feminist.
Have you heard of the saying that "only when the ring is on then you owned me" smiley
Only if you get what I'm saying........ Well let's leave that for another day.

But let me be straight with you.............if you find it hard to confess to Man then the only choice left is to confess to GOD.

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Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Jumorz: 11:19am On Nov 10, 2019
Incase you decide not to tell her Biko don't sleep with ur fiancee. Go and check yourself first before you give the innocent woman what I don't know.
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Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by midnighter(f): 11:21am On Nov 10, 2019
ogbuefi677:

not a big deal.
Have slept on the same bed on and off for months with a female colleague who actually is the girlfriend abi ex to my bestfriend(bobo was already married when all this was happening and I was still single) and nothing happened.
It helped sha that she never made any move towards me cos I doubt if I could've resisted.

What are you doing on the same bed as somebodys girlfriend? So she couldnt sleep somewhere else?

Why do you people bring problems on yourselves?
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Eteka1(m): 11:21am On Nov 10, 2019
Isharon:
is not a big deal that is what we do
Abi o! Girls are very dangerous cheats.
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by breezeng: 11:22am On Nov 10, 2019
Don't tell her. Women don't forget and forgive easily. Unfortunately, she might retaliate especially at your old age. Keep it to yourself and who knows you might be lucky to get away with it. But goooo and sin no more
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Nobody: 11:22am On Nov 10, 2019
midnighter:
Keep what to yourself??

Bia enyia, better go and tell her. Or you think that sociopath of a friend won't spill the beans Her so-called "best friend" who thought nothing of sleeping with you? She was obviously jealous of you guys relationship

Tell her and let her decide whether she wants you or not. At least you haven't married her yet so the thing is still malleable

So you are ready for your heart to start flying every time her name is mentioned? What of when you start having babies and she leaves them with that girl? You have to let her know that she has an enemy in her camp so that she will know what to do
can you all just stop blaimg that girl. The 3 of them acted wrongly. First, no matter the trust level, neva allow your best friend too close to your man or lady in your very absence. For me, I think this is a trap game and d dude fell cheaply for it. Next time, be courageous enough to stay off a woman who is not yours.
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by midnighter(f): 11:23am On Nov 10, 2019
franciskaine:
can you all just stop blaimg that girl. The 3 of them acted wrongly. First, no matter the trust level, neva allow your best friend too close to your man or lady in your very absence. For me, I think this is a trap game and d dude fell cheaply for it. Next time, be courageous enough to stay off a woman who is not yours.

What are you talking about, did you read the write-up?

He said that the girl didnt have any qualms about sleeping with him, who is blaming anybody

I could never stay in a self-contained with my girlfriends man, never! At least if its BQ in a huge house we can understand that one though I would still be uncomfortable with it
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Kakamorufu(m): 11:24am On Nov 10, 2019
Haha. Just keep it to urself. Tell her when she don born 2 for u
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by skukimania(f): 11:24am On Nov 10, 2019
midnighter:


If the babe was concerned about cost she would have told OP to help with some money for the friend to lodge in a hotel.

What she did doesnt make sense


When you can't do something to your friend, you won't think your friend can ever do it to you. That's being too trusting! She has a very pure heart. That's all.

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Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Nobody: 11:24am On Nov 10, 2019
Viking07:
Relax, you'll cheat on her again, trust me you'll. You're lucky her friend doesn't stay in Abuja. Just pray she doesn't get the job because that will be the final nail on the coffin.
tell him please,the act has just began.Once the girl grabs the abuja job,it becomes a continuous process, I only pity the fiancée
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by spiceadole: 11:25am On Nov 10, 2019
AdeeT:
sad sad cry

I've betrayed her trust, I have really hurt her, I wish that I could undo all I've done. But it's too late, and I'm reek of guilt, it's all over me.

I just cheated on a beautiful lady that has stayed with me through thick and thin for years, a wonderful soul that anyone would dream to have. Cheating might be a common thing, but the moment you cheat on a pure soul, an innocent woman that gives you all, WITH HER BEST FRIEND, then it's beyond cheating.

I am charming, good looking working class guy, guys and girls easily comment how good looking I am, my fiancee is so proud of me, and my achievements that she easily shows me off at the slightest opportunity. She attended the same Uni with her friend, and ever since then, they've been a very good friend. They even served at the same place(worked out), to show you how close they her.

Now my fiancee works in the southern Nigeria, we planned to seal things up next year, and live together here in Abuja. Her friend came for a job interview here, and my woman advised that she rather stay with me for the period instead of her spending a lot on hotel accommodations since I live alone in a bedroom flat. I obliged, and she came down here, little did I know that things would get messy. Long story cut short, I fell in to her seduction the second night of her staying after some series of events. We ended up having sex couples of time before she left. I feel terrible now, though she felt nothing, I can't even flow well with my woman on phone again, guilt is all over me. I don't know how I will stand her whenever we meet. Of all girls in the world, she's the least anyone would want to cheat on.

I'm thinking of telling her. Mind you guys, I'm not a weakling, I've never been one. Before I met her some 3 years back, I was on the other end of life. She changed a lot for good for me, and helped stop many bad things, as well as starting several good ones. I don't know what her reaction would be after telling her. Her friend still communicates with her as if nothing happened.

I'm in pain guys. A serious one. I need advices.

Your babe has no sense.
Very stew.pid Lady.
No sensible Lady allows her female friend to visit and stay with her guy in her absence.
They must FVCK!
Its the unwritten law.
You only did what every guy in your shoes would do.
Surprisingly,you are feeling remorseful instead of using it for bragging rights as normal guys would do...

You are not from this planet.
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by isHArOn(f): 11:26am On Nov 10, 2019
Eteka1:
Abi o! Girls are very dangerous cheats.
If you think so
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Simpleete: 11:27am On Nov 10, 2019
frozen70g:


Just promise yourself that you won't repeat such a dirty act next time, even although your marriage with her

Once you can do so then you will find peace

Love her more and more and your conscience will mellow down

As for her friend, reduce your communication with her and use your senses, she will accept a Bleep from you even if your wife is in pains in labour room and you are tensed, she no send and not remorse from her so best option is distance before she break your home a d take over

She no send ohhh

Don't tell your wife because you will create a very deep hole like a pot In her heart and women don't forget such

After your marriage just tell her politely that you don't want what will lead you to have problems with her that she should drop all her girl friends and start making friends with responsible married women


Nice one too,respect Sir.
Re: I cheated, Deep Down I'm In Pains. by Shugargal(f): 11:27am On Nov 10, 2019
Sanchezmillz:
Oga why are u coming here to shed crocodile tears..so it took you couple of times sex with her before u realized you did wrong?anyways dont think i even believe this story sef,except if ur babe is frm zimbabwe,no Nigerian girl will allow her friend spend days in her bfs one bedroom house except if she one set am up
Bro don't write all Nigeria gals off, some of us are still good at least, it's trust, it depends on how far both of you have gone and what you share, I once helped my bestie do that here in Abj but I had to not always come back home, I left my apartment for the guy and always retire at another friend's house, I was forming too busy for him because I know he's a guy and will wanna make advances, I kuku let him alone in my house and everything for him to eat made available. bro just forget we all not same OK.

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