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You mean the way my uncle used to introduce women to our family. But never marry them.

Men dey frustrate women for this life sha. My dad said that a woman's life is a life of disappointment and I understand now. Women just be on their own and men will come and be deceiving them. Claiming the reason is because they love lies. 😂

tflepper:

What would your own weird act be🤦🏻‍♂️

Are you trying to imply that I was abused?

Zonefree:
The lady used him as backup plan.


A lady that can't date you in school but accept to marry you after school is not the right one for you.


They won't teach you this in school.

Yeah.

School relationship where the girls will be collecting abortion, heartbreak and drama from some small boys that are up for sex and not ready to get married, boys that are still building themselves. Help me ask how many women that fell victim to school relationships have been able to rebuild their lives as a result of those same useless demonic school relationships. Tell me how many of them married and good things came out of it.

99% of girls had university relationships in their so called hoe phase, tell me what they gained except those school boys using them as clout 'I have slept with her' or 'theres no virgin in Nigeria again'. What is in the useless school relationship for most women? Something that only one percent of them will turn out sensible. How many of the broken ones will you guys compensate. You just want to go on fvcking spree.

The effect is so known and bad that when you enter in 100 level your lecturers will be warning in class that such relationships don't go anywhere. They have seen the results severally!

Abeg make we rest! What is the advantage of school relationships? Better don't come with that lie of 'building with him' because we all know those guys turn around to say that you did not contribute anything to their success during the 'building'. They will later say there is NOTHING like building during school days, the girl suffered with them and they also suffered with the girl. Just wan chop for free. Alaijékuje.

Someone probably abused him when he was little. People who were abused come out with these weird tendencies that they are seemingly unable to control themselves. He needs mental rehab and a psychiatrist.

Coming out now and looking like the pervert when he's probably a victim himself. Still, doesn't justify his actions. He needs to be off the streets for the children's innocence and safety to be intact.

Magnoliaa:


Purple speedy as how? 😂😂😂

Lol Magnoliaa it was probably just an attempt at flattery.

Mrtaye:

Are you purple speedy

Lol not at all.

Even with things being hard, if misunderstandings reach that level, then divorce is better than cheating to fend. Just leave cleanly and openly. Give it a few years before dating around again.

FuckSilly:

How you feel or what you think doesn't change facts and reality.
No man with functional brains will believe that a lady who has once have sex with man or men and no longer a virgin is truly holding and keeping herself for marriage in this generation. 99.99999% of you girls that says that are players, time wasters and chronic serial cheats. While one fools is believing and respecting your request, you'll be busy sneaking and whorìng about with other guys.
A girl that's not a virgin doesn't have any true figure of BODYCOUNT. No girl alive will be honest about it, even in front of God one on one, many of you will still lie, so why will a man who knows all these believe whatever comes out of your mouth as regards your sexual past.
THE ONLY GIRL WHO CAN BE HONEST ABOUT IT IS A VIRGIN.
Sex is a very big issue and it goes way beyond the physical, so a man with sense is supposed to know and be sure of how many sexual encounter a girl he wants to make his life partner has had.

You want to be sure of sexual encounters as you don't approve of them, yet you encourage these encounters. That doesn't make sense.

So every girl that is not a virgin is a bad person, according to your post. That's not a logical statistic or conclusion. That thought is just a loophole excuse for men to f around. Perhaps it's better not to make conclusions on all women based on the ones you have been with.

If a virgin is the only one that can tell the truth, and a perfect person, then none would have fallen to be non virgins or lied.

So the solution is to continue sleeping around? Doesn't make sense to me.

FuckSilly:

There's no error anywhere my friend.
We all know what we are doing.
You girls are only always trying to make a guy in your present pay for your mistakes of your past which doesn't make sense.
I'll only and always advice guys to respect a girl that's chaste giving such condition.

How is keeping your body after premarital sex and deciding to not continue with it making other men 'pay'? How does a woman make a man suffer by deciding to hold her body? Your theory is worrisome, and you can only continue to blindly argue. No man that loves a woman truly will advise her to continue in sin to satisfy him. It even means a lot of men aren't decent themselves, yet counting body count for women after setting such damning rules... 'if you have had sex before you have no right to tell anyone of us no'.

That's a deranged mindset. I don't care who supports me or not. You guys don't care for the future of these women.

FuckSilly:

What right do you think you have if some guys have already slept with you countless times even if you're not married?
You girls always just want to eat your cakes and have it. Always giving UNFAIR deals to your advantage.

Over my own body? Why do you think there's any situation on earth that should take away a woman's right to do what she wishes with her body? Does that sound humane to you, taking away a woman's rights because of her errors?

How many errors does it take for a man to lose his rights to his body? Apart from breaking the law, which applies to both genders?

With all we have done even God Almighty, owner of the universe, allows us the right to choose from our birth to our death. So why will ordinary human men think they have more authority to condemn and order non virgin women to a life time of fornication without repentance ... or just control women in general?

You guys do feel you are our fake small gods on earth, you do. Setting rules and taking away rights of a mortal like you, who has the same God to face after death.

FuckSilly:
I love the guy's confidence and audacity.

NO GIRL IS DOING YOU A FAVOUR BY BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU, ESPECIALLY IF SHE'S NOT A VIRGIN.
THAT SEX SHE'S GIVING YOU, SHE'S MOST LIKELY BE GIVING OTHER GUYS NO MATTER HOW INNOCENT, HONEST OR GODLY YOU THINK SHE IS...
If she's giving other guys the same sex she's giving you, WHAT THEN NOW MAKES YOU SPECIAL?

AS A GIRL, IF YOU DON'T WANT SEX, DON'T GO INTO RELATIONSHIP
DON'T BILL A GUY IF YOU DON'T HAVE NOTHING TO GIVE IN RETURN.

Lastly
You don't have a right to say no sex before marriage if you're not a virgin.
Only true virgins can give such condition.


As a guy, if any WHOR̃3 (+2 BODYCOUNT) gives you such condition and you accept, YOU'RE THE GREATEST FOOL ALIVE AND IT'LL NEVER BE WELL WITH YOU.

Keep your legs closed and keep yourself for the man you will like to spend the rest of you life with, instead of losing it over 2k transport, Indomie egg and fanta with some random unfortunate guys that will become very insignificant after some time

"You don't have a right to say no to sex if you aren't a virgin..."

It's a pity. It's a pity that men think that for certain reasons to their advantage or disadvantage, women don't have a right to say no after premarital sex. The damnation you wish women ... Well, I won't ask for it to be reversed back on you.

That's great 👍🏽, I'm really happy she could pull through!

Sometimes you actually do something and don't realize the depth or repercussions until years later, especially when you are very young. It happens.

I bet if she got the chance to go back into the past and never make that money, never become famous, never do the acts, she would accept it.

Wherever we have erred, let God forgive us all and continue to give us chances for as long as we are alive. And may God also put repentance in our hearts, and the strength and will to change.

May God forgive and unburden the heaviness in her heart that she feels based on her actions.

The best thing is to avoid both fornication and money. If guys don't want any demand for money, they should also not demand for sex. Both are inappropriate demands that result from a higher desire for fornication from the man.

How did they do it in the past? The girl stays chaste while the man brings gifts for her and her family and visits/helps the family, to show his intentions. If you ask a modern man to do that, he won't want to, he wants to 'test' first, and yet complains afterwards that his generation is full of used women.

Two ways for a woman to gain...

Option 1 - Follow the advice of the sprinkle sprinkle lady, shera7.

Option 2 - Follow the narrow and hard path. That is, no money demanded, and no premarital sex. Let any man that calls himself decent and yet cannot agree to this go. He should be investigated by you and your family to see if he's a decent and capable person to marry. Time should be set for marriage if he is vetted successfully. If you succeed at this particular method, without cutting any corners, the marriage may likely be a very respectable and peaceful one at the end of the day, because it was conducted with all morals and respect, nobody degraded themselves.

All men here trying to disgrace, discredit or blame the woman. They don't want to see their fellow man being humiliated on social media.

I'm glad she rejected the offer though, that's wise of her.

optm:
why should an adult woman not have her own money in this first place ? What i am trying to point out is that your reason for wanting women to have their money is to get respect from their husbands. Most women with this kind of mindset often go into marriages and start rubbing off shoulders with their man.
As per one not knowing the character of their partner in dating , most times the signs are there but you are not paying attention to them. If we say he is dating you and pretending to be what he is not to you, why don't you pay attention to how he treats others that he's likely not pretending to?
In dating , don't just look at how your partner treats and relates with you; pay attention to how he also treats and relates with others and if there is a contrast in character , then he is most likely pretending.

I stated in my reply that part of the reason is to be respectable and independent as an individual but you are worried about how the woman will rub shoulders.

Deception is inevitable in life so it's good if a woman has financial protection in case she's a victim. That's my point, not rubbing shoulders with any man.

Success has friends.

AndrewTate:
this is the exact logic that has crumbled marriages and will do worse. When a larger percentage of women tend to come up with solutions to issues like this the end results are always chaotic.
Normally, a woman’s fundamental expenses should be catered for by her father and mother till she gets married. But people get married before they’re ready for reasons I consider very stupid, only to struggle all their lives and cause disruption to the alignment of nature, having females take on masculine traits because they have to cater for themselves as adults which is wrong.
Women cannot fend for their needs in society without letting go of a part of their femininity replaced with masculinity which becomes a problem when it comes to pairing with the opposite gender…these are the traits men find disgusting or just can’t deal with, and it’s the same reason “self made” women find it very difficult to stick to a partner.
On the other hand it’s just so sad that a young woman has no choice but to de-feminize herself just to be able to do what her parents couldn’t do for her because they got married without being ready for the journey…it’s really sad.

To the men especially, never get married until you’re ready no matter how long it takes. The journey is not about you or your mother that wants a grandchild but about the future of your linage. Look ahead!

So what then is the solution to financial abuse from men who earn it all in the marriage? Men who will insult and control women because they don't have anything doing? Is it not best for a woman to have a job to avoid all these?

optm:

These are wrong reasons to have a source of income in a relationship . The ones with this kind of mindset would also ruin their relationship .
However , it is normal expectation for every adult to have a source of income and be able to meet their needs and not having an unhealthy expectation of another adult to do that for them.
Why marry somebody that respects money and not persons?

I think we are saying the same thing. A person should have money so as to be independent and respectable on their own.

As for the bolded part, and all my points that you don't agree with, these are scenarios that come up in this life which is not perfect. I respect people as human beings even without money, but is everyone the same? Many people pretend during dating, so you can't know who is who as per character... and men who provide actually do abuse their partners who cannot also provide often. So what I'm trying to say is that it is better to be safe than sorry. To be prepared for the worst, because being abused as a woman due to lack of your own personal money is a common thing in this world for many women.

For your own respect as a woman, you really should have a job and some money in your account before marriage. This way you avoid financial abuse where you cannot have any rights because you depend on the man. You avoid verbal abuse coming all because you cannot make the same money the guy does. You avoid being controlled because you yourself don't have a dime. You even give yourself some dignity by having some money and a job or business. No man will rubbish you anyhow when you enter marriage with your money you made yourself, business or job that you got for yourself.

That's why I wasn't impressed by the other thread where the guy said he gives the girl 2k. Why the hell is a girl that earns 2k even in a relationship? What will she do when she starts having kids and she can only depend on the man? Then it's whatever the man wants, she can't give her child what she likes as she has no money. Anybody dating without a stable financial background, male or female, is on a road to disgrace. The financially stable partner will abuse the helpless one, or their issues will be open to family, family will start 'helping'.

Well, if anyone enters a relationship without money or business, be ready for what you will see. Dating is not actually meant to be had simply for sex and fun. You people are supposed to plan your futures and make sure you're both ready.

Instead you should be happy that you dodged a bullet. So now that you see his true colors, you are still not grateful that the relationship didn't work? Only few girls can see ahead before marriage.

So awesome! I'm very glad she won. Congratulations to her.

HelipsTech:
After they will announce 23 years and 7 years experience needed

Nonsense

Exactly.

She better stop looking for boyfriend and build herself to the point where she has enough money to take care of herself. 2k daily relationships is like a temporary bandage on a big wound. What happens when she gets married to you and has to contribute? Or she thinks she will continue to live in and eat 2k with her kids. Even if you pay it all, you will one day insult her for being of no use to you financially.

If you truly like her, break up with her and advice her to build herself to the point where on any day, she has a job or business that can give her 50k at least per month. So that she will be useful to herself and to you, if you decide to get back together.

She couldn't have left the line to face you. That favoritism you expect from her is a complication and a consequence of dating you as a customer. That is partly what the relationship has been for.

Men are angry that he wanted to kill himself because of a woman, but they don't mind if :

-Women never remarry after the death of their husbands. Young or old, she still belongs to the dead man.

-If women never have options after them, they prefer a woman to rot with nobody after them. Effected with conditions such as old age (just to make sure women don't have options like them) or virtue or whatever.

Men want women to have them as their existence to the point it is ingrained in culture so don't even start with that victimization of men. It's the other way round.

Many are pained because they cannot afford to use money to buy that sort of thing. Even if they had such money, they would still be making village hair up and down because such is not a priority to them.

Beauty is important to some people, and it means nothing to others. Some rich people always look haggard, while some poor people always look put together, and vice versa. It's all a matter of values/priorities.

Some people have suffered so much, they can't think of using money for anything other than survival, even if they make excess money, trauma won't let them use it to enjoy.

That's why riches or not, the way some people reason here, they'll never care to go above and beyond to look good. No need to let your life constantly be ugly looking because you are suffering or once suffered. Our lives no matter how painful, are fleeting.

Freestainworld:
I shed tears seeing this, may God punish the perpetrator.

You mean perpetrators.

This is an excellent topic, I love it.

I hope someone will also make a topic on believers not converting one/ making someone repent through shunning and pressure, there's that too. Such repentance would be fake. Lead others through love, keep showing them and hope they will change, not refusing to speak to them and being hateful.

Those of us living a cowards life, striving to please others have been dealt with, given a lot of trauma by people who don't like us. You can be killed in Nigeria for not being what people like. And the milder case is where you are often maltreated because they don't like who you are.

This guy's case is proof that your very life can be ended because you're living your life in the way that some strangers don't want. There's subtle harassment, there's blatant harassment and there's murder based on how Nigerians feel about you. Nigerians love to control each other. They can't leave themselves to live life as they please.

Some of us see the sinister danger in going on with our lives when other Nigerians don't want it so. That's why we are nervous wrecks trying to please the crowd. Because the crowd, Nigeria, is crazy. They can do horrible things to you because you live differently.

That woman commented that the man is 'not like that'. Omo why do people forget? The men grown women see are different from the men kids see. Kids and young ladies see all sorts of weird and crazy behaviors from men who just act nice to grown women or adults because they are not interested in them. Kids see things o, once some adults are alone with them. Some of us saw all these as kids, why act dumb now like you don't know 'reputable' adults abuse kids.

Una don see the perfect sufferhead to prove a love of suffering to you. You know that if she doesn't suffer, she doesn't love you.

She won't ask for urgent 2k, when you guys marry I guess she also won't ask for pampers money etc. That is how she will continue working like your fellow man for the rest of her life, until high BP and hypertension call on her. True love.

That's the way you love a woman, go get your hardworking periwinkle seller now! Hopefully you will not have to spend a dime on her after marriage.