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How come it took her 2 years to notice her husband's wetin call was small?

[size=24pt]Woman divorces husband with a small sized manhood[/size]

Since I married my husband, Mr. Sunday Olabiyi, two years ago, he has never satisfied me sexually.” This was the confession of an aggrieved intimacy-starved housewife, Olubunmi Ajayi, who[size=16pt] blamed her matrimonial woes on the small size of her husband’s manhood.[/size]
Olubunmi, 36, who approached the Alakuko Customary Court, Lagos, seeking the dissolution of the union, added that her husband’s penchant for running after young girls, despite the fact that she has been managing to cope with his inadequacies and other problems with maturity, further annoyed her.

She confessed that the major problem she had with her husband was his nonchalant attitude to her welfare and his inability to satisfy her sexually.

She said that she had tried other options, especially local medicines, to improve her husband’s sexual performance, all to no avail.
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I have tried my best for this man over the years. I am convinced that he is not ready for me as his wife. That is why he is always looking outside, chasing after little girls,” she told the court.

Asked if it was not her inadequacies that made her husband to start looking elsewhere, she said she had always tried to do her best at home.

“It is not my inadequacies that made him look elsewhere. In fact, I don’t have any, as far as I am concerned. I cook good food for him, take good care of him and what did I get in return? Nothing! I tried all I could to make him a real man in bed but all was futile.

“I equally went as far as going the traditional way, making concoctions but it was the same old story. What else am I waiting for in the marriage but to opt out gracefully,” she told the court.

Revealing how they met, she said that she met her husband through one of her friends who happens to be her neighbour, adding that the neighbour is also from her husband’s home town in Ikenne, Ogun State.

Bunmi said what can save the union from collapse is for her husband to have enough time for her and perform well in bed. She added that she approached the court because she was not ready to commit adultery.

She urged the court to dissolve the marriage and order her husband to pay for her resettlement.

The respondent, Mr. Sunday Olabiyi, told the court that it was only his wife who can tell the court how best one can perform wonders in bed.

According to him, he never denied his wife intimacy whenever she wanted it and he has always taken good care of her.

He accused the petitioner of having a hidden agenda and made up her mind to abandon him for another man.

The matter was adjourned by the court president for further hearing.

Oh my God!
The court gave custody of one of the kids to the bed-wetting drunkard wife beater?
Lord have mercy
Male chauvinism at it's best
That child is ruined

I am an Igbo woman and I have this observation to make.
I believe Yoruba women are light years ahead of the other southern women when it comes to leaving an irresponsible husband.
I am all for marriage,don't get me wrong.
I advocate marriage but in cases where it just isn't working out,a woman ought to leave with her mental state intact than die or run mad trying to lead a dead horse.
Divorce rate in Igbo land is very very low compared to the south west.
Doesn't necessarily mean that Igbo marriages are happier.
Yoruba women are so empowered that they would not put up with drunkards and dead beats.
This is one thing I believe other women ought to learn from them.
There should be a limit any woman can take.
The rate of wife beatings would drastically reduce when these abusive men know the woman will not put up with it and that the courts can grant her full custody of her children.

Thankfully the senate is calling him out on that.
He has violated a federal law .
Stoopid sharia pedo

heryyy:
@ohsisi you are absolutely full of shittt in jumping into conclution about something you dont know its so obvious u are a bleeping fuulish haman being, Oloriburuku

God punish you!

beautiful
Patience is one nollywood actress I'll like to meet in person.
The other (actor) is Olu Jacobs
I love them both to pieces

I wouldn't mind meeting Tonto Dike  ad Eucharia Anunobi-Ekwu, only to punch them in the nose though
Them 2 irritate the living daylights out of me

namski:
You are not serious. Is this the only contribution you can make?

Is that not something positive?

@labiyemmy:
ok - lets say noone care about the rich people, but is a dump site a true picture of Lagos?

If someone shows a documentary of a dump site and scavengers in America and call is America- what will you guys say?

abi o
like some homeless people invading dumpsters at KFC and beggars littered all over Washington DC parks right next to the white house,is that a true representation of the USA?

Look at the man taking a bath on page 2

Is he a Yoruba man?
Nna a men the size of his blokoss is alarming

I seriously doubt that is Nigeria
where?
Is it that bad?

You won't see any of those loud mouthed Islamists on this thread
People like ayinba barrister won't show face at all
death to all pedophiles!

papa ejima:
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Thank you jare @kay9. Na all this I-Too-Know people wey no fit learn anything. They always think they now it all. The topic was 'HOW TO BE A BETTER WIFE" and I was just making my own suggestions based on true life experience. It is peolpe like @ohsisi who go into marriage with the mentality of a gender battle. Even look at her educated assumptions. Because my user name is papa ejima, she just assumed that We have twins. Every husband want to make his wife better and every wife wants to make her husband better. If you ask any married person, he or she would tell you that there are always things we wish we could change in our partner. If the topic was "better husband" my wife would probably send it to me, we don't hide our feelings from each other. A married man should know better what a man wants from a wife and a married woman should know better what a woman wants from a husband. People lie @ohsisi who think they now it all always find out at the end that they know nothing.

I am telling you that sending your wife things you get off the web as tools for her reform will lead you nowhere
Take it or leave
na you go get the headache not me
I'm just an anonymous poster on the web
na you go carry the aftermath of your childish ways on your coconut head

kay9:
@clemcy: I didn't know the issue of your gender has been resolved. Still remember back when u were ''bisexual''

@Ohsisi: you, my dear, are ABSOLUTELY full of droppings! You are so full of it, it's actually spewing out into NL. WTF?? Here's a guy (papa ejima) actually talking about HIS REAL LIFE, and your response is to make mockery of him. Just listen to yourself! ''Could it be that. . . .'', ''Sounds to me like. . .'', making assumptions! And about his guiding rules, please you don't have to follow them, ok? Sheesh, small wonder you are still unmarried - in fact, ''still-single-and-desperately-searching'' is more like it.

ROFL.
I want you to first grow up and be a man
Start shaving
get a job
Then marry
spend at least 5 years in the institution of marriage
then come back and let us talk

papa ejima:
Thanks poster for this topic. I copied it and sent to my wife's email. If only she and other wives and wives-to-be could keep to at least half of your suggestions, marriages would be a lot happier.

You're sounding very selfish here but I'll go easy on you.
That was the biggest mistake of your life,copying and pasting this to your wife because the message you're sending is ,baby you need to shape up and get it together.
No woman would take kindly to that and I speak as a woman.

I think that where our ladies get it wrong is that after the wedding, they think it is all over. They now relax thinking the "battle" has been won. In fact, many of them desperately want to "wed" but not to "marry". By this I mean they look forward to the wedding and put all their efforts towards it without a commensurate effort towards the marriage itself.

And where do you get it wrong Oh Mr woman psychology specialist ?
What are you bringing to the table.
Whenever you want to change the course of your marriage,the first client should be you.
Not her
but you.

My guiding rule to any wife-to-be is to always treat your husband as if you are still competing for him with other girls. You should not stop all those things you were doing before he chose you after the marriage. Instead, you should even double your efforts. Let me use my marriage as a case study here:

And who are you to have a guiding rule for anyone
Do you know what hre guiding rules are?
Did you spell out these your rules before walking her down the aisle ?
She may have run the other direction and left you with your book of rules.

Before our wedding, my wife never joked with her body and especially her face. She used to use a very expensive face cleanser but she has stopped using it now and the difference is showing. When I asked her, she says she does not have the money for it but she and I know she can comfortably afford it. I bet you, if she was still single, she wouldn’t have stopped or expect me to always buy it

.

Since you know that cream,why don't you go out and buy her half a dozen for mother's day
I'm sure she'll use it.
Your name papaejima tells me you have twins so obviously her hands are full
She has so much to do and who knows how much help she gets besides a husband hounding her about her looks.

The way she talks to me has changed dramatically. She is now so much commanding as if I have to obey whatever she says

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Could it be also that you have stopped listening and responding such that the sister has to say it a few times to obtain a response?
Think about that.

We use to go out for a drink or two when we were dating. In fact, there is a particular bar we used to go to almost every weekend when they have live band. Now when I suggest we go out, she will say she is tired and I dare not even suggest going alone. She will say if I want to drink, I can drink at home! Even the way you make love with your husband should not change after the wedding

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Sounds to me like this woman is overwhelmed with the kids and her duties to run a home plus take care of you.
Give her sme needed credit,will you!
When was the last time you asked if she needed any help around the house?
that would be appreciated.

Please I am not posting this for blame apportioning. I am just saying that the best way for a lady to approach her marriage is to treat her husband as if they were still dating and she is still in competition for his love. In everything, the way you treat him, talk to him, make love with him, tolerate his inadequacies, etc should not change when he marries you. When he starts seeing you as different from the girl he was dying for when you were dating, be sure to expect the inevitable. Remember, prevention is always better than cure.

All that whole sermon belongs to you too
It alway goes both ways
what you give is what you receive
What you sow,is what you reap
If you make a woman feel on top of the world,she'll reciprocate same

Cultivate friends and interests outside your marriage
Once you’re married, it's easy to shrink your social network to revolve around your husband. But no one person can meet all your needs, and it’s too much to expect your husband to be your partner, your lover, AND your best girlfriend. Make time for friendships outside your marriage. You'll have more fun and bring new energy to your relationship.

Great advice!
Women  burn out and are frustrated  in marriage when their whole life revolves around the husband and the children.
Get a life outside of marriage by that I mean socialize with friends,physically and over the phone or internet.
Find other interest, join a bookclub, volunteer a the PTA, join a gym, school alumni, kporakpo meeting.
A girl needs at least 2 or 3 galpals on speed dial
Marriage should not stop you from being an individual

Thank God Islamic women in Nigeria are finally standing up to  these monsters and child molesters who would  rather mess with little girls they can manipulate than find grown women like those protesting this abuse.
Men with low self esteem.

how does he manage

I agree with mama gee
he should have worn a suit

rofl

Da Junta:
Tanx all for all the good will messages, am pleased to announce that a date has been fixed to walk up the altar.
As you may all know that alot of planning and preparations are geared up in both families.
The traditional wedding will be on 26 December while the church wedding on 29 december @ Enugu.

So y'all should get your dancing shoes cleaned up,

Congrats dear
I wish you folks a happy married life

Ewooooooo
so fine girl Ezinwannem aka hotstepper is getting married true true
I am so happy that finally there's a wedding on nairaland
davidylan is next followed by mukina and abuzola

I can almost bet you that these are innocent almajiris just going about their normal business.
There is no investigation in Nigeria and when a high profile murder occurs,the police just run out and arrest any unfortunate agboros or barrow pushers wey no dey busy around the corner.
Strip then nakid to their undies and place guns on their sides for pictures.
They should let the kids go.

where is the picture?

queeneve:
190 is Hot and his d.i.c.k talking. He is in LUST NOT LOVE, TAKE A COLD SHOWER NUT!

or he should go and do crack and pass out

OgidiBoy:
In your dreams, most Imo bobos have flat heads with fat necks. Anambra guys are it if you don't know

Anambra men have pot belly
every one of them
afo beer afo beer wearing gold chains on their neck
Imo men are too much nu

190:
^^

na u born am~

abeg leave me alone

im in a bad mood rite now!!

yes na me born am
go hug a baobab tree and leave this little girl alone
I will soon call the cops

Platinum thanks for that info
I thought the amaka was a grown woman I didn't know 190 was dying for a small girl like this
a girl that still rides a yellow bus to school for heaven's sake
na so woman scarce  reach?

190:
^^

it was all for nothing

i was appriciated~

she hates me!

They said she's still in JSS1 and you're here professing love
mgbo pia rie kwa g'isi
leave the girl to do her homework jor