Odenigbo Aroli.:


My first post in this thread was "most confident women makes bad wives" and I still stand by my words irrespective of how you people try to twist it around. Confidence can be good in the work place, its an asset, but at home its a vice. I am yet to see a confident woman at work that is not a terrorist at home, except she is married to a more deranged man who will intimidate her with more madness should she try anything from the office at home. Most confident women end up divorced, do you agree?

Ampeaceful: wetin b ur p.sef abi ur name is attached 2 d bibl i just typd Huh??

Odenigbo Aroli.:


and am talking about all confidence, when applied to the home situation by women, it produces the wrong reactions from almost everybody.

ItsModella:
I don't agree. We seem to be reading different meanings into the word 'confidence'...define 'confidence' in your own words.

kulyie: ok so you want a muppet or bimbo that is timid and cannot use her gumshion waiting for instructions before taking decisions confidently and living up to her responsibilities,you mean a woman like this : sit down there,dont go to the office tomorrow,shut up etc you are reffering to

boron10:
Bros thank you o. OP you should know that this write up is not applicable to Nigerian Men. Nigerian men like timid women. They prefer to hook up with people that would boost their ego. Woman that would fret at the sound of their voice.

Why do you think most pretty career women who are supposedly confident find it difficult to put up with Nigerian men?

ifihearam:

I disagree,not with nigerian women.

Odenigbo Aroli.:


Look at Oby Ezekweziri, does her agbero face and street walker haircut look to you like she is submissive to her husband? These are women that have abandoned their home since long time imo river and are sleeping in big hotels all over the world in the excuse of saving the world while their husbands gnash their teeth.

Odenigbo Aroli.:


Fine.

Confidence is the ability to think independenty of outside opinion and the belief that you have the courage and innate ability to carry your desicions to completion with bold actions.

Now, tell me where a man comes ito this.........?

dbride:


....because MAJORITY of the confident women, having that COMPLEX that they must prove a point to men, unconsciously make themselves unapproachable and controlling too!
There is Confidence that comes with ARROGANCE and Confidence that comes with HUMILITY.

Confidence + Arrogance = Time Bomb; Confidence + Humility = Gift of God, Priceless, Jackpot

dbride:


....because MAJORITY of the confident women, having that COMPLEX that they must prove a point to men, unconsciously make themselves unapproachable and controlling too!
There is Confidence that comes with ARROGANCE and Confidence that comes with HUMILITY.

Confidence + Arrogance = Time Bomb; Confidence + Humility = Gift of God, Priceless, Jackpot

Odenigbo Aroli.:


Being confident (read the original post again) no need to follow your shallow logic. Una dey find person wey una go control, and if we talk you will go all emotional and say they want to make you a foot mat, so you want to make your husband a foot mat before? read the original post again or I will be froced to break it down for you one point after the other.

tjimoh: Word of reason especially on this womens' day....any way, first to comment,Iam happy for this

nenergy: Suffice to say, men are confident, women are...... (please give me time to find a more appropriate word or help me-i'll be back)

lat4real:

Very true!!! Therefore confidence can be a good thing as well as bad thing depending on individual.

huni_naija:

You are off the mark completely, you fail to reason and understand the logic behind a "confident woman"

What you describe is a proud woman totally different from a confident one.

Na wa oo so this is how men are reasoning?

kulyie: well i dont subscribe to a timid woman,a timid woman that says yes sir to everything her husband says has little or nothing to offer in the home front except for the thing in between her legs,the brain God gave her has been underutilized because of timidity and cannot bring new ideas into the home that will better the home and make the home more comfortable financially and otherwise.however there are women who are confident yet humble,e.g michelle obama,okonjo iweala,late bimbo odukoya etc

hardbody: If you cannot take decisions without my say so, if you cannot step into my shoes when i am not available, if you cannot carry yourself in a proud way and represent my ego, i have no business with you. Take decisions and make mistakes, i will understand, stay dormant and do nothing, i will chastise you.

Odenigbo Aroli.:


Fine.

Confidence is the ability to think independenty of outside opinion and the belief that you have the courage and innate ability to carry your desicions to completion with bold actions.

Now, tell me where a man comes ito this.........?

huni_naija:

I'm actually shocked at the fact you said being confident does not work well within a marriage? For real??

What then is the point of a marriage if a woman can't be confident in herself and her husband knowing that he will make the right decisions?? So woman being confident means her husband has been reduced to a houseboy? Your assertions are weak at best and beer parlour gist. You need a door mat as a wife!

Kaynee: My bros even though I have not met you before but from all your posts, I know that you dont have confidence in yourself and you equally have inferiority complex. But the good thing is, its curable. Meet a good psychologist that you can trust because your way of reasoning, , am afraid its dangerous to your health. I dont mean to offend you but am worried for you.

ItsModella:
That a woman is confident does not mean a man cannot exert dominance or authority in a relationship. Yes, she has the ability to think independently of outside opinion, but it doesn't mean she can't or won't accept outside opinion. Yes, she has the courage to carry her decisions to completion does not mean she might not seek outside help or advice. Confidence means being decisive alright but it doesn't mean you can't be aided or you refuse to be helped in reaching a goal. There is confidence that comes with humility.

dbride:

Never mentioned TIMID WOMEN. The TOPIC is about Confident women; so where is my mistake and what point are you trying to make? Clearly, you did not understand or grasp my point. Read again and LOL

kulyie: please what is the opposite of confidence?is it not timidity?since confident women dont attract you then i suppose the opposite will attract you plus i understand your post perfectly.so its either you are confident or not

hardbody: If you cannot take decisions without my say so, if you cannot step into my shoes when i am not available, if you cannot carry yourself in a proud way and represent my ego, i have no business with you. Take decisions and make mistakes, i will understand, stay dormant and do nothing, i will chastise you.