I love my wife not because she is the most beautiful but because she is the one i have avowed myself to

Nosyke:

Case closed!!!!!!!

*Starts drafting letter to be sent to Akwa Ibom/Uyo on assignment/transfer

pickabeau1: unfortunately, my posts shall have to suffice on this mata...

Asians love the good life and anything expat...just like our SS girls....

at times.. their respect borders on fear

harlos: *this one that I'm seeing new faces is making me feel like a novice *

pickabeau1:
@coogar
Asians,.. they also give cute mix breed kids
See david alaba and tiger woods

Nosyke: @Nash, TV, et al, please start giving your guy bits on wedding plans Bussyluv08 weds Nosyke

Nosyke: @Nash, TV, et al. For a guy that likes staying indoors, how can the social life be improved. In one of your posts, you mentioned something about an ideal guy knowing the right social points/joints around him without necessarily turning into a mobile brewery?

coogar:

the cutest baby i have ever seen was with one thai woman. mixed breed, afroasian kid. if i had spent one more year there, i would have definitely married one.

TV01:

Get a girl first mate

But seriously, be as cash rich as you can be in preparation and ahead of time. Even if you haven't gotten the girl! Listen carefully; plan your budget with a medium term view - i.e. there is life and there will be expenses after the day - and stick to it. Anyone that thinks you should charter helicopter, release a million white doves, or anything you both haven't planned for, should only be accomodated on the basis they are willing to fund it.

In all likelihood, you would have dreamed of winning the girl, the girl would have dreamt of the big day. She probably already knows what she wants. Negotiate what's best for you both and support her all the way. Keep a close eye on spending and all arangements. PM it!



If you are a Christian, church is great. But beware, you probably have to be more discerning there than in a brothel .

For the naturally reclusive, a solid network of family and friends is a big asset. No matter how small yours is work to extend it.

Let me give you two insights from my time searching;

1. Boldness
I was -am even - a little like you. Boldness was one of the things I had to learn. And I mean to the extent of approaching people wherever you meet them. It's not easy and requires patience and practice. But it will make you feel manly and build confidence - even if you get blown out. No marriage proposals at first sight 0 ! A simple "hello, how are you" or "good morning", will suffice. Start by learning to engage people you know more - colleagues etc. - then move on to "neutrals", girls that you are not necessarily interested in - this reduces pressure and sweaty armpit/clammy hand/cotton mouth type situations

2. Smart use of contacts
Following on from my "family & friends" & "boldness points above. I meant and got to know literally hundreds of girls - always knowing I was looking for a wife. My wife. Initially, once they proved "out of scope" for whatever reason, I cut all contact. But as I grew in understanding. I thought hmmm...these ladies could be a great resource. So unless they fell into the "bad eggs" category, I started to retain contact/friendships, making it plainly platonic. A few of these girls became my greatest champions. I met my wife through one of them.


TV

Wow, when I asked about the wedding plans initially, I was only kidding in response to Bussy. However, the tips you gave are absolutely spot on. I surely will keep them handy when the time comes. (even though I dont know when). Thanks a mil

Now to the second point, in a case whereby most of the people (females) around you are either your mate or older then you (either due to the fact that you graduated from school on time or you started working on time), how can one make very healthy platonic Guy-Chic relationship (maybe with a view to making it something serious )?. More often than not these ladies want something serious which one might not just be willing to give at the moment

pickabeau1: PH has fine gals...
Warri babes,,, down to earth,,,

You should see gems in abraka.....


but for the total package.. beauty and homeliness, our sisters from AkwaIbom and Crossriver edge it... no pretense,..

The closest to them ive seen so far are the SA chics...cool to hang out and cook superbly though i hear ZIM babes are awesome too

A friend just married a cameroonian,,, they seem cool too

xmas in douala,,..

fresh_dude: @TV, I agree with your points especially where you say circumstances do not make a man cheat. I'll disagree with you saying cheats are non-men though, a human is way too complex to be defined by his ability/inability to control some habits, I believe.

coogar:

some guys don't know their true worth & value and this is why girls mistreat them anyhow. the woman that will drag my pride through the mud isn't born yet....a man must know when not to take any nonsense from his woman. women love experimenting, they just want to push the man to his elastic limit.

a man must be firm, principled. if a woman throws nonsense in your face, show your disagreement in the calmest way possible. there's always a better woman out there - that has always been my mantra. if she screws up, let her go & find another. my ego is my greatest weapon & it's yet to let me down.

Ronnie65: Nice one guys.
Really interesting. Please how does a babe attract a guy who doesn't seem to show much interest in her? without appearing desperate or been turned into beer palor topic?

These days loads of guys can't read body language and eye contacts. help a sister out.

BTW, we both are in contact but he comes on to me srrongly once a while and just shuts off after a while. he probably needs to be plugged to a stabilizer. Lol

I don't want to put all my cards on the table for him for obvious reasons but can't watch him slip off either.

While waiting for the experts (Nash, TV et al). I will suggest the following.
Trying engaging him in small talks, even try getting personal. things like his favourite sports, colours, foods, drinks, etc. From here, assuming his best colour is blue (like me), you might try wearing clothes/assessories that have blue colourations or shades/touches

Call him up and ask him how his day went, stuffs like that. Try also knwoing if he is a serious relationship which might be why he isnt interested in any other chic.

If all of the above fail, please show me the same green light and I will connect straight up


_{But mehn, some guys dey fall hands o}

TV01:

I agree with you. I didn't say not men..[B$.not men in the sense of character/conduct in that respect.[/b]

TV

Ronnie65: Nice one guys.
Really interesting. Please how does a babe attract a guy who doesn't seem to show much interest in her? without appearing desperate or been turned into beer palor topic?

These days loads of guys can't read body language and eye contacts. help a sister out.

BTW, we both are in contact but he comes on to me srrongly once a while and just shuts off after a while. he probably needs to be plugged to a stabilizer. Lol

I don't want to put all my cards on the table for him for obvious reasons but can't watch him slip off either.

Nosyke:

While waiting for the experts (Nash, TV et al). I will suggest the following.
Trying engaging him in small talks, even try getting personal. things like his favourite sports, colours, foods, drinks, etc. From here, assuming his best colour is blue (like me), you might try wearing clothes/assessories that have blue colourations or shades/touches

Call him up and ask him how his day went, stuffs like that. Try also knwoing if he is a serious relationship which might be why he isnt interested in any other chic.

If all of the above fail, please show me the same green light and I will connect straight up


_{But mehn, some guys dey fall hands o}

coogar:

this is 2014....
if you like a guy, let him know you do a lot. if he's a manly man, he should get the message. and when he makes his move, don't front for too long. let him have his answer within few days.

Nosyke: Now to the second point, in a case whereby most of the people (females) around you are either your mate or older then you (either due to the fact that you graduated from school on time or you started working on time), how can one make very healthy platonic Guy-Chic relationship (maybe with a view to making it something serious )?. More often than not these ladies want something serious which one might not just be willing to give at the moment[/i]

Ronnie65:

Am not forming for him Cougar. he comes all flirty a times and that goes on for like two days and next five days he becomes official.
Just don't want to be made a laughing stock.
I however am not worried of rejection, life goes on.

Ronnie65: Nice one guys.
Really interesting. Please how does a babe attract a guy who doesn't seem to show much interest in her? without appearing desperate or been turned into beer palor topic?

These days loads of guys can't read body language and eye contacts. help a sister out.

BTW, we both are in contact but he comes on to me srrongly once a while and just shuts off after a while. he probably needs to be plugged to a stabilizer. Lol

I don't want to put all my cards on the table for him for obvious reasons but can't watch him slip off either.

Ronnie65:

Am not forming for him Cougar. he comes all flirty a times and that goes on for like two days and next five days he becomes official.
Just don't want to be made a laughing stock.
I however am not worried of rejection, life goes on.

Ronnie65: Really interesting. Please how does a babe attract a guy who doesn't seem to show much interest in her? without appearing desperate or been turned into beer palor topic?

These days loads of guys can't read body language and eye contacts. help a sister out.

BTW, we both are in contact but he comes on to me srrongly once a while and just shuts off after a while. he probably needs to be plugged to a stabilizer. Lol

I don't want to put all my cards on the table for him for obvious reasons but can't watch him slip off either.

Ronnie65:

Am not forming for him Cougar. he comes all flirty a times and that goes on for like two days and next five days he becomes official.
Just don't want to be made a laughing stock.
I however am not worried of rejection, life goes on.

almaliki:



Erm....pickabeau......did u sch @ abk....or u visited abk sometime ago....been following ur posts lately...u kinda make me feel I know u somewhere..........*clears throat in defence...... before dem go begin attack me say I wan dey razzle d chick*

TV01:

Men must take responsibility for their relationships. And act as having a "duty of care" when engaging women.

To keep it platonic simply do not send out wrong signals, give hints or be caught up in situations that suggest otherwise. If the girl is getting the wrong impression or "trying to make it happen", you need to disengage, limit contact or simply speak plainly - but kindly.

Note;
1. Some women read any nice gesture as a sign of intent. Be careful.

2. Some women will see what they want and try and make it happen by sheer force of will. It may not be because of anything you do or don't do. Beware.

Platonically, treat them like sisters, don't be flirtatious. Be polite and helpful without overdoing the bobo nice or falling mugu. If you wish to step it up, you suggest something. Start cooly, drink meal etc. Light-hearted chat and probe without being nosey. If they are always around., scope them as much as possible without being intrusive. It's worth finding out a person before stepping-up if possible. Saves time and effort. Before suggesting anything, if they are in the same office, linger a little at their desks, chat a bit more. To them, not about them.

Don't think "serious" until you have a decent bio. Otherwise it's simply speculative, or at best "getting to know".

I speak as a serious man to serious men. I was celibate for over a decade. Met loads of women, but never called any girlfriend. Met my wife, got to know her, woo'ed her, courted her, married her.


TV

Nosyke:

@First bolded, Yes, I am very ok discussing the bolded, in fact, I do very well in those

@ Second bolded, I beg to disagree, I am, still and will forever be a Manchester United Fan. We are only passing through a phase, and we surely will come out stronger.

I so love your indepth analysis of the categories of Men cheats........very intriguing, omo that your HR manager friend, mehn, would have given King Solomon a good run for his wealth But Like Ujojoan said, somehow, you implied that Its in Men's nature to cheat, what we just need is a little push/shove/justification. I am not married yet, but I dont think its right, some guys out there exist that still have self discipline