SweetOlive:
I'm out!

Saladin25:


Haha.. don't mind many of them. When they get into it and understand what it entails they will know that theory us different from practical or sorry to say let one of them(ladies) lose her husband with two kids at age of 32. Let me see how a single guy that has never had a child will want to marry her. Polygamy is the solution.

I could remember one OAP that was brought on your views once said she doesn't mind being second or third wife as long as the man can take care.of her. She made a salient point that, being a single mother is not easy. There are roles a woman can't play like a man no matter how successful she is.

IykeWest:
That's very true brother! I'm a huge fan of the truth, I mean the real truth, I've been telling the truth for a long time, and lemme tell you another truth, are u ready for the truth? The truth is nobody wants to hear the truth, that's the truth, they want something fabricated or easy to handle, so please you are telling the truth and I advise you should stop, u wanna know the reason? Cos everybody will see you as a pessimistic human being while in the true sense of it, you're being real, you're being realistic. The truth is like a very thick bitter ointment, nobody will drink it cos it's very bitter, if you want them to drink it, mix a lot of water (Fabrications) with it, so they'll drink it easily. That's my advice bro. Thanks again for showing the truth, but as you can see, nobody wan drink am.

Toks2008:
Before i dwell on the matter i would like to welcome every Lady Nairalander who has perfected the act of E-cursing to come on board especially those who are still far from the reality of marriage to call me names like monster,misogynist or any other name that comes to your mind.

Yes we know that philandering is a hell bound sin and adultery is very sinful so this is not about justifying or encouraging the act but does that change the fact that a man who will cheat on you will do and some guys will never cheat on the woman in their life but unfortunately there is no way this can be written on their foreheads.

Many ladies hate to hear the word "Polygamy" but do you know that POLYGAMY IS THE ANSWER TO THE PRAYERS OF MANY LADIES such as:

1.Many never married single ladies in the late 30s and in their 40s.
2.Many lady divorcées with children.
3.Many widows in their 30s and 40s

Apparently it is the married men that will fancy these set of ladies MORE and only a lady in their shoes will relate perfectly to my stands and i believe it makes no sense for a man to divorce an innocent wife because he desires another woman.

How hypocritical it is that ladies will prefer a man to be married to them alone and keep side dishes rather than for the same hubby to marry more wives and remain faithful to them? Same ladies that talk down on polygamy will be the same having affairs with married men and i just wonder at the level of hypocrisy and foolishness.

And even more pathetic is the fact that a lady will divorce her husband because he decides to marry or date another lady just for her to end up as a mistress to another married man or starts sleeping around shamelessly after divorce.
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SO IF YOU ARE NOT READY FOR THE POSSIBILITY OF SHARING YOUR HUSBAND WITH ANOTHER WOMAN EITHER AS A MISTRESS OR ANOTHER WIFE PLEASE DON'T BOTHER GETTING MARRIED.[/size]

I know many ladies will say a man should also be ready to share his wife too but please you are free as a lady to marry more than one husband at the same time if you can


This is not the way it should be but a fact you must accept as a lady or stay single for life.

Toks2008:
Before i dwell on the matter i would like to welcome every Lady Nairalander who has perfected the act of E-cursing to come on board especially those who are still far from the reality of marriage to call me names like monster,misogynist or any other name that comes to your mind.

Yes we know that philandering is a hell bound sin and adultery is very sinful so this is not about justifying or encouraging the act but does that change the fact that a man who will cheat on you will do and some guys will never cheat on the woman in their life but unfortunately there is no way this can be written on their foreheads.

Many ladies hate to hear the word "Polygamy" but do you know that POLYGAMY IS THE ANSWER TO THE PRAYERS OF MANY LADIES such as:

1.Many never married single ladies in the late 30s and in their 40s.
2.Many lady divorcées with children.
3.Many widows in their 30s and 40s

Apparently it is the married men that will fancy these set of ladies MORE and only a lady in their shoes will relate perfectly to my stands and i believe it makes no sense for a man to divorce an innocent wife because he desires another woman.

How hypocritical it is that ladies will prefer a man to be married to them alone and keep side dishes rather than for the same hubby to marry more wives and remain faithful to them? Same ladies that talk down on polygamy will be the same having affairs with married men and i just wonder at the level of hypocrisy and foolishness.

And even more pathetic is the fact that a lady will divorce her husband because he decides to marry or date another lady just for her to end up as a mistress to another married man or starts sleeping around shamelessly after divorce.
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SO IF YOU ARE NOT READY FOR THE POSSIBILITY OF SHARING YOUR HUSBAND WITH ANOTHER WOMAN EITHER AS A MISTRESS OR ANOTHER WIFE PLEASE DON'T BOTHER GETTING MARRIED.[/size]

I know many ladies will say a man should also be ready to share his wife too but please you are free as a lady to marry more than one husband at the same time if you can


This is not the way it should be but a fact you must accept as a lady or stay single for life.

Toks2008:


What i wrote up there is not about individuality but the factual occurrence we see everyday.

I say i will not cheat or take a second wife and you say same.

Many guys also say same yet we read everyday about divorce due to same act we all claim we wont indulge in...INFIDELITY...So who is deceiving who?

My point still remains that of what use is it if a lady divorces her hubby due to infidelity and ends up with another married man? YES 7 out of 10 divorcées end up having affairs with married men or as intimacy gadgets for randy guys so is this not insanity of teh highest order?

So why divorce the first man in the first place when you are most likely to end up commiting same act of adultery?

THAT IS MY POINT.

Toks2008:


Polygamy is allowed in both religions

Fkhalifa:
In situations like this, its quite funny ladies are heaping praise on men, really

Yes ladies you are all right we have many monogamous non cheating men out there, Mr Toks is the only philander

Smh# I fear HBP and stroke waiting to happen to some people.

iAmCharis:
Kachisbarbie come see your friend o.

Saladin25:


My Dad and Mum do say it that when a man get to a stage in his life. Women/ladies will be after him. It takes a courageous wife to overlook it.
Even me wey I never get anything I know many ladies that are after me. I had to stop calling and chatting with them.

Fkhalifa:
baba you are not far from the truth o, see what a lady once talk about this issue


"Cheating doesn't get to me. That's the way I have made my myself to be. I have never nag or shout at any man because of cheating. there are other bigger things I nag for, and, believe me is not cheating.

I can't just imagine myself fighting for a man, even if he is my husband, I will never do it. Let him paint the town red, let him club, let him womanize, let him do whatever he likes. All I know, is between him and his God.


All I am after in this world, earn my own money, have kids, raise my kids to be responsible. Take care of my aged sweet mum. Offer my shoulder and help to my siblings. (because is only my siblings that can bleed for me and never forsake me in trying times)."

falconey:
This thread will hit frontpage but not this year.

omotonyx:
Oga na lie jor. If u marry flesh of ur flesh n bone of ur bone noting like dat. If a woman has good conscience not sleeping with different men. When its time 4her 2settle down she'll definately marry a good God fearing man.

Toks2008:


I know many people will read that write up in isolation and it takes a very intelligent person to grasp the deep message in it.

I repeat...if a lady is not ready for the POSSIBILITY of sharing her man with another lady whether AS A MISTRESS or another wife,she should remain single.

NiRfreak:
@OP....I'm also of the pragmatic breed. If getting ready to marry means a lady must be aware and brace up for future infidelity of the man, then , part of bracing up and getting ready should also means that she could play infidelity emulating her husband and none of the partners should feel discontent about it. else, that would amount to applying double standard and prejudice in favour of the mans infidelity. And your marriage law will read: The man is liable to have side chicks or mistresses but the woman can not in marriage. how fair!

Saladin25:
I would rather be a polygamist than having a concubine. I do tell all the ladies that have met that, I am a fan of polygamy. If she wants no problem, if she doesn't want, find your way out.

I know many married that do come to my school back then. They will carry those girls to guest houses and hotels till day break and the same adulterous husband would be saying one man, one wife. Who is fooling who.

The single mothers, expired single ladies and widows that I know are uncountable. I now asked myself which single guy would want to marry them. That us why I Like Islam, when you are financial capable and physically capable marry 1,2,3 or 4 wives.

Polygamy is the solution to end the mystery for single ladies, single mothers, divorcees and widows not only in Nigeria also in the world.

Saladin25:


This kind of Lady want peace in her life. A woman that want peace in her marital life must not be a jealous woman. She must be able to overlook things.
A Lady like her is rare. I pray she has a good husband
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Toks2008:


I know many people will read that write up in isolation and it takes a very intelligent person to grasp the deep message in it.

I repeat...if a lady is not ready for the POSSIBILITY of sharing her man with another lady whether AS A MISTRESS or another wife,she should remain single.

KimBerlyie:



Lol was kidding, who takes stuffs like this serious? M sure the op was asleep wen he typed all these. The woman that will marry that man shld just brace up for the worst.

littlemistress:
I quite agree with the op tho. It's a bitter pill & it doesn't justify cheating by men but it's the truth. At one stage or the other in a marriage, a man will cheat. Marriage vows are no longer respected. Going into a marriage with the perception that a man will be totally faithful is a mirage.. except ofcourse you both are devoted Christians.
I think the essence is hoping for the best & preparing for the worst. Just because he hasn't been caught doesn't mean he's not screwing some babes somewhere.
Even if he's not willing to cheat, there's a daring daughter of eve somewhere scheming to oust wifey!

Fkhalifa:
baba you are not far from the truth o, see what a lady once talk about this issue


"Cheating doesn't get to me. That's the way I have made my myself to be. I have never nag or shout at any man because of cheating. there are other bigger things I nag for, and, believe me is not cheating.

I can't just imagine myself fighting for a man, even if he is my husband, I will never do it. Let him paint the town red, let him club, let him womanize, let him do whatever he likes. All I know, is between him and his God.


All I am after in this world, earn my own money, have kids, raise my kids to be responsible. Take care of my aged sweet mum. Offer my shoulder and help to my siblings. (because is only my siblings that can bleed for me and never forsake me in trying times)."

bardella1:


U've succeeded in spilling out rubbishj..am not against polygamy..buh if dis is ur reason for polygamy den u are wrong