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When it comes to these things, its a spectrum.

My preferred spectrum: 60% IQ 40% submissive.

I don't need a door mat. She can disagree with me so long as it is done respectfully. She must not be careless with her mouth.
I have been with a veeeery dumb and submissive woman before and I don't want that for my self or my children.

Everything falls on you. You cannot even delegate important things to her to manage, because you cannot trust that she has the good sense to perform it without your direct oversight. That's no way to run a family.

It is good to know that certain things are being handled without your direct management of said thing.
I want to be able to travel for business while knowing that all is well at home because the commanding officer while I am away is not dumb.

tarantino1:
Someone who thinks like me. It always amazes me when I see people denigrate Sowore for speaking out against Buhari. It's almost comical.

They love suffering, like they really enjoy it a lot. The people will vote their oppressors and laugh at the people who try to fight them.

There are ex governors in Nigeria who have annual pensions higher than the annual salaries of active governors and even presidents of first world countries. Should we even talk about our senators and representatives?

Yet the people who do not even benefit from this nonsense would gather and insult those who criticise these atrocities. It is very surprising to find them here complaining.

As long as they share the same ethnicity, anything goes. They will vote and later complain and complain.

Bro, it makes no fvcking sense.
Most Nigerians at home are beyond foolish when it comes to this matter.

I will always insult them whenever I hear them complain.
Nothing you go talk, na still that umbrella and broom they will vote for.

In fact, I encourage Buhari to be more brutal.
Nigerian citizens don't deserve joy.

Make dem collect APCPDP garri soak. Dem go pay for am the next 4 years ...and thats if there is anything left in 4 years.

yuping:
them plenty for my area. Nothing you go talk them go still vote umbrella and Broom.

My brother, that is why sensible people japa.

We don't japa because of the leaders. We japa because of the foolishness of the majority of Nigerians in the country.
The leaders are only there because of the citizens choices, so the citizens are the real villians.

ayterajah:
Give solution ... Not all this write up... Mtcheew

What solution do you want to hear that has not been already said a thousand times already?
Are you deaf?
Can you read?

I even gave 2 names there, but you are still blind.
You must be one of the people all those election blood sacrifices have been working on.
Go for deliverance.

That Sowore guy don try for una.
If I were him, I would have jeje returned back to my very comfortable life in Yankee and enjoy my family.
The guy has a history of fighting for a better Nigeria.
He has gone to jail several times for demanding a better Nigeria.

See his wife and kids back then crying and begging him to leave you people and come back home after your APCPDP leaders threw him in jail for wanting better conditions for you.
See his brother that was killed. Sowore himself was shot by one stupid female police officer WHO HE WAS FIGHTING FOR. Nobody puts themselves through that if they didn't want the best for you.

If you see someone like that, yet it is one old man who got rich from selling you and your childrens' future you still go and vote for...you are a slave and sorry but neither you nor your children deserve to be free. You have used your own 2 hands to curse your generation. Your village people have nothing to do with that curse...it is YOU.

God is disappointed at Nigerians...the citizens, not even the leaders.

Abeg Gettat !!!

You will still vote for the same APCPDP leaders come the next election.
You will still sell your destiny to them with common satchet of garri in 2023.
Admit it. You love the suffering and whips of hardship. It is what makes your day interesting.

Nigerians are in a wierd BDSM relationship with its leadership, and the thought of having it any other way is repulsive to the citizenry.
You do not feel comfortable with the idea of a Nigeria without suffering...and this is why mental health should be taken more seriously in Naija.

People that have sense by now would have rallied around young forward-thinking, educated, exposed, futuristic and energetic leaders like Sowore, Mogalu, and co. Young Leaders who are obviously detached from the system of dehumanization you seem to love.
Not people who have made themselves rich from STEALING FROM YOU.

Also the next person that says "Sowore used to support Buhari" is not thinking straight (must be what suffering does to the brain).
Did YOU yourself not vote for the tyrant? Clearly Buhari betrayed the trust of many...and should have been the last lesson y'all learn about voting for old people who benefited from your destruction. Put that nonsense aside, and MOVE FORWARD by choosing better.

But instead, you frustrate your saviors, demand bribe from them, and laugh at them when they are imprisoned for your sake while FIGHTING FOR YOU. And you think it will be WELL with you after that??!!

I will always laugh when Nigerians complain about their leaders in the fatherland.
You, the citizens, are your own problem.

When 2023 reach again, if you like vote for your APCPDP overlords after they give you garri and "gra-nut" for the rights to yansh you silly for the next 4 years.
It is yourselves you are doing. I will not be there to suffer it with you

Good.

This baboon left Nigeria and thought he would not refine himself before going to jand.
You don't do that out here.
You treat other peoples' sisters/aunties/daughters i.e women with respect.

The Nigerian in Naija is likened onto a man pushed into a well by his "friends".
Anytime he tries to climb out, those same friends "push him back down".

Along comes another person who sees what is happening, and tries to fight off the victim's friends and, to an extent succeeds because no matter what they do to him, this good samaritan is undeterred.

All this while, the so called victim in the well is laughing at the good samaritan fighting to get him out. Laughing at the pains being inflicted on him. Calling him a fool.
The good samaritan eventually struggles and throws down a rope for the victim to climb out while still fighting off the evil friends.

But instead of using the opportunity to climb out, the "victim" asks:
- " What's in it for me if I use your rope to climb out of this well?".
- " Oya. Pay me to climb out".
- "You are too young to know how to even use a rope sef".
- " Wait, I saw you with my evil friends 8 years ago. I don't care what's going on before my eyes today or the injuries you are sustaining on my behalf, You must be among them!"

Blah . Blah. Blah.

So now use your own judgement and tell me....
Is that victim worth saving? Is he not foolish?
Is he not best left to rot in that well?

I have no pity for Nigerians in Naija. You chose this.

tarantino1:
Someone who thinks like me. It always amazes me when I see people denigrate Sowore for speaking out against Buhari. It's almost comical.

They love suffering, like they really enjoy it a lot. The people will vote their oppressors and laugh at the people who try to fight them.

There are ex governors in Nigeria who have annual pensions higher than the annual salaries of active governors and even presidents of first world countries. Should we even talk about our senators and representatives?

Yet the people who do not even benefit from this nonsense would gather and insult those who criticise these atrocities. It is very surprising to find them here complaining.

As long as they share the same ethnicity, anything goes. They will vote and later complain and complain.

Omo, I had high hopes for these people last election.
Hopes that they had finally gotten sense.
I used to hype Nigerians before then and defend them globally as intelligent people.

It was on that last election that the veil was lifted, and I saw these my people for the wretched useless and utterly foolish cretins they truly are.
It is one thing, understandable even, to be evil for self-gain.
It is another thing entirely to be evil for evil sake to themselves for NO self-gain.

By that metric, Nigerians are more evil than their politicians, because they are evil to themselves for no self gain. politicians are least are just evil for self gain... which is understandable.

Nigerians in naija are just Uttter fools. It offends the mind thinking of their stupidity.

batstan:
You are just pathetic!

Shut up and vote with sense!

Idiot.

lightlogger:
Naija youths and the blame game. APC eey done enter power now, what has happened?

Are the youths ready to vote competent people who are in different parties - I'd say, eeeh NO...

No worry una go soon get sense for that country.

Simple Logic is too much for Nigerians in the fatherland.
They have killed the majority's brain cells with all those blood sacrifices.

They in fact laugh at their heroes when the corrupt government they keep complaining about throws them in prison.

You dumb bleeps complaining should go and get your PVC ready for 2023. It takes about 6 months to get ready.

But you won't. and those of you that do, will collect satchet rice to vote for APCPDP again. You are all mostly very stupid people.

VOTE for young exposed and educated leaders.
Do not vote for stooges. You guys need someone like Sowore. But that is wishful thinking.

I fully expect you all to create more years of suffering for yourselves over the 5 minutes of pleasure soaking that APCPDP satchet of garri.

Idiots.

Abeg gettat!

You FUCKERS will still vote for them come the next election.
You will still sell your destiny to them with common satchet of garri in 2024.
You love the suffering. It is what makes your day interesting.

People that have sense by now would have rallied around young forward-thinking, exposed, futuristic-minded and energetic leaders like Sowore and co. Leaders who are obviously detached from the system of dehumanization you seem to love. Also the next person that says "Sowore used to support Buhari" should choke on shit. Did YOU yourself not vote for the tyrant? Clearly Buhari betrayed the trust of many. Put that shit aside, and MOVE FORWARD WITH SENSE not diarrhea-for-brains.

But instead, you frustrate your saviors, demand bribe from them, and laugh at them when they are imprisoned for your sake, FIGHTING FOR YOU. And you think it will be WELL with you after that? HOW can you be so self-desctructively STUPID??!!

I will always laugh when Nigerians complain about their leaders in the fatherland.
You are your own fucking problem.
Miserable, stupidly-voting fvcks, all of you.
Continue to wiggle in your cesspool of shit.
In fact, keep eating said shit because you have clearly not had your fill of it yet like the flies you are.

Idiots.

When 2024 reach again, if you like vote for your proven backward APCPDP baboons. It is yourselves you are doing.
I won't be there suffering it with you.

Your lives are worth less than cows and it makes sense, because COW has more sense than the majority of you.

My essay on brain differences aside... hormonally...

The normal range of testosterone in women is 15 to 70ng/dl. For men, it is between 300 and 1000ng/dl AND UP.

Until you have x10+ Testosterone running in your blood than you do now, don't assume to understand what men go through when it comes to the effects of yansh.

You. Can. Not.

Intersexxsherry:
just imagine she was your sister or mother, even if she has the sweetest body you desire, will it ever turn you on?
See those girls as your sister and get turned off

But she is not.
For men, logic and matter will always trump the lies of imaginations.

Truly, women are different from men.
You people will just think something and it will overwrite reality, hence you have a unique advantage with fighting sexual temptation. In your scenario of the shirtless man, None of all that imagining changes the fact to a man that a naked attractive woman is standing in front of him.

As men, we prioritize matter...reality.
As women, you prioritize antimatter...feelings.
It is always to a woman as she feels inside, Even if her feeling are far from matter or logic.

And until her feelings match matter, matter might as well not even exist. Matter is simply a suggestion, a skeleton to the actual construction of a woman's reality through feelings. Matter in itself is not her reality. By itself, Matter holds no appeal to her save for what feelings she chooses to wrap around said matter.

She has to feel, so she has an opportunity to intercept and then morph the reality of what she sees with how she feels. Hence why it is easier for a woman to hold sexual urges back. And why it takes a while typically in established relationships to arouse her... she hasn't had the time to flesh out the world of feelings with which to fvck that fvck that the man was already ready to do right from when he entered the house and saw the matter of her.

For as men we simply need to see reality to respond to it. We do not create an alternative or re-affirming world of feelings around matter's reality other than taking it as-is and as presented, hence men's disadvantage when it comes to sexual temptation.

There is no opportunity for a man to interrupt and retranslate reality, as women do. No way to morph the reality that a thicc woman lies before us ready to be fvcked, that we are seeing with our 2 eyes vs what whatever some mind fabrication wants to say.

The only way for a man is to no longer see. For if he sees, it is already too late except he physically leaves. No imagination of nonsense will stop a man's focus to f*ck matter he finds attractive and that wants him to.

He cannot simply make himself believe through the power of feelings that "A thicc female body with big yansh, small waist and thick luscious thighs... is disgusting"... unless he were a gay i.e the disgust already being a pre-cemented part of his fundamental belief system.

Again, men and women have Totally different minds.

TheGidRedpiller:
You have no idea whats worth dying for brother.

I'm saying be free to respect yourself without tagging a label on it.
Labels enslave you. Self respect liberates you.

It's all about balance and self respect.

You can be a kind man; Just don't be a door mat.

You can be a peaceful man; Just don't be a harmless man.

Your estimation of your self should trump that of anyone else.

Sha Don't die early because you are trying to develop a heavy spirit all in the name of red pill.

Liliantalks:
So I’m the only one or what

What you described is the beginning of sexual retardation.

Eventually you will Bleep up your mind so badly that you will not be aroused by humans again, but your hand+toys+porn.

It's a very real issue.

Because the true owner of that house might come and check on her that night.

...

I don't pay any of these "reports" any mind.
With these things, Somebody simply isn't listening to someone or is ignoring the other.

There are some married people who don't even believe in marriage counselling.
With an attitude like that, such an idiot is set to fail.

Unless one or both of them are demons, both can sit down and reason things out from a place of LOGIC and fairness.
E.G. There are some clueless guys whose wife is the financial breadwinner holding down the house financially, and yet he would still open his stinking mouth to say dumb shit like "I am the man of this house, you must do what I say". If said man had sense, those kind of words will not be leaving his mouth until he truly takes care of the responsibilities of that home. Not just by empty smelly mouth.

You want to Bleep you cousin?

It honestly depends.
Where you both in an actual defined relationship? Then yes ghosting is rude and an explanation is warranted.

If you both just went on a few of dates, and where just in a nebulous undefined thing, then chop that ghosting with your full chest. You don't need an explanation over what never solidified.

1Sharon:
The Nigerian government told them to relax and remain calm!

Why would anyone, in their right mind, listen to the Nigerian government about a situation the Nigerian government has no power in?

And even if it did i.e at home, how much is life valued there?

If na me o, I for carry my bag jeje and head over to next country before bodies start to fall. You don't take those kind of risks!

jcross19:
you want peace to reign but the EU and america are sending hundreds of millions of euros to Ukraine to get weapons and fight! Is that how to make peace? Huh even the western wants Ukraine to fight so that they can penetrate Russia!! The world leaders are just bloodsuckers pretending to be peace lovers...

Another one of Putin's personal balls sniffers.

One thing I still don't understand is why Africans waited till last minute to flee Ukraine when the countdown to war began.

Putin gave them a clock before the gbege started.
If I were a foreigner in a country with that kind of clock on its head by a mad thug like Putin, I would have fled O. Especially since when things get hot, Ukraine will prioritize it's citizens over you. Why wait to become a second class citizen in a war?

Please continue this thread here: https://www.nairaland.com/7004647/ijaw-men-depend-wives-money

Interesting perspectives thus far.

Chrisdiv1:
My ijaw neighbor is one on them. He depends on his girlfriend for all financial aspect of his life. They had a child in December 2020. Although the baby came unplanned as they were just having fun. The guy had to rely on friends to soothe the hospital bill and baby loads. Even the apartment was rented by the guy elder sister, when he got someone pregnant. His baby's mama nearly died from breast feeding with an empty stomach. I can not count how many times they came knocking on my door for almost anything begabble. I couldn't say no because of the mother and her poor child.

Fast forward to to this day. The girlfriend is the bread winner of the home. She sold her phone to start up a road side indomie joint. The guy still stays at home from money till night, when he goes out to meet with friends and side chicks. Spending the girlfriend hard earn money on those side chicks.

I could remember the very day, the girl came crying to my sister that came visiting, telling her that the guy laid his hand on her because she refuse to give him her business money. Because her guy's sexual escapades has come to her notice. When ask why she has refuse to leave the relationship, she said "The guy can fu*k so well". And she doubt if any one of her present admires can give it her as hot.

Presently, the landlord Just served them a quick notice because their rent was due and they couldn't meet up with the rents. The guy is depending on his girlfriend to rent another apartment. According to her she is likewise saving for it.

I don't want to even talk about the guy's elder brother that stays with them. He is an issue on his own. Too dependant on people, mostly on their girlfriend/spouse. While giving them good sex as payment. The girl sound track is so baahhh. Mehn. Always high and uncontrollable.

Wowu.
Looks like this thread was double-created.
Please repeat this post here https://www.nairaland.com/7004647/ijaw-men-depend-wives-money.

Vinnie2000:
Its nothing like Defending here!

No Urban area or City man sits idle at home all day, waiting for his wife to provide.

What u wrote there happens only in Villages/communities!

And where do some Ijaw men come from? Is it not the same villagers and communities?

A close friend of mine is about to marry an Ijaw guy. He doesn't have much going for him yet (New to Yankee, no Kpali), but as always, no condition is permanent... at least this is her hope. She however is doing okay and I guess loves him enough to support him through this claimed-temporary period of his life.

However, Many people recently have been saying that it is a cultural norm for Ijaw men to depend on their wives for their finance and feeding. I have heard this from old Ijaw men. I'm thinking only losers would proudly mention such as a cultural norm

This is the first I have heard of this and I don't think my friend would want to end up with a man in the future who thinks that way, especially when she is already handling so much financially. Can anyone shed more light on this?

What are the chances of an Ijaw man who grew up there, maintaining the status quo of feeding off his wife even after promises of changing the situation after settling.

Is this a true cultural norm amongst the Ijaw?

NO INSULTS please. mature responders only.