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You guys should read the book "Ask for the Ancient Paths" by Jessica Jones.
The author was shown a lot of things that happened before the time of Adam and Eve, including the heavenly drama of how Lucifer deceived other angels. Very insightful stuff.

The link to the audio book is in this thread: https://www.nairaland.com/7245297/ask-ancient-paths-jessica-jones

VeryWickedMan:
There are many non-tech remote jobs like customer care reps, sales executives, product managers/owners, software testers etc.

Pay is by experience level. $1k-$1.5k for beginners, $2k-$3.5k for mid and $5k+ for experienced roles depending on your field. Bear in mind that you have an 80% chance of being shortchanged if you have a Nigerian supervisor who will slash your pay and give you like 50% or less of these figures.


I supervise some African devs and I slash their salaries by more than 60% sometimes and divert it for myself. $500 is already big salary in Nigeria so any of them that complains gets kicked out at the next appraisal and replaced ASAP with someone who's willing to accept even less.

Very wicked man indeed

A few things,

Nigerians have a culture of overly taking advantage of everything to excess so it will be tough.

Also a lot of business processes in Naija are still fairly analogue.

Also the uncertainty of infrastructure means you can't trust your good employee won't run into NEPA or data problem in the middle of an important meeting which they would have to resolve with their own personal resources. The only way to control such scenarios is to have them come in to a space where you are already actively paying to take care of and control those environmental factors.

1Sharon:
What does she say that is backed up by science?

Listen to it.

She gives a scriptural and also scientific account of some of the things she talks about (e.g DNA, RNA, Dark matter etc)

Kobojunkie:
Better yet, read the information at this link so you can open your eyes to the truth that has been before men for 1000s of years in regards to what is written in even that verse you referrenced there.

https://www.nairaland.com/7238974/why-both-jesus-satan-referred#114959838

You carry yourself in circles and arrive at no point because you have already been instructed.
Either way, your derailment has nothing to do with the book mentioned in this thread.

Kobojunkie:
You can immediately tell that the book is full of lies. Why? Because Jesus Christ is the Bright morning star. There is no other character named Lucifer in all of scripture. So, this book simply contains nothing but another stretch of the same old fable that men have been telling since Jesus Christ announced that the violent intend to take the Kingdom of God violently.

Isaiah 14:12

Read that and be silenced from now hence forth.
You are either lazy, confused, or a liar.

I just discovered this book and it is really deep.
It's the testimony of a lady who says God showed her visions of the time before current creation, even before the creation of Lucifer and the angels.

The author backs the vision up by science and also scripture.
She was also given a tour of the millenial reign. Learnt a lot of things that can be confirmed with scripture.

The audio book: https://open.spotify.com/album/2vDYBrIbCEFlQPph41Xg4k

I am surprised that this book isn't popular.

cococandy:
False. No one has ever asked my child to change their gender… where are children being forced to change genders like this? I want to know where and I’ll be there protesting with my placard. You can’t even force your child to change their gender much less someone else’s child. Lol




He’s far right. So is Tucker Carlson and co

I can't argue. Please find and watch the movie "What is a woman" by Matt Walsh.

cococandy:
I would be moderate (and ideologically it may even sound like am) but moderates are the reason why the right wing advances all the time.
The right followers are staunch like a cult. So they never waiver. But moderates divide the left vote hence the right with their racism and their isms keep winning.

We don’t even have a far left in America. Most are centrist, left centrists and leftists. There’s nothing far leftist in America. Otherwise we would be more advanced like other far left nations

Far left are the people forcing gender changes on your children before they even know how to spell their name.
They all want to be allies.

I wouldn’t call racists like this far right. They are more “alt right”. A forgotten and sad minority clinging on to memories of evil things they can no longer do lest they be wiped out. They can say all they want. Nobody cares.

This is why I am always politically moderate in yankee.
Can’t be having the same political alignments with gender confused nazis on the far left trying to police me and my childrens thoughts and words, nor racist losers like this on the far right.

1Sharon:


They will soon come and say you want to stop their progress and don't want them to travel abroad

Imalma1

Abroad is not for them if they have not gotten that cave-man/cave-woman foolishness out their system.
It will only land them in jail or slapped by a teenager in the street like that old idiotic naija woman in the UK.

- You feel you should be worshiped because of age seniority even when you are being direspectful to a younger person.
- You feel someone giving you a heads up (FYI) about something means they are trying to make you look stupid (especially if that person is younger). Because your age makes you psychic and know all.
- You feel unrelated adults younger than you and who do not know your last name cannot call you by your first name without brother/sister/uncle/aunty or some other fake familial title.
- The thought of your wife having a voice in the house is something you can't deal with. (This singular point contributes to a major percentage of all "Boohoo I brought my wife here and she messed me up" stories)

I could go on, but bottom line, leave your excessive self-importance in Nigeria or please remain there for the sake of you and everyone's mental health.

Nobody cares.

This is a PSA.

- You focus excessively on age seniority.
- You feel someone giving you a heads up (FYI) about something means they are trying to make you look stupid (especially if that person is younger).
- You feel unrelated adults younger than you and who do not know your last name cannot call you by your first name without brother/sister/uncle/aunty or some other fake familial title.
- The thought of your wife having a voice in the house is something you can't deal with. (This singular point contributes to a major percentage of all "Boohoo I brought my wife here and she messed me up" stories)

I could go on, but bottom line, leave your excessive self-importance in Nigeria or please remain there for the sake of you and everyone's mental health.

Nobody cares.

This is a PSA.

Why was that idiot at 0:18 still giving FU finger to somebody?
Some females just lack respect.

this old woman talk for yourself,other ladies are not rude and badly behaved like you,just cause you no get manners doesn't mean we must All follow,your write up stinks of total. Frustration,cause no normal human will take social media as a place to vent all there stupid character,so just go find chair and sit old lady and watch the little girls of yesterday get married while you attend the weddings to eat free rice

Always good to see a babe with sense!

1vid:
I am currently working with a church that pays me 61k monthly.

I have a calling to start up my own ministry and I am there for learning.

So, I am thinking to quit to start a job job as a sienna driver in a company that pays 50k monthly, I just want to experience outside work and also raise money to start up my ministry.

So, I need some advice.

If you are truly called as you say, shouldn't this be a conversation you should be having with The Holy Spirit?
Sounds to me like ministry is just a "job" for you and you actually have not built relationship with who should be giving you direction at this point in your life.

Before asking a bunch of nairalanders, what has God told you?
If you cannot hear God for yourself, how can you hear God for others?

Sadly there are many "pastors" like this. Never heard a word from God in a while or all their life, relying only on jingoism and theatrics to woo crowd.

pocohantas:
I like to think there is no right and wrong to this question. I might be wrong though.

This is one of those "read the room" questions.
Technical interviewers would like to hear job well done. Business side interviewers would like to hear on time.

But honestly the best response you can't go wrong with is Achieving balances through Compromise.

begoniaa:
Yes, you are. You don't necessarily have to be 40, but you are definitely an advanced bachelor, and a two-weeks-old newspaper.



Ehya. Clutching at straws now, are we? But let's agree I am one the women whom you speak to, given my responses, do you think speaking to other women like you are doing will change anything? Yes! You know we won't hear! You know. Do I look like someone who is ready to calm down and modify my behaviour for a man? Do I? So you see how pointless and useless your thread is? No be all of us dey find husbands o, and not all of us are desperate for pricks. So forget it with whatever gaslighting and smokescreen trick you're putting up. Goan remove the log in your own eyes, fess, old boy, before you come to speak to other older women. Despite all the standards you have been posting in your previous threads, why you still never "catch" one banny to call your own? Young girls have not finished in the world, so why don't you go for them instead and leave advising "old cargoes" that no man would pick alone? Leave us. Leave women alone and mind your goddamn business! You don't have to beat women down just so they'll come running into your hands. Abi how has that worked for you all these years?



Yes. Yes, that's what I am arguing against. Every blessed day, ALL of your threads are directed to women. All. Like men always have no faults at all. Always analysing every blessed thing about a woman's life and every phase of her life. How to do this and that just to be considered worthy of marriage. Go and rest. Is a man automatically ready for marriage by default? But no, you will not address your deluge of advice to them. You are not in any place to advise anybody- in the manner you have done. Condescending and speaking over, talking down on women. No matter how "genuine" you think your advice is or how good you have packaged it. Quit advising women on what to do or not do to get married. It is exhausting and boring and unimaginative already. Since time immemorial, you all have been preaching this and you are still doing so, yet you think the fault is from women? All of the women who followed your advice and got married to bad men who ended up beating and killing them or cheating on them, where are they? You said unpleasant things are more suitable for masculinity, so yeah, women should keep building themselves into pleasant feminine beings for unpleasant men- what's the strawman argument there? Is it not what you said?



For your mind, you think say you dey insult me? I no go grow old before? What will age 50 teach me? Regrets? According to you? Because you are the author and finisher of my faith?



Greet yourself, Oga.

H-Aunty, I already said you are right and I am wrong.
What are you still vibrating about?
Such a sad display of pain, frustration, and loneliness.
What you are feeling would not have been so if you listened to things like these much earlier in your life.

You are not the audience of my thread. You have already gone off the deep end and if you are happy there then be happy there. Misery and pain loves company though as seen by your furious responses on this thread.

Also, stop repeating the same thing. You and I know there are some women who love and prefer very bad men who dominate them, and that's good if that's what they want. Such can be the male-female dynamic. But I won't go deep in there with you because that is not the point of this thread.

To any YOUNG women reading this thread, to have or not have a true feminine attitude, na your choice.

Itohanmiwa:
Op trust me it's just a phase that will pass. First thing you need to do is stop masturbation immediately, it's making you mentally redundant without you knowing. Then get your kit in the morning and run like hell. After jogging, come back home sleep and wake up. Do this for 2 -3 weeks and you will notice a significant improvement in your mental health. Flee from masturbation op don't listen to any rubbish justifying it. In summary your solution is 3 fold. Stop masturbation, start jogging and rest very well. Do these and you will be fine. That i assure you.

it's only women that recommend masturbation so much because last last if their kini doesn't work anymore or becomes desensitized, they will just push the blame to the man anyway and say "he is not knacking me well". Only a feminized foolish man takes sexual health advise from someone who doesn't have a penis.

begoniaa:
Claim I am making strawman arguments by making strawman arguments and ad hominem points against me. Beautiful.

No, I don't need to listen to anything from you "for my own good." How utterly delusional, childish and condescending you sound. I am not the one looking to get hooked up with anyone on NL.

If your posts spanning as far back as many years is any indication, you're the one running low on time in your search for a partner. Don't come and be forming brand new for anyone here by acting like you are really concerned about women or care in the slightest for them. Preaching a sham of 'respect, submission, expiration' and whatnot to hoodwink them into settling down.

Have you tried advising yourself? Have you considered that you are single too for the same reasons you think that lady in your 40+ get-together (gathering) is single? Have you?

If you want to go personal, I'll roll with you. If you want to address my argument and its "logical fallacies", do so. If you can't, keep it moving.

Well I'm actually not single, neither am I 40+.
From the way you have taken this faceless thread so personally and with such deep hurt, it would seem you are clearly one of the 40+ yr old single women who have refused to hear word.

Because what are you even arguing against?
"Don't be rude or so quick to anger? Be graceful? Don't be quick to insult? Don't be cruel to those that serve you? Extend grace to others?"
If these things are so anti-synchronous to your nature that you have to keep on clawing at the wind and manufacturing strawmen arguments over this thread then...

Don't worry hanty. Continue. You are right, I am wrong, and age 50 awaits you most likely in the same state of affairs.

I greet you ma.

FreeSpirited:
You are a big Mumu..Who thinks he has sense.
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Never u put yourself and wisdom in one sentence. Cos it's far from you

K

FreeSpirited:
Op...
Never in ur life write whatever bullshit epistle about women and talk down on redpill.
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Na men like u dey suffer Las Las from woman hand cos u give a big damn about a woman....u expect so much and u think u can change a woman with ya words... U are jsut talking to the wind......
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In all your doings...never you push a narrative that redpill is about bitterness ..unless I swear for you..cos u don't even know shit about redpill.
Take time....and get sense...

Enjoy your labels.
Common sense and basic wisdom does not need labels and "gang thinking". It is the same way you people complain about "feminists" Abi? That's just one side of the same coin.

Free yourself to act simply on the precepts of wisdom and self respect and everything will be fine. You don't have to enslave yourself with all these labels.

Greatzeus:
This is nothing to be proud of because penis sizes are natural, nobody created himself.
When are we going to be the best in things that involves mental sagacity and creativity. Like creating things that make the world a better place to live in?

Don't mind these people.
Always jubilating over basic things. Last last, a woman who has not destroyed and overstretched her vagina can be sexually satisfied for life with 3 inches of anything otherwise there will be no lesbians.

I really want to see the youth focus on more than just these baseline existence factors.

Magnoliaa:
I did not even see this. So women are expected to be good, men are expected to be bad. Tell me, when you say things like this, why do you blame women for gravitating towards bad men and remaining with them?

Obviously to you, the main thread of masculinity is UNPLEASANTNESS. So it is ideal for men, and a large number of them to be unpleasant. Pray tell then, why do you all still turn around to shame women for sticking with the avaliable lot of y'all?

When a woman stay with an aggressive man, is it a bad decision or her natural makeup? Because they cannot be both at the same thing.

Y'all say shit like masculinity/femininity are natural dictates, yet turn around to insult women for displaying the same feminine traits — when it doesn't suit you.

"M: A man is a/the provider.

F: I want a man with money.

M: Olosho, gold-digger.

F: I am sorry. I will be independent. I will make my money...

M: And you think a man will marry you? You want to emasculate him? What is there for him to provide in your life? Na Shiloh you go end las las. Continue doing everything alone as if you're built for it.

F: Okay, I will make my money and still spend my man's money.

M: It's like confusion is in your DNA. Why will you have your money and still be spending his? *Dribbles, dribbles, dribbles*

F: We will make our money individually and not spend anything together.

M: Bonding and connection is the glue of a marriage. And you think that is companionship? Na you e go affect pass. Women want love and need it to thrive, not some mechanical and emotionless relationship *Spits, spits, spits*

F: Okay! We'll share everything together and do everything together.

M: Equality? That is not possible in a marriage. The man will get cheated. Who will focus on domestic duties? Because we're not built for it...

F: *goes to hang over the rail at Third Mainland Bridge at this point due to exasperation* I am sorry for existing in fact. Na to go off myself remain like this.

M: Nooooo. Don't. We are babies. We cannot survive with y'all in the world... forget all our mouth making, we still need women. We hate you. We do hate you and will like it if you all were dead, but we actually need to hate you and love to hate you...if you were not alive who are we going to direct our bile to? It's just from a good place... Just take it in stride...


Phew.

To each their own, but writing walls of text filled with these many strawmen arguments and other logical fallacies only exposes you as either:

- A woman who needs to read, absorb and listen to the OP for her own good; OR
- A man who has much to gain from having fuckable unmarried women swarming the market. The devil (AKA you) did nothing but fuel the delusion of Eve and sat back and watched her do his work for him.

Either way, I greet you.

UpInTheSky:
What "aggressive tendency" did you "sense" she was "trying to curb" during your one-time interaction with her at the event, after approaching her with preconceived notions? Do elaborate with precision.

It's "a bit late", according to whom? I know two women who have gotten married in their 40s, and I'm sure there're lots more out there. Men, it's not your place to give women deadlines, not when y'all age far quicker than women.

She can still marry, if she wants to, and if she's "fucking beautiful" (via her taking care of herself or genetics), then she has options and is probably the one doing the choosing, not y'all.

Whether you admit it or not,
marrying in her 40s for a woman is LATE.
Most women want to experience motherhood but menopause also starts in the 40s. How is that not late?

Scientifically by age 35, a woman only has 10% of the eggs she was born with. That's 90% of her eggs gone. 40 is late for a woman to start that, and delusions won't change that. I am not saying that means she should go and kill herself. Heavens no. Having these facts in mind as facts, not "manipulations of patriarchy", will help women maintain the most relevant frame of mind about these matters.

A bad attitude can cost a woman who doesn't understand these things until it becomes a bit late in the game. It's all quite unnecessary. Beauty is not the only consideration most men of value (i.e men she wants) choose a wife with.

Magnoliaa:
What irony. Telling women not to talk down on people by talking down on them.

Yes, she is a dust and a nobody. I can see that you are not just any dust, but a gold- and star-dust, and that has given you the impetus as a somebody to advise them. Ka'are.

All I will sha say to you if e be say na wife you dey find for NL, aje awa o. Market go move well well.

Posted a food picture that almost seemed like your were advertising yourself and where you live and perhaps cooking prowess. Followed it up simultaneously with a post lecturing women to calm down and put a wedge to their attitude just so that man can pick them. "Be feminine so I can find you worthy of dating... You're the one time is running out for, no be me... I am a catch, so let me pick you." Mmkay. Nice misdirection. Haqhaqhaq...

Well done simp lord.
I have Sha spoken. If you like, go and open your own thread encouraging women to have bad attitudes.
Abi who would you still have to be fucking and side-chicking if all these women are married early?

UpInTheSky:
Umm, your post indicates that you didn't know this woman personally. You simply listened to hearsay (which isn't a credible source of information) from men whom she might've turned down and are now butthurt, met her thereafter and other than you assuming she needed a man you didn't have a negative encounter with her. Yet somehow you're taking the men's side that her singleness must be because of her bad attitude? Please make is make sense, because it's giving illogical.

I could actually tell from my interactions with her that she was "trying" to curb an aggressive tendency. I could feel the "subdued rage" seething but held back. These things are waves that can be sensed by men (we are the ones that look for wives).

Peace is a spirit.

What the men said simply verified it.
She is trying to do the work, but it's a bit late in the game.

Munzy14:
Interesting read...

Beauty of a woman is buried deeper in her Character..

And that of a man is how confidently focused he is plus his cool pocket.

Nasty attitude from either male or female is a huge turn off.....

Bro it is more important with women as a softer attitude is in line with feminity, while a harder attitude, though unpleasant, still lends itself well to masculinity. This is why a woman will be okay and at times even prefer an aggressive man, but not the other way round.

I feel a burden to talk about this in hopes that it helps some women out there understand something about Attitude.

No, this is not that kind of thread.
This is not some red pill, bitter thread by some bitter fellow. This is not some thread by some loser trying to tell you to "gree for every guy that comes your way".
These are the words of a brother, uncle or father... to a sister, niece or daughter.

You can have all the beauty and money, but if your attitude is shit, it will get you bleeped sure, but it will repel your helper.
Do you really need to talk down to that other human being? Do you go around thinking people are subhuman? Do you go out on a date and belittle the server? Do you have to be a sociopath?
What is your issue that everyone must walk on eggshells around you or face your wrath? Why have you allowed yourself to be a willing vessel for the spirit of offense?

Who/What the heck do you think you are? You are dust (we all are), and to the ground you will return when you die. Be more humble and "down to earth" so the fall is a lot shorter/less harder when you do.

A good attitude is something so cheap and easy to have; the lack of which has prevented so many of God's prime daughters from been chosen for marriage by the men they actually want. Why would he? Men love PEACE.

Why will you wait until you are 40 and single before you "cool down"? What is eating you inside to be so nasty, hateful and vile?

I was at an event and some older married guys in their 40s+ were pointing out to me a woman in her 40s that used to be rude, which led to no man choosing to marry her. This woman was fucking beautiful and was the hottest of all her friends back then.

The older men said she had changed now from our observation. She was no longer haughty and rude. She was more humble, more friendly and was doing things to signal wifeliness like serving people in the party. She and I even talked and I could tell she needed a man.

Sadly, she only got the memo and importance of attitude after all the eligible bachelor's of her generation had left her and married her friends, who all had children running all over the place at the time. Even the guy who was tolerating her years back dropped her and went with who would give him peace and respect. I'm sure this is what caused her eyes to finally open.

Don't let this be you.
BE FEMININE. Do everything with grace, even when turning down people's offers (as you should because you cannot say yes to every body).
Exorcize yourself of the spirit of haughtiness and offense.
You are nobody but for the grace of God. Even your youth and beauty is not yours but rented from God and He will eventually take it away through the various lease expiration systems He has set in place.
Go through life with that understanding and cool the Bleep down before it gets too late. Yes know your worth, but cool down.

Who no like to dey chop snail dey miss.

Girls who cannot Cook peppered snail are not marriage material.

1Sharon:
Bottom feeders.

Wha-iz doing dis one?

Lemme guess, you only eat pizza and burger abi?
You don't even eat potato chips only french fries abi?

Datboredberri:
Eww... I would never eat this sh**...

It's disgusting... Smells bad too... I hate any dish prepared with snails... I would rather starve...

Don't eat this crap and kiss me...

I like suya tho...

Sadly, we can never work out.