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I hope it's not just spending she is doing with that money. 1 million euro is not much.

Is she investing? Is she living off the residuals of those investments? It seems that she isn't if she is throwing away money trying to buy love

wirinet:
As a man you are now doing the right thing. You are the one calling her to try and resolve your family issues.

Having said that, her demand is unreasonable. Beg his brother and dad for what? How did you offend her dad and brother? The problem is between you two, you need to resolve your issues before you even involve her family. If you are to apologise to anyone, its to your wife for all the verbal and emotional abuse you inflicted on her, and she also need to apologise to you you for all her stubbornness and putting her family above you.

You need to take the bull by the horn and ask her if she is still interested in the marriage. You been to schedule a physical meeting, just the two of you to discuss the future of your marriage. You can meet in a public place or the house of a neutral friend or relation. If after discussions she insists on you going to beg her dad as if you are re-asking for her hands in marriage, then consider the marriage over and start divorce proceedings. Take your people to his dad to even discuss what they want from you. I hope you paid her bride price. If they are still unreasonable, return their bride price. Get a lawyer to serve her divorce proceedings.




It's very wrong and cruel to use your son to blackmail you into submitting to their shenanigans. They don't care for the child at all. You need to quickly get the court involved. The fact that they did not enrol your son into school will be to your advantage in custody battle. You should also try and establish if he suffers any type of abuse, like excessive labour or left to roam the streets. Don't abandon you son.

You are right in that its all about the son at this point.
The woman is a lost cause and set out to willingly frustrate the man to this point.

He married very wrongly. OP has still not confirmed what part of naija the wife came from. Me I already have my suspicions.

breakthrough22:
We talked yesterday though I have been the one calling her .She said i should come and beg his brother and dad but I am sure they will take me for granted if I do .I have told her I will never come and I will never send a dime to them .Rather, I do use my money to take goat meat peppersoup and a bottle of trophy every night close to my house.

They all want to take the advantage of me been a nice man right from the beginning .For 2 weeks now ,my son have been out of school but one thing I promised her is that the door is opened for them to come back at any time they like before it gets too late .She should just forget about me coming to beg .

Infact ,I have deleted all her family contacts on my phone .Very soon,I will be fine because I miss my son but ain't shifting ground .

You didn't answer my 2 questions bro.
What inspired you to marry her and where is she from?

I personally can't bring myself to date a girl who isn't generously interested in my well being, talk less of to marry her.

breakthrough22:
Good evenning ,

I created this topic few days ago .

https://www.nairaland.com/7519316/depressed.

She have refused to allow me talk to my son for days now .

I only saw my son once since 26th of December and I am missing him.

I feel empty without my son .I have made up my mind not to call her again but I am having a feeling of incompleteness within me without my son .

I can't even imagine him going to school elsewhere .

As far as am concerned, she kidnapped my son .I keep getting more worried the more I try to forget about the two of them .

Based solely on your previous post, the woman moves in a silly way and definitely took advantage of your good graces.
One then wonders what personality traits you saw in her that led you to marry her. She is what you picked for yourself las las.

breakthrough22:
I need to type this cos of people saying i am mad and all that ..Yes ,i agree i was verbally abusive but you dont know what i have stomached all awhile but because i dont want my son to be trained by only me or her ,so i have managed to be cool ...


What you people don't know is that I sensed because she wanted to go for a date ,that was the reason she said she couldn't come that Saturday.

That same Saturday was the day she refused to pick my calls.The same Saturday, she changed what she used to save my name .She even changed the names she used to save my two lines .

Remember she travelled on the 26th of December and she supposed to come back on Saturday which was 7th but she said NO.


You guys don't even know how I have so much pampered her even before she got married to me .This is someone I paid her school fees throughout her stay in school .Someone her parent and siblings dont even know how she graduated from school .Immediately , she got admission then ,I took over from year 1 to final year .I did the admission for her ,paid her acceptance and school fees ,paid for textbooks ,fed her throughout (kudos to her mum for providing just foodstuff for her )and infact ,even when I was serving in Awka,I had to get myself redeployed to ibadan because of her .I spent all my alawee on her to make sure she graduated. And this is someone that have not used her 1 naira to get me a boxer or even socks ..lols.She is always at the receiving end even when she was still trading in her shop .Someone who can't joke with her ordinary Pepsi with me .

This is someone I always pamper her family (with money )when I was doing fine .Infact ,her dad used to introduce me to his friends then but now that things are not rosy again,they think I am irresponsible .Her late mum really loved me then because I was responsible .But now ,none of them even want to hear me out .I called her brother two days ago ,spent almost 10 minutes with him .He said I should call back but have refused to pick his calls since then .This is her brother that doesn't know how she was fairing in school back then even till she went back to her family house on Tuesday .Same as her sister .She is the last born and I guess that ijebu-ekiti relationship stereotype is is playing out here .

My offence is that since her mum was laid to rest in February 2022 ,I ignore their families including their old dad who is in his 70s.I remember my uncle gave me 50k which I gave her for the burial ceremony cos I was jobless then but I know it is more than that .It is all about me been unable to perform my role as in law

See,this same lady had once slapped me because I dared her to do so back in 2016 when we newly got married but because her mum and family mediated ,I have to let go cos of the love I have for her.

Let me be frank with you all,things changed for me during COVID-19.This is someone i always buy a new phone for every christmas while i get her used phone .She knows I am loving and caring and everyone knows i aleays try my best .
This is someone I opened a shop for but because the shop was out of enough stocks because of lack of money to restock ,she took a loan without my approval and when it was time to pay back ,I shouldered everything and warned her not to do that again.She did the second time and we had to sell things in her shop to pay back .My wife started been idle just last September and it is just 3 and half months and because of my son,there are limits to the kind of job she can do .We are already looking out to get a job for her before she travelled .Infact,I was thinking to get another shop for her since things are already improving.


I have read all the replies and I have made up my mind not to call her again and I thank God I achieved that today. She is ready to come back any time she feels like but I hope it will not be too late .This is someone who have lot of admirers ,someone that still chat with her ex .There was a day I read a message where a man asked her when they gonna meet but I didn't take all these messages serious cos I thought it was normal for guys to chat ladies on Facebook but who knows what happened on Saturday ?

I agree I verbally abused her and I will always be sorry about that .She really messed up but my mind is sealed ,Will never send a dime to her or my son cos I still want her back but I am afraid it might be too late sa.

Person wey even lock her phone before she came that Monday she came .

It's gone !!!!!! I think

I see. Sorry bro, you picked wrongly.
So what inspired you to marry a woman who did not even show any generosity towards you during the courtship?
No be so dem dey do if they like you. You have to make sure she is actually a good person.
It sounds like she was not. Were you just focused on yansh?

Where is she from?

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breakthrough22:
I need to type this cos of people saying i am mad and all that ..Yes ,i agree i was verbally abusive but you dont know what i have stomached all awhile but because i dont want my son to be trained by only me or her ,so i have managed to be cool ...


What you people don't know is that I sensed because she wanted to go for a date ,that was the reason she said she couldn't come that Saturday.

That same Saturday was the day she refused to pick my calls.The same Saturday, she changed what she used to save my name .She even changed the names she used to save my two lines .

Remember she travelled on the 26th of December and she supposed to come back on Saturday which was 7th but she said NO.


You guys don't even know how I have so much pampered her even before she got married to me .This is someone I paid her school fees throughout her stay in school .Someone her parent and siblings dont even know how she graduated from school .Immediately , she got admission then ,I took over from year 1 to final year .I did the admission for her ,paid her acceptance and school fees ,paid for textbooks ,fed her throughout (kudos to her mum for providing just foodstuff for her )and infact ,even when I was serving in Awka,I had to get myself redeployed to ibadan because of her .I spent all my alawee on her to make sure she graduated. And this is someone that have not used her 1 naira to get me a boxer or even socks ..lols.She is always at the receiving end even when she was still trading in her shop .Someone who can't joke with her ordinary Pepsi with me .

This is someone I always pamper her family (with money )when I was doing fine .Infact ,her dad used to introduce me to his friends then but now that things are not rosy again,they think I am irresponsible .Her late mum really loved me then because I was responsible .But now ,none of them even want to hear me out .I called her brother two days ago ,spent almost 10 minutes with him .He said I should call back but have refused to pick his calls since then .This is her brother that doesn't know how she was fairing in school back then even till she went back to her family house on Tuesday .Same as her sister .She is the last born and I guess that ijebu-ekiti relationship stereotype is is playing out here .

My offence is that since her mum was laid to rest in February 2022 ,I ignore their families including their old dad who is in his 70s.I remember my uncle gave me 50k which I gave her for the burial ceremony cos I was jobless then but I know it is more than that .It is all about me been unable to perform my role as in law

See,this same lady had once slapped me because I dared her to do so back in 2016 when we newly got married but because her mum and family mediated ,I have to let go cos of the love I have for her.

Let me be frank with you all,things changed for me during COVID-19.This is someone i always buy a new phone for every christmas while i get her used phone .She knows I am loving and caring and everyone knows i aleays try my best .
This is someone I opened a shop for but because the shop was out of enough stocks because of lack of money to restock ,she took a loan without my approval and when it was time to pay back ,I shouldered everything and warned her not to do that again.She did the second time and we had to sell things in her shop to pay back .My wife started been idle just last September and it is just 3 and half months and because of my son,there are limits to the kind of job she can do .We are already looking out to get a job for her before she travelled .Infact,I was thinking to get another shop for her since things are already improving.


I have read all the replies and I have made up my mind not to call her again and I thank God I achieved that today. She is ready to come back any time she feels like but I hope it will not be too late .This is someone who have lot of admirers ,someone that still chat with her ex .There was a day I read a message where a man asked her when they gonna meet but I didn't take all these messages serious cos I thought it was normal for guys to chat ladies on Facebook but who knows what happened on Saturday ?

I agree I verbally abused her and I will always be sorry about that .She really messed up but my mind is sealed ,Will never send a dime to her or my son cos I still want her back but I am afraid it might be too late sa.

Person wey even lock her phone before she came that Monday she came .

It's gone !!!!!! I think

Okay so clearly threats don't work with your wife.
So you have to change your approach to sitting down and TALKING.
Not talking DOWN at her. Not just issuing commands and warnings...but TALKING.
I see her doing those things to spite you because of the way you make her feel small with your insensitive words and severely low emotional intelligence.

You are the leader. You are the problem. Inspire her and don't belittle her. Recruit her ego to fight for you, not against you.
Get better and work on your emotional intelligence.

breakthrough22:
Ok if that's your judgement and the reason for her to pack her things ,then it is cool

Guy are you mental?
No joke, you are showing textbook signs of sociopathic and narcissistic mental disorders.

Go and see a psychiatrist and get your mind sorted out. You are not mentally fit to interact with other human beings right now. You are a walking toxin.

DEAL WITH YOUR MENTAL PROBLEM before you Bleep up not just your wife's life, but your son as well. Again, YOU ARE NOT MENTALLY FIT for any serious human interaction.

Do you understand that it is only someone with mental problem that threatens his wife to leave and you never want to see her again... only for her to take your threat seriously and leave and then here you are acting surprised that she did and trying to posture yourself as the victim of your family leaving you?

You. Have. Problems.
Your family is not the problem here.
You are supposed to be the leader of that house.
Do you know what a leader even is? It is not a fool that talks and shouts anyhow.

Who are you speaking to that can counsel you on these grown up things? You have the mind of a child.

zedegit:
You sound like a child. You told her to leave angrily and you are also saying you didn't Chase her?

He is a very stupid idiot. You see it too

OP This is the writing pattern of a person, male or female, who knows they did something wrong to warrant the other person leaving... but get on social media to start typing nonsense and incomplete statements to gather pity from ill-informed clueless strangers.

OP, what did you do to your wife? only you know. Tell the whole thing objectively. otherwise, I am not giving your manipulative thread any of my precious emotional energy.

pansophist:
Abi.

Some people are funny. When I look at some really fat people, I just said to myself. The reason why you're fat is because you live in a time where you don't have to run from your farm because of a tiger ambush.

Predators by default targets the old, the sick, the young, the fat, or deformed, since they will be of little difficulty to hunt. Fat folks are lucky, this ain't 17th century anymore.

You can use Uber, order food online, and enjoy the comfort of modernity. The system is basically your lifeline, and when war happens and you have to walk from Lagos to Accra as a refugee, death awaits you.

How can one make themselves so weak? Your body is your temple. And one can't have a strong mind, without a strong body. It's impossible. I can tell how responsible a person is just by their weight.

Your weight is one thing you can't blame the economy, Buhari, your parents, or any scapegoat on. It's your sole responsibility to be healthy, and it's cheaper to be healthy if you know your way around food.

What if you have to run to save yourself? I know how many time just being fit have saved me from problem. An example was when I lost my wallet on my way home, and don't have my cards to buy train tickets.

I entered the train without a ticket and was watching like a thief to avoid being caught. I was lucky to reach my final destination but as I was getting out of the check out gate, the ticket conductors blocked me.

Asked for my tickets and I start pretending like I wanted to bring it out of my pocket, while calculating how to escape their grip. Ten seconds later when they notice I'm playing an act, they tightened their defense and I said to myself, it's now or never.

These idiots began calling police since they also asked for ID, which was also lost in the wallet. Then I dashed. As in, if any sport scientist could calculate my speed then, ill be faster than usain bolt.

They were two tall, fit guys. They chased me for like 30 seconds, then they realised I was so fast, and they tuned back. God knows I was dead scared, and only my legs could save me that day.

See as two white men they chase one black boy for street. People just de pause to watch. A classical police and thief scenario

Another one would be when I was hanging out with a bunch of student who were smoking weed, making noise and the neighbour called the police unknowingly to us. When they arrived, one of the guy noticed and zoomed off.

We all saw the zoom, then follow suit. Omo, see run. They caught the girls with us, and some of the guys, and of course all the fat or unfit guys we're whisked off to police station. Thank God they were random dudes who didn't know my house, I for enter wahala that day.

So aunty poster, I agree with you. Health is an individual responsibility.

Eh we don hear, but guy, why all your scenarios for fitness involve criminality?
Be like say you be tout.

You are a simp.
And she did not enjoy the sex she had with you.

Always understand that if she is not having sex with you, it's not that she is not having sex, it's that she is not having sex WITH YOU.

You are the one taking care of her daughter, but she is giving yansh to Tunde and Emeka and making up funny excuses as to why you won't get it from her.

A single mother is the lowest of the low to date. She should be worshipping the ground you walk on for you blessing her with your presence and even bothering to pull her hair and spit in her mouth while f*cking her. Instead she is making demands. She clearly has no respect for you, because you have no respect for yourself. I wish Nigerian guys lose this mentality of needing to prove themselves to women that don't even respect them.

You're down bad bro. Make more successful guy friends.

E no balance.

Whoever votes for BAT, may the suffering of everyone in that country be upon your head.
You will personally pay for the damage on all those people's destiny from your own destiny bank balance.

It's fucking obvious that you should not be using your choice to vote for this man.

She collect raw dick and cum so tey she get belle a whole 1.5 times?
Guy wetin remain for you again for that thing? Na bottle of coke boys don drink finish spit inside sef you wan kon buy?

No use low-mind cheat yourself sha, but if you must (you don't), simps are a necessary part of the ecosystem.
Broke fat ass girls still need to eat to maintain their fat asses. If simps like you don't feed them, who will?

Anyway, from okafor's law, when that guy show up again, she go still give am bottle make him spit put, and she go kon give you make you sha drink. In her mind, na your way.

You don't even need game to knack out here.
You just have to love yourself first pass any woman.
Confidence will get you everything out here.

I am also very picky in that I am only sexually attracted to black women.
My dick is racist like that.
When it comes to dating, I only do classy Nigerian girls because compatibility.
Dem plenty.

TLDR, OP I can't relate!

CharlyG1:
This revelation speaks of "God's Judgement" that is coming.

It talks about a Great Famine that is coming, Total Collapse of World Economies & Governments, and Disease. There will be plenty plenty plenty deaths. COVID -19 was nothing.

I have not had enough time on my hands. By the grace of God, I will give this interpretation in full details later.

I can confirm the great famine. Been seeing that coming for a while now in my dreams around that same time period.

HeyCorleone:
Show me any Catholic who prays to Mary.


Son you gonn learn today.

I don't even understand why you are arguing. Praying to Mary is all y'all do with the shrines and rosaries. Unless you're tryin to tell us that catholics become possessed occasionally and forget what comes out of their own mouths and what shrines they kneel before.
https://www.nationalshrine.org/blog/3-marian-prayers-of-protection-hope/

"‘O Mary, Mother of God, as you are above all creatures in heaven and on earth, more glorious than the Cherubim, more noble than any here below, Christ has given you to His people, firm bulwark and protectress, to shield and save sinners who fly to you. Therefore, O Lady, all-embracing refuge, we solemnly recall your sweet protection and beg the Christ forever for His mercy. Amen.’"

It's like Jesus saw this very thing happening and that is why he kept a respectful distance from any earthly familial affiliations that would lead to exactly what you people have decided to dive balls first into. But then again, if you are a true scholar of the history of the Catholic sect, then you will know its true origin is from the Old Babylon Mother-Child religion. It was a mish-mash of pagan religions along with Christian principles to make the "one religion" at the time for political togetherness reasons. Until Martin Luther allowed himself to be used by God to set things right.

Sad story.

She's giving tranny vibes