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@iice: dear, like u read my mind. am soooooooooooooooo tired of this virginity-absorbed posters! then dey take am collect money for bank?

i think u know the solution 2 ur situation!

@luxorie: rather unapologetic, but a very honest opinion!

the ungodly union of a bastard and a LovePeddler= ralphorb! idiot

this is another over-trashed issue, haba! we all know is a conditional yes. ;

every tech innovaton is always going to be subject to d manipulations of its inventor (man). i don't see this as d ultimate solution.

Ivvie:
@Osereka && Xjovial: there are plenty of women who refuse to buy into the system. A true Christian (heaven bound) does not wear trousers.

Alot of women dey go hell fire o!

@omo eko: u too get xperience, u be bad girl oooooooooo

all this talk about dancers being good in bed, for all those who can't dance , there's the good ol' ODEKU.

@amaikama: he's not the only one but definitely all the "Ogas" are gettin paid.

@Caradona: u'd be amazed how insentive and arrogant some employers are, if devil see them, he go bow!

is he working rite now? just curious.

am soooooooooo tired of posts like this! its so depressing that our lives revolve over-trashed issues like this.

stereotype!

dear, its gr8 to know u recognize ur inadequacy and ur ready to work on it. nothing can beat that will so keep it up.

This is so freaking unbelievable!!!
never knew stuff like this go on in naija now o! have u tried gang-beating/bashing him? maybe he'll wake up from his madness.

like drrionelli said, cut d crap about being embarrased and your boss know, he can take his money to hell 4 all u care, i suggest u also change ur phone line so that u can get some sanity from his wacky calls asap. dis wan pass me o!

humans tend to love with conditionalities and that we're it becomes twisted.

i think this post belongs to the section "off topic"

@caradona: very funny! but its a good start u know. revenge is best served frozen!

omogenaija:
o yea , i 4got to add that the poster is a BAD FRIEND !!!! learn to think with your head instead of your d !ck

yup!

@ poster:through all your story, u made yourself look so defenseless and weak, but i dnt buy that because this same girl won't drag u through fire and u will follow

that's d spirit

@omo eko:av u had a similar xperience?  i feel your pain, i never knew this would get across 2u that explicitly. don't worry, your a survivor!

@poster:Usually there's a spark b4 the big blaze! atimes pple feel/fall in love sub-consciously from day one (spark stage), at this point u av questions, but i dont think that such love should be professed until there's a strong conviction that its for real (blaze stage) at this piont u av answers. the difference between this 2 stages is all a matter of "TIME"

i dont think i wrong to feel what he feels in such a short time, but acting on it at once is rather too fast and i guess that why u freaked out.

u also should giv him time, u mite find out that there's more to the things u like about him apart from his gifts.

this is can quite confusing atimes!

i hav a friend (a lady) who was @ this crossroad somtime back. she got so confused and she couldn't make up her mind until she decided to come down from her emotional uphill & the truth was ;

-she loved one because of the things he did only (conditional)
-she loved the other no matter what he did (unconditional)

I guess it is possible to love 2 pple, but love them equally, NO!

Hopeozah:
Was in this situation some months back, but mine was with a Witness, I am a christian. But we had to call up the relationship, thought it was hard but the glaring truth was that, there was no future for us.

It truly wont be easy for you, but if u are a practicing christain and you know what u want from this race, u have to make sacrifices, and this could be one.

word!

ThoniaSlim:
@topic
if you both cannot compromise because of certain differences then you both go your separate ways and stop wasting your time.

well said

Ndipe:
Either you convert to my religion (Christianity), or no marriage!

That's not compromise, its more like coercion

@poster: just another good girl gone bad! life ain't fair.

hmmmmmmmmmm, Lookin into my crystal ball, i can see depreciation setting in on your emotional investments. ur man ain't feeling u no more and thats usually the down & dark part of the love cycle before it finally crashes. u gotta do something fast before he becomes so cold and he turns to ice block!

seriously, maybe he's got alot on his mind, jst talk to him (real talk & not sexy vibes),he mite jst warm up and let u know why u guys aint on the same frequency.

@poster: in simple terms,ur looking for a housemate or workmate? which is it

religion is not a thing of the mind, its a way of life.

@poster:

pple will tell u it don't matter but i will tell u "things will eventually & definitely fall apart if you fail to be objective"

our religious inclinations form a gr8 part of our person and existence & people are very dogmatic about this. there are things i would do, accept & believe jst becos of my religion and i carry that consciousness other than that it's no biggie to me.

it's great to be in love bt its even greater when u guys on the same page . doing it over a large and obvious divide makes it "not all that" in the end.

am not saying pple should deny what they feel, but should not deny the truth they already know.  



PS: if this love as strong as you say, then a compromise should be reached and someone should make a switch. i guess thats d ultimate test

@dis guy:

not doing it on purpose? tellin u today, tomorrow then the day after? Haba, it's not fair @ all! let's not 4get that remuneration remains the highest motivational factor for taking up any job in this side of the world. why deny pple their pay after they've earned it?

we live in dark times so i wouldn't totally doubt the anthenticity of such stories. however i don't av first-hand facts to support it either. chikena!

@le:
yeah, not all knowledge is experential, bt u rlly neva know until it happens to u.

guess u've gotten to that point where u wanna find dat special someone.

all the best on lovers lane.

How do you deal with/ditch a non-paying employer?

I got a friend who works in a private consulting firm on the Island as a business officer/strategist, with a nice pay package. He's currently in a fix as he has not been paid in the last 4 months despite several protests made . He incures a lot of cost in coming to and leaving work daily and yet cannot say the company ain't makin money as he sees cheques flying in everyday. with the current state of unemployment, do u think this job is worth holding on to especially as a first job experience? and what manner of slave-drivers are these who do not pay promptly but expect optimum efficiency from their workers?