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My belief is everyone gets into marriage for different reasons. Some for convenience, material things,cildren, love or companionship. What did you get married for? Reevaluate the things that are most important to you. If a child is that important to you i will prefer you have a talk with your wife about how you are being affected. Both of you should give each other a time frame to achieve this goal. If it doesnt happen, then you both can agree to move on, with each party less abused. I am sure at this moment, she is feeling the pressure from you even if you dont say much about it. I prefer that you let her down easily, that to cheat on her and hurt her. Discuss it with her. You both should explore all options. Adoption (if it is for you), IVF, understanding fertility (https://www.nairaland.com/318334/trying-conceive-child-ttc ). A lot of ladies have done a good job on that thread. It may help your wife if she joins such a community. When all options have been exhausted, for her wellbeing i will say you both should come to an agreement. Some women agree to second wife, other's agree to you trying outside, while others will be content with a mutual divorce. Goodluck.

Let's clear some things up here. Were you putting demands on her during courtship to get pregnant before marriage? Were you having careless sex with her? During that period how frequently were you around? I say this because it might be her way of preventing pregnancy with you before marriage. Not necessarily that she is cheating. You need to be clearer on this. You can also sit her down and ask her to tell you the truth because you feel she is lying. If that will clear your mind. I don't agree with ignoring it because it will manifest in other ways. You either start being abusive or not being able to stand her sight. At least knowing the truth you can choose to forgive and move on. As you said you were not a saint either and always moving around. Quite frankly though, I would rather see condoms than postinor 2. . Means she was without protection. And with you too.

. Ayanle made a terrible mistake and is now trying to save face and swim out of this disgrace. Ayanle, not because you see Nigerians put each other down you think you can come and insult the largest "Bantu" population in the world. In case you haven't read a lot of the posts, we are also even more insulting than you can ever comprehend in that your bean looking head filled with self hate. You I.diots have been brainwashed by Arabs to think you are Arabic, maybe they have also hidden all the mirrors in the country too. I wonder why if you are so arabic why you can't lead prayer in a mosque of Arabs. Not even a black scholar imam. They wouldn't even share a tent with any dark skinned person during haj. I pity your kind. You adopt religion but practice it where dem no send you. You even want to shed your skin and wear there own. Yet you are scum and still black in their eyes. I wonder why the desperation to be African but not bantu. Nigerians need to invade somalia with out population and turn you lot to Bantu by force. Maybe we need to start colonizing other African countries before they sell all of us to Arabs.I wonder what you feel when you have this discussion with your Arab friends, and they looking and laughing at the st.upid, big headed, anorexic n.igger carrying their bags wanting to belong. Big headed idi.ots impoverishing and destroying your own country. So you can seem more arabic and muslim than Arabs.

You are not a sharp person at all.Why did you leave Nigeria at all? At someone else's expense and you lack the ability to think or help yourself? Most Nigerian kids are too spoilt to live abroad. Even with school fees paid sometimes you have to get a job to supplement your parents/guardians income. So your uncle was expected to give you money for food, clothes and essentials? First go to your international office and tell them your guardian has stopped paying your school fees because of a falling out in your family. Tell them you are willing to continue schooling, and the school may make a financial arrangement with you on how to pay your school fees installmentally. They will also give you something you can use to work off campus to help make ends meet. Also look out for scholarships that can help you reduce your school fees. If you think you can marry the guy, borrow the money from him and pay the school fees to ease your burden. Pay him back, so that you are not obligated to marry. If all these options fail, join the army. They will sort you out. Never for once believe you can travel abroad and people owe you anything. You have to fight and work hard for yourself. Otherwise you find yourself in trouble. Don't postpone school for 1yr. You will lose your status. Travelling abroad may look good from the outside looking in, but be prepared to work harder that you can ever work in your life if you want to earn a good living

Obasanjo was a beast! See the body. E for save us enough wahala today by just strangling IBB. . Dem dey lift weights that time?

lagerwhenindoubt: http://www.thenigerianvoice.com/nvnews/22123/1/18-nigerians-face-execution-in-indonesia.html

HHmmm.. this smells of a setup by the Yarobas Prison Commander. his mother must be from Osun state

1: Kingsley Okonkwo
2: Michael Titus Igwe (Real name-Izuchukwu F. Ezimoha)
3: Uchenna Cajethan Onyenworo
4: Ekperedike S. Olekama
5: Adam Wilson (real name-Emmanuel Okari)
6: Hillary K. Chimezie
7: Eugene Ape
8: Humphery Ejike.
9: Okwudili Ayotaeze
10: Obinna Nwajiagu
11: Daniel Enemuo
12: Fredrick Lutter (Real name-Benjamin Obiora)
13: Sylvester Nwaolisa
14: Gabriel Nnadi
15: Dennis Anumona
16: Ikenna Ezenwune
17: Stephen Rashid at least dey got one yaroba- i think he is half Mbaise though
18: Joseph Ndaba
19: Ken Michael
20: Obinna George

................................................................ . If we talk now dem go hide the post. E be like dey all of them don disappear. Dem no wan state the obvious.

ayox2003: And how much should Nigerians sue the government that cannot fix roads that caused deaths of their loved ones? How much should Nigerians sue the govt for those that have died due to insecurity in this nation? How much should Nigerians sue the govt for those who have been killed during elections? And how much should Nigerians sue a govt that cannot provide water? How much should Nigerians sue a govt that spends outside the budget? Calculate how much Nigerians have spent to provide water and electricity alone. Talkless of sandfilling potholes, vigilante charges, mai guard, replacement of tires and car spare parts due to bad roads.
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Nigerians just dont know their rights. No wonder one politician said most senators and political office holders are paid "Nigerians ignorance allowance", monthly.

You Arrow, are u afraid of being taken to court? What you and your fellow doctors did is criminal. You took a hippocratic oath and broke it. You should be sued for billions. Ole people.

Why are all the posts hidden? Igbo pple of NL are reporting the posts abi? So they cannot take any yabs but are the first to run on any thread and shout Yoruba. On the Yoruba thread hardly any posts were hidden. Then they will come and shout that everyone on NL is against them. These Mods are tribalistic against Yoruba's.

airmark: You sounded illogical. Two wrongs will never make a right. If Jonathan reinstate Salami, his action is tantamount to contempt of court. It will be a bad precedence in the judiciary. Don't bring sentiment into this. Somebody must challenge illegalities in this country. Whether it's omolara or onome or thisday newspaper, things must be put right in this country beyond tribal, religion or political sentiments.

My friend, try not to ever quote my post. Because I don't follow your reasoning. Doesn't make any sense and you have the guts to say I am illogical and being tribalistic. I wonder where the tribalism in my post came from. Your rush to deny things and class this as illegalities of Salami. Which illegality? Tell me which capable court has been able to prove it you PDP stooge. Men, just park well commot. PDP mumu's suing themselves. The level of intelligence amongst the goons in PDP says a lot about Nigerian's allowing these low intelligence people to rule us. No wonder all they know is how to steal. Thinking ability is not there. If thinking ability is lacking, moral ability is a mere dream.

All the people who lost family member better sue all the doctors for billions. Am sure they have the money from their little clinics on the side. These people have been playing with people's lives. If they like let them go and find work somewhere else na. Why are they fighting to get a job back where they didn't care about the patients. They know any future employer will not hire a troublemaker if they are sacked under these conditions. Except they open a clinic, getting a job under these conditions is almost impossible. LASG should let them sign a contract that they cannot run clinics while they are on employment with the state. Because they tend not to have any loyalty to their work.

Another PDP gimmick with a fake name. Omolara is a feminine name but the newspaper calls the person a "he". This vanguard newspaper since the owner died is being bribed to publish and be the spokes person for PDP. The legacy of the wonderful Ibru's are about to be tarnished by greed. What a pity. Soon people will put this newspaper on the level of the Sun. Was it this same Newspaper that claimed the leader of the Boko Haram was a man from Ogbomosho, Osun state? How about we first discuss how his removal was fraudulent. And when is someone going to sue PDP for mass rigging. Imagine PDP suing themselves under fake names, to try to legitimize their intent.The world is watching. Justice will come at its time.

So, lorokan you wanno kill yourself ontop woman matter. Abeg do am sharp sharp and write in your will that you will donate all your organs. I have people in need of organs. People begging for a chance at life. Even donate your bones sef, make we take some stem cell from there too. Infact your whole body. So that people desperate to enjoy this sweet life will have a chance. What is your blood type and health condition? Kill yourself because of another human being, while she dey enjoy her life. Guy, how old are you? Maybe na puppy love sha. No go get job you hia! Make you dey write story and love song dey go.

Baba Musiwa, this your english get left leg. Ask Alj_Harem to take you to the ile kewu where he has been able to improve his english. A whole mapology professor doing Boko stuff on NL.

Igbo people are not smiling today.See vex and anger everywhere, Onlylies sef disaapeared. Why are Igbo people denying their brother? . . It is nothing personal just business.

Kabiyesi ooooo! Wonderful article and very well articulated. Let all the miscreants targeting Osun state hear this now. Our Oba has spoken. . We will only accept peace in SW. Anything short of that will come with total arnachy, plus serious trouble for trouble makers. Lets get the ball rolling. Pity PDP.

If all you are saying is true. Then am sorry, but your mum has mental, anger, emotional and psychological problems. The fact that she cannot see what evil she is doing shows this. She is even potentially damaging a generation. She has psychologically damaged that boy for life. The question you should be asking here is how to get her help at Aro, and also the boy help at counselling, to rehabilitate him. Trust me, the curse she is placing on you and your generation unborn,is immense. To cleanse yourself and family of this wickedness and karma, its best you take the boy out of the situation and help him. Should he die one day in her care, your whole family will be thoroughly shamed. It only takes him being hit in the wrong place, or just his spirit giving up on life. Wow, what a very sadistic bi*tch. Try and find a mature woman for this your mum that can punch her eyes out. Try not to take your kids or anyone's kids near such a person. Did your father run away? And are you all girl kids? Am saying this because she may be taking out her anger against men on this boy.

No body is denying anything or anyone. The fact of the matter is that this person does not exist in the Ogbomosho community in Kano. That is the first point. The second point is the man doesn't know what state his hometown is? This is a very fradulent report and the Yoruba's have every right to challenge it. They have asked only that facts be produced about this guy but people are defensive. It is obvious there is a lot to hide here and something funny is going on. The Ogbomosho people have been living in peace in their host environment, and we all know Boko Haram is a creation of a certain set of people who we were promised would be revealed in 72 hrs. That 72hrs passed a week ago. Bullshit, Yoruba's are not a stupid set of people. When you want to justify anarchy in the region you make sure you have your best minds and be able to prove your findings. Yes, every Yoruba should be traceable to one house and have a family that can verify their existence.

The thing about paternity is air tight. Yoruba's accept their illegitimate children. Other tribes do not. So you see? Even if he is someone's illegitimate child, he should say his father's name. Surely there will be someone in the family aware of his existence. But he is said to have claimed to be from Ogbomosho and not claimed his father was. So your talk about paternity and illegitimate kids are invalid. He should say his family name and village. The chiefs and baale should be able to verify that claim. Till then, all this is story and a big fairy tale. They first goofed lying that Ogbomosho was in Osun, which Rhino caught.lol. Desperate people.

One thing these people don't understand is Yoruba culture. We are all traceable by family or compound names. No one can just come and say you are Yoruba.

Don't touch that money for now! Just save it. Give the man time to recover from the sack and try to consider his feelings by being sympathetic, but at the same time looking for the way forward. Do your research on the type of business and where his skills will come in most handy. Both of you should sit down and discuss. Is he going to try to find another job or are u both willing to survive on your salary while he floats the business. Not all businesses have instant profit. Some take a while. Sit down, plan your next move cautiously, budget and support! Be ready for the family to live on your salary. Only buy what you NEED and cover the essentials like rent and school fees. Goodluck

Lmao at these two market women drawing blood. Back to topic, OP am ashamed for this guy. Omo you try o. I have been thinking for two days on how to reply or try to understand how this is possible. Were you desperate for marriage? Did you have the financial discussion before? Did he ever come across as a provider or were you providing even before marriage? I don't understand this. Anyway I suggest you first forget housegirls. You can use that money for something else. Let the guy clean, cook and take care of the kids since he has decided to be a woman. That will help you focus on being the provider. In the western world, some men are househusbands, and they do everything a housewife will do. If that is too low for him then tell him when you are leaving early in the morning both of you must leave together to find daily bread or he can pack out! Moremi and CC's advise are also very good. There is no shame in work as long as a man can provide. If you work hard today, your children will cover whatever shame you feel. You set a good example. Also please know an idle mind is the devil's workshop. One day he may sleep with his kids. This is my fear! Anyone that can sleep with underage housegirls can also sleep with their kids when there is no alternative. Goodluck.

Ndu chuks might also be Aljharem. If not, then he's a true Nigerian because even Igbo's are shocked at his fluent command of the language. He's always attacking Igbo's, so I don't think he's Igbo. Ndu_Chuks is most likely Yoruba, but grew up in the North and is a Northerner by thought and association.

. Alj Harem is a Kanuri from Maiduguri or Borno. Aka Achi4u and others yet to be revealed. He said this himself when he was new to NL before he learnt to create 1million names that cut across all tribes. Dalover is also one of his monikers.

PDP at it again. They try to pass of simple solutions to their benefit. I support removal of immunity clause from president to government public officials. But ONLY after their terms have been completed. While in office, immunity must be maintained. PDP will like to use the removal of immunity clause to silence the opposition. Nigeria can never be a one party country again! At least if the government officials know they will be persecuted after leaving office, they will be more careful. This should also extend to all arms of the government, especially Judicial. This means we can prosecute OBJ and IBB. GEJ and his subsidy queens in the nearest future.