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Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by Wallie(m): 2:54am On Jan 15, 2010 |
I don’t think a wife should be submissive to her husbands but she has to treat him with deference. She doesn’t necessarily have to do everything he says, but she has to consider what he said when making her decision. On the other hand, the husband should also respect the wife enough to consider her input. I think most males play the dominant role due to their inherent genetic makeup. Men create a lot of testosterone naturally, a lot more than a woman, which makes them more aggressive. But hormone alone doesn’t account for men playing the dominant role; sometimes it’s just how it is. For example, it is hard to pinpoint why some people are natural born leaders and other would rather follow. Also, how do you explain a relationship were the female takes the dominant role? Some people, Type A personality type, just have to be in charge regardless of their gender. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by GL(f): 3:03am On Jan 15, 2010 |
sugabelly: that's true. it's a problem when a man starts lording it over his wife. i'm naturally submissive and very likely to let others have their way, but i won't let a guy tell me what to do with my life (what to wear, where to go), or impose his will over me. i can't even be in a relationship with a guy who has to have his way all the time, or who doesn't value my contributions. maybe i'm naive but i expect couples to treat each other with love and respect always. sugabelly: sugabelly: i know, and i try to talk tough with them (that's about as tough as i can be). i can't cope with continuous strife, i would either get out of the relationship or keep giving in till i can't cope anymore. i've seen firsthand how devastating it can be to a woman to continuously give in to a man's whims and i just can't do that to myself. that's why i say i can only hope for a good guy, who isn't looking for a woman to control. H2O2: |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by H2O2: 3:11am On Jan 15, 2010 |
GL, I'm going to treat your wink as a yes. LOL |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by bluespice(f): 3:18am On Jan 15, 2010 |
H2O2:tell me u aint ever seen that fuckery before sugabelly:harsh words miss ma'am but your right on so many points |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by H2O2: 3:32am On Jan 15, 2010 |
bluespice:LoL only African Americans |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by bluespice(f): 3:36am On Jan 15, 2010 |
naw man obviously the 'sammich' bit was a borrowed term but it's still the same thing they get butt hurt over the whole submission ish but aint ready to either lift a finger to be useful for themselves or even the woman |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by H2O2: 3:42am On Jan 15, 2010 |
those are useless men. women should know better than to marry useless men. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by bluespice(f): 3:46am On Jan 15, 2010 |
unfortunately, many men still go around with the mentality of 'women are meant to note the possessive noun used. therefore, going by your statement, many men are useless. A statement most ladies have used at least thrice in their lives, meaning they were right, many men are indeed useless. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by GL(f): 3:47am On Jan 15, 2010 |
H2O2: @ Sugabelly, i agree that it's annoying that so many nigerian women freak out if they are single at 25. it's like we're being pressured to get married as soon as possible. it's not a do-or-die affair, better to be single than to get married to a guy you can't live with. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by duduspace(m): 3:48am On Jan 15, 2010 |
Maybe because they like other positions apart from the missionary position. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by GL(f): 3:49am On Jan 15, 2010 |
H2O2: sometimes they put on good disguises before marriage, so the woman has no inclination of how useless her husband is until after several years of marriage. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by Justcash(m): 3:49am On Jan 15, 2010 |
Foriegn babes are more Submissive than Nigerian babes. Fact! They know the value of Nigerian Men. I foresee a growth in the rate of Umarried female adults in Nigeria due to their Neglect of basic cultural and Natural marital roles. If a woman is not submissive to her Man, then She shouldn't get married. She should keep flirting around to make men submissive. Afterall, it is men that fall head over heels (In Love) with them more. That is why they treat men like fools who don't know what they want. Caution for Women that are not submissive: Your husbands will definitely cheat on you once he sees a more submissive woman around. It is pure human nature. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by bluespice(f): 3:50am On Jan 15, 2010 |
H2O2:It doesnt begin to materialise when they marry, sh1t starts when they dating. If i'm dating you, you have absolutely no right to tell me to do your laundry (the fc-uk we got laundrettes for?) if you're sick or other wise indisposed, that's understandable lil things like this are examples; submission to many people (both men and women) is another word for glorified slavery. Glorified cos you get to live in the same house, sleep in the same bed, bear the same surname (the doods will rarely ever let her retain her maiden name for any reason), and have sex together. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by bluespice(f): 3:54am On Jan 15, 2010 |
GL:Quite frankly i think getting married before 25 is a joke, what's the rush? my mom didn't get married till she was 29, don't recall any of her, my dad's or her siblings' stories depicting her as either desperate or lacking suitors. Ladies all over should realise marriage is not a status, it's a full time commitment why rush into it? |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by GL(f): 3:55am On Jan 15, 2010 |
bluespice: any girl that would date such a guy, stick with him and go ahead to marry him deserves anything she gets. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by bluespice(f): 3:58am On Jan 15, 2010 |
submission has been taken to new heights you know. . . hitting if she isn't 'submissive' enough smh |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by Justcash(m): 4:03am On Jan 15, 2010 |
bluespice: You are Pathetic babe, very Pathetic. You better go and get married to a foriegn geek to avoid heartbreaks. Any Nigerian man that tells you that he's okay with your attitude does not LOVE you. He either loves your money, or is in the relationship for some lustful reasons. He will leave you as soon as he is well to do or satisfied, and look for a more submissive woman. My advise, become a lesbian, or an independent spinster, or a constant divorcee. Forget a happy and everlasting marriage. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by bluespice(f): 4:09am On Jan 15, 2010 |
Justcash:several steps ahead of you. i'm not marrying, i don't believe in love and i'm lesbian. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by Justcash(m): 4:11am On Jan 15, 2010 |
bluespice: Very Good. That way, you can remain very happy. I'm happy for you. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by bluespice(f): 4:13am On Jan 15, 2010 |
you're so tiny brained it's adorable |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by GL(f): 4:20am On Jan 15, 2010 |
Justcash: u think it's pathetic that a woman doesn't want to be ordered about? what's wrong with a woman wanting to be respected? if you cannot love such a woman, there are men who can. a man who treats his wife as a glorified slave is pathetic. btw, why do people say "be a lesbian" or something like that anytime a woman refuses to be walked over by men. i like to believe that some guys actually want women they can regard as equals. however, i'd rather be a happy spinster than a slave-wife. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by Justcash(m): 4:21am On Jan 15, 2010 |
bluespice: A tiny brained person cannot predict that you will definitely not get into a Happy and long lasting marriage with a Man. It is tiny brained people that derive pleasure from relationships with people of the same sex. Intelligent Ladies know how to be submissive, yet very attractive forever. That Way, they keep their Men in love for eternity. Being submissive doesn't mean becoming a slave. It means giving yourself to your husband to love. Once you see it as slavery you tend to be wornout and unattractive in it, thereby putting your man off. He gets tempted when he sees more attractive women. However, I don't have any problem with you being gay because it will save men from mistakingly falling for you and getting in your marriage trap. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by bluespice(f): 4:28am On Jan 15, 2010 |
if you couldn't see that i directly rebutted everything you said to make a point, tell me how am i wrong in saying you're tiny brained? |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by Justcash(m): 4:34am On Jan 15, 2010 |
GL: Dear GL, Check the real meaning of being submissive to your husband. When you are submissive to your parents, it doesn't mean that you are a slave. You still get the same care, love and respect that is due for Children. Women needs to be submissive to keep the relationship working. It is not only cultural, but natural. Your husband will only feel the pinch of responsibility when he feels and know that he own you, and is responsible for your psychological and physiological wellbeing. He will find it difficult to fall into other women's trap when he is aware that no Woman can ever be as submissive as you are to him. It is a Wife's submission that makes a Man seem like his wife's fool in the face of his married friends who are fighting for sex supremacy with their wives. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by sexyLeamon(f): 4:38am On Jan 15, 2010 |
I heard a sermon on this a couple years ago; most of it I've forgotten (unfortunately) but one part that's stuck with me is that while the verse does say for wives to submit to their husbands, husbands are supposed to love their wives and not abuse them. While the husband is the head of the relationship, he's still supposed to look out for his wife and act in a way that will enhance and encourage her and the relationship, not just do whatever he wants and expect the wife to go along with it. Also, the wife is still supposed to support and encourage her husband, and this includes letting him know if he's crossing the line and heading in the wrong direction. Basically it's about loving each other and having mutual respect, supporting and guiding each other. but African men take things so differently. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by Justcash(m): 4:42am On Jan 15, 2010 |
bluespice: Why turn back on a statement that you made emphatically, when there was no hint to make a right thinking person doubt it. It is only tiny brained people that would have doubted that statement you made. It really fits you. For Real. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by bluespice(f): 4:43am On Jan 15, 2010 |
Justcash:your argument is invalid |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by Justcash(m): 4:49am On Jan 15, 2010 |
bluespice: I'v told you what to do. Continue being a Lesbian and don't ever think of getting into a happy marriage. I don't expect a lesbian to be submissive, so it will definitely be invalid to you. I understand. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by bluespice(f): 4:56am On Jan 15, 2010 |
will you seriously get the fc-uk outta here with your pathetic attempt at a sensible post? do you know what submission is? do you know what submission entails? if i don't want to lick any dumb fc-uk's arse irrespective of gender and that makes me the most un submissive woman on this planet, how the fc-uk is it your problem? get off my ti-ts already!! ps: lesbians are human beings and not a different race or specie, whatever applies to straight people applies to them and other gay people also, so do yourself a favour and get educated or shut your gob |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by Justcash(m): 4:59am On Jan 15, 2010 |
sexyLeamon: Submission doe not mean slavery. Some cultures and religions surpport Wive's slavery. However, Christianity does not surpport it. It surpports submission of Wives to their role in the Family. Husbands also have some submissions to make to their wives. A Wife's submission is bigger, while the husband's responsibility is definitely bigger. Westerners, especially those that doesn't have religions and cultures just live their lives without a specific pattern. This explains the high divorce rate in those areas. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by chiogo(f): 5:03am On Jan 15, 2010 |
Some people can yarn dust sha. It's funny how they scream westerners don't do this and that. This Christianity of a religion, did it originate from Africa? Please people, find out the meaning of 'culture', there's no place without one. Africans always feeling like they know best, and they wonder why the place is still backward. |
Re: Why Do Women Find It Hard To Be Submissive In Relationships? by Oba234: 5:05am On Jan 15, 2010 |
a Justcash:. are you an idiot? are you really comparing a child's submission to a parent to a grown adult?? News flash, your Wife is a grown adult. She is a human being just like you. Do you like being submissive to somebody? African men and their false sense of superiority is laughable. Please check you ego and if you want something that will obey your every order. Thats what a Dog is for. Go marry one, I am pretty sure you will be satisfied. |
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