pocohantas:
I guess you might have to read the OP, again. You're deflecting. The topic isn't if men are entitled to more than one wife LEGALLY. Even if that's the topic, men are not entitled to more than one wife LEGALLY. LEGALLY, being in a Registry. Not like many of them are interested in marrying a second wife, they simply wanna be married to one and fukc extras...

So...women don't have to marry more than one man LEGALLY to exhibit same traits. Live with it. So many roads leads to the market...sad reality.



When will you be nice enough to carry out another census for us, one that will be free from the tiniest percentage error? Till then, we have to stick to that one.

cococandy:
Happened to me too.
The fool was already in a hurry about meeting my parents and starting marriage rights. Like he was in hurry or something. I was only 20 then so I was like 'dude calm down. I don't even know you well let alone taking you to introduce to my parents'.

I Didn't know he was fake proposing marriage so I'll think he's serious and sleep with him. If I'd given in, I'd probably have dated him for months or years before finding out he's married.

The wife texted me one day and gave me the insult of my life.

Another married one (a 'respected' medical doctor) was proudly sounding like these foolish boys here. Saying how he's entitled to many women and all men do it. So he was basically doing me a 'favor' by telling me upfront that he is married. He was even telling me he has accompanied some of his married friends to do marriage introductions just so they can get the girl to believe they are single and sleep with them.
So he believed he was a good guy by being honest to me.

I was thoroughly disgusted.

Imagine if you're married to such men who will go to any lengths to get another woman outside. You'll spend your life fighting them girls off instead of facing the man who has no iota of respect for you as human being much less a partner.

Disgusting.

Aye101:

You are still young, talk to me in 10 years.

cococandy:

You're foolish

I hope in 10 years you'll be wiser. Maybe then it will be worth talking to you

Lionessza:



Pass what to whom? . Dear , marriage is between a man and a woman and only these two people have the power to destroy it. Blaming some cheap hoes for your lack of discipline and loyalty makes you seem pathetic and weak. Cheap women have been around for centuries and will be there till end of time same applies to men who pursue married women , but when I as a married woman fak a single dude and blame him for that , what does that say about me ?. Am I his victim? Did he force himself on me? . The single desperate guy is the evil one whom my husband and I should blame for tempting me right ? if he had stayed away from me I wouldn't have fvked another desperado right? Lol .gtfoh with that bs.

Stop blaming your surroundings for your weaknesses and disloyalty, take responsibility.

cococandy:
Happened to me too.
The fool was already in a hurry about meeting my parents and starting marriage rights. Like he was in hurry or something. I was only 20 then so I was like 'dude calm down. I don't even know you well let alone taking you to introduce to my parents'.

I Didn't know he was fake proposing marriage so I'll think he's serious and sleep with him. If I'd given in, I'd probably have dated him for months or years before finding out he's married.

The wife texted me one day and gave me the insult of my life.

Another married one (a 'respected' medical doctor) was proudly sounding like these foolish boys here. Saying how he's entitled to many women and all men do it. So he was basically doing me a 'favor' by telling me upfront that he is married. He was even telling me he has accompanied some of his married friends to do marriage introductions just so they can get the girl to believe they are single and sleep with them.
So he believed he was a good guy by being honest to me.

I was thoroughly disgusted.

Imagine if you're married to such men who will go to any lengths to get another woman outside. You'll spend your life fighting them girls off instead of facing the man who has no iota of respect for you as human being much less a partner.

Disgusting.

Martin0:
wait lemm ask you something,are you by anyway from a rich family,or you yourself was rich,because I think he was actually intrested in what you are..so tell me what were you like then?Financially ,and what were u made of,he was probably intrested in something you did tell us..

cococandy:

You're foolish

I hope in 10 years you'll be wiser. Maybe then it will be worth talking to you

sunshineG:
using a lot of grammar doesn't change the truth
Oh oh you think every side chick is just some cheap hoe
I am not talking about cheap how here cause they hardly ruin marriage
Do you watch Nigerian movies at all, do you think the story line were gotten from heaven

Have you seen where a woman goes to the extent of using charm to get a man because of jealously
Think again sis, even in sa me have muti and sangoma

pocohantas:

Envious of what Sir?

Funny question @OP.
A man cheats on his wife, and you think the problem is women supporting each other? You go on to see the other woman as the enemy who isn't supporting you. The men that support you women, why can't they keep to their vows?

Oma307:
Please i am interested in this parable, can you make it clearer?

cococandy:



Whatever he was interested in his wife should have it at home for him.

Asorockqueen:
The rate at which some couples break up is now alarming and records have shown that it's always the cause of some side chicks, Why do some girls always find joy in seeing their fellow girls suffer in marriage, I know we have to blame the men in a way but most girls are quick to do anything to have the man, well I just want to say whatever you reap you shall sow, Ladies let's learn to support each other

Lalas247:

So it's Juju
So nothing is the man fault
I'll keep praying for Nigeria .. mentality is peak

sunshineG:
if you read my post from the beginning you will realize I keep saying men are no saint
I use the senerio to properly explain to zarzar that the cheap hoe hardly reck homes but the ordinary ladies just jealous of the wife at home

RaggedyAnn:




What she appears to be implying is that a woman should make her deal more attractive to a man if she doesn't want him to migrate to other women with potentially better packages. Implying, again, that a pencil owes no loyalty to any sharpener, and will patronize whichever one has the sharpest blade. A pencil is selfish and will only be concerned about keeping its lead pointed.

Alright. If we are speaking of non-binding relationships that depend on fiduciary obligations, or trust, or the morality of the individuals involved; then, yes, a pencil should be allowed to do what it wants. Being an asshole isn't a crime, and the sharpener is aware it has no security. No guarantees of patronage.

But when a pencil has signed a contract with a particular sharpener, to patronize only said sharpener, forsaking all others; then thats binding. And if it carries it's business elsewhere, it is in breach of that contract and has to pay the penalties for it. (The pencil is responsible for the breach, not the other sharpeners). It cannot come and say "the other sharpener was better", there's a contract. It should have gotten of it first.

Lalas247:

Oh oh I see
Ride on

Pataricatering:
but the lizard should get most of the blame ! That the wall is porous doesn't mean the lizard should go through it !

sunshineG:
again you make it sound as if you are not in Nigeria
Have you seen the extent some of these ladies go to reck a home

Asorockqueen:

But the supposed side chick ought to respect the relationship by telling the man to back off, if he persists then report him to his wife

Lalas247:
If you live in a mansion
You go out leave your gate open all your doors open
Your gold, car keys left on the table .. code to safe on the table
now you get robbed !!! Wtf yes they are theives worthless low lives .... BuT why did you advertise to them .. why didn't you padlock that gate ..
now if police come catch the theives lock them up tomorrow you live your house gate open again u get the logic

At some point the husband is to blame and wife .. you cannot stop sidechics but men can honour their vows !!! Side chics do not rape Men the married ones leave their fuvking gate open to thots and you say its the thots fault
The mentality of some ppl is shocking I repeat this is why that country will NEVer progress the majority people are so thick it's unreal .. barbaric views and cave man ways stuck in 18bc
Even ladies don't know their worth anymore it's to get married be their goal after that they let the men ride them ..... like grow some back bone !!

Lalas247:
If you live in a mansion
You go out leave your gate open all your doors open
Your gold, car keys left on the table .. code to safe on the table
now you get robbed !!! Wtf yes they are theives worthless low lives .... BuT why did you advertise to them .. why didn't you padlock that gate ..
now if police come catch the theives lock them up tomorrow you live your house gate open again u get the logic

At some point the husband is to blame and wife .. you cannot stop sidechics but men can honour their vows !!! Side chics do not rape Men the married ones leave their fuvking gate open to thots and you say its the thots fault
The mentality of some ppl is shocking I repeat this is why that country will NEVer progress the majority people are so thick it's unreal .. barbaric views and cave man ways stuck in 18bc
Even ladies don't know their worth anymore it's to get married be their goal after that they let the men ride them ..... like grow some back bone !!

Martin0:
you see why sometimes I don't agree with you ladies,now u want me to blam the man,you both are at fault..
The man was 70% wrong
And you were 65%wrong

Now u wanna tell me you dating a man and u never visited him,you never try putting up something that will bring families together like a party that will bring relatives together,you never even for once try to know more about him,and you finally let him inn before the secret came out hmmmm this is serious

Honestly coco I know you don't want me to blam you but don't you think you also at fault

The man was obviously playing his games with you and you keep falling,don't you have instinct in you??

Wait lemm ask you one more question when he was talking about marriage did you try to go know his own family,like try to hear more of him from people!!

RaggedyAnn:



What extent do they go to?


Not a rhetorical question.

sunshineG:
using a lot of grammar doesn't change the truth
Oh oh you think every side chick is just some cheap hoe
I am not talking about cheap how here cause they hardly ruin marriage.
I don't get what you mean by the bolded. You are not making any sense to me. Any woman who dates a married man knowingly is nothing but a cheap desperate hoe. Unless you're talking about the sidechick who thinks she is the only woman in his life , which again proves what I was saying. The man is the evil one playing both the wife and the other clueless woman.

Do you watch Nigerian movies at all, do you think the story line were gotten from heaven
Have you seen where a woman goes to the extent of using charm to get a man because of jealously
Think again sis, even in sa me have muti and sangoma

tosyne2much:
So, who is the lizard? The husband or the side chic?

cococandy:
blame anyone but the culprit


Who said I was dating him?
Comprehension issues. I said he was asking me out supposedly for marriage. I did mention that I didn't even know the fella well which made me all the more wary




Read please. Thanks


Why would I? You're assuming that I even liked him. Much less consider marrying him.
I was young but not foolish.
His ploy was just to sound serious so I'd think he's not coming for a fling and then give into having sex with him.

Yo this is not rocket science. My first post was self explanatory.

Lionessza:

I don't watch Nigerian movies and even if I did it wouldn't change my stance on this topic. You must think too, the man went out of his house to another woman's home to have an affair , now the side chick does everything in his power to keep him. Who do I blame here ? Ofcourse I would blame my husband he started this shyt didn't he? . Yes there are women and men out there who would use whatever to lure someone's spouse without their participation but they are a minority compared to the willing cheaters, now think about that why don't you?