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garryi:
Yes its definitely worth the wait. I believe so many destinies have been slaughtered on the altar of premarital sex. Some have sold their birthright for a 3 minute sexual encounter. One of the ways to escape the trap of premarital sex is to be preoccupied with positive stuffs like hanging out with people of same mind cos iron sharpens iron. Another thing is to get busy. Again one should be careful with the kind of stuff we take in. The 2 most important gates to our mind are the eyes and ears. What we see and hear should be duly scrutinised. Therefore we must be careful with the kind of books we read, the movies we watch etc.

Celibacy can be hard or easy depending on how you approach it. It's similar to diet. Some diet for days and weeks without understanding what they are doing.....they are missing their junk food....so one day they snack a little here and then they go back to their ways....

While others diet with a change of lifestyle mentality.....they enjoy the new life they have embraced. They are creative with how to deal with the cravings....
They engage themselves in denial because they realise the goal and goodness of the new healthy lifestyle


Chastity is a lifestyle, it is the lifestyle of the new man and new woman. It is not about denial of self of pleasure but a saying yes to the true nature of our being.

When I discovered myslef and do not reduce myself to the instinctivel state of existence, I will naturally will not reduce my partner or the other person to n object of sexual gratification.

In essence continuous education is crucial than a stoic attitude to premarital sex

itsmeurLady:
U turned 36 and finally u noticed celibacy wasnt going to make you a mum and wife We have had ladies practice it in their 40s and still got married and even got pregnant afterwards. In other words, na u know wetin u practice (maybe u fasted from sex) because from your results, it is definitely not the product of celibacy. After preaching it to young girls, u finally ended up not finishing it? So how do u expect them to finish it? U shldnt have talked about it at all. It's very hypocritical.

You got me der with the "every lady shld practice celibacy till they find someone who wants to be in a committed relationship with you" speech... Oh come on, almost every guy comes with that BS of being a committed partner, so are you saying that the girls should continue sleeping with every "potential committed partner"? Then when he is no longer interested in the relationship, what happens? The cycle continues ryt? Until she sleeps with 20 "committed partners". Well done Ma!

Celibacy means complete abstinence from sex in a relationship (committed or non-committed) until after MARRIAGE! I'm not trying to judge but don't try to mislead people either. If you couldn't do it, go and ask for forgiveness and move on but don't try to glorify your mistake. They indeed said, When You have Money All Your Sins Are Covered/Justified (in the eyes of men)

P.S: Celibacy is not for the Weak, it goes beyond declaring it, it is a spiritual sacrifice and if you ever try to do it by your power, you will flop big time bcs Konji is a Bastard but when u acknowledge your weakness before God and ask him to help you, then the job becomes easier! Kudos to all the Celibates in the house, More strength and Grace to finish what you started!

Guy you deserve several accolades.


Blunt but classy rebuttal of some shitty morlaism

DreamersVille24:
Temitope74 see let me engage you a bit.

I know very well her kind of person and I have dated such.

You are the cause of everything and I'll tell you why.

She knows you're obsessed with her beauty, she knows or thinks you think you can't afford to lose her. She feels her beauty and attractiveness will get her any man and she may be right and so that is the card she would always play against you when you guys have issues, although she may be doing it subliminally and you respond to her subtle threats by always pandering to her misdeamenors.

Now is there a way out? Maybe. But you'll have to put her on the line.

Do not always compliment her, make her understand that youre smart and attractive and many ladies are on the line on your matter too. Make her believe you're with her for every other thing but her beauty and that beauty doesn't matter for you.

Tell her that even though you love her you will not accept her obstinate actions and will be forced to end everything.

You have to risk it all and make her make the hard choice of either sticking with you or moving on to explore the days of her youth.

Make her understand that the world does not revolve around her fine face or big nyashh. Make her believe you don't care much about those things.

You're the man so man up and stake it all... if you lose her then you know you dodged a bullet and if she comes back then you know she'll be in it for life but you have to give her that ultimatum.

All these things I stated are to be shown as well as said to her.

Lastly, never let a woman believe you're obsessed with her or she'll never truly be yours. Women always want to be in control but when you show her that you will always be in charge, she's going to be so into you cos she wants to keep trying to get you under her and she'll relish the challenge. When she has tried for a long time without succeeding, only then will she be submissive and totally loyal to you.

Cheers mate.

Such a lady can't change like that. They usually soft pedal when they hit 30 plus. When pride has held a soul hostage it takes a miracle for its victim to escape with colossal destruction

The poster is the problem. He must learn to find again attractiveness in the core of the woman and not just in the phyisal aspects

Temitope74:
I'm willing to apologise. In fact, I've apologised on several occasions where I realised I went out of the line out of jealousy. But my fear bro is her feeling she's doing me a favour by being with me. I'm thinking of marrying her. Won't she go on cheating spree after marriage if she feels I'm not really the man of her dream? She's not committed. That's my headache.

You are the problem not her. You have to upgrade why draws you to women. How can you actually intend to marry a shallow and concieved and psychologically un-ready girl because you want to parade a beauty queen as a wife.....your guts is already telling you what she could do if you end up marrying her.


Beauty is decietful. All these words of mine won't stop you only real hurt from her later and a personal admission of your poor judgement will reset your brains to factory settings.

I have been there. I have solid experience

gonkin:
Sex isnt bad, sex abuse is

No one is against you starting at a younger age. Just dont abuse it

Sex abuse is having it outside a commited love relationship like marraige....

SoapQueen:
I am all that and maybe more, I still got heartbroken. What will be will be.

It maybe from your judgement of men..,...until we completely priotise those qualities on that list to the extent that we find them 'sexy' we will find it hard to not to compromise on what we need over what we want

Safiaa:
straight to the point, no wasting time. Nice

That list is for boys not men

SoapQueen:
Even if the woman possesses these aforementioned attributes and more ,she might still get heartbroken and butthurt.

That will not happen with a man that really desires these things in a woman. Infact ladies like these are rare

Fkforyou:
For me: Things I look out for is.

1.Selflessness - I hate that entitlement mentality.
2.Emotional Intelligence
3.Extremely passionate and spontaneous
4.Good sense of humour, someone that can make me laugh and also laugh when I tease her.
5. A bit reserved...I hate when women act sluttish...
6. Stylish..!!
7. Career driven, but Family centred - I would like to have a well raised kids.

Thats a mature list you have there.

Almost Exactly my pick

Once I find you sluttish I go on reverse

Bobby4090:
Tinubu is getting wiser by not backing a particular candidate, at least openly. Because the moment he does that there will be a gang up against that candidate. He is better off playing the role of a mediator and god father to all.
Oyegun and the NWC people caused all these failed APC conventions in many states. Instead of preparing for primaries, they were busy lobbying for an illegal one year extension for themselves. Had there been enough preparations all these embarrassing scenes would have been avoided in the first place.

He had no option because Fayemi has buhari's backing. Normally he should back Fayemi too but he is painted that his protege is now loyal to the president

deomelo:
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Lagos state is the second largest employer of labor in Nigeria and Lagos state has the lowest employment rate in Nigeria.

Lagos state created N25 billion Lagos State Employment Trust Fund to create jobs and boost small-scale business activities. 1,400 Lagosians benefited from the scheme in 2017.

Lagos state established 30 skills acquisition centers specifically designed to pass out job creating skills and thousands of graduates collecting small business loans to start their own businesses.


Funny when ignorant people with zero knowledge about Lagos state try to sound smart but end up sounding clueless and ignorant.

Even with environmental aesthetics, is it not job creation or you think they did not hire and pay people to beautify the environment and the people they hire didn't collect paychecks to feed their families with or to send their children to school or they didn't go to the market to spend the money and keep the money in circulation for other people to grow and create more jobs for other people.?


I just wonder why many of you care less about your own villages and never demand or question your own village governors same way you try to kill yourselves over Lagos.

Ignorant mind with zero knowledge lol
Those who see it see it


Just like in the Animal farm, Squeaky, throws figures around as to how Napoleon is running things, and like the sheep you mutter mindlessly "four legs good two legs bad"

"Go and question your village Governor....."

Nigerians like you are the problem with this potentially great nation.

I took a general swipe on all the governors not just Lagos and you jump blindly on your tribalist donkey to wage the usual shallow minded stinking Nairaland e-wars

How many businesses that have come from all the schemes you have listed are shaping the economic landscape of Lagos?

For how long shall we applauding projects that can not change our collective futures?.....

Anyone who questions the governor of a state where he pays taxes is an enemy of that state because only an indigene is qualified to question the governor.

Tribalism is a disease suffered only by narrow minds,who don't yet realise that we can achieve exponentially more together.

Unfortunately this is the cesspit y'all is turning Nairaland to.

This is simply why I can't even talk to y'all. Everyday gibbering hateful words like afonja, brown roof republic, pigs, potopoto republic, IPOB etc...

It only shows the hate in your heart for a fellow human being based by the tribe rather than the content of their character and later y'all be shouting the whites for racism.

This is just superficial guys. These governors know y'all ain't smart so they do things deliberately so sway you and here you are all falling for it.

An intelligent citizenry will ask:

How much did it cost to our state's coffers?
Was the process of procurement transparent?
Beyond environmental aesthetics, how many more jobs has a state government generated via its policies?
How has tax generated from the increased economy temperature of the state affected on health care, education and basic infrastructure?


If we don't discuss the real issues, our as a society will remain bleak

My friend used for better Nd better at Christ embassy....

I will stand with you in health and omitted sickness.....

They had lost two of thier kids.

I am not at all mocking him....no way.

I just think many Christians today in Nigeria have an unrealistic approach to life.

How come Pastor's wives die young or of illness....?


Pentecostals especially should stop living in fools paradise

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Homeboiy:
Had she not brought them back, she will be caught

So stop praising her cos she is a female, even the males will do more

This is Uber she will be tracked and interrogated

SenselessIdiot:
Ilegend carry woman matters for head for 12 years now.
Bro go and hustle and get the dough girls will always respond to your message without thinking twice.
Don't be stupid, if you are ugly, ignorant, mentally retarded, Got lame dress sense and chat in the most fascinating way on earth girls will always ignore your messages.

This shit works only for young, naive lasses.....

BarrackGhost:
To say that Tinubu was TRASHED after 2015 election is a BIG FAT LIE. He was a bit sideline cos he wanted to determine everything that happen in this administration

She said it on TVC program Your Views

eezeribe:
... And now your husband is allowing Buhari to use him again in the so called reconciliation assignment ;I know he is smarter than that,he only accepted that assignment for his own personal political interests which include:
1)He doesn't want his brainchild (the APC) to crumble.
2)He wants his party to remain in power until the power gets to him....

Number 3 he knew it was a test for his loyalty to the president's

NwaAmaikpe:


The truth is,
Bad girls know the koko,
Good girls don't.

How will I see a girl who will suck me,
give me doggy,
wear sexy gstrings,
sing along with me to Eminem,
wear bum shorts and watch porn with me,

Then settle for one who will only tie wrapper and allow me touch her only we want to make babies and insist we pray and sing hymns afterwards?

Life is not that hard abeg.

Good girls are not wife material period.
Their place is in the convent.

Most of what you listed are what boys desire. Men look forward to more.

If I die suddenly can she raise the kids well?
Can I trust her totally that she won't cheat?
Will she still be there if I loose my job or business nose dives?
Will she be a companion on my journey of faith?
....

ychris:
PERTAINING TO YOUR RECENT OUTBURST ON HERE WHEN YOU SAID [s] Nairaland should removed sexuality SEXION, , [/s] I have this to say.....


[b] SHUT DA FVCK UP!!!

What's this one saying Tori Olohun?

So you mean he should modified the whole number 1 Nigerian forum, or do all that you listed above simply because you don't like them or find them unattractive?

As in because of your feeble and unreasonable reasons you listed above Laidat?? ?? Shoro niyen??


what if Seun Osewa grants your imaginary wishes today and one reasonable fellow comes forward and raises another petition that s/he wants all what you red flagged to be reinstated back tomorrow?

What if he later granted the latter wishes cos he later comes to term, that all what you MAGICALLY convinced CONFUSED him to do lacks merit, as in eh...it's directionless, purposeless, planless , baseless and uncalled for (Patrick obahiagbon fall on you ), for his lead in the first place??


What if he thought he shouldn't have granted your wished in the first place self that you ain't making no sense at all?? (common sense will not kuku kill you )


And the circle continues LIKE DAT...



Alaye Op , Like seriously and to be VERY VERY realistic,

When this guy created this Forum, i think you could have came forward (since you already knew what the future old for NAIRALAND) and bought some shares from him you know.

Doing just that, you would have informed him that, comes future, you would modify some settings in the forum, since you act as if you're doing someone favour here. (Alaye, be HUMBLE and STOP sounding as if you have says in every discursion. it's not healthy for you at all)

Moreover, if at all you have some shares on here already, (which I don't even give benefit of doubt) I think he shouldn't feel reluctant or recalcitrant to tamper justice with Merci and grant you your HEART DESIRE after all.

When that happened..... (I would have thought and soliloquize to myself that, didn't I know is healthy to mind my own Bizzzzz!?) Oro E TI SUMI Oo...


common baby boy...you listen to me??

Well sha, My ADVISE (what are friends for ) for you is that, you should asap and as a matter of urgency buy some shares on this forum before it's too late for you. because the way you are going LAIDIS, you have made it so clear and obvious to us that this forum would be named after a hero like you in the nearest future. (Wehdonsir!!)


P.s : Familiarity does not compel compassion after all .....

I hope you like my advice Op? [/b]

You didn't have to curse to give a rejoinder to a post on a thread that has been pulled down by the powers that be.


If Nairaland doesn't reinvent it's wheel soon it will be a forum for JESS 1 students.....it is presently overflowing with young school leavers writing jamb


So many great minds have moved on....it's only a matter of time for alternatives...
Linda Ikeja is begging for comments on her posts as Facebook forums like Rant HQ is swelling in numbers.


This is arguably one of my last posts on this forum. Every good thing must necessarily come to an abrupt end.

Ciao

OneCorner:
Sexuality section should be scrapped because you don't like it
U need brain check

We need to keep Nairaland and Nairalanders focused.
You can look for sexuality talk elsewhere.

Our country needs us to change it. Our minds is the invaluable resource and must be used well

Dear Seun

First of all I want to thank you for providing a great platform as Nairaland, it has been a source good for many from cross fertilization of ideas, mind rubbing on a myriad of issues, business and job opportunities and so much more.

I truly admire you for your efforts to create also a technically fluid platform.

In your hands lie a great tool to bring about more positive change than ever. With more power come great responsibility. Please always remember this.

What has caught my attention recently is that the Nairaland I joined several years back and the Nairaland of today is markedly different in terms of the contents which you must review and fast.

No decent person will like to come to a forum for positive interaction or to get information and find littered empty and mundane topics as what some celebrity wore or that another pyschologically imbalanced girl has decided to share her nude pictures.

Gone are those days were educative and informative posts make front pages, our political section is inundated with bigotry.... terms like afonja, Igbos, brown roof, zombies. Name checking to shame other tribes are ample evidence to the sad reality that our Nairaland has become a cesspit for hate and divisiveness even among young people who should change the tragic narrative of the generation before us.

Nairaland has degenerated to place where untiillegent, uncouth, indecent,and base posts are made by the second. This posts keeps on reducing our sense of aptitude the more as a community of Africans.

You just have to go to quora and see the quality of posts being made there, what is stopping Nairaland from having same?

True, Nairaland maybe very economically viable for you, but I believe it is time to intentionally remake Nairaland to something you can look back and be fulfilled because it has become a rallying point, a vehicle, a catalyst for changing direction of people's thinking and orientation.

As the founder of Nairaland you have automatically become a leader of the next generation,. A Trendsetter, an influencer and ultimately a game changer but be very intentional with this tool which Providence has placed in your hands.

The need to expand your vision for Nairaland is more urgent than ever.

With an expanded vision and a team of collaborators you will be able to take Nairaland from where it is to where it could be.

Recommendations
1. Zero tolerance for bigotry outright life ban
2. Run campaign against bigotry, tribalistic comments, religious tolerance.
3. Run campaigns that promote national building, entrepreneurship
4. Indecent posts and base posts must be penalised heavily so that people can use their brains better.
5. Scrap the sexuality section. It is a cesspit.
6. After the likes and share feature you havent added .more stuff. Facebook always innovates this enriching the experience please you can do more

I am ever ready to support in any way I can


Warm Regards

49cents

MrOjay1:
This useless poster 49cents.

Why copying hymar idibie's post?

Stupid plagiarist.

Did I claim it
Didn't even finish the post sef
Not your fault tho