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Get a landed property with that money; you arent too young to start a building project since you now have a source of income. Postpone your decision to leave your parents if your work place is proximal to their house. You would be better for it 5 years from now.

Whao! I couldnt help but reply. I love the fact that all you listed are rooted in God's word. May God bless you and increase your wisdom.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Actually, your life is a lot more easier right now. All those things you think you lack are just things that society make important[/quote]This is soooo true. Sometimes, life becomes so smooth and easy that we actually bother ourselves with 'petty' challenges. Only to realise that those things that were actually bothering us are nothing when we face the REAL big stuff.

OP, there is no perfect combination of events in life that would make you happy. You have to create hapiness by yourself, from within. Do not delegate that responsibility to someone else or events around you. You will end up disappointed as you are, now.
The points you raised:
I don't believe in "Love" anymore...

Love is real. It exists, but not as those butterflies ish which is being overhyped. God is Love and so, only a godly person can give the true kind of love which is selfless because the mortal man is naturally self-seeking.

I love Being Alone
Loving your own company isnt a problem. I love being alone also, but it becomes an issue of concern if it robs you of healthy relationships with your family and friends.

I Dont believe in Family
This reminds me of my facebook signature: 'Family is everything'. My background negates this statement but I so much believe in family. There is so much love to give and share and life is sooo beautiful. This world is a beautiful place when you transform the lemon it throws @ you into a nice, sizzling, refreshing lemonade drink.

I dont Believe in Marriage
I dont belive in the marriage institution myself but I belive in the God who instituted it. Therefore, I'll do whatever it takes to make it work. Same goes for you too OP. Just as you do not believe in the devil but it doesnt change the fact that it/he exists. Likewise, Lack of belief in the marriage institution doesnt imply that good marriages dont exist. They do, but very few people are willing to work @ it and so, only few marriages work eventually. A good marriage is golden but it doesnt come on a platter of gold.

I Hate People
Hate is a very stong word. You can't hate when you have the love of Christ in you. You just can't.

I've Been Broken
It takes brokenness to receive wholesomeness. Everyone wants to be whole but nobody wants to go through the prelimnary stage of being broken. OP, you will be whole again and you'll never remember this pain again. God will give your heart the healing it needs to be whole again. All you need to do is ASK

I Dont believe in Friends
As per the friends ish. Me sef I dont believe in friends but I believe in friendship, that is, regardless of how much they disappoint you or let you down, you would still be there for them. Now that is friendship. It gives and expects nothing in return.


@OP life is beautiful o. It depends on your outlook. You can either see the glass as half full or half empty. The choice is yours

xynerise: Ya I know. But its common to the Yorubas

You are right

xynerise: No wonder

You and I know that there are lots and lots of monogamous yoruba families. Polygamy isnt tribe related.

Yes. I guess your next reply would be 'no wonder'

xynerise: Muslim?

Christian.Infact he used to be a ¤¤lips sealed¤. But then I still love him.

@OP, The key to your greatness lies deep within the muddy waters of affliction. Just as a fish is attracted to its bait,which eventually brings the fish out of the water, your key has its own bait called patience, tears, hardwork and perseverance needed to search it out.

Not everyone is willing to pay this price and so a lot of people give up, oblivous of the fact that if only they had waited a little longer, worked a little harder, prayed a little more, things would have turned around drastically.

Each of these steps act as a bait to bring the key of your greatness from the depth of the muddy water of affliction to the surface.
When this happens, all you have to do is reach out and grab it 'cos you paid the price for it.

Need I tell you that you are paying the price. There is no shortcut to greatness. This too shall pass.

xynerise: Is there no one with a positive story? Does it mean majority of Nigerians don't have a happy/peaceful family?

He is a great dad to his kids but not that gr8 to his wives. The family is happy in the Lord. Lol

See an Opthalmologist ASAP

Temismith: For my second child, na igbo ora tins oooo

If you eat it and birth sextuplets you are O.Y.O

I wish I could comment on this thread but I can't. Polygamy tinz

@ OP, I wish your parents more awesome years together. 4 decades from now, may your kids witness such with you and skydeep. Amen

The yam is native to a town called Igbo-ora in Oyo state

Ladies when next you are about to open up your legs to that your boyfriend, think about few years from now, think about that man who would be noble enough to put a ring on it. In essence, think beyond this present enjoyment and project into your future. What you are doing to that man aint fair. Nobody wants to eat stale food. Not even you

[quote author=Mynd_44]Pre-marital sex is not so evil[/quote]Lets call a spade a spade

reap40: Thanks for the advice! I already told you that my faith is not that strong. I pray but not to the extent of expecting revelations.

When you dont see visions in cases like this, go with the peace/fear/anxiety you feel at the thought of spending the rest of your life with that person. Just my opinion, doesnt make it the rule

reap40: That's not all, she curse @ any slightest provocation even if she's the one at fault. Slapped me not once but thrice during an arguement in which she apologises and begged not to repeat itself again.


Keeps reporting me to my family&friends; in the process revealing some of my secrets to them (like my building project).

Made up my mind not marrying her but when this issue of my mum&her pastor came up. . . . I had to sit down and have a rethink over it.
Happy New Year Folks!

Your mum wants the best for you, but taking the names of your intendeds to her pastor isnt the best approach.
Come to think of it. The one your pastor chose (I dont believe God did cos God isnt a confusionist) uses curse words, she cant keep your secrets, she continually involves 3rd parties in your relationship, and the icing on the cake: she has slapped you not once but three times? Do you think she would change when you get married?

You bera wake up and smell the coffee.

Every arrow of death in the year 2014 and beyond, back to sender. No one will mourn over me, neither will I mourn over anyone. I have cancelled that... in my closet. I hereby cancel it publicly in Jesus mighty name. Amen.

May God console the family of the departed. Amen.

olubolove: Nawo. is it that one can not get something real from here? for those i've contacted, some charging too high. someone here is charging me 75k as last price and others, dont even know much about web site designing. yet they keep wasteing my time and call unit.
if u really can design a very good business website, state ur price here and how long it will take u to get it done. if am ok with ur price, then we'll talk on phone and get it started.
thank u

If you do not mind, send me a PM. I would refer you to someone I met here on Nairaland. His fee is quite affordable but then, the decision is yours to make. I am yet to get back to him but I intend to do so in a couple of weeks.

Thanks so much for this.

Garlic. Lots of it a day before your period. If you cant chew, then cut into small bits and swallow with water. Repeat same on the 'D' day. Thank me later

I am indecisive with respect to the appropriate section(Jobs/Career/Business) for this.


Airemen Solomon, 29,  spoke  to OKECHUKWU NNODIM on the survival strategies for small businesses in a harsh economy

 What kind of business do you do at Funclub?

We are into importation of luxury, casual and fashion watches and accessories. I distribute to wholesalers, super markets, boutiques, among others, across the country at cheap prices. I also deliver to retailers. I’m also working on inaugurating an online web platform for direct online sales soon. This initiative was conceived based on the fact that online sale is currently taking over physical transactions world over.

 What inspired the business name, Funclub?

I chose this business name because I was a teenager when I started a video game centre with the name. My peers branded me with the business name. They also referred to virtually everything I do by my business name. So, I decided to continue with it and it has been one name that distinguishes me from others who are in the same line of business. The name Funclub is dear to me and it is a brand identity which I cherish.

 What motivated you to go into this line business?

I always tell people in business and in life to do what they like. This is because when you go for a job that you are passionate about, you will enjoy doing it anytime. From my teenage days up till date, I have always engaged in business activities that appear like ‘play’ to me. To cut it short, I’m a watch freak. That was what motivated me. People should be involved in businesses that they enjoy doing. This will make you want to always work and by so doing, you will realise that you are making money with ease.

When you make money with ease and enjoy your job, you won’t drag your feet in the morning to work. You will be energised always because you see your job as another source of fun that brings money to you. I like watches a lot. Whatever business I do, I do it because I have a personal attachment to it. And this has been such a huge driving force and I’m encouraged to continue in this line of business because I like what I am doing. I am passionate about it. So, when people do what they like, they won’t complain much about it.

 How long have you been in this business?

This is my fourth line of business; and I started it in the early months of 2012.

 Who are your clients and how do you get them?

My major clients are owners of supermarkets and boutiques. I also deliver goods to housewives who engage in the selling of fashion items. I also see the other members of the general public as my customers, especially in the retail segment. I get my clients through contracts, personal marketing, and online marketing and from Nigerian forums such as nairaland.com.

I encourage fresh graduates who are in businesses to take advantage of online marketing as this will boost their performance and improve their turnover.

 Do you need so much money to start this kind of business?

Not really, but if you want to go into a large scale import, you will need to have some thousands of dollars and above. It really depends on what goods you are buying and in what quantity. But you should not be discouraged as a starter. Discouragement should not be allowed if you must succeed in this line of trade. The important thing is to get the adequate skills and know how to satisfy the demands of your clients. For instance, a Tag Heuer wristwatch can cost about N450,000. And this is just one wristwatch. But some clients may need it and it depends on your capacity. Also, an entrepreneur can decide to supply only rubber watches to children. In this case, it is possible for one to supply 100 pieces for N20,000. So, the size of your business depends a lot on some factors which you will have to consider before venturing into it.

 Will you advise fresh graduates to go into this kind of business?

Sure! They should not wait for the jobs that are not forth coming. If you have a good capital, please do. There is no need to waste time waiting when you have the financial wherewithal to start this kind of business.

 Do you need government’s support to succeed as an entrepreneur?

If it comes, I will take it; but I won’t crumble without it. I’m a survivor of all conditions. But government support will surely boost my business. So, government support is necessary, but without it, one can definitely survive.

 What are the common challenges you face?

Life itself is full of challenges. I face a lot of challenges. For example, my shop was robbed recently. This, therefore, shows that insecurity is a big challenge. It can sweep away in one day what you have laboured for in many years. Also, debts which may slow down your turnover could be a challenge in this business. Sometimes, shipping goods down to Nigeria or to a desired location may be difficult. Also, time differences between the United States and Nigeria, as well as China and Nigeria give us some sleepless nights. But in all, challenges are what make us real business people better; they wax entrepreneurs stronger in their businesses every day.

 How do you confront them?

I take them as they come, and hope for the best. It is not always easy, but with persistence, you will conquer. However, different entrepreneurs adopt different strategies in order to achieve success. So, it all depends on the entrepreneur.

 Is the Nigerian business environment favourable for small businesses?

It is tough but interesting. You have to be persistent and have a ‘Never-say-never’ mentality. And I believe if you can make it in Nigeria, you can make it anywhere. Young entrepreneurs must not allow the challenging operating environment deter them in their businesses. To succeed, you must learn to persevere in business.

Copyright PUNCH. 3rd January, 2014

chisom n esta: 1..where i can get a venue for my weddin around ikotun-governors rd,isheri,dat area for jus 50 persons.n a place not expensive.
n wud lik to know if d church service can b conducted there.

There is Noah Multipurpose hall along Ikotun- Igando road.

2. Lik how much can i use for cake

Depends on how many tiers and your budget. It may wise to budget for @ least 30K.


3. To rent 50 chairs n table n how much their cover is

This would be included in the cost of renting the hall.

4.How much to get is it deejay or wat

Again, it depends on the calibre and 'class' of your DJ. 20K may be enough for DJ 'A', while DJ 'B' may not serve you for less than 100K


5.Lik how much to budget on d fud for 50persons

The rule of thumb is to budget not less than 50K for 50 people. If your budget would be within this range or surpass it, depends on the variety of food to be served.


6. How much can i rent a decent weddin gown dats cheap

Depends on your definition of 'decent' and 'cheap'. You could rent a gown for as low as 10-20K, and another could go for 50K or higher

Congratulations and Happy Married Life in advance

Why not let's start by you spelling the word 'gurl' as it should be spelt. Thank you.

To your question, cases like these would STOP when parents STOP chasing after money and other ephemeral things @ the expense of quality family time.

Mrs incredible, this is really incredible. Anyway I admire your sincerity. It takes a whole lot of courage to post something like this on an open forum. No pretense whatsoever

Awesome

2 million naira:pardon for sin, real life saver

Oshiomole, go and die no more; your sins have been forgiven.

Ask your mum. She gave birth to you, not your grandmum. I dont know the reason your grandmum has for divluging that information to you without the consent of your parents. It is quite applaudable that you are well-mannered in your approach to this issue, else your grandmum would have damned the day she gave you such life-altering information without first consulting your parents. For you to have lived with this knowledge for 7 years without doing anything or taking any step is a strong indication that your home is a comfort zone for you and the man you grew up to know as your dad is a dad INDEED. You need not look any further.
but still ask your mum 'cos you have the right to know

[quote author=Big.game]
Earlier in the year, it was an opposite case, the only thing i felt like doing most time was sleeping.[/quote]The sudden change in your sleeping pattern might be as a result of change(s) in your emotional equilibrium. My guess is something or an (unpleasant) event triggered anxiety pangs, causing restlesness and over the months has finally resulted in your inability to fall asleep. I may be wrong but If that describes it, you need to work on your emotional stability. Try to take things easy generally, and let go of any situation that is beyond your control. Do what you can, where you are, and dont be too demanding on yourself. It pays to live one day @ time. It is well.

Really looking forward to it by God's grace

Please I need to develop a website for my business. If your fees are affordable, kindly send a mail to: 4tunebest@gmail.com. Thank you