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Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by BRATISLAVA: 4:51pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Christopherrrr: Many ppl Tellin u 2 damn d consequences don't really understand wt it would mean going ahead wit it. Dey r using emotion nt reality |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by GreenArrow1(m): 4:51pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Christopherrrr: God is really rewarding that girl for being a good person. See how she is protecting her from entering a union with a man who is so bound to ancestral anti-Christian and modern traditions. Please frankly break the news to her so that another man can have that jewel in his home. If possible, give me your contact let me hook you up with my babe and you give her to me. Oboy! See some us just de here d battle to marry person wey be say get plenty serious issues while people like you have it on a platter. Please PM bro. I'm serious. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by Kharol1234: 4:52pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Zikora1000:hmm i for apply 2 ooooo but i b 6ft 2 hw our kids go cum b |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by BRATISLAVA: 4:53pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Upworkwriter007: Wt if dey scream more dn 2 years? No man is n island |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by samuelchimmy(m): 4:53pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Idzitari1:it's a simple thing, I don't think op loves her, as he has claimed, if he did he would have fought for the abolishment of that tradition in his community, like I said, in my own community we have signed an agreement of abolishment in 2018... Majority was in support of it, thanks to our learned people from diapora, who had issue with same evil tradition even in faraway USA, they fought for it for years, the earliest known period to me is 2005 4 Likes |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by alphaNomega: 4:53pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
nunnu: Why would you let them choose for you are you twelve? You pick a man, they approve! 2 Likes |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by aduhube: 4:54pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
It is a pity that your education has no value. Note that this is 2019 and not 1919. Brace up bro. Give your education a meaning. Do not allow tradition to cause you not to marry your love. If you allow your parents to stop you, by you not convincing them to embrace positive change, then you are not really in love with the girl. What part of Igbo land are the Osus? 2 Likes |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by alphaNomega: 4:55pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Seriously the Osu don't have problem at all... They can marry OSU and non-osu. It is the non-osu that have this challenge. Funny. 4 Likes |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by BornToSucced(m): 4:57pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
[quote author=Zikora1000 post=82482823] if you are looking for someone that will give you peace of mind. come, let me show you one. her only fault, she is over 6ft tall. but nice shape humble and very pretty � |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by nextstep(m): 4:58pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Christopherrrr: "She gives me joy, she gives me happiness, she prays for me, she blesses me." What else do you want in a wife? You have all the main ingredients for a happily-married life? The caste system has been officially abolished. Inform your parents that you will proceed to marry this girl. I know your parents will try to force your hand, and use expressions like "marriage is more about families than the individual", "respect for tradition and your elders", but let me say this: the people who started the Osu system, they were humans just like you, and they had their own reasons. You too have your own reasons to help remove that system. OP, men have disagreed with their families over many things in the past - you won't be the first nor the last. This also won't be be the last thing they will want to do their own way, so you need to stand up. Don't be afraid. You are a man. Anybody will be angry with you for not following their decisions (whether it's what type of soup to eat, where to build your house, what to name your child, which woman to marry, your career choice). They are trying to impose their views so they they look good to their relatives and friends. If they force you to give her up, they might end up making you embittered, and who knows tomorrow? 2 Likes |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by ujluv(f): 4:58pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Christopherrrr:Hmm, I'm from Anambra Nanka precisely we have abolished that tradition for long nobody is an outcast and you dare not call someone by that name. Although, my family is none. But I will advice you to let your girl know on time, you can't fight it. I know it will hurt but she have to know on time. God will give you another women like you or even better. 1 Like |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by skentelelady(f): 4:58pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
What do you actually want @op? You already know what to do so why did you bring it up here? You countered every advise given already Please just close your thread and tell the gentle girl the truth. I am sure another man that's worthy of her will marry her one day. I am sure in that her same osu community, they are getting married 4 Likes |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by smokeyupu(m): 4:58pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
uzicuzy:And if you dig further you might find out that his parents are supposed to be Christians ...... With a forgiving heart but all na lie lie Some of these traditions are not fair at all. Na the girl be de origin? |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by Nobody: 4:59pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
chidiebereuzoma:Ain't we all? |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by amaniro: 4:59pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Celestial777: Osu cast system many never leave IMO state. I've fixed that. Abia state don't do such. Only ndi imo carry am for head like Emmy |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by OdenKelechi(m): 5:02pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Jombom:you dey para gan |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by Kennydoc(m): 5:03pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Christopherrrr: I really feel for you. I mean, you're obviously very smart and you sound smart too. I read the post expecting to see numerous grammatical blunders after your warning, but I could only see a well-articulated piece. Well done. Unfortunately, I really don't have any tangible advice to give you. I only came to encourage you. You understand the consequences of marrying an Osu quite well. I come from Anambra State, and osu isn't a term that is common in the part of the state I come from. As a matter of fact, I personally don't know any family that is regarded as osus. I think it's long been abolished from my part of Igbo land. I really can feel you when you described your love for your girl. That's exactly how I feel about my fiancee. I can't imagine anybody telling me we can't get married for any reason. They should better disown me, cos it will be a disaster for me to lose her. But you know what, I lost someone before I could gain her. I lost another great girl who seemed like a perfect match for me when we dated for 3½ years. For some not-too-serious issues, we had a break up. I thought I was never going to find a good girl again until I met my fiancee who turned out to be the best choice I could ever have made. Today, I am very grateful to God for that initial break up. What I am saying in summary is that since you have strong doubts, it's better not to go ahead, despite that you love her so much. When crises start (and every marriage faces crises), it may be difficult for you to withstand it especially when the support of your family isn't there. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by OdenKelechi(m): 5:03pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
uzicuzy:Some traditions just can't be abolished, thanks to ignorance |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by Enemyofpeace: 5:04pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
With this nonsense you go still see them going to sound boasting sey na them dey civilized pass for the whole world. |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by Nobody: 5:04pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
[quote author=Originalsly post=82477053]Hmmm...... don't be in a rush to break any news. Yes you alone can't break the system... but you can try to at least crack it by fighting back instead of just rolling over. You are 21st century generation.... do you or your mates support it? Some traditions just need to be dropped... this is one of them. Your parents are deep into it... you can't convince them. I guess they are Christians.... use the Bible to fight them... He who findeth a wife findeth a good thing Let them know you found a wife... and they agreed... were happy... so where does the Bible say at shouod rule her out? For your part.... show depression.... don't eat at home.... say you're not hungry. Don't involve in any conversations unless is about your heartbeat.... just be sitting and staring... and in a few days if no shifting.... then start with basic suicide talk... arrange phone convo with a friend..... let your parents overhear parts of the convo like .....what'sthe point of living if you can't be happy?....and later on.... don't worry...you don't understand... I can't continue like this... when I do what I am planning to do... you will understand.... but that will be too late. No parent wants to lose their child to suicide... especially when they know they would be the ones responsible. That fear will make them really reconsider their position... and challenge the practice. Don't ever go down without putting up a fight....no fight no change. After all.... you may get the blessings from your parents... period.... and it would have to be top secret. Kai kai!! my brother you have P.HD in Romancicology: which means the art of getting your ways through artistry in love matters. Pls set up a shop. 1 Like |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by amaniro: 5:04pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Trutherme: It's only in that imo state that their still practicing that nonsense. Here in Abia we're civilized. Don't succumb to such devilish believe. |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by faithscharms(f): 5:06pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
This is so sad..I understand how you feel O.P u need to seat one on one with ur girl and discuss this..and decide if u both can just have kids 2gether and live 2gether without the actual marriage but I doubt that will work cos me I can't settle for that..I don't understand the black race..same people call themselves biafrans and all yet they still stigmatise themselves again?hmm nawa o Check my signature you just might find what you have been looking for |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by henryobinna(m): 5:07pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Idzitari1:what will the government or NGO really fight? there's nothing ot be fought here. the government or NGO won't force his parents and entire community to attend his wedding neither will they force his parents to bless them, not even force the family to accept the girl. The guy can go on and do court wedding and church wedding if his church is cool with his parents not partaking in it. But traditionally, he and his family (plus kids) are not recognized... The father can refuse to let him into his house or anything concerning him, so what will the government and NGO do in such case? Some of you who are none Igbos or do not have knowledge of the thing will just be giving advice uppn advice on a subject you lack information of. The truth is nobody can stop him from marrying the girl if he so wishes... At the same time nobody can force others to accept/recognise he and his marriage(family as well)... I don't know how marriages are done in other parts of Nigeria but in Igbo land, it goes beyond the few hours of ceremonies... By the way, the Osu thing has spiritual repercussions, strangely enough nobody made mention of it here. I will only advise the OP to go ahead if he's a devoted Christian(because of the spiritual repercussions) and if he's ready to damn the social consequences(family, community etc etc) Other wise, just do what you know is right. By the way, marrying her sef right now based on her good conduct and love does not determine what she'll turn into tomorrow... people change... love changes. Good luck with whatever decision you decide to go with 1 Like |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by Enemyofpeace: 5:07pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
uzicuzy:for where?that will only happen if Nigeria give them biafra |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by addictiv(m): 5:07pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
madridsta007:The most important blessing is that of the parents of the bride... Once they give their consent every other thing na formality. What of people who are orphans, or people who don't have family, don't they get married? Last I checked most marriages that ended in divorce or worse were blessed by both parents and the priest. For me Honoring your parents as a man means informing them of your decision to get married and carrying them along with the process. Should they declare ill feelings and misgivings it is within their right to do so. It is now left for me to proceed or rescind on my plan. As far as honoring goes they have been honoured 4 Likes |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by geosegun(m): 5:08pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Jombom: Chei, Yoruba and Igbo girls na 5&6. Nice one. Who cares about whether her ancestors were once slaves? @OP: You better find a way to convince your parents. May be that's your own missing ribs. Stand your ground. Fight for her. You will win. Trust God and believe what I'm saying. Once your parents see that connection and love. They will bow to it. They know discrimination is wrong. Otherwise, please, connect this precious lady to a Yoruba man to marry ASAP. This is one of the main reasons why the other tribe will continue to marry the best of your women. Very stupid tradition, one would think. Either way. All the best. 5 Likes |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by Enemyofpeace: 5:09pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
faithscharms:those laps of yours fit turn person to Biodun Fatoyinbo |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by amaniro: 5:10pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Christopherrrr: I'll be truthful with you. You have already made your choice, your fear is more than the love for her.. Don't suffer that lady just call it off 2 Likes |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by faithscharms(f): 5:10pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Enemyofpeace: Hmmm who is biodun?is that a good thing or bad thing? |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by OdenKelechi(m): 5:12pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Christopherrrr:If not being involved in any family dealings is the only consequence then Bleep it!!! If you let this girl you just described go, you'll have to deal with like 10 karishikas before you meet another one like her. Sit her down and have a talk with her, tell her the issue on ground then you guys will work things out going forward |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by Nobody: 5:12pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
uzicuzy: Nope still very much active. The whole thing even tire me. I have seen people that broke all norm and went ahead to marry each other but they never ended up well |
Re: Osu-Caste System Is Taking The Love Of My Life Away From Me. by starbuck(f): 5:12pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Op... Please don't tread that path of marrying her since she is an ọsụ.... The Kings and Co that abolished it, why didn't they give out their children to the outcaste ... Your parents are your 2nd God, listen to them and have their blessings to avoid had I known... The Afonjas are now castigating our cultures like say they don't have barbaric and devilish cultures too... Ofu onye anaghị anụ nwaanyị n'ala Igbo.... Ọ kwa agbasia ọsọ, a gụọ mile...Rapukwa ihe ndị a na ede na foonu, ha ma e sokwa gị taa ahụhụ ha mgbe ọge na abịa.. � 6 Likes |
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