George_D:

what you see is what you get, tpia. i'm not a double faced guy.

i dont think you are, either.

like i said, hope you dont prove me wrong later cos this nl e get as e be.


only thing i'm trying to figure out is your age [just for curiosity's sake]. I cant seem to place you.

As a lot of people have said a dad has s right to go through his child's phone, son or daughter. In my house, and i recognise this is not the typical naija house, i can go through both my dads and my moms phones and vice versa. We have nothing to hide from each other and a high level of trust. Although I have a password on my phone anyway because of annoying friends who would like to save names such as darling, hotchick etc, you get the picture in my phonebook and then send erotic or off-sounding texts to my number in the hopes of getting me into trouble.

in any case, my folks have the password and if a text message or anything comes in, they can always check it. this has been very useful in several instances when i forget my phone at home and someone sends me some important info, my folks can always tell me whats up when i call them to ask if i have received a message or something.

however, my dad and mom never pick up my phone in my absence, at least i've never seen them do it. that's what trust does. My parents feel that , children have a right to privacy commensurate with their level of maturity but that they have both the God-given authority and the responsibility to train and supervise me. They equally ensure that I recognize their concern, not as a needless intrusion, but as an expression of unselfish love which as many have said is what your Dad has for you. That said, if I were him I wouldn't do what he did because that is not the example i have received from my own Dad. If I want to see my child's phone, I would simply ask. Going by your posts, i'm pretty sure that if your Dad asked you to browse through your phone, you'll have no problem giving it to him. To me, I just feel that if you truly trust someone you don't need to do anything behind the persons back. But of course that trust has to be earned over years of association.

The truth is, depending on the kid, parental surveillance would be useless. I for example am so techy that I would simply frustrate my parents were they to attempt to monitor me without my consent and I discovered. But I realize what they are doing is for my own good, not any other persons so I don't mind - i've been saved a lot by that stand. Its good that you're not so pissed off anymore by his actions - and if you are bold enough and you are sure that it would not lead to unfair repercussions, you may try bringing up the topic with him, i have found that letting my parents know how I feel, albeit always in a very respectful manner and not when i am angry has helped me loosen some of those boundaries parents are ever so inclined to impose.

@Atreides Couldn't read through the 9-paged banter,

Have you tried talking to him about it? Tell him to trust you more after-all you said it yourself you guys get along 'swimmingly'

tpia1:

i dont think you are, either.

like i said, hope you dont prove me wrong later cos this nl e get as e be.


only thing i'm trying to figure out is your age [just for curiosity's sake]. I cant seem to place you.

we'd need to get personal for you to know that much but given your natural fright for 'strangers' i'm not
sure it's a good idea.

^^I don talk say make you no vex na.

haba.

error on my part, i agree.

i could modify the post but it wont make much difference because i've been quoted.

I know of some kids who wished they had dads that cared for them this much! Here u are with a great dad and whining over nothing really!!!

tpia,
honestly i no dey vex again. i was just worried you'd be scared away if i was to get personal.
no hard hard feelings really. cheers!

^^

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^^You guys should get on with it already.
[s]
make una no forget to invite me for wedding o[/s]

Carlosein:

Are you pondering what I'm pondering

no, i'm not.

Carlosein:

^^You guys should get on with it already.
[s]
make una no forget to invite me for wedding o[/s]

Ehn? Wedding? Where? How? When? Biko,tell me some more. .

lol.


abeg george-d carry on from where you left off with atreides before you were rudely interrupted by my comment.


@ atreides

ignore carlosein plz.





i must be psychic because i envisaged this exact scenario before it happened.

tpia & carlosein,

i must be missing something here or what is all these talk about wedding? who's getting married
and to whom?

btw, i haven't even spoken with atreides for days now.

i think we should all think straight and not allow our imaginations run wild.

cheers!

tpia1:

no, i'm not.

tpia1, like the way you did this

Atreides:

Ehn? Wedding? Where? How? When? Biko,tell me some more. .

Atreides, read btw the lines now

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Atreides:

bia sonia,where are you going,and where are you coming from?

help me ask her.

Carlosein:

Atreides, read btw the lines now

Okay you mean the discussion,apologies and counter-apologies between X and y? Now i see. .  

^^Not btw x and y, btw t and g

Carlosein:

^^Not btw x and y, btw t and g

i know naa. . We have already given 't' that ends with 'a' away. . Bros G paid 25 grand ja-le(thas yoruba oh. . Dont know whether the spelling is right)

^^25 grand? Hope it's in sterling cos t. is not that cheap o.
And G should have oil money now

Which kain sterling? 25,000 naira,last price. Maybe it was cedis sef.

Aaahhh, my hand no de o.

if it's cedis, they will spend billions on the wedding proper. Let's begin searching for bullion van well in advance.

they'll put the bride-price in Ghana must go bag. . Hehe. . Bullion van for the traditional,double decker luxury bus(ekene dili chukwu et al) for the white wedding. .

Aaah! You are a 'BAAAD' girl
Ekene dili Chukwu indeed.

By the way, hope your dad does not check your posts on n/land. I no wan enter yawa o

i always wipe my history naa. . Besides,house rule is that anyone using the pc/lappy to browse must do so in the parlor where everyone passing can see what you're doing. He doesn't really worry about internet. . (well okay,he worries,but on a normal level).

i dnt fink he hz any rite 2 invade on ur privacy, buh u no parentz especially dadz wif d hole protecting stuff nd age grade so in orda hand if ur nt up 2 18 i dnt really blame ur dad, hez jst bin a kuldad really,

Atreides:

i always wipe my history naa. . Besides,house rule is that anyone using the pc/lappy to browse must do so in the parlor where everyone passing can see what you're doing. He doesn't really worry about internet. . (well okay,he worries,but on a normal level).

so i'm safe. great!

anniebel:

i dnt fink he hz any rite 2 invade on your privacy, buh u no parentz especially dadz wif d hole protecting stuff nd age grade so in orda hand if your nt up 2 18 i dnt really blame your dad, hez jst bin a kuldad really,

anniebel, is it really easier to type like this? It's definitely a tough read for me

Carlosein:

anniebel, is it really easier to type like this? It's definitely a tough read for me

Maybe he/she's using a phone. But how come old people are so touchy about text-speak?

maybe it's an 'old people' thing.

how come young pple never care about how/what they write?