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|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 6:47pm On May 13, 2020|
Those men are myopic. That is like a woman disrespecting a man because she bore the child.
Each party brings a certain resource(s) to the table and they are equal but different.
It is only an silly man that will disrespect his wife because he pays Bill's.
In saner climes the wealth is shared into half when dissolving the marriage - you know why? Becos if the man had to baby sit and nurture he will not have so much wealth and much more.
What a woman brings to the table is intangible eg peace, love, dinner time, family together time, spiritual time and when you force her to concentrate on the tangible guess what she can no longer bring the intangible.... so peace is the first to fly out then dinner time follows, picnic and family togetherness is gone.
She hates the man for it.
A woman must have her own money, own her own business or job but if her boss slaps her butt - a catered for woman will slap him back right away but if she is the bill player she takes it and becomes his girlfriend sef then the man comes on NL and says he is being cheated on.
We discuss the effect but the root is because she needs to make ends meet. A married woman should not be desperate to make ends meet. Put her in that situation and .. we have threads where seemingly kind wife turns to Dracula.
Leave your wives money for her. She does not have the capacity to feed a grown man, cloth him and shelter and it does not matter how much money she has.... she does not have the emotional capacity to do this and still see the man as her crown... he becomes her bathroom slippers and NO MAN except shameless men like @emmaodet can take the disrespectful eyeing of a woman who is feeding them. If you are feeding your wife and she eyes you.... you can look away and spank her during runtime but if she is paying your Bill's. It goes right into the soul.
This is my take.
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|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ishilove: 6:47pm On May 13, 2020|
SweetCunt97:Nature from time immemorial is ordered in such a way that the male is the provider and the female is the nurturer, which is why it takes a very special woman who can play both roles without emasculating her partner. When a man can't play his natural, God given role, things fall apart.
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|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Mariangeles(f): 6:51pm On May 13, 2020|
At the end of the day, the woman loses more.
Forget about keeping a partner if you can't offer any woman marriage.
That was probably what George Clooney told all those ladies he wasted their time, until he found Amal and "decided" to change his mind about remaining a bachelor forever by marrying her and having twins.
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|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Mariangeles(f): 6:54pm On May 13, 2020|
Oh my gee!
I love you!
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 6:57pm On May 13, 2020|
My bro every man has a 3 months grace to get his shit together.
Life happens and most wives especially in a society like NG prefer to be married at least for appearance sake so for a woman to go from angel to witch ... it takes 3 months.
Now for better for better not worse ..... that statement does not supercede the man being an infidel or worse than an infidel when he cannot provide. They will be together but he will leave by himself when the fury of hell is brought on him.
No one is more resilient than women - she is programmed to carry a child for 9 months - but no matter how.much money she has..... for emphasis I will repeat no matter how much money she has - she is not programmed to shelter, feed or cloth a man least of all her husband.
See the bible said worse than an infidel - meaning he will be treated worse than an infidel.
Teach your sons how to make money. Let the girls go to school and let the boys learn to trade and go to school.
A man is practically useless in a family setting if he is not providing
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|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 6:59pm On May 13, 2020|
Love you right back my darling
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Omoluabi16(m): 7:01pm On May 13, 2020|
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 7:02pm On May 13, 2020|
Men donot need marriage. Marriage is for women
Any woman that let's a man run through her like tissue paper is on her own.
Amal didn't put up with nonsense so George had to do the right thing by her or lose her
Woman is the prize! We better act like it
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|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 7:04pm On May 13, 2020|
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by DeeMain(m): 7:11pm On May 13, 2020|
Lol @ 3 months grace. See the way she is pontificating
There are other sides of this issue you haven't looked at. Just that I am not in the mood for long writing.
Have learnt one or two things about the way your minds work though. Thanks for your time
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Mariangeles(f): 7:13pm On May 13, 2020|
You should see how Clooney gushes over Amal and respects her when interviewed...
This was a man that thought he was too good for any woman.
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by NoToPile: 7:18pm On May 13, 2020|
Expantiate pls, dont want to misunderstand you
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by NoToPile: 7:28pm On May 13, 2020|
Repetition is for emphasis.I just had to quote you guys
Most people don't know this
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 7:29pm On May 13, 2020|
Afi pontificating noh
I have learnt that men who are lazy to provide will look for all other sides of the issue.
O ba yin lo.... all these big grammer just so you don't pay your own child's school fees.
It is well
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by DeeMain(m): 7:33pm On May 13, 2020|
Nne, I was joking about the pontifcating. Didn't you see the laugh emoji? I actually enjoyed the back and forth and learnt something from you.
Thanks for the insults.
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by bukatyne(f): 7:35pm On May 13, 2020|
Summarizing the bolded line.
God might choose our spouses however we need to work at it.
God's choosing just make challenges (not bad behaviors like adultery, abuse, extreme jealousy, stifling of potentials etc) easier to bear because you know there is light at the end of the tunnel.
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by NoToPile: 7:40pm On May 13, 2020|
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by bukatyne(f): 7:47pm On May 13, 2020|
So you are a strict believer of roles.
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 7:53pm On May 13, 2020|
It has worked for me for 19 years and works for many people too.
The ones who donot adher to roles open marital thread on Nairaland
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 7:55pm On May 13, 2020|
Haba I was joking too. WE ARE BOTH JOKING
As soon as a man start eating from his wife’s sweat for more than 3 months - it is as if heaven locks all doors of abundance from the man. Look around you, the men whose wife’s provide for them - do you see such men making headway - year in year out - bakononi!!! Spiritually he is siphoning his wealth into his wife’s pocket. See OP stopped eating his wife’s sweat and see what happened - his angels returned and abundance came in. Do not eat from the sweat of a woman, it is not good for you. It is spiritual poison. It may be sweeting your belly now but it is harmful for you as a man.
If you borrow her money return with interest ….. ok at least return principal amount.
PS Men who eat a woman’s sweat always have sharp mouth as in their feminine side is dominant in them - they will join their fellow women in the kitchen to speak big grammar and gossip
We welcome you our sis in a man’s body
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|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by bukatyne(f): 8:11pm On May 13, 2020|
I was going to modify the post.
Hahahahaaha at the last line.
So what are the rights/responsibilities of each party?
What kind of jobs do you think is ok for women? I see you talk about dinner time and all that. That means you are a bit in control of your time.
Also, do you handle all the chores alone?
I agree with you that there is a difference when you have a job for having sake and you have a job because you need to have it.
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Takotsubo: 8:23pm On May 13, 2020|
I empathize with you,and can even read how perplexed you are by everything that has happened.
It is nice to see you are reflecting and trying to be fair in your assessment.
You guys have been married for long and at some point boredom sets in and people hanker for variety( both male and female ).. throw in unhappiness at home,fighting and arguing and it's easy to see how a person can justify seeking out someonelse..I'm not saying this is alright or your fault ,as adults we are responsible for our decisions but I know that good people do bad things sometimes.
My main curiosity is why she continued and was not willing to work past it with you since you wanted to?
Why did she not feel sorry ? If the relationship was as good as you say,why was she not willing to salvage it?
If you don't mind,did you also cheat at some point?
She seems to be happy and doing well at the moment and I know this can feel hurtful seeing all the years you shared together.
When you both talked,what did she say went wrong?
I hope you both can parent together with civility for the sake of your kids.
Life can really be cruel.
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 8:51pm On May 13, 2020|
In a family setting the husband provides he protects - locks the doors at night, spiritual head, kids school fees, shelter, discipline etc
the wife nurtures basically she she does everything else - family health, ego stroking, storytime, PTA, Home cleaniness, Kids to school, Gifts for Teachers, Arranging holiday time, Nourishment etc
For the kids
She teaches affection and pampering - he teaches affection and courage
They both teach self esteem but it is more of his responsibility to let his kids know the child of who they are
They both do homework but it is her responsibility to teach and guide the child in the path of moral
They both teach business but it is more of Daddy's role
Any job! some jobs are more feminine but she can do any job as long as she is able to perform the above duties for her family
I run a software company and code really well - we have a staff of about 30 programmers
I run an importation company and own 5 ecommerce websites that are doing quite well
Also a media company that is doing ok but could be better
Both companies are over 6 years and though my husband gave me capital - he does not ask me for money and he never will. Na man him be.
My husband is not required to do chores in the house at all. If he wants to - all well and good but he is a very busy man with plenty on his shoulder- because of him other men have a salary to feed their family.
I have helps that do chores and I coordinate. I cook dinner every night too and make sure we have a meal together Oga, myself and the children. We talk about our day and give support. Crack jokes - watch TV or play monopoly.
He also gives one weekend a month for family recreation and a vacation every year - all funded by him but organised by moi
Once a boss slapped by ass, I slapped him and my husband later locked him up. No one messes with the Queen.
I also never say no to seexx in 19 years. I respect my husband as in truly adore and respect him not audio type. He is a one of a kind man and he in turn adores me even more - I am the queen
Hope this answers your question
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|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by bukatyne(f): 8:55pm On May 13, 2020|
Ego stroking very funny
My questions very well answered.
Thank you and God bless your family.
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 8:57pm On May 13, 2020|
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Prymestrr(m): 9:03pm On May 13, 2020|
Mariangeles:George Clooney, one in 7 billion people. Zlatan Ibrahimovic has 2 kids now but he's not married to his partner. Oprah Winfrey has a partner and she's not interested in marriage. Not everyone is crazed with the idea of marriage please. If you need marriage to make your life whole please go ahead, that doesn't mean everyone else does.
Woman weh deh find marriage go balance with man weh no send marriage simply mean say the woman no get sense shikena
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by bukatyne(f): 9:21pm On May 13, 2020|
You joined 2014 with less than 400 posts?
We need a what'sapp group for you people.
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 9:27pm On May 13, 2020|
Ah mi ke.... member since 2006
I have NL monikers lorishi rishi...
My business moniker is different from my family moniker
at be be lo....
This moniker is specifically to educate the family setting because finance is the main cause of broken homes
Ride with me as I tag you
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by bukatyne(f): 9:37pm On May 13, 2020|
How many monikers do you have?
50, 100, 7
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 9:39pm On May 13, 2020|
Can you keep a secret ??
|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by darfay: 10:19pm On May 13, 2020|
Shut up you bloody hypocrite
Why do you have to turn his failures and regrets to your prayer point
Bloody bloody hypocrite
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|Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by darfay: 10:20pm On May 13, 2020|
Give yourself a second chance with a new lady
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