@fstranger1 I know you admire me thats why you went through all the trouble of posting my pic for all to see, no biggie, I'm used to haters  and admirers.

Thank You

Akaraoku$:

@ Singlelife
I can detect from your replies that you'd be such a nice and courteous person in real life given how you reply to even some of the posts that have/leave a sour taste in the mouth
Regarding the subject matter, i think the major issue here was morelike misplacement of priorities when you were younger. Please i'm not saying that serving the Lord is not a good thing but you let that take the whole of your attention without realizing the effect on other aspects of your life.Even the same bible says there is time for everything, also i reckon with people advising you to go out and socialize.The story of Ruth in the bible makes an interesting read as she had to position her strategically in Boaz's farm to attract his attention(watch two things in this story-d advice to go out in the field of Boaz came from Naomi her MIL(older woman) secondly she advised to also dress to impress).
I have friends who are passing through this same experience and this is the advice i give as i was even in my midtwenties when i started getting pressures from my relatives particularly my mum. Now ,there are certain things /traits that matter so much to an individual in the most realistic and objective way.Do not compromise on character traits you cannot live with.
You asked questions on the kind of places to go to; go to movies, take yourself out, go to internet dating sites!(yes there is no harm so long as you do it with guided wisdom /common sense afterall d world is a global village now and people have hit gold mines on the internet,e-banking e.t.c)
In addition to all the advice given,learn to love yourself cos it is only then you can extend it to another person! In finality ,note that most good gifts don't come in the package we expect them to be in!
Wishing you the best while praying 4 u for d peace dt superceeds all understanding regardless of the storm!!!

u need to give your life to Jesus Christ and you will over come all pressure in life and he will give you mr right

Did you take your time to read the entire thread?

venchi:

u need to give your life to Jesus Christ and you will over come all pressure in life and he will give you mr right

Singleness is different from loneliness, depends on the one she is now. Better still get married, no time.

No condition is permmanent,a good condition is not permmanent,so also a bad condition will never be permmanent.All what we need to have is patience in any of our endeavours in live and to do the right thing at the right time.

Name: Matthew

Occupation: IT Consultant

Lacation Lagos

Mobile no 08027899931

I'm single, over 30yrs but i'm still searching for serious lady pls can hav ur mobile no.

I am yet to feel the pressure. . . . hope you find your life partner OP!

Matvent:

No condition is permmanent,a good condition is not permmanent,so also a bad condition will never be permmanent.All what we need to have is patience in any of our endeavours in live and to do the right thing at the right time.

Name: Matthew

Occupation: IT Consultant

Lacation Lagos

Mobile no 08027899931

I'm single, over 30yrs but i'm still searching for serious lady pls can hav your mobile no.

Yahooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Try 'arranged' relationship_marriage!
can hook u up with (over 35 single) friend of mine!
blackkehno@yahoo.com

@singlelife:

God be praised for your life. Your single status is not a disease, so please do not be cowed into making any life changing decision without God. There's no situation that God cannot handle. That He has not granted your heart desire does not mean He's not aware of it or that He does not care. He cares for you. Our desires on this side of eternity are the best we can think of; but I want to say that God feels our concerns, worries, and He is interested in guiding us.

I don't know your story or history before the Lord, but keep your confession of faith and do not lower your spiritual standards. A married life is desirable because no one wants to remain single and lonely for life. But have you thought that in God's infinite wisdom, He may have delayed your marriage for certain things that are not yet in place? If you can't think of anything about you not yet in place, think of the man that God is planning to bring your way.

Another thing I will suggest is to seek God through fasting and prayer - seek God for strength if you are weak in this area. I have seen God revealing reasons behind certain situations, and I have witnessed Him performed miracles when believers seek Him earnestly.

Your single status is not peculiar to you. There are some of my female friends (born again) sisters who are seeking God's intervention over the same issue. I believe you will agree with me that to be single and alive is better than to be married to a philanderer? What many married people and supposed Christians are coping with will blow your mind. Please take solace in God and continue to seek Him. He knows the best time to make it happen.

As you pray for yourself, I'll advise you keep the man in prayers, too. Many young and eligible bachelors are looking for a lady like you, so asking God to bless and lead the man is another way to invest into his life before meeting him.

I pray that you shall go off the market very soon in Jesus' name. Amen.

Shalom

Menopause age for most ladis is abt 35 years oh!! Make haste, while the sun shines or be a reverend sister

i am single under 30, jag vill om du vågar!

im surprised at the junk im hearing on this thread! prostitutes get married, ugly extremist christians/muslims get married, junkies get married, roadside hobos find love and disabled people get married too! kmt it doesnt even stop there, mentally retarded people physically handicapped the list will actually go on!
So spending time in the church has absolutely nothing to do with it! in fact some churches are even good at hookin up their members! so those of you with your stupid theories can stuff it!

@ post
'why men love bitches' by sherry argov,
this is the only relationship book ive ever read and its simply amazing! its about dating and has a mans perspective on the way women behave. The reason why i recomend the book is because it also gives a 'feel good' approach to single women. The book elevated me, since i realized at the end, dating is simply a game. Plus it will boost you onto the right attitude when you start dating. The last thing you want to do is waste years on one man that will lead you nowhere!

Find a Husband After 35: Using What I Learned at Harvard Business School by rachel greenwald
I havent read this book but the idea is ecstatic!!! WARNING The book is a 101 for women over 35 that DESPERATELY want to be married, in a way it might encourage you to lower your standards to an embarrassingly low potential. Its better to take the overall approach of the book rather than take it word for word, some of my friends found it quite demeaning but i read most women that tried it were married in 18 months. Ill advise it to you sha.

Eat pray love by elizabeth gilbert
I havent read this but its an inspiring story, alot of my friends hate it because they say its condescending but alot of women believe it to be inspiring. It encourages self centred-ness and self indulgence, not a bad thing in my opinion!

im actually meetin with a few friends tonight ill find out abt some other inspiring books you can read

Thanks, hot titles, would have to read some of them with an extremely open mind; if you know what I mean. Thanks for taking the time, would hope that you find more during your outing with friends tonight. Cheers

queensmith:


@ post
'why men love bitches' by sherry argov,
this is the only relationship book ive ever read and its simply amazing! its about dating and has a mans perspective on the way women behave. The reason why i recomend the book is because it also gives a 'feel good' approach to single women. The book elevated me, since i realized at the end, dating is simply a game. Plus it will boost you onto the right attitude when you start dating. The last thing you want to do is waste years on one man that will lead you nowhere!

Find a Husband After 35: Using What I Learned at Harvard Business School by rachel greenwald
I havent read this book but the idea is ecstatic!!! WARNING The book is a 101 for women over 35 that DESPERATELY want to be married, in a way it might encourage you to lower your standards to an embarrassingly low potential. Its better to take the overall approach of the book rather than take it word for word, some of my friends found it quite demeaning but i read most women that tried it were married in 18 months. Ill advise it to you sha.

Eat pray love by elizabeth gilbert
I havent read this but its an inspiring story, alot of my friends hate it because they say its [b]condescending [/b]but alot of women believe it to be inspiring. It encourages self centred-ness and self indulgence, not a bad thing in my opinion!

im actually meetin with a few friends tonight ill find out abt some other inspiring books you can read

singlelife:

@Meldrick @Madam Tpia and @tensor777
If you read @meadan's post without being judgmental you would discover that key elements were mentioned which was why it was considered one of the notable advises considering other post before it.
Reread it:- "improve your physical appearance every single day, In short, work on every aspect of your life"
back to the post, it's there. And it is a notable and sound advise.
Tell me what is wrong with Improving yourself every day and working on every aspect of your life every day as you walk towards your goal, marriage or any other thing?

Honestly Single Life I don't know what you  are going on  about. Saying things like improving your appearance and working on every area of your life are far too vague considering the fact that we are dealing here with a highly specific area which YOU raised.
Anyway is this thread about making you feel better about yourself or even making you stop feeling sorry for yourself
My own advice is that you should make haste while the sun still shines, be proactive and friendly to the opposite gender whilst keeping your legs closed until after marriage.
DON'T attempt reading books by single christian sisters but DO read dating and relationship advice books by powerful annointed happily married men and women of God

A woman who has friends must show herself friendly.

30 years? just apply @ www.house45.tv The biggest Dating Reality TV. Coming soon.

Sorry dear, such is life. But pls pray to God and he will surely open a way out for you so that you dont make some life mistake. Remember you will face your marriage all by yourself. So do not allow anybodys pressure to make you take actions you would regret. I pray Gods speed , Nsidear

blakbarbie:

@fstranger1 I know you admire me thats why you went through all the trouble of posting my pic for all to see, no biggie, I'm used to haters  and admirers.

the photo is still there?? and ive reported it as well id advise you to even take your photo down I was having the same problems a while ago. NL is not a safe place to socialize smh

lmao- i dont even know why some religous people bother to write relationship literature the books are normally impracticle and full of trash i made the mistake of buying no more sheets, never again! the best relationship books are the ones written by those that experience the same. Christian or not!

dayokanu:

Stranger,

Ki lo kan e?

Nnknan to omo na di saya 

It is goboyi!

@tensor777 Thank you for the advise on being proactive and so on. On the contrary, feeling sorry wasn't part of the pressures. Feeling sorry for yourself is proof of your level of understanding who you actually are. Improving every area of your life wasn't too vague to grasp. This thread isn't just about personal pressures. There are many out there who themselves have confessed on this thread of dealing with the same pressures. Like someone noted on the thread, the best books to read are those written by people facing the same challenge. Likewise, Those going through this challenge who read about improving every area of their lives, know exactly what that means to them.

tensor777:

Honestly Single Life I don't know what you  are going on  about. Saying things like improving your appearance and working on every area of your life are far too vague considering the fact that we are dealing here with a highly specific area which YOU raised.
Anyway is this thread about making you feel better about yourself or even making you stop feeling sorry for yourself
My own advice is that you should make haste while the sun still shines, be proactive and friendly to the opposite gender whilst keeping your legs closed until after marriage.
DON'T attempt reading books by single christian sisters but DO read dating and relationship advice books by powerful annointed happily married men and women of God

A woman who has friends must show herself friendly.

God ll give you ur own husband,soon,cos there's no time again

I don't know why I gave this thread a serious thought last night; and what kept flashing on mind was something the Lord told me in 2007.

Singlelife and other single Christian ladies: I suggest you ask God for where your husband is located. Wrong location is one of the reasons why many young men and women are still single.

Keep in mind what the Scripture says "he that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing and obtaineth favor from the Lord,"

It's the man's responsibility to locate the woman, but think of this: If the man/woman is wrongly located, what are the chances that they would meet? I believe in God's power, but you need to seek Him for direction because your man may not be in your circle of influence.

Some years ago, the Lord gave me a revelation to broaden my knowledge on how He works miracles:

I saw a young woman in her early thirties praying in her office. In the vision, the lady was pacing praying intensely. But the next minute, I saw her crying because she was suspended at work. I couldn't make a head or tail of the vision until a few minutes later. Then I saw her in a church talking to some brethren about fraud in her department and how she wanted them to join her in prayers. Obviously, she's upwardly mobile and would not trade her lucrative job for anything. The vision was interrupted briefly as I woke up to do something. The next thing I saw in the vision when it continued was that the lady decided to visit her Mom in another state during her suspension period. In a nutshell, she met her husband when she was going to see her mother. The guy was among some people that the public transport vehicle abandoned by the road side due to a mechanical fault.

Romans 8:28 - All things work together for good to them that love the Lord, and those who are the called according to His purpose.

Do NOT involve spiritual matters in this, Nigerians are just crazy about religious rubbish ----- instead of taking responsibility for their actions. There are some people who meet their husbands, without 28 days of fasting and prayer sessions. They just met them and things are well ---- I don't believe in all this religious hocus pocus about marriage ----- The real question is: ARE YOU READY ? DO YOU DRESS WELL ? DO YOU LOOK NEAT and HEALTHY ? ARE YOU FRIENDLY ---- how can you say you are looking for a "good" man but you're a terrible person -----


Please, people introduce people, and if you are nice, someone could introduce you to their rich cousin, who is a doctor somewhere in Houston ----- and you' may have never been to Houston before ---- please don't let anyone FOOL you with religious hocus pocus about visions.

^^ God bless you jooor! pople coming and preaching crass!
NETWORKING is the key! you have to go out and meet people jare! lol

@POSTER
1) try meet people more, socialise more (church, work, sports, movies, weddings, parties etc.). no need to go clubbing.
2) manage ur perception. you must be percieved as a happy person so u either try make urself happy or fake the happiness with sincerity. It is important for single ladies over 30 to have a happy and fun loving persona. There is a stereotype abt old unmarried ladies being unhappy. No guy wants to be infected with unhappiness. dont ever portray urself to be desperate. it is very counter-productive.
3) ensure that u have a pleasant appearance, courteous manners (i have seen u have that already from ur posts). good looks is an added advantage
4) this is a time to be more liberal and flexible both with belief, values, expectations (from ur wouldbe partner)
5) also in addition to not portraying urself asd desperate, u shuld not portray the independent woman, feminist persona. "men are bad/wicked" is not a word people shuld hear from ur mouth. at times like this, other ladies might preach the "better single than married" slogan to console u. do not take such consolation. remember u want to get married. ur close female friends shuld be married ladies

i could add more later.
this suggestions are based on d assumption that u are single, over 30 and really want to get married ASAP.

singlelife:

@tensor777 Thank you for the advise on being proactive and so on. On the contrary, feeling sorry wasn't part of the pressures. Feeling sorry for yourself is proof of your level of understanding who you actually are. Improving every area of your life wasn't too vague to grasp. This thread isn't just about personal pressures. There are many out there who themselves have confessed on this thread of dealing with the same pressures. Like someone noted on the thread, the best books to read are those written by people facing the same challenge. Likewise, Those going through this challenge who read about improving every area of their lives, know exactly what that means to them.

My friend will you go n get married n stop wasting your time on the internet

@Single LIfe

Coping and dealing with the issue is virtually the same and it entails a lot of allies like,

A good Self Esteem and Image,
if u don't have these, merely seeing ppl that are younger get married is enough to raise ur BP,

A Good Carreer,
this is good but don't bury urself in it too much so as not to have a good social life.

A godd and healthy Beauty Rountine
don't be too sad about your situation and so neglect ur looks,,,,,, you have to always look catchy, Look Good

A Good Relationship With God,
God does not forget his own, a Father always provide for his children and u wont be an exception here,,,always pray and hold on to God's word,,,, If u blive u will have it, ( mind u this is not only as regards to marriage)

Don't be pressurised into marrying just anyone, a lot of marriages are barely together now, many couples put up a front when outside,,,just because they wanted to acquire the "MARRIED" status,

Another thing is that u will need support, some1 to pray with u, encourage u, that u can share ur pains, thoughts, fears,,,etc,,with, this will go a long way in helping you keeping ur cool,

I can go on and on, but if u desire a loving, passionate, fulfilling marriage, then take your time, a marriage u'll be happy u waited this long for, good men are still out there,,,,,

spotmataz

You should advice her to be prayerful, no matter which religion she belong to. Marriage is serious affair, thirty years in woman’s life is not a joke cos this life is so short. Grab the next opportunity, if you got one, menopause is around the corner.

HMMMMMMmmmm heyaaaaaaa
Wo knos how many guyz hrt she broke in her teen nd 20's wat a SUPERSTORY,
THIS LIFE sef hmmm ladies be careful oo0 2much shakara diz1 his head is 2big, Diz1his fine buh 2stingy supa glue, diz1 I lyk his body his height but his not romantic. mugu1 stil dey mugu2,4,5,mugu 1million hahan we commit sin, diz were we get 2revenge :-) :-/ ;oD

@spotmataz
You rock! Thanks for the insight.

spotmataz:


Coping and dealing with the issue is virtually the same and it entails a lot of allies like,

A good Self Esteem and Image,
A Good Carreer,
A good and healthy Beauty Rountine
A Good Relationship With God,
God does not forget his own, a Father always provide for his children and u wont be an exception here,,,always pray and hold on to God's word,,,, If u blive u will have it, ( mind u this is not only as regards to marriage)

Don't be pressurised into marrying just anyone, a lot of marriages are barely together now, many couples put up a front when outside,,,just because they wanted to acquire the "MARRIED" status,

Another thing is that u will need support, some1 to pray with u, encourage u, that u can share your pains, thoughts, fears,,,etc,,with, this will go a long way in helping you keeping your cool, I can go on and on, but if u desire a loving, passionate, fulfilling marriage, then take your time,  a marriage u'll be happy u waited this long for, good men are still out there,,,,,

spotmataz

Woman, You see every steps taken on earth count. Though putting the pressure from all and sundry to consideration, if care is not taking you may end up missing God's plan for your life because those put pressure on you to get married are not going to lick the hot pot of soup with you if you rush into getting married. Not so happy with your present situation as a lady but when it turn out to be likes this, what do you do, You pray. Remember the scripture said when the foundation be destroy what shall the righteous do? the righteous will PRAY.