safarigirl:


I hope you can read enough to notice all the disclaimers I posted there.

Perhaps you feel particularly triggered by this scenario.

Emotionss:
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For the fact that he wants to get married first before moving out is a very big red flag.

avalontony:


There is a future for everyone, even when your village people no gree

Smile4mee01:
Hmnnn...

I think this is why some girl might never get married.

5 years from now, you see this same guy has moved on , had his family and doing well , you wish you married him. By then she will be in Shilih crying to God to bless her with a Man.

Ladies discard good men because they dont see the future, they even dont ask more important questions like... Whats your 5 yr goal ? how would you raise our son/daughter? Have you got plans to improve yourself to be a better man ? how can i help with that ?

Instead, they bother about how huge their wedding is?, how many cows they killed ? is their wedding gown Instagram lit ? are my friends jealous ?

Lets not forget in the olden days, our mothers went to live with the fmilies of thier husband... when did it become a prerequisite to marrying ?

MrBrownJay1:


tell your sista to give the dude this simple reply:" when you relocate and get your own place, i will marry you"

ume1000:
am not saying its right ,but the way we make it seem a 35yr old lady living in her father's house is better than her male counterpart is rediculous

Advancedman:
Let me digress a bit.
Even if he get a place and relocate it still won't be marriage because the real issue here is a very stupid perspective in relationship.
I mean there is no him in this matter it should their resolve in their plan as couple not as an individual.

VickyRotex:


We dont have the full details of what's going on. we are only giving advise based on the information we have. We have encouraged the lady to also chip in and assist the guy, but if the guy is still not ready to move, what do you expect her to do?

ProfAmaben:

Standard = League.
There are women way above your league and those below. That's life.

Ishilove:

1) Not making any plans to relocate
2) Doesn't even know where to relocate to.
3) His 30k N-power work is village based
4) Not searching for viable alternatives to augment his meagre income.
5) He is the FIRST child

Verdict- The suitor is NFA. No future ambition.

Op, tell your sister to talk to her two legs. If the legs refuse to listen, let her beg them.

MrBrownJay1:


who do you take these women for... donkeys? if a man still lives in his parents house today (and want to get married while living there) then thats because he CANNOT afford a house of his own.

the important question IS: what man in his right man wants to get married while living at his parents home?


if a man is NOT independent, then he has no business wanting to get married, and he should instead get his priorities straight... you guys can either chip in and get a house together, but that should be done BEFORE marriage.

yes, i must be hypnotized...

Onyi22:
I can't ooo, if he is not done building his mansion, he shouldn't even think of marrying me

eni4real:
La liga or EPL??

eni4real:
La liga or EPL??

ednut1:
Many cant. But their papa marry dem mama while squatting.

eni4real:
Yeah. I feel triggered!

Ijeleigbo:
My wife's eldest brother lives in their family house with the mum. He got married and brought his wife to their family's house. He's doing business and earning but not interested in moving out of the house to rent his own apartment!
Everything still boils down to the lady! Marriage is sacrifice!! Does she want to live with her man in their family house? Does she want to live with a man who earns 30k monthly? Does she truly love him and want to share his sufferings and pains with him? If she's ready to sacrifice all that then let her be!! No marriage is a bed of roses!!! So long there's peace of mind, happiness and love, God will surely bless the marriage.

Thank you. Let's be realistic. That it's easier for some doesn't mean it's easy for all. There is something the sister sees in the man, we may not see. I am sure the Op is not ready to take care of the sisters all expenses until she grows old. So he can as well give her some space to make her decisions. Of course, she would live with whatever decisions she makes.

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Ladycewhy:
are you still doing "mama thank you for the food?"

eni4real:
Nope

ume1000:
but a jobless woman can get married abi
With all due respect am not in support of a. Guy getting married in his father's house
But unlike you I would condemn it from both gender

savvy12:
My younger Sister has a suitor who has been disturbing her for marriage. The guy is an n-power beneficiary and currently runs his dad's little business.

The problem is that he still lives in his family house but promised my Sister that he will relocate once they get married. We told my sister not to accept his proposal because he might refuse to relocate after marriage.
Note: he stays in the village and he is a graduate too.

simplexvi:
I mind my business bro, if she na der agreement, who am I to interfere, abi na me she de marry? imagine telling someone earning 30k to go rent house.. when he has a home he can stay comfortably, so if I work around my family house, u still expect me to rent a house around der, is that not waste? use d money invest in something useful jare. mind u the post didn't say d guy gt bad family

smasher1:


What if the sister is NFA? Because there is something the sister is seeing in him that we are not seeing. I wont decide for the sister. Age may also not be on her side and she may not be getting other suitors.

MrBrownJay1:


thats because you are focusing on the WRONG issue.... now let me help you, focus on the below in bold:



so again, before any man should be bold enough to go ask women's hand in marriage, they should get their life priorities straight and get their lives in order.

Ladycewhy:
then why triggered?

ProfAmaben:

No Japanese Football league

savvy12:
My younger Sister has a suitor who has been disturbing her for marriage. The guy is an n-power beneficiary and currently runs his dad's little business.

The problem is that he still lives in his family house but promised my Sister that he will relocate once they get married. We told my sister not to accept his proposal because he might refuse to relocate after marriage.

Note: he stays in the village and he is a graduate too.