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Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Nobody: 3:58pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
twind111: You don't know what this post means to me - i wish it can be shared to other platforms as well. Especially #1 - once you are married, your responsibilities triple and you cannot afford to be taking care of your siblings and parents when you have a wife and children to also take care of as your new "Generational" family Many Inlaws and Families feel that it is your duty to 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Nobody: 3:58pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
punisha: I am agreement with you. The entitlement mentality is killing Africans plus I may not be able to come through when you need it. They don't understand I have needs of my own and kids to take care. I just have the standard reply that I don't have to give you, sorry. |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by kherlly(m): 3:58pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
The only time you see help in a family is during burial... They will bill even the struggling ones in the family just to have a burial but they won't sit down and try to open a business for someone in the family that does not have. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by OpinionCounts(m): 3:59pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
BabbanBura: Even your parents are not obligated to help you forever. If they give you the good education to at least the university, after graduation, you are totally on your own, you should go out there and grind out a living for yourself. The problem is entitlement mentality Africans have, some feel if their brother is rich then he must help them wether he likes it or not and in some cases laziness and irresponsibility ( some believe their brothers money belongs to the entire family so no need to work hard again and grind out their own fortune), They just believe their rich brother should be sharing his money amongst them all and carry everyone's problems and responsibilities. |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Brushstrokes20: 4:00pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Bullocks!....* In davido's voice * WE RISE BY LIFTING OTHERS! I don't want the kind of wealth that I cannot use to bless the needy and humanity in general! After all, Lighting another man's candle does not quench yours, KUDOS to cheerful givers, femi otedola, late tb joshua, Bill Gates etc.... Your names are forever written in gold 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by vickydevoka(m): 4:03pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
slawormiir:Ur uncle father's side must be useless. Buh have u sat down n think b4 judging or generalizing. Men hardly help men. Brothers hardly call brothers Brothers always fight brothers without reconciliation been made soon. Men have super ego. U see all dis aforementioned, women acts opposite. That's y ur mummy's brothers help ur mum n don't care about his brother. A good example: if u had serious quarrel with ur sister n u need 10 million to go to abroad; if u sister have 6 million she can sell all her properties to make up de 4 million remaining. Just to make sure u go to abroad. If u as a man have serious quarrel with your brother n u need 10 million to go to abroad, even if ur brother is having 50 million he might not give u. He will give u reasons, he will start saying I have projects, that u should wait. Na so u go wait till u reach 50. Lol Buh don't generalize everybody is not desame. That's y we keep praying let de good person in the house becomes rich first. A good example is mikel obi. Mikel's brothers n sisters are living larger than Mikel. Even driving better cars n wearing better clothes. Niggar no send 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by kophy(m): 4:05pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
kophy: heniford2:Hmmmm, I am pleased with everything from the beginning, not until that your last thought. If you really want to help the boy, allow him in to where you are if you and that if you really want to help, even if I am in your shoes, I will not tell him what his mother did. So let the boy know you are doing it all for God sake. Think deeply, there are people out there who went through hell from someone their dad or mum had helped, and funny enough with what they went through they still never have any good stories to tell. Just thank the Almighty for the little you have achieved, no matter how little you THINK. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by One1Nigeria: 4:05pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
The white man does not have time for this family rubbish,the reason for all this nonsense is because our government has failed..... politically and economically.....Abeg free Family Every body get him own problem,u self carry ur cross put all your hope in God 2 Likes |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by BabbanBura(m): 4:05pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
OpinionCounts: So so true. Why do I feel like I wrote this too? We are perfectly like mines bro |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Blacksavage: 4:09pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Ahh! Bro why u con bring up this family shits..meh my family no even get time to help each other that's why i distance myself from them cause me seeing them is of no used to me.. |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Heineken(m): 4:09pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Eniti olorun ran seyan lo n ranyan lowo. |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Heterodox(m): 4:09pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
ignis:Depends who you call family. As for me, anything beyond my siblings it's a no. Every relative can go to hell. |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by mydivinely: 4:10pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
some wont help because they dont want you to prosper or to be more than their biological children i wrote jamb scored high in a school my uncle was then Head of Department, he promise heaven that i should relax n strt preparing for school, that was deception. at the end he asked me why cant i wait till my elder brother graduate but his own children didnt wait for one to graduate before another, finally i left my state to a state i know no man. and God helped me today i graduated without any family support... That call we made was the last call am not angry with him, but my phone CAN NEVER DIAL HIS LINE TILL HE DIE OR I DIE, i learned a great lesson to always rely on God , He then can decide whom he wil use to help me. s Jeremiah 17:5 KJV: Thus saith the LORD; Cursed be the man that trust in man... 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Dearlord(m): 4:12pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
heniford2: Don't do that dude, it will be so silly of you. Just move on if you don't wanna help � 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Nobody: 4:13pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
You help all the time and the day you couldn't help, you become a bad person instantly. All the sacrifices you made in the past all forgotten. I don't help individuals who continue to make bad choices or are too lazy to help themselves. 3 Likes |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Dearlord(m): 4:13pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Bia Mr Man, you that is talking how many have you helped? |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by SeriouslySense(m): 4:17pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Not everyone is like this, it depends on the person, i say this, because i know my parents, they helped others and they are doing fine. mydivinely: |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Jahwinaboy(m): 4:19pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
heniford2:That MAYBE too much. JUST LET GO OR BETTER STILL TELL THEMB U CAN'T HELp but try remind the mum of those days |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by idahme(m): 4:19pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Even if family offends me, if I am in a position to lift every member of the family will. Family before friends and then strangers, nothing takes away family in that ranking other. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Nobody: 4:21pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
NaWeDeyHere:I stopped long time ago. I have full blow adults who wants to be on my payroll, it only serves to encourage laziness. I train my kids to be productive individuals and not to expect from anyone. The world owes them nothing. If they want it, they have to go work for it. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by pansophist(m): 4:21pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
AreaFada2: You made an outstanding point and this is what I've experienced. When one have the virtue of contentment, he appears wealthy to other materialistic folks. Because one doesn't go about asking for money, carry his own weight diligently and even help despite his own challenges doesn't mean his is rich or can help beyond a certain level. It's also a case of people expecting your help to be somewhat revolutionary. If you have a Benz for example, they would expect you to help them to a point where they will have a benz too, even though you can't. Also, they may not have productive skills to cash out on their own and somehow, think just because they want it, and assumed you can help, then so be it and that they should have it. It's also a case of delusion. Because someone think I'm in a position to help doesn't mean I can. Lots of folks abroad passes through this. A man may be illegal wherever they are, hiding from police and doing hard jobs under the table to survive, but people back home will heap all their problem on him with the wrong mindset that because he is abroad, he must be able to help. I also intensely hate the fact that because someone is in need of help, they are automatically immuned from fault. I say this again, lots of needy family members are loosers, ungrateful, opportunist and a leaky basket. Doesn't matter how much you give, they will come back to beg for more. The idea that the one in the weak position (the beggar) is somehow good and the assumed rich guy (the giver) is bad is wrong. Thats about it. Pareto principles which says that 20% of people have 80% of the wealth is not some unfair capitalistic, exploitative, inhumane system that people make it to seems. It is completely a natural law and a biblical one at that. Also known as the mathew principle in the bible. For whoever has will be given more, and they will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what they have will be taken from them. Mathew 25.29 So you see, the more hardworking and drive yoy have, the more successful you'll become. But if one is lazy, have no drive and keep begging, thr poorer they will be. 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by oliverano: 4:24pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
punisha: How to make money and be independent should be taught in school not this.... HELP OTHERS IF YOU CAN, FAMILY MEMBERS OR NOT!!! Before you say we're saying same thing, I think we're not. My dad died when I was in ss2, my mum was relatively young and was just a seamstress. in fact when my dad died, my mum became sick. I thank God for my family members, it was just unbelievable. Even till today I still can't believe such acts of generosity because it's rare in Africa. After sec school I was sent abroad to study. a family member did that for me. If I wasn't helped by a family member, I would have been in prison by now or begging for food. I've in turn helped others in my family first. The aim is to establish a foundation where lots of less privileged will be assisted. I believe in true religion. Help others but if you can, start from your family because at the end of the day family is still where you end up!!!. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Nobody: 4:25pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
pansophist:+1000 likes |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Codeye(m): 4:31pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
slawormiir: |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by aysnoopy(m): 4:32pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
slawormiir: Damnnn nigga, u are fucking right. I've 8 siblings from my father side and 1 sibling from my mother side (I'm d last born of them all). Damnnn, those siblings from my father side are fucking useless. No help from them no matter how little it is, but my one and only sister from my mother side is like my hunchback. She got my back everytime. I pray to be rich so that my sister will never lack for a sec. Love u Adenike 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by mrkhaynoni: 4:33pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
pansophist: You have spoken very well wise one. |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Olodo24: 4:34pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
heniford2:Mine depresses me cos they're my older siblings. None of them gives me a penny even now that I'm so broke. I've always depended on the kindness of strangers when I'm down. I'll rather seek help from a nairalander than from my seekings because they don't care. They only remember me when it's time to run errands. And it makes me feel bad cos I see my peers receiving gifts of all kinds from their siblings. Life no just balance for some of us 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by vickydevoka(m): 4:35pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Bannann:U do you know after be swindled 300k by a friend. I still have De mind to borrow another friend 20k. N now I'm broke now |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Olodo24: 4:37pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
kherlly:Exactly. I have an older half brother who's in the US. He only sends money when a family member dies 1 Like |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by olaarie(m): 4:39pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
U dey vex ?? slawormiir: |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Nobody: 4:40pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Kudos to my brother. He helps both F&F. If I can do half of what he has done so far, I would consider it a fulfilled lifetime. 1 Like 1 Share
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