twind111:
This issue is of different categorie
1 AJUNMOBI O KAN TAANU.. It's a Yoruba proverb , for someone to be your close relative doesn't guarantee that he or she will help you, some prefer to face their immediate family I mean kids and wife only.

2 PAST FAMILY HISTORY.. many rich family member didn't get help too when they are struggling. So you expect them to be of help too when they eventually arrive.

3 FAMILY ISSUE.. Take for instant you get a loan for a family member and he or she refuse to pay even when they can. If you persuade them too much they will say are we not family member.

4 MOST WICKED ENEMY SOMETIMES COME FROM THE FAMILY.. I mean spiritually. As a Nigerian you should understand this better.E.G. how can only you build 3 houses when we have none WAHALA. At your age I was still in form 4 and you say you need money for school fee in a university abeg wait till next year.e.t.c

5 ONE RICH MAN IN A POOR FAMILY.. when you have only just one rich man or just a few of them in a family what do you expect. how many do you think they can help .. when the pressure is too much they will distance themselves from family..

NOTE: it's only those sent by God that can help.. And if you receive help from a family member please don't misuse the opportunity it may hinder help of another family member.. If you didn't receive help from any family member now please don't have the wicked mindset that you too will not help .

punisha:
This topic deserves to be taught in schools.

The family member u r looking up to for help could be needing major help as well...no one owes you anything. The entitlement mentality needs to be wiped away especially in Africa.
That I have a car and own a house don't mean I ain't owing bank loans. You may need just 50k and I can't help don't mean I am wicked. If I am to give, it should come from a place of love not cos I am a tool that generates money for everyone.
Many of the entitled ones will still violate privileges believing that they can come back again n again for help.

Stop expecting family members to come through always. Be considerate.
Jackie Chan is not leaving his money behind for his son....he asked his son to work hard and make his own money. Try it in Africa.

BabbanBura:



You seems to be one of the kinds that may be difficult to be helped - entitled mentality! The fact your brother or sister is rich doesn't make you entitled to his wealth. He should lend helping hands but not as an obligation to you.

Your parents are the only ones obligated to take care of you, any other person doing so is helping and u should appreciate instead of feeling disgruntled because you don't get all you wanted from those other than your mama and papa!

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Ogbeni op abi na Baby girl you be just stop this talk
....the point you raised are not valid.....or reasonable.....you mean because of all these someone can not assist family members .....you are talking like a typical uncle from our fathers family

Ogbeni op...let me tell you a secret...no matter what always assist and render help to your family.....
The easiest way to become a Billionaire is to ensure that you help people around you to become a millionaire first....

The one I hate most and have noticed in life is that it seems uncles from our mother side are more caring and assisting than those moda fuckkking uncles from our fathers family .....and the most annoying thing is that we always share the same ancestral surname with those fuckkking uncles from the fathers family....still they will not be willing to help

kophy:
Hmmmm, I am pleased with everything from the beginning, not until that your last thought. If you really want to help allow the boy in, do little you think you can do and let the boy know you are doing it all for God sake. Think deeply, ó there are people out there who went through hell from someone their dad or mum had helped, and funny enough with what they went through the still never have any good stories to tell. Just Thank the Almighty for whatever you have achieve no matter how little.

heniford2:
Low mentality in Africa is the problem,i Remember back then when i lost my dad i went to ask loan from my Aunty who my dad helped, i remember her coming to visit my old man than my late old man will empty everything we have in house i stop my primary 6 then just because p man wan help her beloved sister then he died what my aunty opened her stinking mouth to say to me after my dads burial"hey come here, see if you think my money or any of us will give u guys any penny your dreaming right i owe u guys nothing likewise my brother and sisters so if u like go and hustle" it shocked me because we just buried his brother that day i saw her crying why this vaxation i thought she was joking till i went to ask for money to pay my school fees i saw the shock of my life Never hope on anyone Not ever your own blood brother make plans for yourself and your children, right know she's asking me to help his son to come over to germany guess what i will Bleep them up in a very big way will allow the boy to come over then set him up they will lock him up or deport him for illegal stay and position of drugs

OpinionCounts:


Even your parents are not obligated to help you forever. If they give you the good education to at least the university, after graduation, you are totally on your own, you should go out there and grind out a living for yourself.
The problem is entitlement mentality Africans have, some feel if their brother is rich then he must help them wether he likes it or not and in some cases laziness and irresponsibility ( some believe their brothers money belongs to the entire family so no need to work hard again and grind out their own fortune), They just believe their rich brother should be sharing his money amongst them all and carry everyone's problems and responsibilities.

ignis:
The major reason is wickedness. Please let's not justify wickedness and evil. There is no reason for a successful family member not to help a struggling family member.

Someone will come tomorrow and give reasons why the devil is evil.

heniford2:
Low mentality in Africa is the problem,i Remember back then when i lost my dad i went to ask loan from my Aunty who my dad helped, i remember her coming to visit my old man than my late old man will empty everything we have in house i stop my primary 6 then just because p man wan help her beloved sister then he died what my aunty opened her stinking mouth to say to me after my dads burial"hey come here, see if you think my money or any of us will give u guys any penny your dreaming right i owe u guys nothing likewise my brother and sisters so if u like go and hustle" it shocked me because we just buried his brother that day i saw her crying why this vaxation i thought she was joking till i went to ask for money to pay my school fees i saw the shock of my life Never hope on anyone Not ever your own blood brother make plans for yourself and your children, right know she's asking me to help his son to come over to germany guess what i will Bleep them up in a very big way will allow the boy to come over then set him up they will lock him up or deport him for illegal stay and position of drugs

mydivinely:
some wont help because they dont want you to prosper or to be more than their biological children
i wrote jamb scored high in a school my uncle was then Head of Department, he promise heaven that i should relax n strt preparing for school, that was deception. at the end he asked me why cant i wait till my elder brother graduate but his own children didnt wait for one to graduate before another, finally i left my state to a state i know no man. and God helped me today i graduated without any family support... That call we made was the last call am not angry with him, but my phone CAN NEVER DIAL HIS LINE TILL HE DIE OR I DIE,

i learned a great lesson to always rely on God , He then can decide whom he wil use to help me.
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Jeremiah 17:5 KJV: Thus saith the LORD; Cursed be the man that trust in man...

heniford2:
Low mentality in Africa is the problem,i Remember back then when i lost my dad i went to ask loan from my Aunty who my dad helped, i remember her coming to visit my old man than my late old man will empty everything we have in house i stop my primary 6 then just because p man wan help her beloved sister then he died what my aunty opened her stinking mouth to say to me after my dads burial"hey come here, see if you think my money or any of us will give u guys any penny your dreaming right i owe u guys nothing likewise my brother and sisters so if u like go and hustle" it shocked me because we just buried his brother that day i saw her crying why this vaxation i thought she was joking till i went to ask for money to pay my school fees i saw the shock of my life Never hope on anyone Not ever your own blood brother make plans for yourself and your children, right know she's asking me to help his son to come over to germany guess what i will Bleep them up in a very big way will allow the boy to come over then set him up they will lock him up or deport him for illegal stay and position of drugs

NaWeDeyHere:


You don't know what this post means to me - i wish it can be shared to other platforms as well.

Especially #1 - once you are married, your responsibilities triple and you cannot afford to be taking care of your siblings and parents when you have a wife and children to also take care of as your new "Generational" family

Many Inlaws and Families feel that it is your duty to help spoon-feed them till you die

AreaFada2:
A lot of people we see as rich from the outside are not. They have managed to appear content with their lives. They cannot really afford to help as much as others think.

Some family members have a sense of entertainment. They expect the "rich" relative to help them, yet they themselves cannot help others in the ways they can currently help. E.g be available in emergency

For whoever has will be given more, and they will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what they have will be taken from them. Mathew 25.29

punisha:
This topic deserves to be taught in schools.

The family member u r looking up to for help could be needing major help as well...no one owes you anything. The entitlement mentality needs to be wiped away especially in Africa.
That I have a car and own a house don't mean I ain't owing bank loans. You may need just 50k and I can't help don't mean I am wicked. If I am to give, it should come from a place of love not cos I am a tool that generates money for everyone.
Many of the entitled ones will still violate privileges believing that they can come back again n again for help.

Stop expecting family members to come through always. Be considerate.
Jackie Chan is not leaving his money behind for his son....he asked his son to work hard and make his own money. Try it in Africa.

pansophist:


You made an outstanding point and this is what I've experienced. When one have the virtue of contentment, he appears wealthy to other materialistic folks. Because one doesn't go about asking for money, carry his own weight diligently and even help despite his own challenges doesn't mean his is rich or can help beyond a certain level.

It's also a case of people expecting your help to be revolutionary. If you have a Benz for example, they would expect you to help them to a point where they will have a benz too, even though you can't. Also, the they may not have productive skills to cash out on their own and somehow, think because because want it, and assumed you can help, then they should have it.

It's also a case of delusion. Because someone think I'm in a position to help doesn't mean I can. Lots of folks abroad passes through this. A man may be illegal wherever they are, hiding from police and doing hard jobs under the table to survive, but people back home will heap all their problem on him with the wrong mindset that because he is abroad, he must be able to help.

I also intensely hate the fact that because someone is in need of help, they are automatically immuned from fault. I say this again, lots of needy family members are loosers, ungrateful, opportunist and a basket. Doesn't matter how much you give, they will come back to beg for more. The idea that the one in the weak position (the beggar) is somehow good and the assumed rich guy is bad is wrong. Thats about it.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Ogbeni
You are very Correct about those last statement

The one I hate most and have noticed in life is that it seems uncles from our mother side are more caring and assisting than those moda fuckkking uncles from our fathers family .....and the most annoying thing is that we always share the same ancestral surname with those fuckkking uncles from the fathers family....still they will not be willing to help

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Ogbeni op abi na Baby girl you be just stop this talk
....the point you raised are not valid.....or reasonable.....you mean because of all these someone can not assist family members .....you are talking like a typical uncle from our fathers family

Ogbeni op...let me tell you a secret...no matter what always assist and render help to your family.....
The easiest way to become a Billionaire is to ensure that you help people around you to become a millionaire first....

The one I hate most and have noticed in life is that it seems uncles from our mother side are more caring and assisting than those moda fuckkking uncles from our fathers family .....and the most annoying thing is that we always share the same ancestral surname with those fuckkking uncles from the fathers family....still they will not be willing to help

pansophist:
From what I've noticed, many people who claimed that their family didn't help them are downplaying the help that have been given to them. It's always good to hear from the rich family member in question, and you may just discover that the accuser is a liar.

Also, I've seen cases of poor family member refusing to be taught how to fish, they will rather prefer you go make the money and give it to them anytime they ask, while using guilt-tripping and shaming as a weapon of choice to beat you into submission if you refuse to be used. It can also be a case of the disproportionately distribution of drive within the human population.

Some people just have a low drive. Put them in the river, and they would still complian that the water is not enough to clear the soap in their eyes. All these factors can't be excluded. Lots of family members are actually loosers, to put it bluntly. How can you explain a situation where you've been assisting your family member for over ten years and still, they can't stand on their feet ? Just pray for God not to bless you a lazy family member because no matter what you do, you can't do enough.

heniford2:
Low mentality in Africa is the problem,i Remember back then when i lost my dad i went to ask loan from my Aunty who my dad helped, i remember her coming to visit my old man than my late old man will empty everything we have in house i stop my primary 6 then just because p man wan help her beloved sister then he died what my aunty opened her stinking mouth to say to me after my dads burial"hey come here, see if you think my money or any of us will give u guys any penny your dreaming right i owe u guys nothing likewise my brother and sisters so if u like go and hustle" it shocked me because we just buried his brother that day i saw her crying why this vaxation i thought she was joking till i went to ask for money to pay my school fees i saw the shock of my life Never hope on anyone Not ever your own blood brother make plans for yourself and your children, right know she's asking me to help his son to come over to germany guess what i will Bleep them up in a very big way will allow the boy to come over then set him up they will lock him up or deport him for illegal stay and position of drugs

Bannann:

I swear me too

kherlly:
The only time you see help in a family is during burial... They will bill even the struggling ones in the family just to have a burial but they won't sit down and try to open a business for someone in the family that does not have.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Ogbeni op abi na Baby girl you be just stop this talk
....the point you raised are not valid.....or reasonable.....you mean because of all these someone can not assist family members .....you are talking like a typical uncle from our fathers family

Ogbeni op...let me tell you a secret...no matter what always assist and render help to your family.....
The easiest way to become a Billionaire is to ensure that you help people around you to become a millionaire first....

The one I hate most and have noticed in life is that it seems uncles from our mother side are more caring and assisting than those moda fuckkking uncles from our fathers family .....and the most annoying thing is that we always share the same ancestral surname with those fuckkking uncles from the fathers family....still they will not be willing to help