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Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by femi4: 12:14pm On Nov 20, 2021
MALIGNANTGuest:

What about Monogamy that failed in raising quality kids.?
See, my Friend there's no rule to fate in this world.
An Orphan can become a President.
A Well brought up and Fed Child can still be an Idiot.
I'm telling what is obtainable under ideal situation. If you do statistics in school, you won't be arguing with facts

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Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by Krrt576: 12:15pm On Nov 20, 2021
Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by ISelectMySins: 12:15pm On Nov 20, 2021
Omoluabi16:
No one should take Toks seriously. Polygamy has never proven to cure or curb sexual immorality. You know the cons of polygamy too.
Yes, Polygamy cures sexual immorality.

We should not throw away reason to further any narratives. A large chunk of the women in that group would not appeal to single men - in a marriage sense - and mind you, these women want sex too.

What do you suggest they do? Do they suddenly stop becoming sexual creatures after awhile

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Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by ozuone(m): 12:15pm On Nov 20, 2021
Not all single mothers are Bad.. However getting married to the 80 percent of the dangerous ones could cause you everlasting sorrow . Always advisable to dig deep before you enter as what happened to the first can happen to you


CUMIN:


You people always think of everything that could go wrong with something...go and check the history of Wahab Folawiyo when he was alive and after his death.

The current reality is different from what you guys conceived. The amount of single moms in the dating pool is alarming.

This days when I approach a lady, I ask her straight if she has a child.
I made it plain and simple, other things will be sought out later. She might feel hurt immediately but it's better than feeling used after several sexcapades.

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Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by Nobody: 12:16pm On Nov 20, 2021
Sleekfingers:

What's wrong with a polygamist? Let me tell you, lately, my wife , dey show some attitude.....and I am thinking of marrying a second wife, I mean one of my side chick.......
It takes only a woman to cure another woman's madness.
Women hate competition.
They are territorialistic in nature.
The moment they get married, they bar all your relatives first & widely open their doors to theirs.

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Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by Viraltrends123: 12:16pm On Nov 20, 2021
Shokoloko:


Your writeup seems to proffer a solution to females to curb sexual immorality.
While it might favour the woman, but it doesn't talk about the problems that polygamy will cause for the children
Lie, it has almost no effect on the children. I'm from a polygamous family. All of us at doing welllllll in school. One of my elder brothers graduated with a first class honour. I enjoy chatting or playing with them, than talking to neighbours (when I wasn't living with them). Infact, it is the best experience, we are 7, mothers, one father. And a cool brothers. The only problem is if the father is poor, and that's not a polygamous marriage problem alone, if you're poor, don't marry at all if the women are poor too. And if dad didn't marry his wives, they will still marry someone else, and give birth to like 4 children each, so polygamy has no effect on population and poverty.

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Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by sematec(m): 12:17pm On Nov 20, 2021
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Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by Midas01: 12:18pm On Nov 20, 2021
It will not pass this foolish op
Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by Ayomi90: 12:18pm On Nov 20, 2021
Toks2008:


You watch too many Nollywood Movies.
The guy submitted a valid point. I have most of my friends from polygamy family, their story is different, they all regret coming from such family.

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Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by Nobody: 12:18pm On Nov 20, 2021
femi4:
I'm telling what is obtainable under ideal situation. If you do statistics in school, you won't be arguing with facts
Who conducted the study?
I'm saying, whatever kids Polygamy can produce, Monogamy can produce too.
Be it stupid kids.
Be it reasonable kids.

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Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by femi4: 12:19pm On Nov 20, 2021
MALIGNANTGuest:

Who conducted the study?
I'm saying, whatever kids Polygamy can produce, Monogamy can produce too.
Be it stupid kids.
Be it reasonable kids.
You are not reasonable
Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by godisshit(m): 12:19pm On Nov 20, 2021
These options will never work in the civilised world where polygamy is illegal. Only in an oturugbeke country like Nigeria.


Toks2008:
E don land.
Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by riczy(m): 12:19pm On Nov 20, 2021
Ur piece may seem appealing to the reader, it hasn't truly handled d problem of sexual immortality as d basis, hence ur recommendations! Pls polygamy isn't a panacea! Instead its like playing in a honeybee holes unmarked

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Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by nellyelitz(m): 12:22pm On Nov 20, 2021
Toks2008:



GOD almighty has proffered a solution in the Scriptures as regards regulating polygamous homes cos as I wrote, he permits it for a reason.


Exodus 21 vs 10

If he takes an additional wife, he must not reduce the food, clothing, or marital rights of the first wife.


This is how to treat an extra wife as well. As her kids.
this was not from God AlMighty. the Bible is not the word of God but it only contains the word of God, i know that may be too deep for your understanding.
Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by meobizy(f): 12:23pm On Nov 20, 2021
Men into polygamy try, sha. I'll recommend the act to give people variety in this institution called marriage, but one female is too many for me talk less of multiple. I'll rather sleep outside than consider adding more women into my household.

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Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by Sleekfingers: 12:24pm On Nov 20, 2021
MALIGNANTGuest:

It takes only a woman to cure another woman's madness.
Women hate competition.
They are territorialistic in nature.
The moment they get married, they bar all your relatives first & widely open their doors to theirs.


Naso......they hate competition......I have already made up my mind.....that's gonna be her surprise package for new year.....

I know my kids might be angry....but they got no choice

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Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by VULCAN(m): 12:27pm On Nov 20, 2021
Thanks for letting us know that your life principles are shaped by money.

Although that is the case with the many African women but it's always refreshing when one of you admits it.

Well Done

TheOnlyUyai:
An article churned from the stables of a notorious polygamist.

I don't mind being a last wife to Dangote shaa. Who cares? The ones wey no be polygamist, na still the same them be. I can't lose both ways, biko.

Look at Regina, that girl will never have any sort of problem as long as finance and influence are concerned up to her 10th generation. Let me just catch a whiff of something close. I got him locked.

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Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by luvmijeje(f): 12:28pm On Nov 20, 2021
They have started with their poke nosing.
Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by Nobody: 12:28pm On Nov 20, 2021
femi4:
You are not reasonable
You have the ONLINE Right to insult me.
But your right ends when you meet me in person.
I wouldn't reciprocate such insults 4now.
Example of what I meant is;
When I lived in the NORTH, I observed most Northern Ladies from polygamous homes were reserved. Even the terrible ones among them hid her shame. But what do we have in the SOUTH with Ladies from Monogamous homes?
Can we say same for them?

We are entitled to our opinions here.
We deserve no insults at all.

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Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by ednut1(m): 12:29pm On Nov 20, 2021
Mr toks you are not married but you are obsessed with women marrying lol
Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by Copiko(m): 12:30pm On Nov 20, 2021
Interesting
Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by VULCAN(m): 12:32pm On Nov 20, 2021
The most problematic kids in the world are found in the US.

Polygamy is illegal there and the Mormons who practice it unofficially actually usually bring up better behaved children than the average Monogamist.

So update your operating system
femi4:
Polygamy is not healthy for the kids. The environment does not support proper upbringing of children

2. God does not encourage Polygamy.....He instructed Abraham to chase the bond woman and her child away. You should know the difference between will of God and permissible will

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Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by Ijoba85: 12:33pm On Nov 20, 2021
Even if as a single guy you want to marry a single mum, she would still go back to her ex or doing her runs . None of them is ever serious
Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by professore(m): 12:33pm On Nov 20, 2021
Toks2008:
I decide to drop this after reading a condescending post about a mother of 3 that just got married to a popular fuji artiste and i implore everyone to read this with an open mind.

Polygamy may not be appropriate for everyone but it remains a viable option for certain groups. Polygamy in Islam is a norm and there is no part in the Bible that forbids it or tags it a sin but rather it is Permissible just as GOD permits Divorce.

The concept of Polygamy is not about Men having many wives but it is geared towards ensuring that every lady who wants to get married can easily have a husband thereby curbing the act of sexual immorality.


Sometimes what may seem inappropriate may be an ideal option and talking about polygamy, i will strongly advise the following group of ladies to give it a thorough consideration.

1. THE WIDOW/DIVORCEE: Except a lady is still very young at the time she lost her husband or got divorced and she has no kids then she just might be fortunate to easily get a single guy who would love to marry her but as we know, many widows and divorcees are usually with kids and of age which makes them more appealing to married men rather than single guys who would prefer to go for young never married ladies. So If you are in this group, stop bothering your head hoping for a single guy except you just want to be toyed with. Consider marrying a married man who is willing to love and care for you.

2. THE NEVER MARRIED LADIES IN THEIR 40s: Many ladies in this group usually have this hope that there just might be one single guy who will be willing to settle down with them AND YES it is very possible just that the chances of this happening is very low. Most guys usually get married in their 30s and except they see a divorcee or a widower then they just might be lucky but unfortunately, even the widower or divorcee will still most likely prefer to go for far younger ladies which makes it even more difficult to come across single guys. My candid advise for this group of ladies is to get a responsible man to settle with regardless of his marital status.

3. THE NEVER MARRIED SINGLE MUMS: I have so many single mums as friends and the common mind-set they still have is that there is one single guy out there who will gladly marry them and some of them have remained celibate for years because according to them, they don't want to marry a married man and they are scared of single guys.... I think it just doesn't make any sense to continue hoping for one single guy to leave millions of ladies without kids to marry you. In most cases, this set of ladies get used by single men who just want to catch cruise with them. If you belong to this group please consider settling down with one responsible married man and avoid getting used by fvk boys in the name of looking for a single guy to marry.

4. THE IMPATIENT MONEY LOVERS/GOLD PICKERS: I honestly see nothing wrong in wanting a made guy after all, everyone has the right to make a choice but the problem i have with this set of ladies is when they put so much demand on a young progressive guy to provide what he can't. Wealth is progressive and except a man is very lucky to make huge money in his early age, I strongly believe that the best bet is for such a lady to look for one rich married man to marry because in most cases, it is men who are married and advanced in age that will be able to provide the type of life style this group of ladies desire .

5. THE UNLUCKY ONES: This group of ladies cut across all ages. They are just unlucky with single guys. They have tried many relationships with single men but they are just so unfortunate and they are totally fed up. My advice to them is to consider polygamy as there are many married men out there who will be willing to marry them and make them happy for as long as they live. It just doesn't make any sense to settle for a jerk just because you want a single man for yourself when there are super responsible married men ready to treat you like a queen.

6.THE SUGAR BABIES: This group of ladies are usually very young and to them, it is ok to date married men or sugar daddies who can take care of them but when it comes to marriage, it is a taboo for them to marry such men. I honestly do not understand how a lady will be having sexual relationship with a married man, enjoy the lavish lifestyle he provides but will find it difficult to marry same man and the worst twist is that in most cases, even after this set of ladies get married, they still linger in the relationship with their sugar daddies. No be juju be dat?


Make i stop here
whose homes should they break? Whose children should they turn to vagabond? Let's always consider the implications of our posts. Let's be reasonable with our posts please.

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Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by Nobody: 12:35pm On Nov 20, 2021
It's Toks again
Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by Peace081: 12:35pm On Nov 20, 2021
Mumu op
Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by Klass99(f): 12:35pm On Nov 20, 2021
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Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by Nobody: 12:35pm On Nov 20, 2021
Nairaland.
Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by femi4: 12:35pm On Nov 20, 2021
VULCAN:
The most problematic kids in the world are found in the US.

Polygamy is illegal there and the Mormons who practice it unofficially actually usually bring up better behaved children than the average Monogamist.

So update your operating system
The reason is due to Single parenting. The best form of family environment to train kids remain nuclear family.

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Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by GENES11S: 12:36pm On Nov 20, 2021
Sleekfingers:





What's wrong with a polygamist? Let me tell you, lately, my wife , dey show some attitude.....and I am thinking of marrying a second wife, I mean one of my side chick.......

So your wive shows you an attitude and you marry a second one?.

I guess if that one show you attitude again you will also go for the third one.

Prevention is better than cure. I'm not against having multiple wives but it should be done with good reasons not this petty one.

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Re: Any Lady That Belongs To Any Of These Groups Should Consider Polygamy (opinion) by ISelectMySins: 12:37pm On Nov 20, 2021
Omoluabi16:
No one should take Toks seriously. Polygamy has never proven to cure or curb sexual immorality. You know the cons of polygamy too.
Yes, Polygamy cures sexual immorality.

We should not throw away reason to further any narratives. A large chunk of the women in that group would not appeal to single men - in a marriage sense - and mind you, these women want sex too.

What do you suggest they do? Do they suddenly stop becoming sexual creatures after awhi

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