Na billing na make your wife marry you.
Any woman wey believe say her husband money na family money but her money na only for herself, na wicked woman.
Nigeria never reach level wey 50K nor go reach to manage for food matter for only two people, wherby you the husband, dey buy a bag of rice and dey settle other bills.
Wetin she dey bring to the table.
You no go ask her?
Na the kind woman wey full everywhere without husband because dem believe say na only kpekuse nai be their duty to bring to the table.

BluntNigerian:
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Please He Needs Advice.

OP. Well done for your effort.

The first question I would like to ask before I answer is, is 50k enough for your monthly family upkeep?

Are you conscious of the rate of inflation since you started giving that 50k? First understand your wife (within reason) before trying to get her to understand you.

Get Her to draw up a budget then you guys should prioritize it.

Meanwhile, how is your sex life ? A lot of marital problems are either aggravated or calmed down depending on your level of sexual intimacy or other Iove language. You need to know, then learn to speak Her love language.

Best wishes.

Foodforthought:

That's not how marriage works. Marry a God-fearing lady, your soulmate who knows your problems before you even utter them.

Then what do you suggest the man should do in this situation?

BluntNigerian:
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Please He Needs Advice.

For 4 people? I doubt that amount will last a week for food.

Ormorlehwah:
I support the motion. I dislike such woman, there are some women out there that don't even collect#200 daily from their husband and they live happily. she is an ingrate, moreover she is also working.


They are the kind of women that build houses with their money, while their husband live in a rent house,they keep spending his money lavishly.

Abeg, try to talk to her to cooperate.

Exactly

You give your wife transport fare everyday... and she is working.... you are **d! Omo this is not marriage oh... you and your wife a very distance from reality... do you guys even plan together

This is annoying ... let me tell you . No matter how much you give her she will still never be satisfied. Never!

He will die soon and the world moves on.

And who spends 1k everyday to work on another persons pocket?

I'm sorry for you Mr,very sorry.

You no fit make it in life

Cardealer2021:
The truth is that with Nigeria current economy 50k(less than a $100) can't sustain a family of four, make the husband reason am
*She will buy food stuff
*Transport
*Snacks for the kids and miscellaneous on her own side.
Let the man make it like 70k at least.

Even me single guy with no responsibility spend more than that a week sometimes not to talk of family of 4

Modified:
Sorry I didn't read the post well I thought the 50k was for food stuff and her up keep

Abeg forgive me I didn't even read the part that the lady also has salary I thought she was a full house wife

She too can contribute her own part.

Aguodo:


I really don't know why some behave like that. What does she do with her money? They prefer to answer widow and begin to whip sentiments and perhaps pity from the public. That's the time they will know that at times two is better than one.
We know things are getting harsher by the day, but common sense should tell her that this calls for dialogue with a peaceful mind instead of throwing tantrums.
Please my brother add small thing say 10k to the upkeep money just for your dear life. My worry is that you just started biz and trying to stand. Do your best. This same issue is what my friend just complained about yesterday. Woman are almost same. I give mine 140k/month even with me doing bulk purchases for the family of 6, in fact I buy things already included in the 140k,yet she complains. No be only you dey the shoe bro.
Find happiness.

See danger o 2× wahala dey. You don marry scary mary wey u no fit carry... Anyway, if JESUS tarry, ur mary fit be... seminary

house10s2:
as in illiteracy dey worry people, see as e dey blab.

Aswearugaaad

Lol bruh, we suppose dey send those kind people go 24-hour jail for each useless comment made without reading.

chatinent:


No bi everybody dey carry ashawo, bro.

Lol, tell am
How much dem dey pay bankers sef

MrMcJay:
My former boss once told me never to carry a woman who doesn't earn her own money into the house. Even if you give her a billion per month, such lady will never appreciate the value of that amount as she doesn't work for money.

Let the man get another job for his wife on the Island, let her be doing 4 hours traffic movement to and from work every day. At the end of the month, she gets paid like 70k.
If she does that job for 2 months, when next you give her 30k, she will be looking at you like Obi Cubana.

My rib, funny dude.

I want to believe you're in Lagos. If you are mobile once a month carry her to mile 12 or Oyingbo early morning on Saturday of the new month. Let her make a list. Bulk cook let both of our see how the money goes. If you live on the island those ones are thieves. 50k for an average home can be managed properly atleast until the last week of the month. You got to sit tight man.

I have a family of four two kids myself and wife and she will be grateful give same amount aside bulk purchases.Diapers are expensive now though.

[i][/i]OGA U NO GET DIGNITY, must it b here on social media platform? U no get reasonable friends? OR kinsmen OR even understanding parents wey follow u go marry her? wey u go seek help or rather opinion from? Abeg make we dey try act maturely..... E go make sense say every post dey carry pictures of the poster at least see the child brain behind some posts here in the form of grown ups.

degamonn:
The other parts are not really my concern here neither do have advice in that respect.
My concern is somebody who is working and she requires 1k every day as transportation cost of which proceeds are not used to the benefit of your immediate family is what baffles me.
You do that for love right? clap for yourself

Asin I no really think that one sef..

Toktee:
Ask your self this oga...how many people is she feeding with 50k?
The poster buys rice,pay bills outside this 50k yet she is complaining for what?
What and what did she normally buys with 50k?

Are you married?? Our people say, who no go no know...dear poster, avoid listening to people who are inexperienced and do not understand what marriage is.

Cardealer2021:

I eat alot ,
Moreover I'm a bachelor 95% of food I eat are not cooked by me ( eatery), Transport and girls wahala contribute to it also

Then you ain't in any position to make a submission here.

chatinent:


No bi everybody dey carry ashawo, bro.

I like this reply.

Why not use your 50 to buy food and see if she will eat and if it will.last one month.

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BluntNigerian:
What type of food have you been feeding yourself with, that you consume more than N50,000 every week just on feeding?

The post said every month, not every week.

Chicken for stew
Meat for soup
Tomatoes
Pepper
Onions
Rice
Beans
Yam (3)
Plantain
Bread (4 loaves)
Eggs (2 crates)
1/2 Veg oil (Kings)
Palm oil (1/2 gallon)
Oha leaf
Ugu
Water leaf
Semo
Gari
Stockfish
Crayfish (1 mudu)
Egusi
Fruits
Thyme
Curry
Knorr cubes
Drinks and snacks (for kids)
Bathing soap
Tissue
Sure spray
Detergent
Morning fresh
Hypo
Air freshner

Put a price tag on the above and see if 50k a month will cut it for a family of 4.

THEGIDREPILLER please your attention is needed on this thread to give some wise councel! We must not lose this our brother to the cold and calculative hands of unappreciative woman!

It's even too big bro, I earn close to N160k monthly yet na 40k be our monthly feeding allowance though my wife has a shop (Saloon), and she is also a benefactor of the current NPower Batch C, yet 2Kids my wife and I. We also had savings without complain atimes it's though challenging but yet bro. Let her also use her cash atimes cos she has already know ur weakness and inability to stand as a man to put in some actions into the home, else she will make sure u spend every dine u have on you. Bro the current economy is not friendly if she can't cope with it, bro she go leave you las las for somebody wey cash out pass you. Just man enough to take decision in ur home. Thanks

Don't bother yourself, that gender doesn't appreciate anything.
Even the ones that they bought car and provide enough money for are not still satisfied.
Even God himself could not satisfy them. Just do your best and leave the rest.
If you follow their nagging you can die young.
They are always full of complaints

Malory:
Then he should stop giving her any amount at all until her brain reset

Bad pikin!

BluntNigerian:
What type of food have you been feeding yourself with, that you consume more than N50,000 every week just on feeding?

Cow dung mehn....he has been eating cow dung

Guy shine your eyes, she's using your money to build house somewhere hoping that the HBP would kee your enemy....I hate nonsense

Malory:
Then he should stop giving her any amount at all until her brain reset

I swear..I have come to notice that women always learn the hard, reason y I don't ever pet them. If u over show them love too much....dem go dey use u de catch cruise.
Imagine giving ur wife with just two kids 50k in this nonsense economy, and the women is still complaining even when she is working...
My mumu Neva reach like this Allah

"Maybe she's also "saving part of it, do u know what to do she's a salary earner and in today's family the man is not the only to bear responsibilities, she should contribute 50% and u 50%
thats y I advise todays men to not marry jobless woman that doesn't contribute financially

Na you marry beauty without brain nor wisdom for home management.. A woman that can't manage what her husband gives to her is a liability.. The only solution is if she can't manage what you give to her ,she must never disturb your peace at home.
Tell her you will reduce what you are giving her for upkeep if she refuses to utilize it well.. Don't give her anything until your targetted time for the expense expire. Be disciplined and stop worrying your mind over such a naughty issue .