Lifestone:

I'm a Nigeria Man too and Married. Anytime my partner is into anything progressive, I get involved without even been invited, I offer advise, share significantly in the advancement and most of the time, they end up thanking and appreciating me for making it happen. But the fact is that I know I have to be part of that success otherwise another person will play my role and I will be left behind. Even if she's going to the wrong direction, I will usually championed her into seeing that the direction she's heading is headless.
The other part is that Men should consistently grow themselves. I am also praying for my daughter to succeed and marry a responsible and successful husband. You can't wish less

talented321:
They forget the past easily, as she dey with the senator now sef, if the governor call her now she will abandon the senator and move on with the govo.
But to tell u the truth many of this girls wey una complain of na run girls yet una went into relationship with them.

jaelz:
What I Just Discovered About Women

A woman loses respect for a man or her current boyfriend once she starts getting intimate with someone that is richer and more well to do than him

Hear my story out before you judge me:

So I lost my ex about 2 months back when she became a Personal Assistant to a serving senator, I just noticed that she stopped appreciating the little money and things that I usually gave her and did for her since she started working with the senator.

She was staying at her parents house in Abuja but recently rented a place for herself and furnished it to taste, I was shocked and I asked how a girl that just started a personal assistant job with a senator and a salary of just 120k per month is able to rent a self contained apartments of about 750k per year and even furnished it to taste, she got very angry and said I should be happy for her that if I can't do it atleast she did it herself.

She has also never allowed me to stay in the house 🏠🏡 for once not to talk of coming to visit her

Wodu89:



This one no Sabi talk. Go and write it. The same would happen to your son's. You'll feel his pains as a father since you can't discern truths

Weathered:
poorly arranged damage control

otino:
Your advice is good, but off point. May be u should read the post again.

Emotionss:
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Your attempt to sound mature and woke just showed how shallow and weak you are not just as a man,but as a human being....

A girl he was taking care of when she was jobless finally got a job and suddenly became unappreciative and suddenly lost interest in her man even to the extent of not allowing him visit her sounds ok or normal to you ?

Instead of you to ask how a Woman earning 120k a month is able to rent an apartment of 700k a year ( more than 60% of her yearly income) Excluding the money spent on furnitures instead you are here castigating the OP for not being supportive to such irregularities.

Weaklings like you are one of the reasons why accountability is in decline in today's society.
It's obvious you lack the guts to question irregularities and abnormalities in your home and relationships...

With the way you sound I am 100% sure your wife is the Bread winner and the Authority in your house...

Weaklings coming on social media and be forming something the are not.

Lifestone:

I'm a Nigeria Man too and Married. Anytime my partner is into anything progressive, I get involved without even been invited, I offer advise, share significantly in the advancement and most of the time, they end up thanking and appreciating me for making it happen. But the fact is that I know I have to be part of that success otherwise another person will play my role and I will be left behind. Even if she's going to the wrong direction, I will usually championed her into seeing that the direction she's heading is headless.
The other part is that Men should consistently grow themselves. I am also praying for my daughter to succeed and marry a responsible and successful husband. You can't wish less

Sermwell:

Wait! Are you saying a senator is in a better position than a governor??

Wodu89:
Abuja levels. She used you, na so Dem dey do. Yahoo girls

Lolachef:
And why do you want to stay in the house?

Do you know if she's doing all that from her thrift contribution?

You don't have money and you are here on nairaland ranting..

Mjshexy:
So what led to the break up, jealousy?

jaelz:
What I Just Discovered About Women

A woman loses respect for a man or her current boyfriend once she starts getting intimate with someone that is richer and more well to do than him

Hear my story out before you judge me:

So I lost my ex about 2 months back when she became a Personal Assistant to a serving senator, I just noticed that she stopped appreciating the little money and things that I usually gave her and did for her since she started working with the senator.

She was staying at her parents house in Abuja but recently rented a place for herself and furnished it to taste, I was shocked and I asked how a girl that just started a personal assistant job with a senator and a salary of just 120k per month is able to rent a self contained apartments of about 750k per year and even furnished it to taste, she got very angry and said I should be happy for her that if I can't do it atleast she did it herself.

She has also never allowed me to stay in the house 🏠🏡 for once not to talk of coming to visit her

Slynation:
So if your should start working for a serving senators and a salary 120K...Less than 2months into the job booOm...A fully rented furnished house just landed, and when you decided to ask, she responded with what the OP said...you will buy her pepper soup to celebrate abi...!!

Anyways, A wiseman once told me "na pikin wey no know e mama boyfriend dey call am uncle"

Depriest2020:

Guy you've lost her to the senator. The person that rented and furnished the room for her warned her not to bring another manchi there.

If am to advise, you don't have to be upset with her, she just upgraded her status. Just see her as a f**k mate and not a girlfriend, as long as you sabi knack her well, she will always come to you for good f**k and to the senator for the money. She can introduce you to the senator as her brother, through the senator you will get better job, meet more senators and more contacts + connections.

If you assure her you won't cause trouble for her and her man-friend, then she would be free to answer her calls in your presence. Am telling you from experience, I got most of my contacts & connection through that way.

Opurumiri:


Got my first major breakthrough using this strategy. This happened between me and my girlfriend many years ago.... It really works if you're good in bed. She will always come back and can give you links to good connections too

Lifestone:

I'm a Nigeria Man too and Married. Anytime my partner is into anything progressive, I get involved without even been invited, I offer advise, share significantly in the advancement and most of the time, they end up thanking and appreciating me for making it happen. But the fact is that I know I have to be part of that success otherwise another person will play my role and I will be left behind. Even if she's going to the wrong direction, I will usually championed her into seeing that the direction she's heading is headless.
The other part is that Men should consistently grow themselves. I am also praying for my daughter to succeed and marry a responsible and successful husband. You can't wish less

Lifestone:

Damage control for who? I stated my views, you don't have to agree with me. This is a faceless forum.

Wodu89:



This one no Sabi talk. Go and write it. The same would happen to your son's. You'll feel his pains as a father since you can't discern truths

Wodu89:
Abuja levels. She used you, na so Dem dey do. Yahoo girls

Lifestone:

I had a boy who was a legislative assistance to the Hon Representative for my constituency, he made and still making serious money to date, infact his life changed as soon as he was appointed. It's because she's a lady that you concluded that she must have sold herself. She may, she may not. Judging with one side story is evil. Untill you hear her side.

Depriest2020:

Guy you've lost her to the senator. The person that rented and furnished the room for her warned her not to bring another manchi there.

If am to advise, you don't have to be upset with her, she just upgraded her status. Just see her as a f**k mate and not a girlfriend, as long as you sabi knack her well, she will always come to you for good f**k and to the senator for the money. She can introduce you to the senator as her brother, through the senator you will get better job, meet more senators and more contacts + connections.

If you assure her you won't cause trouble for her and her man-friend, then she would be free to answer her calls in your presence. Am telling you from experience, I got most of my contacts & connection through that way.

Ehinjuola:
Your Ex na ogbon ..
Sharp girl…

richie240:

Truth be told, that is how God created them: to be taken care of by the man.


If u want a faithful woman,
1) marry a virgin.
It is delusional for a man to think that a woman she married as a non-virgin is not a potential runz-gel.

2) marry her when she's still very young and impressionable ......i.e. as a teenager.
Don't mind d oyibos, they have their agenda which we mumu-ishly follow bumper-to-bumper.
The same oyibo (american) that says marriageable age for women is 18yrs na d same oyibo (british) wey talk say the marriageable age na 16yrs, but when african man marry 14/15yrs girl, fellow african go open mouth waaaaaa.

The reason to marry them young is to be able to groom them them to your desire, but if she too old b4 u marry her, instagram and tiktok would've done the training for you, and by that time, trying to mold her will be like attempting to bend an iroko tree at adulthood.

3. Be ready to marry a full housewife and be the major/sole breadwinner.
The more she goes out the more she gets hitted on by guys. If u want peace of mind, let her be a full-time housewife.

nnamdizen:
Firstly God did not create any man to take care of a woman, women are charged with the responsibility of care, both for herself, her home and her husband, Proverbs 31, a man is not capable of care even for himself, that's why he needs a wife by his side, all he does is provide her with the necessary resources and environment to do her duty.

Secondly, the idea of marrying a teenager who knows nothing about the duty of a wife to the husband is quite risky except for some traditions, where the wife is sent to stay with the mother in law for a certain period of time, so she can be properly groomed to perform her wifely duties effectively.

Thirdly, keeping a woman locked in as a perpetual house wife is no short of modern day slavery and a waste of potential.
Women as I have come to know are multipliers, what ever you give them they multiply, give her foodstuff they make you a meal, give her a house she makes it a home, give her love she gives you care, give her money she hides and save some for tomorrow, give her ignorance, illiteracy and boredom, she rubs your name in the mud.