L1TTLE:
She brazenly told me "I have a 5yr old son", before she did I was crushing hard, then she told me she has a son today, I was taken aback for a while but much to my shock, I find her more attractive now? Instead of getting repulsed by the new information I want her more now, is it weird? Lol, I'm even thinking she can bring her son and live with me like we're family.

Please advise me.

sharone21:


This kind of relationship or marriage is NOT for SELFISH and IMMATURE persons like you..... When will you fully understand YOURSELF.

L1TTLE:
She brazenly told me "I have a 5yr old son", before she did I was crushing hard, then she told me she has a son today, I was taken aback for a while but much to my shock, I find her more attractive now? Instead of getting repulsed by the new information I want her more now, is it weird? Lol, I'm even thinking she can bring her son and live with me like we're family.

Please advise me.

L1TTLE:
She brazenly told me "I have a 5yr old son", before she did I was crushing hard, then she told me she has a son today, I was taken aback for a while but much to my shock, I find her more attractive now? Instead of getting repulsed by the new information I want her more now, is it weird? Lol, I'm even thinking she can bring her son and live with me like we're family.

Please advise me.

L1TTLE:
She brazenly told me "I have a 5yr old son", before she did I was crushing hard, then she told me she has a son today, I was taken aback for a while but much to my shock, I find her more attractive now? Instead of getting repulsed by the new information I want her more now, is it weird? Lol, I'm even thinking she can bring her son and live with me like we're family.

Please advise me.

L1TTLE:
All my life I have dated only one unicorn, I call her a unicorn because she exuded characteristics that aren't typical of our dearly beloved Nigerian girls, first, I never asked her out, I was a teenager in secondary school and her mum was my mum's best friend so we were friends, dating just happened, and we were together till I was 19, her mom died and she moved away, this girl is hardworking, brilliant, emotionally intelligent, clean, and has high intellect, I don't talk much but with her I come out of my shell, we have engaging conversations that you won't believe she's a Nigerian girl, even though we couldn't make the distance thing work we're still friends, I'm not insulting anyone btw, lastly she doesn't bill me, and when she get me things she doesn't consider if I have given her something earlier, I mean what kind of Nigerian girl would even ask you out to start with? Talkmore of the rest.

now men in Nigeria are brought up with standards that are entirely different from women, you're supposed to grow up with virtue and wait for a man to marry you? But it is totally different from a guy's upbringing, take me for example, I was compared to my mates since I was old enough to want something or have ambition, I was taught to stop being a weakling and be a man, and when I reached a certain age my parents started expecting me to take care of the family or make meaningful contributions, I was so uncomfortable and I moved out, and it didn't stop there, my mom started expecting me to look for someone and settle down, although it isn't as brazen as the other pressures I get from my parents, and this is all because I am a man born of an ambitious and tough father who never smiles because he doesn't do all this with my sisters, and I have tried to know why he's so tough with me and my only explanation is that's how he was raised, so they pass that tough upbringing to their male children and their male children pass it to their children and the circle never ends, imagine working your ass off everyday with stress and everything to fend for an entitled wife and your children and someone expect you to still manage to be smiling and being obsessed with a wife who doesn't do anything to aid your predicament.

I don't have room for emotional attachment because I don't have it good as my sisters who were pampered all their life, for instance when I was schooling my dad expected me to survive with the peanuts he gave me every once in a while and when I complained he will ask me to hustle and stop waiting for him for everything, when I needed to rent a self contain he forced me to get a roommate so we can split bills, I thought that's just how he is until my sisters got into the university and I started seeing the same father sending them money upon money and renting secure and high quality apartments for them, when I graduated he expected me to get a job and move out, point is, my life was hard from the beginning simply because I was a guy.

I hardly see my dad smile, although my mum is the opposite which is why I confide in her most times and through her I learnt how to be caring and respectful towards ladies, but I don't have the time or willpower to be as mushy as a typical Nigerian girl would want, and considering what I went through I'd expect a supportive and hardworking wife to ease the hard life I had, Nigerian girls can't offer me that, because all they do is wait for a man to go and work his arse off then come and marry them, and when you marry them they become another financial burden, she will add her family join and they'll suck you like leeches, she and her family will pull you from the left and your family will pull you from the right until they tear you apart, that's why they get fat and you the head of the house will remain slim, they'll blame childbirth for gaining weight like wtf?

why I go carry my hand buy burden for myself, I'd rather marry from a society where women don't feel entitled and that's not Nigeria, no offense but yes Nigerian women are very entitled despite the fact that they have nothing to offer than birth children and make you pay bills till you die.

advanceDNA:


What is this one saying.....?See this Single mother giving bad advice to other women's son..... Majority indeed.....

If they are that pleasant to be with, the man that got them pregnant will be with them loving them... u women always want to come here and paint pictures that single mothers are victims... Shiorr....we know better. ....

Even single mothers don't want their own son to marry single mothers like them......If ur son carry single mother of three kids come house ..I know u will be the first to refused....So stop capping....u just dey disguise...

THISLIFE01:


Exactly my thoughts, apart from the child been a major connection between her and her ex, if he comes around frequently, he might use d child as an excuse to continue getting intimate with her behind op's back.
Some single mothers hardly forget d father of their child/children.

Angelfrost:
Why should a single woman's child or the fact that she has a child repulse anyone?!!

Does birthing a child make a woman less human?!! Is that supposed to make them less attractive?!!

SMH!!!

ikeno:
There's nothing wrong with falling in love with a single mother so long she reciprocate the love too.one thing single mother cherish more is their child and if you adore her child the way you adore her she will give you unconditional love

Princezibk:
Who told you I’m a single mother I have also castigated them when I was younger but while growing mentally and socially, I see I was wrong . What will you say about a happily married man lying that he has a broken home, sweet talking an innocent young woman into relationship or marriage then boom she gets pregnant 🤰. Later kata kata burst and she decided not to abort ? Or A gullible sweet soul lady falling for a serial universal baby daddy ? I have witnessed many , so not all single mothers are harlots or useless as you presumed. Thanks ☺️

Greystone:
For your sake I hope her ex husband/ baby dady is dead and that she’s a good woman if not Shege danburo-uba Pro Max awaits you.

advanceDNA:

That's the thing about them.... Relationships should be about love and companionship between a man and woman.... But for single mothers it's a complicated love triangle that the survival is dependent on the happiness of the child alone...

It's no longer unconditional ...it's transactional
U are just an available means to an end when dating a single mother...it's almost always not love for them ..it's always a coping/survival mechanism ....

U are the child's father when they need money and u are spoiling the child...wait till when u discipline the child...u will be reminded that the child isn't yours

Princezibk:
Who told you I’m a single mother I have also castigated them when I was younger but while growing mentally and socially, I see I was wrong . What will you say about a happily married man lying that he has a broken home, sweet talking an innocent young woman into relationship or marriage then boom she gets pregnant 🤰. Later kata kata burst and she decided not to abort ? Or A gullible sweet soul lady falling for a serial universal baby daddy ? I have witnessed many , so not all single mothers are harlots or useless as you presumed. Thanks ☺️

L1TTLE:
She brazenly told me "I have a 5yr old son", before she did I was crushing hard, then she told me she has a son today, I was taken aback for a while but much to my shock, I find her more attractive now? Instead of getting repulsed by the new information I want her more now, is it weird? Lol, I'm even thinking she can bring her son and live with me like we're family.

Please advise me.

L1TTLE:
She brazenly told me "I have a 5yr old son", before she did I was crushing hard, then she told me she has a son today, I was taken aback for a while but much to my shock, I find her more attractive now? Instead of getting repulsed by the new information I want her more now, is it weird? Lol, I'm even thinking she can bring her son and live with me like we're family.

Please advise me.

advanceDNA:


Broken arrow!!!!
Broken arrow!!!

U don dey waka blindfolded, e remain small make u reach express

kunle75:


Shey na those ones wey they sing CARRY ME DEY GO MY HUSBAND'S HOUSE ? For church abi,just dey play, ok ooo you go dey alright last last.

My question for you is, would she have married you in her prime as broke nigga? Hell No.
You can advocate for as long as you want but those species are on a different world, just wait untill you run into fellas like Tonto Dike,then you will have a rethink.

humilitypays:
There is nothing wrong at all.


Just try and adopt her son legally as your own son and you guys are good to go.

kunle75:




Dey play ooooo,untill you find yourself with a pair of TONTO DIKE type before your sense will go back to default mode.

SIONKPO1:

I'm sure you will spend all your money to want to date Tonto Dike ,Tiwa Savage etc.
Well the said topic is not for Teen-Youth but Matured thinking one.

lordnkem000:
Single mothers? Op I no join you at all. Became friends with one few weeks ago and we started talking, the girl don destroy her baby daddy for my side no be small, how he left her for another woman and later marry the woman, how she dey train her kid alone and how he came back to ask her to be his second wife but she refused, talk plenty no be here. Red flags just plenty around her na so I just suru and advice myself. Run as fast as you can. Today's women especially Nairaland women are bittered and has nothing or little to offer you outside pvssy

intruder15:


A single mother doesn't mean she is less than human. What matters is her story and how she fends for her baby. Does she depend on others to feed and take care of her baby? Is she working her ass out to ensure that she doesn't beg anyone for funds?
I find hardworking women attractive. They may be bossy and focused but also a baby when around the right person. Her story matters. It may be fabricated as well. Read between the lines.

SIONKPO1:

No be all we read for internet be truth,Tonto Dike has her shortcomings so stop speaking I'll of someone

LeeSmart:
I no even knw wetin i wan tell op like dis, but try as hard as possible not to comeback here with another script telling us how bad and manipulative she is oo