ronkebp:

I do not see how a relationship can survive without money being involved. I have never seen nor heard of it.

ronkebp:

I do not see how a relationship can survive without money being involved. I have never seen nor heard of it.

Nayah:

Not when you're married because you have to share bills and all things, but when you date someone I don't really see the "obligation" because you're not even sure about the future, and I don't know how we can replace love with money unless you don't love him of course

Nosyke:

Please Ma'm Correct me if I am wrong, even for you to show the Love you need to be calling her like every now and then to know how she is faring, and the last time I checked recharge cards here are not for free

pendo89:

What you are saying in summary is 'men do whatever it takes to make sure you are loaded cz u got no luck with girls if your are broke'. sad

pendo89:

Who dates the rich girls then?

pro01:

There may be a more euphemistic way of saying that, but yes, that is pretty much what it is.

Richer men. Or at least men in a similar financial 'class' as the girls. Which further explains why financial insecurity in a man is the ultimate social sin in Nigeria. Rich guys hold all the aces, and head or tail, they win. They're always the number one preference for both poor girls and rich girls . . .both only settle for 'less' when they can't find a rich man that will be committed to them long-term.

You have answered me. Thank you. No man wants to be poor and no girl desires a poor man either. But every sensible girl rich/poor needs a guy who is worth more than what he makes. A man who will treat her well,not bad just cz he bought her.
If I am a guy and I go through hell to impress a girl,chances of treating her like a good or property are very high. Its very easy to become abusive if the lady ever crosses your path.
Those are the risks I cant subject myself to cz in life one needs a friend not a trader.

pendo89:

Before it goes a different direction, the discussion is not about whether money is important in a relationship! Of course it is. This is a real world and we need to pay for stuff.

I asked the guys if they (without money) are able to impress a girl? And I quoted the qualities that make a guy desirable in the eyes of ladies.

1. [b]Conversation skills/that sexy voice included.
2. Ability to make her laugh
3 .Ability to teach her new stuff
4. Creativity
5. Simplicity
6. Expression
7. Straight forwardness
8. Complimentary skills
[/b]
Such stuff that make a man attractive even before you know his worth.  Are you with the above qualities alone able to[b] impress [/b] a lady?
Rem.when you meet a lady first time she doesn't even know your worth.You must impress! But MAJORITY OF YOU DONT BELIEVE IN YOURSELVES!
You rubbish all the above because of the culture.(I understand)

Nayah:

Well I think we need to put things on context, some women pay their phone to call their beloved, then if you think this is because in Africa this is a normal concept, spending in exchange of love, but honestly I disagree and I'm opposed on this for 2 reasons:
If you truly like someone, then money is put on background
You might be depend and the guy could any respect for you thinking he can do what he wants with you because he spends, no way!

When the person feels you like or love her, trust me he can spend much more than money on you, but we like starting by the end

:oAre you for real?
@ OP we need to be real Nigeria is not utopia, MekaBoy Aptly descibed the situation here on ground

Basildon1:

@ Pendo89, Just before i go home, i wish i could sponsor you on a 3month undercover stay in an environment with a lot of nigerian females like a university.

First hand experience beats theoretical knowledge anyday!  

Nosyke:

1. Keyword here is Impress, but you didnt state for how long. Even if you are combination of Basketmouth , Gordon and I-go-die with out fat wallet  believe you me the impression will only last for a while before reality sets in and she starts to compare the guy with her friends. [color=#000099]possible
2.How many girls will for example accept ONLY a flower on Valentine's day with a pure heart as proof of one's love for her ? your thinking nigerian girl
7. Assuming one just finished National service and sees the chick that he loves, but the guy has ABSOLUTELY   no work yet, what ratio of chicks wil agree for him to date them?[/color] and I read here about a nigerian chick who took care of her broke guy and when he was able to stand on his own he dumped her for another chick.
 

Basildon1:

@ Pendo89, Just before i go home, i wish i could sponsor you on a 3month undercover stay in an environment with a lot of nigerian females like a university. First hand experience beats theoretical knowledge anyday! 

Nosyke:


Please for her to properly access the situation and have an all ecompassing "First hand experience" let her trip be sheduled to any of the following Nigerian cities
1. Abuja
2.Portharcourt
3. Lagos

pendo89:

where is the e -ticket?

Exactly the point ,
Let be straightforward with you, I dont have money for your ticket, hope I IMPRESSED YOU?

Nosyke:

Exactly the point ,
Let be straightforward with you, I dont have money for your ticket, hope I IMPRESSED YOU?

ronkebp:

Gat you Pendo,

The truth is that, any guy that thinks he could impress or win a woman over by spending is just a big mugu, because he would end up to be 'correct Maga', infact he has become her personal atm.


Now, Do i want an Einstein as a boyfriend, Hell No!!!! it is good to be intelligent but please do not bore me with all you have to say, stop quoting whatever i really do not care for it. and stop showing off by speaking grammar so that the whole world will know you have decided to committ the whole dictionary to memory

Then the OLodos' HABA NOW!!!!! that one i don't have anything to say about them, than for them to please ''UPGRADE''.

Therefore, a little bit of this and that is OK!! too much maggi or salt spoils the taste of the soup or food, everything should be done in moderation.

mekaboy:

MRBROWN YOU ARE ADVICING GUYS NOT TO SPEND, WHEN THE URGE TO HOLD A WOMAN FOR THIS COLD XMASS SEASON COMES AROUND, HOPE YOU WILL BE THEIR TO SATISFY THE GUYS WHO REFUSE TO SPEND. 

SOME GIRLS SAY "NO FINANCE NO ROMANCE" I USE TO BLAME THEM BUT ONE GIRL MADE A POINT CLEAR TO ME AND I THINK I UNDERSTAND WHY THEY LIKE THE RICH GUYS.

YOU CAN SEE A GIRL IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A BROKE GUY, HE HAS SWEET MOUTH AND EVERY, BUT HE COULD BE STRESSING HER OUT, HE WANTS TO KNOW WHO CALLED HER AND WHO SHE IS CALLING.
HE COULD EVEN BE THE VERY JEALOUS TYPE SOME BROKE GUYS EVEN BEAT UP THE GIRL WHEN ANGRY AND FRUSTRATED.
NOW THE GIRL SAYS, SHE WILL RATHER DATE A RICH GUY AND ENDURE THE STRESS THAN DATE A BROKE GUY AND ENDURE THE SAME STRESS. ATLEAST AFTER THEY FIGHT AND QUAREL THE RICH GUY WILL BUY HER AN EXPENSIVE GIVE TO MAKE IT UP. BUT THE POOR GUY WILL SOAK GARRI AND GROUNDNUT AND GIVE HER TO MAKE UP.

WHY ENTER A BUS WITHOUT AIR CONDITION WHEN YOU CAN STILL GET A PRIVATE TAXI WITH AIR CONDITION AT THE SAME PRICE?

ITS EASIER TO WIN A GIRL WHO IS COMFORTABLE WITHOUT MONEY THAN TO WIN A BROKE GIRL WITHOUT MONEY, THE COUNTRIES SITUATION FROWNS AT IT.

WHY DO YOU THINK THE POLITICIANS LOOT IN NIGERIA? THEY WANT THINGS TO BE SO HARD, SO ONLY A FEW PEOPLE CAN BE RICH, AND THE FINE GIRLS WILL HAVE NO OPTION BUT DEPEND ON THEM 

ASSUMING A RICH SENATOR IS DATING A GIRL, PAYS HER FEES, RENTS A COMFORTABLE APPARTMENT FOR HER. AND THE BROKE GUY WITH SWEET MOUTH WINS HER OVER, AND SHE BREAKS UP WITH THE RICH MAN, WHAT WILL HAPPEN WHEN THE RENT EXPIRES ??

" A BIRD AND A FISH CAN FALL INLOVE BUT WHERE WILL THEY LIVE " ?

pendo89:


.I thought you would miss that ! You got it right!!
But hey! before u go laughing. I wasn't 'coming because you impressed me!' Nope. I was coming as undercover agent.That is 'work' not relationship!!

No probs, will be upgrading my Creativity, Simplicity,level of humour, etc hoping to IMPRESS YOU

Nosyke:

@MBJ, You are premising your argument on the fact that we are in normal situations,but the truth is that we are not, wake up and smell the coffee

MRbrownJAY:

pls bro, care to elaborate a lil more about your "abnormal" situation? if we are in any abnormal situation then you best believe that WE (men) put ourselves in such predicament.

Basildon1:

And as usual,  @MrBrownJay had to get all analytical and ish on this one! Mekaboy is in no way supporting them lot, he is just seeing both sides of the coin with a generous dose of humor!

I had friends back in uni who only dated guys that could handle their bills and they were some of my best friends, THERE IS NO NEED TO TAKE THE JUDGEMENTAL STAND that they are similar to call girls (except maybe u seeing more than one, that kinda gets iffy!)

Blue pill or red pill, like Neo, the choice is up to you when it comes to babes in Nigeria. (tis why we spend time trying to get who suits our tastes)

Nosyke:

mekaBoy did justice to that

Basildon1:

And as usual,  @MrBrownJay had to get all analytical and ish on this one! Mekaboy is in no way supporting them lot, he is just seeing both sides of the coin with a generous dose of humor!

I had friends back in uni who only dated guys that could handle their bills and they were some of my best friends, THERE IS NO NEED TO TAKE THE JUDGEMENTAL STAND that they are similar to call girls (except maybe u seeing more than one, that kinda gets iffy!)

Blue pill or red pill, like Neo, the choice is up to you when it comes to babes in Nigeria. (tis why we spend time trying to get who suits our tastes)

MRbrownJAY:

bro, this is an interesting issue, especially when we realize that many guys are ready and willing to part with their cash to impress women that, they know, probably dont give a damn about them.

although i dont judge them, we have to call a spade A SPADE. these women are doing EXACTLY what call girls are doing so why is it a problem if i give an explanation that shows that they are? we are still having a debate, right?!

Basildon1:

Ms Pendo89, u beginning to real sound funny - DEFEATIST? ME? . I have a gf and she definitely doesnt fall into the gold- digger category. So please hold up with your God-like advice! Everyone wants to date and have fun while they hope to meet the right one. There's more fun to be had when there is money - OVERDOING it becomes stupidity, it can be balanced and simultaneous esp in Nigeria. I live in the UK and it is way different!

Did you ever see me label anyone on here - call them gold diggers or throw stones? I am a realist and dont believe in condemning anyone that doesnt fall into my line of thinking. This is a forum, deal with it and stop thinking that anyone that posts on here and doesnt fall into your line of thinking has no sense. Who made the guys you have mentioned the SI unit for measuring men. 

This is no form of slave trade where you show money and you get all the girls. Heck, it doesnt even guarantee nothing! If you want to go ahead and put words in my mouth and say I AM ADVOCATING MONEY FOR GIRLS, you welcome, my dear Mother Theresa.
Bro, no be today i sign up for NL nah. I know your style, u could be judgmental, not saying it is a bad thing o but why the self denial. On a casual date basis,  have you never had to impress a gal with some posh restaurant while  trying to get it?! Maybe yes, maybe no and maybe it was not even necessary  but this stuff happens. I LOVE McDee's  doesnt mean I am taking a gal there till we on dat level. Even if you dont spend it, you will ooze it to a level. Girls are creatures of comfort!