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Hi has KICC got a hospital or school for the poor, just want to know about their charitable works b4 i make a comment on this issue.

thanks

[quote author=Aloy+Emeka link=topic=524524.msg6882025#msg6882025 date=1286306045]It is not rare. My father has never beaten my mother and my uncles are like that too. My mother runs her mouth like shege but my father will always counter her by leaving the house to cool off with his friends. It is the same mother of mine who will start screaming out of fear if he is not back home by a certain time.[/quote]and that is how sensible men behave


sometimes u have to ask why a woman complains or nags - some men no matter how good the wife is are just highly irresponsible.

I feel your pain but I would listen to your parents - after 7pm don't go out.

I know ur 27 but nigeria is not america

all this advice to women but i notice the fact the bible says that man has a greater responsibility is no where to be found.

anyway just an observation.

anyway why am i surprised in a culture that deems women as second class citizens what do u expect. everything is the woman's fault.

some people seem to think that men are just sitting down quietly performing their husband duties perfectly and its the woman causing all the problems and has now pushed the man into an animal. as hard as this may be for some to believe there are some men out there who are bad and beat their wives cos its their nature or they may have witnessed it growing up and are now conditioned to act this way.

i have a friend whose husband beat her up 10 days after having a c-section - please tell me what a woman has done in this instance to deserve this - please give me an excuse for this? her luck is she is in the UK and the man was arrested and now has a criminal record - if it was Nigeria he would probably bring his new girlfriend to her wake keeping after killing her - cos u know its her fault she is dead.

anyway lets all have a good week and agree to disagree.

the issue at hand is the topic and not whoever is to blame for this the bigger picture is this man has killed his wife the kid/kids now have no mother and this sin will live with him for the rest of his life - i bet now he wishes he had just left the house and ignored her for a few days so that the wife could fix her behaviour up.

aloy and spiked - i'm not talking about bad women - i'm talking about women who suffer domestic abuse - not all men hit their wives cos of nagging some are just animals and i doubt any sensible woman would push her man to the point where he will beat her.

there are too many examples for me to use but trust me the horrible women u talk of are not the ones i'm referring to here.

there are many ways to handle a women and beating is not one of them - trust me a man can get more from a woman by ignoring her for a few days - beating her just makes her loose respect for him.

Plus do these same men beat up their fellow men out of annoyance - i know someone who lost a sister last year due to domestic violence and the husband had the gut to tell the family kidney failure - they didn't buy it but no matter what they do they can't bring her back.

lets remember the children in all this - i personally don't think its right for kids to grow up thinking its ok for daddy to hit mummy when they have a disagreement.

spikedcylinder:
It's not just women that suffer abuse in marriage, men suffer too. Honestly, some woman are pure wrenches. Insufferable mongrels. Chai. Not one moment of peace and sanity. Always screaming, fighting, shouting, hating, swearing, cursing, insanely jealous, extremely rude, malicious etc. Jesu!
I know a woman like that and if she was married to my brother, I'd have put [i]otapiapi[/i]a in her food a long long long time ago.

According to the landlord in this story, the woman was like that. I'm not excusing her husband beating her but it only takes a very very strong willed man not to retaliate violently with a mongrel for a wife.
Now, this is the sorry end. I hope this serves as a lesson.

as much as i want to agree with you - i have to say that at times just as a man is provoked a woman is also provoked as well. If a man does not know how to be a good husband it is only a matter of time that "good" wife will start nagging and knowing our culture every problem in the marriage is the womans fault.

we know this man is not going to spend more than a few days in jail, there is NEVER any reason to raise ur hand against a woman especially the mother of ur child. i'm sorry this needs to stop so - we have men in this day and age that think its ok to beat ur wife - oh i wish some of them would try that foolishness in countries that REALLY punish this barbaric behaviour.

if he had killed anyone else it would be point blank murder or manslaughter - but cos its a "nagging" nigerian wife its ok right

chaircover:
Lol Taymi

You are right o! but I rather he bought me a box of chocolates, flowers and a private jet, than to be carrying my urine around

why stop there - i would rather he carry this load for the next 3 months so i can walk like a normal being - who the heck needs their urine carried for them. abeg o the 11th way to help should be for the man to be pregnant for one week so i can have a good nights sleep.

abiop:
Ada24, you sure a comedia

Of course my sister by the Special GRACE of the Almighty that made it possible & put it there

my dear what can i do? crying does nothing at least let me laugh at this load, it is no joke o - I feel like something has hijacked my body and there is nothing I can do, I'm always tired and in pain God help me on Labour day o!!

this baby will soon disgrace me in public somewhere if he/she does not stop with this kicking, i know i will be somewhere and shout eh woooo chei and some other ibo and the oyibo people around me will wonder what this crazy woman is doing, not knowing that i have a miniature Jackie Chan in my stomach.

I still thank God and just hope all these stories give others the faith that their own time is coming at the appointed time.

@ chaircover - this topic is making me chuckle - so cos we had rain all week last week it depressed u enough to put all these sunny pictures - eh yah i feel ur pain . i got caught in the rain 3 times last week, so not happy about that

my dear summer is over o - u are even lucky there was one this year - ur obviously forgetting 2007 (remember umbrella by Rhianna??) my dear embrace the Autumn and get ready for winter cos i hear we have having a repeat of the last one - best start buying anti freeze for ur cars and getting ur tyres sorted. as for me I'm on the lookout for a stylish affordable winter coat,

like comparing a bently with a ford mondeo.

Arlington:
where is everyone,on sabbatical leave?hope you all are doing good, i am feeling under the weather again i went to the doctors office and came back with a cold and sore throat not a pleasant situation to be in as they will not give me any heavy medication to cure it i am just drinking tea, lemon and normal paracetamol. if you guys know any natural thing i can take please tell me not herbs oh!
@Uche 13 thank you for taking time to read the thread, don't worry you are in our prayers .that would be an interesting thread as long as the usual misfits on Nairaland don't turn it into a circus.I am happy they don't come here to cause trouble so i pray yours will go that way too.

i'm here my dear sister, just recovered from a throat and chest infection, baby is kicking as if he/she is making popcorn in my stomach and the weight/load is starting to get too heavy for my small frame, everything hurts and i'm always tired.

i still thank God thou every ache and pain will be worth it by the New Year

stillwater:
Erhmmm how do you know?
What is so 'killing' about the dressing? Because she match shoe with purse? Don't our mothers dress like that? Is it until they wear ashes you would believe they are 'compassionate' or in mourning?

if that is the only issue disturbing you then sorry. as there is a bigger picture lets leave it that the main thing that is shameful is the fact i raised a point about someone's dressing - abeg i'm too tired to fight, if ur offended - sorry.

why is this a topic?

are people so naive to expect more from naija, the photo is a shame but a lot of people have no shame back home so i doubt they see this as an issue - I've looked at the picture over and over and can't help but laugh, one of the women is dressed to kill with matching handbag and shoe and the children have the trauma clearly written on their face and there is not an ounce of compassion from the adults.

people are talking of traumatised children, u think anybody will offer these kids counselling - i laugh in Ibo.

i think think the kidnapping of children and bombing will now become the norm, politicians are more worried about getting their share of the public purse to steal than how the average citizen can live a life of 3 meals a day and being able to afford basic malaria medication.

i tire for our country

df2006:
where did all this commentators surface from? will you all go back to your romance section? when the issues of mend was being discussed at the inception, where were you all? a few bombs have gone off, you all are ranting here. this is clearly just the beginning, wait boko haram will soon start their own suicide bombings, then nigeria will wake up!! or may be break up!!!

abi, i personally think these bombings are just the beginning. As for Cap i agree with you, however innocent people didn't need to die yesterday.

UK dignitaries pulled out of Friday's parade marking Nigeria's 50th anniversary, which was targeted by explosions that killed 12 people.

The Queen's representative, the Duke of Gloucester, was scheduled to attend but did not. Ex-PM Gordon Brown cancelled his visit to the country altogether.

The pullouts have raised questions about how much the Nigerian authorities knew of impending attacks.

The Mend militant group said it carried out the bombings.

Mend, the Movement for the Emancipation of the Niger Delta, which says it is fighting for a fairer distribution of oil revenue, sent a warning shortly before the blasts.

It said that "several explosive devices have been successfully planted in and around the venue by our operatives working inside the government security services".

It added: "There is nothing worth celebrating after 50 years of failure. For 50 years, the people of the Niger Delta have had their land and resources stolen from them."

Mend later accused officials of acting "irresponsibly by ignoring our forewarning".

The two bombs went off about five minutes apart. Police said the bombs appeared timed to do most damage to those who responded to the first blast.
'Constant contact'

A UK Foreign and Commonwealth Office spokesperson confirmed it had "received indications of a heightened security risk" and took immediate action to update travel advice after the Mend warning on Friday morning.

The BBC's Komla Dumor says people in Abuja have been shaken by the attacks

The Duke of Gloucester had been scheduled to attend the parade but did not do so. His office declined to comment on why he withdrew. Former UK PM Gordon Brown also did not attend.

The FCO spokesperson said: "Security for VIP visitors is always kept under rigorous review. We remain in constant contact with the Nigerian authorities on this."

Foreign Secretary William Hague condemned the attacks as "cowardly and contemptible".

"My thoughts are with those injured and the families of those who have lost their lives," he said.

Nigeria's This Day newspaper said British intelligence had warned Nigerian authorities of possible attacks.
Map of Nigeria

This Day also reported a raid was carried out on the home of Mend leader, Henry Okah, in South Africa, following Nigerian requests.

Reuters news agency quoted a South African police spokeswoman as saying she could "neither confirm or deny the incident took place".

Nigerian police spokesman Jimoh Moshoo confirmed that 12 people had been killed in the attacks, with 17 injured, and that a manhunt had been launched.

"We have mounted a check throughout the city," he said.

Nigerian President Goodluck Jonathan called the attacks a "wicked act of desperation".

Ordinary Nigerians expressed surprise at the blasts.

Elkana Habila told Reuters: "This is a very massive blow to the Nigerian government,  and it will portray the country in a very bad light. It will scare away foreign investors."
Amnesty

Last year the Nigerian government signed an amnesty agreement with rebels in the Delta, offering cash and the promise of job training for former militants who disarmed.

Violence has lessened and the number of kidnappings has fallen since the deal was reached, but many fighters complain the government has failed to deliver its end of the agreement.

Oil production has increased since the amnesty came into effect - from about 1.6 million barrels per day to about two million now.

Most of Mend's attacks have targeted pipelines and supply terminals in the south.

President Jonathan is himself from the Delta region. When he took office earlier this year, a senior rebel leader told the BBC he would be the best person to solve the crisis in the Delta, as he understands its problems.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-africa-11458674

[quote author=@labiyemmy link=topic=523366.msg6854532#msg6854532 date=1285920666]One experience and that's it - we Nigerians are quick to write off anything that is ours.

Have you not experience double seat assignment on international flights before? Big deal? Mistakes do happen.

Come on. Any little thing you experience, you go on to use it to pummel Nigeria and her people, so bad.[/quote]well at least there are laws and rules to protect passengers here, whenever i have flown to America from London and they have overbooked they either, give u money, upgrade u to first class plus a bit of compensation or put u in a hotel - i don't know the point u are trying to make.

This sort of nonsense happened to me once on a virgin Nigeria flight in Lagos to PH we were delayed for 4 hours and at no point did anyone try and update us or reassure us, obviously people were getting annoyed and eventally forced them to open the plane door (yes we sat on a plane for 4 hours) so they could get a flight with another airline. I simply told the air stewards or whatever they are called these days that if they had just displayed professional customer service u would not have people shouting at them, u pay for a service so one should except a certain level of service.

This is the problem in naija - people are so used to mediocrity they start thinking its acceptable

lovejo:
PERSONALLY I DON'T LIKE TO DATE SHORTER LADIES, SHORT LADIES OR MEN ARE ALWAYS EVIL, ( KUKURU BILISI) SHORT-MAN DEVIL

its not clever showing the world how ignorant you are.

Orilee9ice:
NAA WAA OH, YOU GUYS A STILL DISSIN' HIM, i saw him on bentv yesterday and remebered his fanclub, hateclub on NL, and laff-ed eh!, just checkin' 2 see if its still on, and oh boy!.it is, coming on strong 2!

poverty mentality at its best, reminds me of those that gt small money, they have no house, no savings but use the money on some 2nd hand jeep, drink and women, and wonder why they are still poor 12months later.

[quote author=naija_diva link=topic=521064.msg6843777#msg6843777 date=1285768983]Well look at it this way, it'll be a way to graudually stretch the body  .

I like guys taller than me bcuz im short. Im only 5'3". My dream height is [b]5'9" [/b]but that'll never happen . I wear atleast 4" heals but i still feel short bcuz all the other tall ppl (women) are also wearing heels lol.

I don't want my guy to be too tall tho, no 6'ft and above. thats too much for ME.  5'7"-6ft is good for me. Now if he's all that and extra fly then I can adjust my standards  .[/quote]5"9 my dear thats short o!!!!!! LOL (just kidding)

with my 5"2 frame i'm quite happy with my 6'ft husband - i want tall kids or at least average height, u see its not for me its for my children

no but seriously its all about personal preference, some guys only like dark/light girls so what is the issue if a woman is naturally drawn to a taller man.

For the short guys out there - don't worry there is someone for everyone

the funny this is people will still come on here and say the western media only show negative.

I can think of many news stories i have heard about Nigeria THAT ARE TRUE and many people in the same Nigeria don't even know about it.

I now see kidnapping children as the new trend,

these criminals probably think by kidnapping a large group the families will put their money together and pay the 20million - i really feel for the families right now - these are young children - chei words cannot even begin to describe how pathetic this situation is.

if u met a man at 50 who had achieved nothing but his mates around him were getting better would that man on his 50th birthday have cause to celebrate. All this noise we make and Ghana is doing better than us, i laugh.

to be honest if no one has anything tangible to say about what we should be celebrating there is no need for this topic considering 15 families in Aba are probably processing their visas to leave Nigeria as we speak!!!!!!!!!

with all our wealth a woman is more likely to die in childbirth in Nigeria than the same Sudan some of u insult. where the average age of life is 47/49 - can a human even get to 50.

all u people saying what are u doing to make things better - are u for real or u don't know the country ur referring to again. when all these presidential candidates are there fighting over zoning - not one has come out with a manifesto detailing what they will do for the country - i laugh i igbo, does the structure of that country even allow ordinary people to make a change - if nobody is ashamed that people are dying of cholera in 2010 in this "wonderful" Nigeria then more shame on u. this is a disease that has almost eradicated in most countries.

and this is what we have to celebrate,

politicians are commissioning the biggest cake in the world and this kind of nonsense is happening in the same country - i thank God everyday my children will not grow up in that country

i have the same issue and i just travel with both passports - why am i going to start travelling with 3 passports - as long as u have a naija and uk passport u can travel freely between the 2 countries.

if it worries u that much get the ROA stamp in ur new passport.

koastar:
Oh! it's a pity people like you find yourself in the uk. I'm sure you are one of those illegal immigrants doing illegal job! Anyway, i have no time for bad eggs like you. People like you give Nigeria a bad name you see, you are not proud of your origin and cannot do anything reasonable for your fatherland. _{It's better to be a prodigal son than to be a lost son maga!}

why does everyone think all nigerians in the uk are here illegally - its getting old and tired and shows a low level of intelligence. yes i said it cos its getting annoying. does it mean everyone living in lekki is there from the proceeds of crime - eh no some of u are there thru hard work so abeg quit this "if u live in the uk u are there illegally" its getting tired and boring

i laughed so hard it brought me to tears.

chei ignorance is a disease o

this topic is so funny

i didn't know that NL was the haven for male models - all perfect 6"2 handsome with perfect 6/8 pack abs. na wah o i have been missing out.

see what photoshop and airbrushing has done chei i pity us women.

Lagos - Nigerian authorities opened the gates at two swollen dams in the country's rain-soaked north, sending a flood into a neighboring state that has displaced 2 million people, officials said on Friday.

Water from the Challawa and Tiga dams has swept through rural Jigawa state, bordering the nation of Niger, said Umar Kyari, a spokesman for the state governor. Kyari said the rising waters have affected about 5 000 villages in the typically arid region approaching the Sahara Desert.

"They released water indiscriminately," Kyari said.

It wasn't immediately clear whether residents received a warning or if anyone was injured or went missing in the flooding. Officials typically open dams seasonally in the region, but it appears far more water flowed out than residents expected.

Jigawa is home to 4 million people, so half of the state's population has been displaced by the flooding.

Nigeria, an oil-rich nation of 150 million in West Africa, has strong seasonal rains that wash through the country. However, this year has seen particularly strong rains in the north that already have broken a dam and flowed over levees in another northern state.

Local officials had begun putting displaced families in rural schoolhouses and other government buildings out of the reach of the floodwaters, Jigawa state information commissioner Aminu Mohammed said. However, Mohammed said the water had reached the border with neighboring Yobe state.

"The flood has washed away all the farms and houses," Mohammed said.

Officials with the agency in charge of the dams in neighboring Kano state could not be immediately reached for comment Friday night.

Jigawa state sits about 1.4km from Lagos in Nigeria's Muslim north.

Mohammed said the flooding has grown progressively worse since August, reaching its height Friday. He said more than 34 square miles (88 square kilometers) of farmland have been washed away by the flooding, as well as millions of dollars worth of cattle.

The commissioner said the state has yet to receive significant aid from the federal government.

Typically, the water released yearly from the dams flows into farm fields across the region known as the Sahel, a band of semiarid land stretching across Africa south of the Sahara. There, farmers use the water in the region's brief fertile season to grow corn, rice and a variety of vegetables. However, rains this year have been unusually strong, putting pressure on the reservoirs and dams in the area.

In Nigeria's northwest state of Sokoto, floodwater topped levees and a dam failed during recent flooding, spilling water into surrounding villages. Local newspapers reported as many as 40 people died.

Seyi Soremekun, a spokesperson for the Nigerian Red Cross, said officials were working on casualty figures from the flooding. He said volunteers already reached Jigawa and Sokoto states to offer assistance.

"I think the most pressing need is how to put the victims, those affected, in shelter from the harsh weather," Soremekun said. "They need blankets; they need some personal effects to at least deal with or absorb the shock of displacement."

The rains come as neighboring Niger faces what international aid experts warn is the worst hunger crisis in its history following a prolonged drought and poor growing season last year. One of the poorest countries in Africa, Niger now has more than 7 million people - almost 50 percent of the population - suffering from a lack of food, officials say.

Nigeria, Africa's most populous nation, last saw serious flooding in 2007, when 68 people died and 50 000 were affected.

http://www.news24.com/Africa/News/Nigeria-struggles-with-flood-20100925

madoba:
Personally i think Naija is worth celebrating, though I agree with some posters that @ 50 we are still crawling as a nation, there are a few good things to celebrate.

1. We have more univeristies now than we did at the time of independence and quite a number of them are really good.

2. Good road networks in big cities and even in my home town at least my Governor has given our state a face lift.

3. Splendid places like the Obudu cattle ranch and mambila hills

4. Portable water in some rural areas (at least in my home town, can't speak for the entire nation)

5. Free HIV drugs in FMC's (Federal Medical Centers) across the nation. I remeber a time when the price of those drugs were mind boggling

6. The BRT buses in Lagos and the similar ones they have in Abuja

7. Maurice Iwu's removal as INEC chairman

8. Michael Aondoakaa's exit from office etc etc

I am sure some of you can add a few good things to this list and find a reason to celebrate Naija as a nation and not just the 1st of October

u know that if you have to celebrate the fact that in 2010 some places have protable water then we are in real trouble. don't u see that this is not normal

even if we have 1million universities in Nigeria it does not address the unemployment problem or the fact that once u leave the shores of Nigeria ur degree is not really valued unless u top it up with something else.