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The guy has compelling points.

The sexiness of women diminishes with age. And since women now measure the sex appeal of guys by their pockets, sexiness appreciates in men as their earning power rises. Weird indices but na wetin women dey do.

It’s quick maths.

Then she ended it with “why are men like this?”

Baby girl, this is your family problem.

Think deeply. For some reason, your mother is in love with an abusive man. When she is ready, she will leave.

100k per month for the entire family? Remove transport to work & nepa bill. What is left? Can it feed you and your family for 30 days? Would you have savings?

Teena101:
sorry can you explain better

You shouldn’t see life through the lens of a victim. I wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who’s guard is up, thinking I’m out to hurt or gossip about her. I’d rather not live life trying to prove that I’m a good friend to someone who thinks I’m going to hurt her. Better to avoid such people.

Jodha:
She doesn't want to have the sex.....she doesn't want his body for now....

There's nothing manipulative about that....rather he's the manipulative one.. I'm sure he initially agreed no sex before marriage...

If he can't endure no more ...he should leave the relationship... it's not by force..

I agree it’s not by force to wait. He should move on. Win win.

Chumachu:
Omo, these days some women can make gods afraid with what they do. I don see tire. .

Employed or employable is key. Some might just be fresh from university.

No be small thing!

Please explain number 3: fear God and God-fearing.

Me I don’t think you’re asking for too much. Except she should actually be employed.

Jodha:
I don't understand yhu guys o...may be I would open a thread about this to gain closure cause I don't understand..

Because she's in a relationship with him...he should have free access to her body? ....is desire valid How When it's her body ? When premarital sex is a sin?

She stayed in that relationship hoping he'll wait till marriage....if sex is his problem ...he should leave her alone and find a prostitute...

You automatically assumed they would both embrace your version of religion. And yes, his desire is valid. Will she have sex by herself? Wouldn’t he give his own body too?

If she wanted to cajole him into waiting till she was ready then she is manipulative and basically setting herself up. She should have called it quits when she found out their views on something this fundamental do not align.

Your boyfriend is using it against you?

With this mentality, it is not difficult to see why you don’t have friends.

Can’t say I blame the guy. Man has to look out for himself.

Jodha:
So sex is all yhu want in the relationship ABI?... Please break up with her...so she can find the man for her that'll respect her choice and wait...

Respect her choice? Why should her choice be respected and not his own choice? Is his desire not valid? Why did she hold on to the relationship for this long when they couldn’t even agree on the issue of sex. What was she gaining that made her cling to the relationship?

If she knew she wouldn’t give in (after knowing his disposition) then she has wasted her time by herself.

I think you’re making the right decision.

Your views on romance (in relationships) do not align. You shouldn’t be together.

You don’t have sense. You will soon understand how deep her love is for you.

Preshieben:
that means only but one thing


you don't know how to read

and you do? You?

Preshieben:
free me Joor

where did you see nonsense in that comment?

You can’t see it? Then I cannot help you.

This life no balance.

People are paying good money to abort babies, others are paying top dollar to conceive.

A good friend of mine has been married for some years now and he and his wife don’t have kids. It crosses my mind once in a while but I never broached that topic with them. Not once. It’s not my business if they don’t tell me and I would rather not add to the pressure some relatives would be putting on them.

Some couples actually want to stay without kids for a few years. It’s their business. After all, no be me go buy pampers and pay school fees.

Pray your prayer privately and don’t add to the pressure.

Preshieben:
check my comment very well

I closed my case
so I'm not opening it again cos of you

What is this? You typed this nonsense and still had the guts to hit “submit”?

What a terrible way to die. Hope this is not karma.

Soldiers believe they are superior. Even these ones without rank will be commanding and punishing civilians.

It won’t change any time soon. Nigeria was ruled by the military for too long.

Preshieben:
Guys should stop saying things like...Baby I want to suck breast..
Baby I need you to help me wash my clothes

We are not your mom or grandmother

Case closed

Equating gifts and money with your body tells an interesting story. Sex is not a commodity. Both man and woman enjoy sex. And still the man does the work cos Nigerian babes are lazy AF.

Her father is broke, she is broke also, that’s why she’s disturbing her boyfriend.

Guys need to stop dating broke girls. They have nothing to offer except their bodies which cannot be called a benefit cos na man go still do all the work to enjoy sex.

Choose babes that have tangible work/business.

Does Nigeria still have a labour union?

You know what to do.

Like you stated, your focus is not bride price. Your focus is income.

Explain to your girlfriend. Let her know that you wouldn’t be able to send her regular money for the next few weeks. Everyone will call you names but your situation demands that your girlfriend’s family takes up major responsibility for her and your child, for now.

If you give her money as soon as you get it, you will keep struggling and the situation will not improve. You must set money aside for short term investment/business. In a few months you should be stable enough to take up responsibility.

If you carry any load that you have not developed capacity for, you will not move. Build capacity.

There are some kinds of hustle that you can do only as a single man without family responsibility. A man will run further and faster when he has no baggage.

Just make sure you do not fall into the temptation of drinking to drown your worries. Alcohol can only mask your pain for a few hours.

sammy329:
How can PDP be loosing woefully like this, where are the Soro Soke generation

I thought APC and Tinubu's dynasty is finished in Lagos.

Not everyone who is against you will automatically support your opponent. Expand your reasoning.

LOL.

Sha no kee yourself because of woman. At least na relationship. People that found out their children belonged to their best friends nko?

Better calm down and focus on your business/career. Life doesn’t give you egusi everyday, sometimes, bitter leaf will be on the menu. Just use your eba and pack the soup and move on.

Hope say no be woman cause this your disappointment. Cos if you’re this way because of woman I can swear for you.

See twitter People talking as if 10k is small money.

He deserves better for 10k.

Ishilove:
That's the sacrifice we make to have your children. Flat belly or kids. Make your choice

Hmmmm!

For more jokes, send 123 to 456.

Why would a grown man kick a man in the balls? Why? When you know how sensitive that place is. Why?

You should have thought of this before breaking up. Think ahead next time.

I would have said go to the police but if you take the legal route you might have to provide proof of ownership of those items and that they are in her possession. Na lawyer go fit help you.