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Beverlyjean:
Good day nairalanders , am new on this forum and I actually registered here so that I can get a credible and mature solution to my lingering emotional and relationship problem.

It goes like this; I have a bf that I have been dating for a year now and he is a very wonderful Person, he is my first love and I really love him so much because he gives me a different kind of feeling that I have never felt before , but my dilemma is that I met another guy a month after I accepted to date my bf , we were normal friends for the first one month though I never told him I had a bf until he surprisingly made his intentions known to me . This other guy has been an angel in my life and we started hanging out frequently due to my bf not being around because he traveled out of the country , this other guy has been the most loving and caring guy that I have ever met, he is always there for me and showers me with so much care love and time . He then introduced me to my introduced me to his family ( his mum and dad inclusive) and they loved me at an instant and started welcoming me and calling me their daughter . Now this other guy is 30 while I turned 21 in December and my guy is 23 . This other guy has a great job and ready to settle but his not rushing me saying that he will wait till I am ready . The problem is that I don't have the type of love he wants me to have for him , the thing is that I love my bf so much and I am not ready to let him go . My bf missed my graduation , my birthday and Val's because he had some pressing issues though he sent me my gifts through mail but the other guy was there for me , came for my grad at gwagwalada, took me to a lovely restaurant on my bday and surprised me with a lovely gift and also spent time with me on Val's day and it was so lovely. My bf is around but I see him only 3 times a month and I don't complain but this other guy sees me like 4 times a week .

I have been in a romantic relationship with the new guy although we have done something's apart from direct sex because I am a virgin . This other guy has sacrificed a lot for me but I wanna let him go because he really want me to leave my bf and stay permanently with him , but I love my bf so much and my feeling for him is not strong . He said the reason why I don't love him is because my heart is somewhere else and the moment I leave my bf , I will start loving him as long as I concentrate solely with him.

He also said that even if I leave him and my bf should later find out what I did with him , that my bf will dump me , if not now but later and I will loose the opportunity of everlasting happiness with him ( the other guy)

I care a lot about the other guy and I have feelings for him but I love my bf a lot , even though he loves me more that my bf does.

The other guy also said my bf is still young and might disappoint me in the future . I believe my bf will not because I can guarantee that he is not cheating on me and will not .

The following are the questions that keep on giving me sleepless nights :

1. Will my bf dump me if he eventually finds out bout what I did with the other guy.
2 . Will my bf or me fall out of love as we grow due to the age
3. Am I sure that he is not cheating on me or later leave me for someone else
4. Should I loose my virginity to him to prove my love
5. Will I find another lovin guy like the other guy later in life if my guy leaves me
6 . Will I leave to regret leaving the other guy
7 . Should I follow my heart or head because my heart says my bf but my head says the other guy
8. Will I fall inlove with the other guy if I stop seeing my bf?

Please help me with very mature answers because this will play a vital role in my life in the future .

Ladies that have experienced this come forth and guys that understand the way guys reason should help out pleaseeeee , because am still a novice when it comes to relationship issues. Thank you

maybe the other guy is trying to take advantage of the fact that your bf is always busy.am not sure he wl continue like this the moment you leave your bf.my advise for you is,sit your bf down and talk to him.let him understd why he shld create more time for you,and tell him hw other guys wants you,this will help him to adjust if he really want you bad enough.NOTE dnt loose your virginity to the other guy o,if you do,tins wil change o.speaking from experience

Akpan107:
I understand bros, GEJ has actually not been the best man for the job, but Buhari has never been an option.

Instead of having Buhari as the President, GEJ should better rule FOREVER!

u speak with so much Authority,i guess u have the power to make this statement of urs come true?

jaeik:
I currently work from 7:45am To 5:30Pm, in a slow growing firm that don not pay much and do not allow for free movement in and out of the office, please i need advice on what i could do to earn extra income. please anyone with a brilliant idea should please help a brother out.
Thanks

there are many business you can do,it depends on how much you want to invest on the business.

Mynd44:
The APC which seems to be the main opposition to the PDP in Nigeria has for sometime now been vigorously pushing for the ousting of President Jonathan and his administration in the next general elections and they will need the votes of the general public. They’ve been doing some convincing to the people who are undecided, now regarded with the somewhat derogatory term of “fencist”. Right now, I find myself sitting down wondering about some important issues. My questions are based on these points.

Body Language: In the last Presidential elections, the APC (or if you like ACN) had a candidate to run against the president and just hours before the election, they allegedly dumped him for reasons best known to them. This singular act shows them as unserious and some might even say they are just in the race for running sake. In my opinion, the greatest damage done by that singular act was to their supporters and of course the candidate, AIG Nuhu Ribadu (rtd). After all the resources and funds put into a campaign you chicken out in the end and leave your people to dry? It speaks volume as they have set a precedence of them being unserious.

Candidates: I am not comfortable with some presidential candidates the APC brought. Buhari, Atiku etc are not what I will call presidential materials either based on past mismanagement of funds or being a dictator to human right abuses. Why not others? How come more people are not opting to contest and seek office? Must we be saddled with the same old people? Yes we know people like Kwankwoso and Rochas contested in the primary but still it was evident from the start that it was a battle between Buhari and Atiku. Atiku was third (which remains a shocker)

Insecurity: This is another problem. We all admit that this is a problem for all Nigerians but has the APC done enough to fight it? Have they shown support towards fighting this scourge that has left thousands dead, about a million displaced and also fear in the heart of a lot of Nigerians? What has the APC done to support the fight apart from endless criticism? Have APC brought out or proffered solutions to fighting this? The killing of members of the NYSC in the North after the elections comes to mind. Some may say that most of the perpetrators were CPC supporters but they have joined the ACN to form APC, so APC should please answer. Statements: This is another point that has been scary (well to me). A lot of statements credited to top members of the APC has not been comfortable ones. I find it careless and annoying the statements I hear and sometimes, I fear they can cause war.

Notable amongst these statements is the threat by the Director-General of their Presidential campaign, Governor Rotimi Amaechi that a parallel government will be formed if they lose. Does anyone remember that this kind of action led to the arrest and detention of Chief MKO Abiola?

Political Prostitution: It is difficult seeing a candidate scream XYZ today and tomorrow screams ABC. Most of the members of the APC were once in the opposition which they labelled as thieves and corrupt. Look at the case of Ekiti where Segun Oni joined the APC. That is a move that shocked even me because everyone remember the propaganda war he had with Fayemi before the courts declared in Fayemi’s favor. Endless Criticisms: Okay so the APC plays the role of an opposition party well. Yes they know how to criticize everything this administration does when campaigning but is that what their campaigns are about? I am tired of hearing what the other guys are going, what do you have for us. When you criticize, you need to also give solutions so you don’t seem to be just doing it because you can or because you are against them. The APC and PDP are both agents of Nigeria’s development right but how about saying what the government is doing right and then when you say what they are doing wrong, tell them what they should have done.

Future Plans: What does the APC have for us? What are their ideas, what will they do about security, poverty, electricity, mortality rate. Education etc. No one is talking about this or they are not talking about it enough. It seems to be a case of making a lot of noise but not really saying anything.

http://opinionriver.com/oluwamynd-vote-apc-2015/

lets not be afraid of the unknw,lets give then chance like we gave PDP for 16year.

nwachi1404:
not many Nigerians can afford it but many Nigerians are working there plus it will reduce capital flight. With its expansion many more will be employed. I wonder why u guys are so blinded by hate. does it mean that APC is a party that hates development and positive transformation? what is ur problem with good things?

you talk of development and transformation,what do you call development without electricity?production of cars and stable Electricity which one do we really need the most in Nigeria?hav u ever spend some time outside Nigeria?am not sure becos if u do,u wont speak like this.

dgr8truth:
If our past leaders had worked the way GEJ is working, we would have been singing a different song by now.
Sadly, our past leaders went on corruption spree, neglected our infrastructures, and refuse building new ones, and so we suffered for years, but God in his infinite mercy and grace rescued us gave us GEJ who is working evidently, so that we can once again believe in nigeria and hope for a better tomorrow, still some nigerians are shouting change, they want to go back to egypt where they ate cucumbers and all sort of nonsense. It will never happen!

I and other patriotic nigerians have and will continue to join hands with GEJ to further our match to the promise land.

Those who are shouting for change if they are not ok with our resolve they can buy a one way ticket and leave nigeria and us in our optimism.

#GEJForContinuedDevelopment

How many Nigerians can afford one of this cars?we need Government that can affect majority of the masses positively not the one that favor few.

chinnyness122:
please wat is Peruvian macca

peruvian macca is food that has healing power,it takes care of any menstrual and hormonal problem.just google it urself,it will really help u. Am talkin from experience

chinnyness122:
Please i need help and useful advice on how to handle menstrual pain without using drugs. I do experience a very painful period every month. The pain usually last up to 6hours or more on d first two days of my period. I use to take pain relief drugs like Ladinax and Ibuprofen but stopped using them since i got to know that they are harmful to health.

I want to know if there are natural ways dat i can subside the pain. Its really excruciating. Thank u all

my dear orthodox medicine like Ladinax and Ibuprofen will do u more harm than good.my advice for you is to eat food as medicine.try add Peruvian macca to ur diet,once u do dat ur problem is solved.hop dis wil help.

emmymdk:
Crowds gathered in the Park of Federal University of Technology Owerri to witness the running out of water from a tree. Many believe its a Miracle water the has the capability of healing any sickness. Some many people who came to take a look at the said Miracle water included the Vice Chancellor of the Institution.


I dey come make I go fetch my own

why is my dear country filled with miracle seekers dis days?God pls help us.

hazyfm1:
If GEJ ends Boko haram and release those innocent girls before the Election he has my vote
If not, my conscience will judge me if i vote for him, Those innocent girls in captivity for 302days won't forgive me either

I wish he took this bold step earlier, But its better late than Never

pls dnt allow urself to be decieved. by this calculative attend by jonathan.is becoming clearer to me that gudluck knw more than wot he want us to believe abt dis Boko haram tin.pls ask urseld dis Question.what stop Goodluck from doin dis years ago?why wait til election time?my dear he is playing politics with peoples life,just imagine the life that would have bn saved had this action be taken three year ago.pls let's be wise dis time,let's not make the same mistake we all made in 2011.

Humanbeing1st:
PLS WHO IS DOYIN OKUPE?

he's one self acclaim bastard. .

0700Jesse:
Chaaii., APC!!! ASSOCIATION OF PAST CRIMINALS

Am glad u said past CRIMINALS not present CRIMINALS like ur Mr stealing is not Corruption and his members.Repentance is acepted in the holy Bible.

oneeast:
GEJ is very humble..

We do not need an arrogant stark illiterate who doubles as the boko haram grand patron to rule this country.

GEJ till 2019..

are u not ashame ur president is kneeling for every one?I have a church pls tell him to come an kneel for me to pray for him.shameless president.

TOPMAN4LIFE:
Jonathan is working

this is the reason they keep deceiving u people since you agree to be manipulated.for yeard he did not do it,few days to election he went to do it and stil,u refused to see the motive behind it(election)no wonder he want the election postpone..vissionless people.

fresh15:
This means that the best approach has been applied,hence the result.I have always believed that it is not that our military is not well equipped or incapable of dislodging the insurgents but the saboteurs in the military.Thank God that adequate measures have been taken.Thanks to GEJ.

what are you thanking GEj for?this news is good but bad also.is good in the sense that the boko harans are being killed,and is bad because the man we called are president waited too long to do this.i dont nderstand why you will have the power to save peoples live but decide to wait till election time.thats politics anyway.

Faibuhari:
PDP and GEJ for Fresher air

fresher air with Generator smoke, abi?

Arysexy:
Benin ore road

this road is not benin ore road o,pls dnt lie here o.

techlegs:
Hahahahaha you will subscribe to his Dstv when the court decides to kick GMB out of the race because of forged result.

keep decieving urself.

masterpower:
THIS IS CALLED THRASH.
OP, THIS POST IS A WASTE BIN MATERIAL.

why are you so biased?whats wrong if you say the truth for once?

Bevista:
There is no way PDP and GEJ can get back to Aso Rock. The discontentment in the land has reached unimaginable proportions.

How about I tell you of the 50 persons I have queried, of which 35 are voting GMB.

How about you ask AIT and Reno Omokri the results they got when they tried to test GEJ's popularity & acceptability compared to GMB.

GMB shooting GEJ in the foot since 2014.

Come feb14th, I'm righting the wrong of April 2011.

#TeamGMB2015

i subscribe to your view.GMB all the way

AlphaGentleman:
hope no be Pastor chris oyaks crowd u come show us o.cos una be real gbugbuyege

you don dey fear oooo.........

chinyere162:
How sure are u he will stop corruption?You know politicians can be very unpredictable

he did it befor,so he will do it again.

[quote author=sCun post=30085700][/quote]NA go and fight Boko Haram,not armeless civilians.

[quote author=sCun post=30085700][/quote]go and fight boko haram not armless civilians.

triple1989:
I am not suprise wit his dicission ,but he should be aware dat been d speaker house of rep does not make him d speaker of nigeria at large,,we will see if d voice of one man iz greater than the voice of nigerians at large...geb we dey ur side.

is it not clear to you that Nigerians want change?and Nigeria need change as a nation?pls next time dnt speak for all of us,u re free to speak for urself.

clevvermind:
that certificate was a scam.

can you prove it?

clevvermind:
speak for yourself. I don't want an illiterate.

just yestda his cert was released,what do you call illiterate?

saasala:
[img]http://3.bp..com/-1N1u_eRDm5U/VL_Ydl65KlI/AAAAAAAACps/0QeHN1wBiMM/s1600/jonacrase.jpg[/img]

President Goodluck Jonathan has stepped his game up by taking his presidential campaign to far away Ghana. Huge billboards of the incumbent president are seen in strategic positions in Accra, the capital of the country.

However, reports say the citizens of the West African Nation are mocking Jonathan for putting up billboards of his picture and that of Sambo on their streets. They believe it is unwise of the Nigerian president to go such extent as Nigeria don't use the online voting system and just very few citizens of the country can go home to vote.

Another photo below..

[img]http://static.pulse.com.gh/img/incoming/crop3422394/7325108507-chorizontal-w980-h640/goodluck-johnathan.png[/img]

http://www.lailasblog.com/2015/01/photos-goodluck-jonathan-takes-his.html

truly speaking to God,I was just walking around Osu Accra Ghana when I saw one,I stood and was staring at it.the next tin I hard from behind was a voice of a Ghanian man saying,this nigeria president is just wasting Nigeria money.he went ahead to say Jonathan distribut Ipad during his daughters wedding,infact I was demorilizd.

ayukdaboss:
Some people now avoid threads that start with "Live: APC Rally in ....." so they won't have sleepless nights

pls dnt kill me with laugh o,I take God beg you.team change

Ifeconwaba:
buhari supporters I assure you this( if only a horse can pass through the mouth of the needle buhari will win but if not am so sorry for for you people and your buhari thanks GEJ TILL 2019

sometimes i feel like calling people like you foolish,but am not saying you are oo.but pls can you tell me the reason you are supporting Jonathan?
a president who said stealing is not corruption?
a president who spend billions of naira on feeding?
a president who has 10 private jets when most nigerians dnt even pay 100naira on T fair?
a president who remove subsidy there by inflicting pains on Nigerians? if somebody promise you sometime because he needs your support that moment and fail to provide it after receive the support,will it be wrong to call such person deceiver?meaning we are right to call Jonathan a deceiver for promising us constant electricity in 2011?listen my friend,i am from Niger delta,Goodluck is my brother,based on that i wld v lwant him to continue,but he does not have what it takes to lead us.

dulaman:
what I don't understand is why do people love this man so much?

Becos he's not corrupt,he's not clueless,he belivs stealing is corruption,he has integrity,and he is a gifted leader.