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emmchi:
I think saving a life is paramount irrespective of the order from above.

Correct, my guy

cosmatika:
Tears run down my cheek as I type this. I went into d medical profession to Save lives, but today I watched a patient die and I could do nothing.
It was around 11am today, 26th Dec 2015, I wz in the emergency room as the only Dr & House officer on call in a state Specialist hospital wen a peugeot wagon followed by a police van drove in. They opened d doors & trunk and started bringing out Accident victims. I did a quick triage & saw dat d 2 in d trunk were in a more critical condition, So d immediate plan was to refer d 2 to FMC wia dey hav better hands and equipment to handle it. So I asked d policeman who d driver is so dat d 2 will be rushed to FMC & he said he died at d Accident scene. I ran outside to buy airtime to start calling other HOs, b4 I could return, dey had dropped d 2 & drove off.
I called other HOs, only 2 showed up, others had travelled. To my greatest suprise, I called a medical officer who is a snr colleague in d proffession, she said I shud nt touch anyone till dey paid. That I shud Infact refer all of dem. I was incapacitated, d patients were in pains, crying, calling on us to help, some already unconscious, but we couldnt help cos we have an order frm above.
Within 5mins, 1 young lady in her early 20s died. Abt 10mins later, another police van came and carried d remaining 7 to FMC.
This evening, some road safety corps came to inquire if any Accident victims were brought to our center. They had retrieved d manifest frm d vehicle and contacted d families of d passengers. Dey came wit d relations of one of d patients, and wen I told dem 1 of dem died, dey asked for d Description of d 1 dat died and I showed dem d pix of d gal dat died, behold she was d 1 dey were looking for and right there was the gal's fiancee. Their traditional wedding was to be in 3days tym
I want to use this medium to call on the govt to make policies dat"ll enable Drs treat patients in such condition. Let's Save the human race

would you have been sacked if you had treated them without pay?

Skmoda360:
Thats true bt my opinion is that contemporary men are scared of big girls cuz they think the chance of dating them are slim but i can use myself as an example that i got my girl as simple as a girl could be but i still insist it's not fun when a woman spend too much on a guy, you'll lose ur stand as a man and ur prestige will be downsided.

An elderly man that cared so much for me advised me against relying on the money of a potential spouse. He is now late, but I still remember those words.

Miaraka:
OP, it's true. it's not easy for most men to approach a woman who appears to be above them in terms of status. They get intimidated. If you decide to buy a car, buy one a second hand low class vehicle and even bang it with a hummer here and there to provoke most men's provider instinct and loving kindness or make them want work to hard and make money to buy you a better one. The thing is, most normal men are born with the burning desire to provide for and protect their women and children. Now, if you can afford a car, something which costs more than clothes and furniture to buy, maintain and insure, a certain group of men and I guess they are in the majority, will feel robbed of their provider instict and will be asking themselves how do you afford this one, how do you maintain her and what kind of present can you buy to put a smile on her face? Your relatives, may have other motives in advising you not to buy a car. but believe me, they are telling you the truth. I know many women, here in SA, who can confirm what I'm telling you. Buy yourself a car, if you want, but let it be cheap, not a show stopper. Buy something which is just good enough to take you from point A to B.

Please, don't advise her to buy a car that will give her wahala.

Skmoda360:
You are right oo but on a counter my present girlfriend owns a jeep do i give a Bleep, i dnt av ordinary beetle but i do all the spending, i hate when a woman spend on me.

How do you relate with her? Does she have every respect for you?

Naijafirst:
It is rather unfortunate that people with limited counselling disposition are toying with this very serious matter. Dear young woman, think deeply before you decide. Do not make it a case of rebelling but that of informed decision.
Firstly, no body knows you more than those who saw you grow from nothing to something. Sometimes especially in family circles, it is the unspoken that is more important than the spoken.

Firstly, kindly explain to me why you do not have a serious relationship by now! Na today day break? Something in your life don't add up and your family members know it. I know of a lady that refused to put herself out on the shelf in her late teens and early twenties due to overzealous going to church. She confused piety with stupidity and refused to present herself as a clean body harbouring an informed mind. Those who liked her god fearing disposition disliked her lack of societal awareness while those who liked her simpleness could not stomach her inability to allow them a foot in her I am married to Jesus posture.

I know another lady that hides her life in her work. Without taking any risk on guys, she keeps running off into her work. Now at 36, she is attending church prayer sessions in the hope of God giving her his will. I have advised her to take the God bit out because God has already done his bit....him don provide better bobos all over the land. Allow them to talk to you. Allow them to toast you. Nothing wrong for there.

In a Nigeria where only a very few work in well paying organisations, there has developed a natural need to accommodate on behalf of our young men. The wise girl, steps back a little and allow young men with the required qualities among a tipper load of other unwanted qualities to have a chance. This is the main reason daughters of the wise hardly finish university before they are plucked off the shelf. Their family prepares them early on to prioritise their presentation and follow it next with modesty. My dear wetin you dey plant since when day break? The way your family dey react seem to suggest say them know you pass yourself. Wetin happen to your last bobo and when was that? Why bobos no dey toast you such that your family will not be entertaining the fear of driving them further away. They should be worried about too much crowd. I remember when I was dating my wife. At one point her father querried her to point to him, who she considered was worth his time. Thenceforth, her father (in the oil industry) became my watchman. Young men were showing up so forcefully that he started giving them my phone number. You ought to be in your toasting prime. So the fact that your family are concerned for you is what worries me. Take a deep look at your life and sort out the basic problem.....put yourself on the shelf. Car or no car.....put yourself on the shelf. This is not about becoming cheap and promiscuous.....no no no..it is about refined presentation. If you dey make young men shake like jelly, you can go off and buy Limo. Dem go toast you toast your limo but if you are a hidi hidi...then sweating it in a danfo is not the solution. No vex say I no sound like the other oooh! I had to say it as it occurs to me.....others reading might learn from my answer.

On point, Bro.

demzylahot:
Lemme be logical..if the men didn't get attracted to you without a car I don't see why they shouldn't be attracted to you when you have a car....Go buy ur car joor

she has not told us her relationship story. Some might be coming, only that she is not interested in them.

johnson232:
i doubt the veracity of this story...
i sure say na lie...
where e for happen?

why would you be a doubting Thomas?

omotohdarajugbogbolo:
Really appreciate and value everyone's response.

For those saying I should invest in landed properties, I already have a 3bedroom flat and about to buy another land.

Please am not going to reply pms. Anything to be discussed should be here.

Thanks and Godbless

Thank you too for taking the time to go through the responses. You must have read the testimonies of the people that are opposed to your buying a car. I believe that your brother's view is borne not out of selfishness, but rather out of the desire to see her sister settle down in her own home. The problem with the car that I have outlined earlier on is that more and more playboys would swarm towards you. The gold diggers would come, pretending that they love you but they are only after your money. I would like to ask about your relationship before getting the multinational job. If you were in a serious relationship then, what happened? You lost interest, or the guy lost interest. I feel that if you are the one that forgot him because of your higher status, you might need to get back to him. If the guys you know then are responsible, I feel you should continue to give such the green light that shows your happiness at having them around you. And it's better marrying someone you know than someone you don't know. So, what happened to the relationship before the job?

[quote author=Nyceguy92 post=41367070][/quote]Why would it depend on the type of car she buys? If she needs a car, let her go for a very clean and modern car. The type she would enjoy for years before any issue /major work.

Aigbehis:
I work in a multinational company, and I have seen it crystal clear that men don't go after women with cars.

Apart from that, your chances to be seen and noticed by men is reduced. E.g.

* on the road/street while you walk
*No one gives you lift any longer and starts toasting you.
*No one sees your beautiful figure while driving in your car
*the trust is that men sometimes have this fright when approaching ladies.

Pls, just hold on a bit before buying a car. Because, I have heard of a lady who got a man after she sold her car and relocated to a sizeable apartment suitable for single ladies.

Those guys saying you should go ahead and buy a car, ask them if they can be bold enough to approach a lady with a car.

Pls, think o.

These are the kind of testimonies that she needs

But why didn't you contribute to the topic before displaying tyour ad?

milowys77:
Nonsense talk.. Did you hear the part where she has worked for 3 years without a car and still isn't married, and you think her getting a car is the problem? Nawa for this poor mentality everywhere oo.. Next thing, you'll tell her to resign from the multinational and go work in a nursery school so that she won't appear rich and chase men away! Any man that is chased away by all these tokunbo cars we drive in Nigeria is not a man. He is not worth being married to.. Shikena

why call his views nonsense? Even after the testimonies he has presented.

ignis:
And you think it's because of car?

You sound so myopic.

but the car Could be a factor. You don't know.

It won't chase men away from you, rather it has a tendency of bringing the wrong type of suitors, those that would want to have you because of your money. Aside this, the idea of owning a car from your own sweat is very nice. Alternatively, you might also consider investing in landed properties, buying a plot of land in an area of your choice, which is an investment as opposed to car that is a liability , cause the value keeps depreciating with time, while you keep putting money into it for maintenance. If you still want a car go for a clean one to avoid visiting the mechanic always.

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http://www.bellanaija.com/2015/11/24/what-would-you-do-if-n45-million-was-erroneously-transferred-to-your-account/[/quote]

end time bread!!! In the first place. she baked the bread for her own use . Therefore, she hasn't offended anyone. Secondly.,the fire from the oven would have killed harmful bacteria and viruses that came with the vaginal fluid. It will interest you to know that Billy Gate drank water processed from human feaces. And also we talk about men that do MouthAction. Eating this bread, that has already been processed in the oven, is far more safer than MouthAction .

In the first place. she baked the bread for her own use . Therefore, she hasn't offended anyone. Secondly.,the fire from the oven would have killed harmful bacteria and viruses that came with the vaginal fluid. It will interest you to know that Billy Gate drank water processed from human feaces. And also we talk about men that do MouthAction. Eating this bread, that has already been processed in the oven, is far more safer than MouthAction .

Since the death of this old man, everyone has turned into an overnight philosopher

Telling us about how short life is etc etc

To the women, stop shouting BBW, you are fat and unhealthy. Stop eating as if you want to die. Hit the gym

[Or, better still : go to the farm.

It's well. Having learnt your lesson, believe God for more and even better opportunities.

Highly commendable. A good motivation

Think of how you can manage the situation now, especially as she is aware of her problem

Let's watch.,then.

I read this article from babble.com which I find very interesting. Therefore, sharing it for our forum discussions.

WHEN DO YOU STOP BEING NAKED IN FRONT OF YOUR KIDS?LEAH CAMPBELL

IMAGE SOURCE: THINKSTOCK

Ever since my little girl was born, I have taken baths with her. She has never been a big fan of the water, and when she was younger, having me in the tub with her seemed to make bath time less traumatic.

So, like a lot of new parents, I happily stripped down and got in with her. I was always big on skin to skin contact anyway, and those baths produced some of the sweetest cuddles.

But now my girl is two-and-a-half years old and I still regularly take baths with her. Not every bath, mind you, but maybe once a week. We put in some bubbles, grab all the bath toys and will soak for up to 30 minutes. Just concentrated, focused play time in the tub with my little girl.

I pretty much love it. And so does she.

But lately I have been wondering when our dual baths should stop. When do you cease being naked in front of your kids? At what point does it matter?

Or does it ever?

I have memories of taking showers with both my parents. My dad tells me that stopped when I was around age 3. Those memories are nothing out of the norm, or traumatic in any way, they’re just … memories. The kind of memories that maybe I would rather not have, if only because … who really wants to remember their parent’s naked?

And it is perhaps because of those memories that I have started to question when (or if) I should stop being naked in front of my own child.

The truth is, I have always been a bit of a nudist. I was the girl who would strip off all her clothes and jump into just about any body of water she came across. My old roommates in college used to joke that neighbors would line up outside our townhome hoping to catch a glimpse of me walking naked past windows. And I’ve had boyfriends who have teased that my penchant for nudity around the house can get distracting.

Being naked has never bothered me.

As someone who has traveled quite a bit and visited plenty of places where nudity isn’t the least bit taboo, I also never thought I would be the mom who would ever worry about being naked in front of her kid. After all, there are a lot of countries where nudity is the norm and where children grow up comfortable with seeing the human body.

But then I became a mother myself, and all of our cultural norms started to seep into my head. I’ve begun questioning myself, particularly when my little girl started to recognize parts of my body that were different from hers, asking questions about my breasts and pointing to the patch of hair I have which she does not yet possess. I use those opportunities as teaching moments and have tried to explain to her that she has breasts as well (though she looks at mine, then at hers, and tends to give me a doubtful expression). But I wonder, is there a point when my little girl is going to wind up embarrassed that her mom is so frequently naked or wishing that our dual bath times had ended sooner rather than later?

The funny thing is, I am weird about nudity in other circumstances. For instance, I have never (and will never) posted a picture of my little one’s naked baby bum anywhere online. I’ve even gotten to the point where I am uncomfortable with pictures of her topless — which is silly because she’s a toddler and clearly doesn’t have breasts. It’s more about protecting her image and privacy than anything. Do I take those photos? Absolutely because they are freaking adorable. But they are reserved entirely for our private family album, not for public consumption online.

So if I am so protective of her nudity, why am I so free with mine?

What’s worse, if she was a boy, I think I would have already started to cover myself up more. This isn’t necessarily justified, but does go back to those cultural norms that dictate the idea that parents should be more cautious about nudity in front of their opposite sex children.

Because she’s a girl, I find myself a little less concerned. Though I do still wonder if there is some point on the horizon where I am going to have to get out of the tub and stay out.

There aren’t really any rule books for this type of thing. There are theories and opinions based on personal experiences all around the world, but no one can definitively say that one way of doing things is better than the other. Perhaps because of my comfort with nudity, my girl will grow up feeling more confident in her own body.

Or, she may grow up thinking her mom is a giant embarrassment and wishing I had chosen to cover up more.

There’s no way to really know. So for now, I think we’ll keep up our bath time ritual. It won’t be long before she wants me out of the bathroom completely so that she can shower in privacy, so I kind of want to enjoy these moments for as long as they last.

But I am curious how other parents handle nudity with their kids. Is there a cutoff point when most believe enough is enough?

When did you stop being naked in front of your own children? Or have you ever?

Buhari’s declared assets less than N30 million at the time of inauguration – Presidency 0

BY OUR REPORTER ON SEPTEMBER 3, 2015BREAKING NEWS, COVER, TRENDING

(ABUJA)

The Presidency has said President Muhammadu Buhari ‎as at May 29th when he was sworn-in had less than N30 million to his name, had no foreign account, no registered company and no oil wells.

It also said Vice President Yemi Osinbajo, a successful lawyer before his foray into politics, had a bank balance of about N94 million and $900,000 in his bank accounts.

The Special Assistant on Media and Publicity, Garba Shehu, in a statement quoted documents submitted by President Buhari and Vice President Osinbajo to the Code of Conduct Bureau (CCB).

According to Shehu, the documents show that Buhari, a retired General, “has indeed been living an austere and Spartan lifestyle, contrary to what many might expect of a former Head of State of Nigeria and one who has held a number of top government positions, such as governor, Minister of petroleum and the head of the Petroleum Development Trust Fund (PTDF)”.

The Presidential Media aide said the documents which CCB officials say were still being vetted and to be made public soon, “show that prior to being sworn in on May 29, President Buhari had less than N30 million to his name. He also had only one bank account, with the Union Bank. President Buhari had no foreign account, no factory and no enterprises. He also had no registered company and no oil wells.”

Shehu said Buhari has declared that he had shares in Berger Paints, Union Bank and Skye Bank.

The documents also revealed that President Buhari had a total of five homes, and two mud houses in Daura, two homes in Kaduna, one each in Kano, Daura and in Abuja. “One of the mud houses in Daura was inherited from his late older sister, another from his late father. He borrowed money from the old Barclays Bank to build two of his homes,” Shehu quoted the document.

President Buhari is also said to own two undeveloped plots of land, one in Kano and the other in Port Harcourt. “He is still trying to trace the location of the Port Harcourt land,” his media aide said.

“In addition to the homes in Daura, he has farms, an orchard and a ranch. The total number of his holdings in the farm include 270 heads of cattle, 25 sheep, five horses, a variety of birds and a number of trees.

“The documents also showed that the retired General uses a number of cars, two of which he bought from his savings and the others supplied to him by the federal government in his capacity as former Head of State. The rest were donated to him by well-wishers after his jeep was damaged in a Boko Haram bomb attack on his convoy in July 2014″.

Osinbajo’s asset declaration include his 4-bedroom residence at Victoria Garden City, Lagos, and a 3-bedroom flat at 2 Mosley Road, Ikoyi. The Vice President also has a 2-bedroom flat at the popular Redemption Camp along Lagos-Ibadan Expressway, and a 2-bedroom mortgaged property in Bedford, England. Aside from these, the Vice President has no other landed properties on the form.

Apart from his law firm, known as SimmonsCooper, the Vice-President also declared shareholding in six private companies based in Lagos, including Octogenerium Ltd., Windsor Grant Ltd., Tarapolsa, Vistorion Ltd., Aviva Ltd. and MTN Nigeria.

According to details shown on the form, the Vice-President has about 94 million Naira, 900,000 US Dollars and 19,000 Pound Sterlings in Nigerian banks, with the foreign currencies kept in local domiciliary accounts. His personal vehicles are one Infinity 4-Wheel Drive SUV, one Mercedes Benz and a Prado Jeep.

“As soon as the CCB is through with the process, the documents will be released to the Nigerian public and people can see for themselves,” it was stated in the statement.

(Juliana Taiwo-Obalonye, DAILY SUN)

Advising a broke guy on how to package himself is as equally important as advising him on how to get money. A broke guy needs to be happy and should never suffer from inferiority complex

Subject,as used by the speaker implies the governed, his constituency

Maybe, they like his physique and manner


Yes. most likely d story is fabricated and from someone that just needs attention. An IT boss ll b more sensible to handle issue of impotence in a better way than to b sending a subordinate to his house in order for him to sleep with his wife.[/quote]

What next? This story is quite similar to my story; different storyline though.

I helped a couple who worked in one of the new generation bank to open an Account on my name and millions of #Naira was kept in this Account. I didn't touch a penny out of this money despite all pressure from my friends who insisted that the money was stolen and advised me to abscond with the money; It was over #20m.

They needed someone to take care of their newly built mansion which i supervised from the scratch to completion and my name was used to cover all this.

The husband is one of the top Manager at the Head office of this new generation bank while his wife was with a branch as a manager.

However, after my youth service, i needed an accommodation in Abuja cos i didn't want to go back to Lagos. The wife insisted that i should move into their 1 bedroom uncompleted building which was somewhere around Gwagwalada; first favour from them to me.

The husband resigned from his job and moved to US during Soludo banks consolidation scheme. I presumed that d consolidation exercise would have exposed him if he had stayed on his job.

Guess what, two months after his departure, the husband started calling me from US to leave his 1 bedroom apartment for no reason. This man frustrated all my moves in Abuja to the point that my parents asked me to leave Abuja back to Lagos. I left Abuja with pains of being betrayed and used.

Interestingly, Our pastor was in our house that very weekend and he said if i could leave Abuja for Lagos, i ll never regret it but if i choose to stay in Abuja that i would regret it for the rest of my life. That was huge revelation and that was what encouraged me to leave.

Finally, after so many years, in 2014, the same man needed my uncle assistance in getting a contract with federal govt, equally needed my Uncle UK company as a parent company in the deal but unknown to him that the man was my Uncle.

I met him in my uncle office after so many years and i shared what happened with my uncle.....[/quote]

In my language, this is called " aka olu ndi ilo". His enemies are at work. He talked thrash,no enemy did anything to him

Move on, nne. Do not revenge cause vengeance belongs to God. Just learn your lesson

Nnaa, just bear in mind that if you eventually fall for the wife, nobody would believe your story. As for the daughter, if you like her go for her then. if not, walk away. HOW? YOU can tell her that you are engaged,snap picture with some sister and keep it every where in yoour room,plarlor etc, and dramatise your love for the lady in the picture