₦airaland Forum

flokii:
The VP's security details ought to have dealt with her but I'm sure the VP didn't want to cause a scene.. Even her grandfather (if he's still alive) must stand up to greet the Vice President of Nigeria. The girl is mad.

Her name is Tochi. Her grandfather is alive. And you belong in a psych ward. Poverty-stricken idiot. Coming from someone who is unknown let alone be invited. That's why God will never give people like you wealth and influence because you'll crucify and brutalise people.

flokii:
She lacks manners.. sitting down to shake her late father's senior age wise says a lot about her upbringing. Awon omo akebaje.

I apologise on her behalf. Children of nowadays lack respect. I mean, let’s not even worry about the fact that she just lost her father, mother and sibling in an accident. We will pray to God to put you in her shoes, so you can show her how it’s done. Agbaya🙏🏽🙏🏽

Goodnewsforlife:
so being bereaved shut down a part of d brain right?

Man shut the Bleep up! Go and flog her for sitting.

They never consented to being recorded but they respectfully engaged the aproko recorder because he must have been a registry witness. Aproko recorder must have posted it online too without their consent, and they're receiving mostly negative comments on other social media platforms. They seem like friends and look like they're genuinely happy to have signed the dotted lines. There's nothing wrong about how they chose to express their joy, people only need to mind their businesses more. Husband seems like the quiet type lol.

Chibok 2.0? 287 humans not cows? Nigeria has a major national security crisis on its hands.

Domaining101:
Idiots. Let him and the wife and their useless son go to hell. After all the enjoyment, traveling all over the world, flying jets and helicopter up and down, eating chicken and turkey, drinking juice, shebi e don end? I Heard it was even cardboard they use in bringing their smelling dead bodies back from Ablord 😂 When the fools where alive, you'll never see them doing anything for poor people, there own na to dey send their children go abroad go school, MIT, Cambridge, Oxford, while our own for here dey strike, let them go and die abeg.

How i wish God can take elumelu and that his daughter next.

I "apologise" on their behalf. You're immortal abi? It's thieves and lazy people like you who "eye" other people's wealth with entitlement. He can spend his money however he pleases. We will pray to God to put you in his shoes, so you can show the world how it’s done. Then you can die a horrible death alongside your family🙏🏽🙏🏽

LMAO
Again the real weaker vessels

omoredia:
If we cut on the wastages and inefficiency on how our nation is run we will see that we have more than enough. What we are lacking are leaders that have common sense

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Suicide at 80? Unlikely

Sad!

omoredia:
We don't need more revenue. We need leaders with more sense in the head. Stop fooling urselves

Ghana doesn't produce a quarter of yams like we do but I'm at the North Pole eating Ghanaian yams.

Sirmwill:

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And when you tell this women to kill chicken, they would be shivering, but to stab a human being is easy for them

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You people are as naive as your foolishness
You didn't meet up with the wisdom needed to understand what I typed.
Get some wisdom. Ask around at least 😑😑

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Coming from this story? You're the one who needs to be in a psych ward. Plenty of time on your hands apparently

Sirmwill:

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And when you tell this women to kill chicken, they would be shivering, but to stab a human being is easy for them

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Attention seeking?

BeautifulSolace:
I've been dating my boyfriend since 2021, and he's a good person whom I trust because he doesn't hide anything from me. Last year, he traveled to Lagos, creating a long-distance relationship. Despite not having evidence of cheating and maintaining strong communication, I often worry that all men can't stay without sex.

Should I be worried?"

Colossal mistake. Stop bringing things like this to Nairaland. I'll tell you this for free though, don't bank on him staying faithful. It's completely normal to have doubts. I've read the demeaning comments and questions you're being asked. It's not about you, it's about them (men). For your sanity, ignore them?

toujurs:
See men are good, especially nigerian men, they are the[b] gender that understand what unconditional love is about, once a man makes , he starts thinking about a family[/b], but it's the opposite for a woman, a man can marry a broke woman and set her up, it's very hard, and very rare in women. A man can marry, a lady, who earn same amount like he does, a woman can hardly marry, who earns same figure like she, she wants who earns more

I know women, who date men, they don't love. But because he has money, to buy her good things, and give her surprises, she accepted to date.

Women are naturally selfish, this is why you hear his money is our money, but my money is mine alone. It is only foolish men that believe and tolerate this thought.

Rich men are nice, to broke women, but Rich women are never nice to broke men.

Most of these toxic men, you see today, where toxic because of a bad woman. Who must have taken advantage of him.

This Nigerian men's PR won't fly with me. There are in fact, a few good ones, not most. Nairaland is a representative example. Read that first line and logged off earlier. You know why? I like intelligent open minded conversations, not you reeling off this bogus claims.

*He thinks about taking a second and third wife or jets off into the sunset with his latest side chic.

* No, he won't date within his tax bracket, he goes below it to exert control over her or above it to "climb" the ladder of wealth and influence.

* Women are naturally selfish - scientifically proven to be natural carers and nurturers and providers (Do a quick search of the gender that abandon their children and family).

I could respond to every line but I'm busy. However, I've highlighted all your bogus unfounded claims.

dre11:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2024/03/tinubus-workaholic-he-goes-to-bed-at-2-3am-every-day-ajuri-ngelale/

Because he's the f****** President! Y'all focus on foolish things in this administration

Ezechi18:
I will go straight on this!

She came to my side on 6th February, we had se'X using the pull out method without protection.
She was supposed to see her period at that month but nothing show, on the 2nd March, she carried out test and told me she pregnant.

We are in our final in school.
I want a child because am the only son of my parent but she want abortion because of shame as to when she will go back to school, She's a churchy kind of girl and people know her very well.

I promised her marriage [/b]but don't know how to do it after the abortion.
[b]Although am broke as well.

You want to bring a child into this world when you cannot provide for yourself, let alone a wife and a child? What's your goal in life? What's your vision? You are selfish sir because you don't care about her at all. It's her shame and disgrace against your desire to want a child because of your parents. Next time use contraceptives or birth control please. And please stop having unprotected sex if you're not ready for the consequences!

vickydevoka:
Widows n their husbands wealth is different. He must have written a will .Or if he has a big company the brother will definitely take over while de kids a still growing. But his houses should be for his kids. Unless where he has to many houses, u can give his brothers some.

How many "customs" in Nigeria recognize a will? His wife can't oversee his company after his demise? The same country where widows are chased out with kids after a man's death for some jackals disguising as relatives take over everything. There's no difference - it's simple coveting and greed with a mix of wickedness.

Jewessgratitud3:
A neighbor of mine called me on Saturday and was complaining bitterly about his Bossom friend.

He told me his friend travelled to the US in 2008 and after a few calls they lost contacts. Last week his friend messaged him and said he's aware of the hardship in naija and asked him to send his account details. My neighbor did and after a while he received an alert of 20k. I said wow!.. that's a miracle. but he hushed me and said I should let him finish.


He said immediately he did the conversion it came to 12.8 dollars. He now said after 16 years it 12 Dollar the friend could send to him that that's an insult.
I tried to make him understand the friend may not be doing well over there but he said the guy is doing well that he's weighing the naira value of the money and feels 20k is big money. He said he feels insulted. Me I just carry my two long legs Waka leave my ungrateful neighbor.

Is my neighbor right and did his friend do wrong by sending that kind of amount? 12 Dollars...

To me the friend did not do any wrong but my neighbor feels he could do better.that 12 Dollar is like 1,200 hundred naira to them over there.

Guys what will you do if you were my neighbor?

Entitlement mentality coming from a person who has probably never worked a day in his life. It's the same mentality they have with widows and their husbands' wealth. Feeling entitled is one hell of a drug. He can return the money.

wirinet:
You guys know how to raise irrelevant and unimportant issues. For the V.P to walk up to the girl to greet her, she is obviously a very close family member of Herbert Wigwe, most likely his daughter. Since she is in mourning, courtesy demands she sits while others come to pay their condolences. So you expect her to stand up smile and hug shettima because he is the vice president?

Thank you o. They're the ones who know it all and can tell people how to act. They expected her to kneel as if the VP is the reason why they're there. They keep vibrating about irrelevant things

NEUDUDE:
Characteristics of a finished man detailed above

UNDATEABLE is the new sexy lol

I really don't give a damn, it's your choice lol

toujurs:
How about most women,.donthey have these qualities , If you are taking about these these qualities. I think women are worst in it.

It's only when they are in need, or trying to get something from you.

I'm speaking from my perspective as a lady, but I believe that anybody is capable of the above. It's what the dating pool has become 😊

toujurs:
In as much as I create threads, to scold women, as a lady never settle or waste your time with a less ambitious man. You will only end up shaming yourself.

Be wise, Am as well advising that smart lady, who works to make a living, never settle for a broke man, broke men are less ambitious. And it will only end in tears.

As a lady, you deserve to be taken care of, but bad leadership has made this unachievable, b genuine men. Because so many men, who should be fighting for good governs has been sold off, for a quarter bag of rice

Most men who can offer this, are internet fraudsters, who would bang you, to count scores,

This is for those decent ladies, who are approached by razz men, be expressive and cautious about who you date, if he can't explain his source of income, dump him, if he is an internet fraudster, dump him.

I don't think a responsible man can drop off a decent lady, you all have been dating like mercy of bbn.

Too many selfish interests.

Sorry to break it to you but most men are quite "undateable" let alone be taken seriously. They have zero communication skills, so casually unkind, astonishingly undependable, inconsistent.. I could go on. The worst part is that they think they’re such a catch and so have no reason to be better. Hilarious, isn't it?

scoobyblogspot:
Dear Nairaland friends,

I have a small challenge and i need your advise, my wife has some skin issues recently, first it was said to be heat rashes, then it started spreading to all her body. We have use 7keys, Use Lotions fro skin, uses some creams for skin but it keeps going and coming back. It hitches her so much that she is very uncomfortable and almost cry's every night. We use bitter leave and ogo goro same thing.

What herbal can i use or solution treatment can be recommended, I got a fresh aloe vera plate, not sure how to even use it,i only google it . My baby also seems to be catching a bit of what is affecting my wife, as for me am doing very well without any skin issues. Please advise

Go to a hospital and stop self-medicating. It might be measles because there's an outbreak. You might be immune

lol. Give it a rest with these conspiracy theories please. Man's all dust now. He was a Christian but wanted the power and the fame. Did he dine with the devil? YES. Misleading topic too to fuel the gender war on this forum.

MVLOX:
RESPECT is not gained by merely ordering someone to respect you. You must earn respect by how you speak and act and by what you are.

This is illustrated in the case of Christ Jesus. He gained respect as a teacher by his manner of teaching. After his Sermon on the Mount “the effect was that the crowds were astounded at his way of teaching.” What earned him this respect? His relying on God’s word the Bible instead of the opinions of other men. His sole authority was Jehovah God and His word of truth. Jesus gained respect from both friend and foe, by earning it.—Matthew 7:28, 29; 15:1-9; John 7:32, 45, 46.

“The wife should have deep respect for her husband,” is the instruction given at Ephesians 5:33. But the husband should be diligent to merit this respect; otherwise, it will be very difficult for his wife to comply with this instruction. How can a husband fulfill his role as outlined in the Bible so as to gain such respect?

The Bible assigns the husband to a position of headship in the marriage arrangement, saying: “Let wives be in subjection to their husbands as to the Lord, because a husband is head of his wife as the Christ also is head of the congregation, he being a savior of this body. In fact, as the congregation is in subjection to the Christ, so let wives also be to their husbands in everything.” (Ephesians 5:22-24) Will this arrangement really contribute to happiness in the household? Some women speak out against what they describe as male chauvinism, that is, a vainglorious or exaggerated view that some men have toward their position in relation to women. But let us say at the outset that the teachings of the Bible do not endorse such male chauvinism.

The Bible emphasizes the fact that, not only the woman, but also the man is under headship. Turning to the Bible book of 1 Corinthians, chapter 11, verse 3, we find that the apostle Paul wrote these words to the congregation at Corinth: “I want you to know that the head of every man is the Christ; in turn the head of a woman is the man; in turn the head of the Christ is God.” Man has Christ as his head, and it is from God and Christ as examples and teachers that you, the husband, are to learn how headship is to be exercised.

Jehovah’s headship over Christ was exercised in loving-kindness, and Christ’s response was, “To do your will, O my God, I have delighted.” (Psalm 40:8; Hebrews 10:7) Jesus Christ’s headship, too, is loving. To those who would become his disciples he said: “I am mild-tempered and lowly in heart, and you will find refreshment for your souls.” (Matthew 11:29) Those who are members of his congregation, which the Scriptures liken to a bride, have indeed found such refreshment under his headship. He has not exploited them, but has been self-sacrificing in his love. This also is the kind of headship the husband is to exercise over his wife: “Husbands, continue loving your wives, just as the Christ also loved the congregation and delivered up himself for it . . . In this way husbands ought to be loving their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself, for no man ever hated his own flesh; but he feeds and cherishes it, as the Christ also does the congregation . . . let each one of you individually so love his wife as he does himself; on the other hand, the wife should have deep respect for her husband.” (Ephesians 5:25-29, 33) If you set the example of submission to the headship of Christ, it will not be a difficult thing—in fact, it can be a pleasure—for your wife to have deep respect for your headship as her husband.

The great problem is that due to imperfection and inborn selfishness there are times when a husband, while wanting to be respected as the head of the family, fails to show the needed love and consideration for his wife. Often a wife will say that she doesn’t feel loved by her husband, that his only concern is his own pleasure and satisfaction. Also, some wives complain that their husbands are domineering. Perhaps this has resulted from the wife’s attempts to usurp his headship, with his resisting such usurpation. Or, the man may have grown up in an environment where many husbands are arrogant and domineering. Regardless of the cause, such abuse of headship gains the respect of no one.

On the other hand, instead of abusing headship, some husbands abdicate it. They pass all the decision-making over to their wives. Or, while telling the wife ‘not to rush them,’ they procrastinate so much that family interests suffer. They may not be lazy or idle physically, but if they shy away from mental effort the results can be the same as those described in Proverbs 24:33, 34: “‘A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest,’ and poverty will come upon you like a robber, and want like an armed man.“—Revised Standard Version.

You will gain respect from your wife if you show yourself steady and strong and able to make decisions. But that does not mean that no one else in the household is to be consulted or that your wife’s opinion is not to be given serious consideration just because it does not happen to agree with yours. Early in the Bible record we read about a serious problem in the household of Abraham and Sarah, involving their son Isaac and the son of their servant girl Hagar. Sarah recommended a solution that did not coincide with Abraham’s feelings on the matter. But God told Abraham: “Listen to her voice.”—Genesis 21:9-12.

We are not to conclude from this that a husband should always accede to his wife’s wishes. But it can be beneficial to discuss with her those decisions that affect the family, encouraging her to express her thoughts and feelings freely. Keep open the lines of communication, always be approachable, and weigh carefully her preferences in the decisions you make. Never be bossy or tyrannical in exercising headship, but manifest humility. You are not perfect, you will make mistakes, and when you do, you will want your wife’s understanding. When those situations arise, the wife whose husband is humble will find it easier to respect his headship than will one whose mate is proud.

Thank you. Now the message is balanced.

stevestifler:
A woman wanted to travel & to see her sibling who invited her because they'd not seen in more than a year & her husband says no
She involves her parents & pastor & even her best friend, they all have different opinions. Some said go, some said stay.

As a married woman, whose words should be taken in highest regards?

1. Her siblings that she's spent all her life with
2. Her parents that gave birth to her
3. Her pastor that sees visions & guides her spiritually
4. Her husband
5. Her best friends that she's known from childhood

Let's have matured responses from experienced and responsible nairalanders.

By the way, any partner, male or female that seeks to isolate you from your family will soon kill you.

MVLOX:
The issue is, between her husband, pastor, friend, God and family who she should listen to..... In other words who Should be in control as far as this matter is concerned...... Someone has to be in control.. prove your point ..


As for the husbands they are under the headship of Jesus Christ

No, I am not just trying to prove a point. I am simply saying that it is manipulation when you speak a half truth. You also haven't answered my question. I want the verses from the Bible like you quoted for wives about husbands. And while you're at it, I'll like to know whether the horrible comments from men on this topic and platform are from men who are under the headship of Jesus Christ, because the majority of them will tell you they're Christians. Thank you very kindly.

canada123:
Wow from the comments now I’m scared, cause that was really my main aim of getting married to help solve this issue

Don't be scared. Just seek professional help, you'll be fine. Wishing you the best.

MVLOX:
For a woman to be a “glory” to her husband requires her to show proper regard for his headship. Even when her husband is not a faithful worshiper of Jehovah, she should remain submissive and support his decisions as the head of the house. She ought to maintain praiseworthy conduct and prove herself to be a real credit to her husband. This is in harmony with the counsel given by the apostle Peter: “You wives, be in subjection to your own husbands, in order that, if any are not obedient to the word, they may be won without a word through the conduct of their wives, because of having been eyewitnesses of your chaste conduct together with deep respect. . . . [Let your adornment] be the secret person of the heart in the incorruptible apparel of the quiet and mild spirit, which is of great value in the eyes of God.”​—1 Pet. 3:1-4.

In her submission, the Christian woman should display a “quiet and mild spirit.” This means that, regardless of the circumstances, her dominant feeling should be one of calmness and an even temper, not aggressive. Her heart should move her to manifest proper subjection to her husbandly head. This was the case with Abraham’s wife Sarah. As Peter noted: “So, too, formerly the holy women who were hoping in God used to adorn themselves, subjecting themselves to their own husbands, as Sarah used to obey Abraham, calling him ‘lord.”’ (1 Pet. 3:5, 6) Sarah referred to her husband as “lord” not merely audibly for others to hear, but even “inside herself.”​—Gen. 18:12.

For a Christian woman to be like Sarah would, of course, mean never doing anything contrary to God’s will. This is because she is bound by the superior law of God and of Christ. Hence when her husband’s “law” interferes with true worship, she, like the apostles in the first century C.E., would ‘obey God as ruler rather than a man.’ (Acts 5:29) In all other areas, however, her submission to her husband should be exemplary.

I hope you get the point which is so long whatever the husband directs in not against God's own standards and laws the woman must be submissive and obey it

Here comes religious manipulation. The same way Esther is glorified over Vashti because she refused to be ridiculed by a drunk king and his guests? And Esther a child, a teenager that was prepped for a whole year for a paedophile king? A woman is the "glory" to a husband that is fully submitted to God. Not a husband masquerading as the weapon fashioned against her. Sarah called Abraham "Lord" for nothing? How many of the men on earth are like Abraham? This delusion needs to stop.
At the end of the day, you people assume a woman's life begins and ends with a title or an institution. LMFAO. I am patiently waiting for what the Bible says about husbands

LilMissFavvy:
They handed her over to the husband as a wife, not a slave. He has no right to frustrate her and stop her from visiting her people.

Don't mind them. Nonsense. It's only in Nigeria that being a wife translates to being a slave. The husband himself is alpha and omega, so he doesn't need to listen to anyone.

stevestifler:
A woman wanted to travel & to see her sibling who invited her because they'd not seen in more than a year & her husband says no. She involves her parents & pastor & even her best friend, they all have different opinions. Some said go, some said stay.

As a married woman, whose words should be taken in highest regards?

1. Her siblings that she's spent all her life with
2. Her parents that gave birth to her
3. Her pastor that sees visions & guides her spiritually
4. Her husband
5. Her best friends that she's known from childhood

Let's have matured responses from experienced and responsible nairalanders.

Apparently, in 2024, only a woman/married woman needs to listen to anyone. This rubbish needs to stop.