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Cooldude180:
It seems so.. I pray may she not fall into wrong hands cos I so much love her with passion. It's possible that I wud hate her too with a burning passion if she refuses to see her wrongs and make amends..

I feel your pain bro. Just try and relax, cool off a bit. Look for something to distract yourself. Don't communicate her for like a week and see her reactions.

Cooldude180:
She never showed me those signs until now. There are few things that I can take from other people and this isn't one of them..

It's a red flag that she's tired of you. She's trying to put up attitude, so that when you get tired and break up, she would see an excuse to say 'you broke up'. and start shedding crocodile tears.

The decision now is yours to take.

But you've seen all these signs from the very beginning and yet you loved her all the same.
Why consider the character now?

There are some character that can not be changed. It's in-built(natural).

It is a mistake for a man or woman to enter into marriage with the hope of changing the character of the marriage partner.

If you break up with her and start up afresh with someone else, the new one may not possess an egoistic character but another nauseating character.
There are no prefect relationships just as there are no perfect humans.

Colourich:
if its not a human being then its not cheating.

Honestly, I don't blame the man. He is the religious (bro Paul) that believes such gadgets are demonic and from the pit of hell, like he rightly said. Hence, he resulted to saying the wife is unfaithful and cheating on him.

We've read cases online where couples complain of their partners masturbating and all, this is no exemption.

How can he manage all these up? He closes from work very late because of the nature of his job. He is working and pursuing his career all at once. Should he stop his work and stop pursuing his career to satisfy his wife who has a high libido for sex? Read again where he said he already called her that he was coming home already, what stopped her from waiting for him? That was when he caught her.

Here at once, he said she is not bothered about child bearing. As a wife in the Africa setting, after 2years of not conceiving, even if the man is not bothered, she should be bothered, she should be the one to ginger the man up for prayers, visit a gynecologist and all that.

I think something is not right.

donjobill:
You think every man is emotionally matured to sit him down and confront him with his inadequacy. Many inadequate people will cover their own weakness and shift the blame to their partners.

If the lady is truly enjoying the man sexually, why will she bother to resort to using a gadget to achieve orgasm?

A gadget she was already using from her girls school days, didn't you read that part in the post?

Ladies who indulge in using object to satisfy themselves, it's very difficult for a real d*ck to make them get to that climax.

And from the man's post, he rightly said, he has done everything the wife told him just to make things right.

From the way Op sounds, if she had told him openly, he would have given her some cash for an hotel or looked for an alternative.
To me, the lady had a hidden a gender. Hence, she didn't open up from the beginning.

The op is only pained because she slept over.
The question is, did she sleep on the floor while the ex slept on the bed? And to cut it, it's raining season, where the weather is always cold. I know the thoughts running through the op's mind.

But then this doesn't call for a break up yet. Still put her under observation. Handle it in a mature way. There should always be a room for a second chance. But then prepare your mind for the worst to happen to avoid any shock.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
This has nothing to do with talking. What she should have done is to include the husband. Every woman has the right to nerve wrecking climaxes...

Yes, every woman has the right. But from the man's story, I see her as woman who has been involved in a lot of sexual escapades and since she wants to get married decided to wear a sheep clothing and pretended to be sister Mary. Probably decided go celibate for some time to cover up.

She was already using a vibrator during her secondary school days. Just get the picture.
And like the man rightly said, he does everything she tells him just to satisfy her, after the discovery.

The man is only afraid that some day, she would graduate from using a vibrator and start sleeping around.

He is inexperienced too. He belongs to the ' brother Joseph and brother moses crew'. So, don't blame him much.

Oh God! Some women.

Same friends who convinced her to start using a vibrator and she yielded, would still convince her to start having sex outside.

What really brought about such discussion with her friends? This is how so many homes are wrecking today.
I believe you guys didn't talk about your sex lives before you got married, all because she was claiming to be a born again sister.

As a wife even if your husband is not satisfying you on bed, sit him down and talk to him about it. Both of you should look for remedies together.

Mr man from your story, I can say you're doing your best. A cock that loves sleeping on the roof in kafachan, when it gets to Lagos, even if the owner try to give it a comfortable home, it would still look for a way to sleep on a roof.

For the child bearing aspect, it is God that gives children but then talk to her about it while you pray along, the both of you should visit a gynecologist to know if something is wrong somewhere regards fertility. If nothing is wrong, wait for God's time.

Don't let the situation way you down, focus on your work and career.

kingsleyvictor:
yes I went for the interview.. the company is looking for someone to pay 20k and am not ready to accept such offer..

Terrible

This thread.. .

Pataricatering:
you can go from one office to another without your credentials- if you prefer it that way !

Lol...

Sagsabag:
That's why you that have University Degree or Polytechnic Diploma you are Under him. That's GOD for you #Literate_Nigerian

Never you mention God in anything relating to Buhari and his cohorts (blood sucking demons).

Do have a pleasant night.

Imagine somebody who has no university university or polytechnic diploma emerging as ECOWAS chairman. I'm beginning to feel I wasted my 4 years in school.

And I am here carrying my credentials from one office to another. .

Thank God for her life.

But putting this picture on social media is uncalled for. I know mama isn't aware he snapped her dressed like this.

Nice write up.

vingeophysicist:
The attitude that pain me most is passing the night in a guys house.From my experience no girl has pass a night in my house and go untouched except I don't have feeling for the lady.

Let her go. She wasn't yours.

I want to build an empire with him. Yes, from the scratch.

Reason most of my friends think I'm crazy. Despite the well to do guys coming around me, I despise them.
The ones receiving meagre money I find attractive that I want to build my world with despise me.

What a world.
I think something is wrong with me really.