nobodii:
you dont have to follow your sister just because she is your sister just follow your heart to avoid story that touch

Makes much sense. Thanks

emeraldknytt:
I got the part where you inferred that you aren't monetarily driven or attached to either of them. I think you can cut the twenies some slack and begin to spend some quality time with him. Seeing how intellectually and socially mature you are, there are bound to be changes, no matter how minute. As for my Boss, yeah yeah, I presume whatever should be 'unique' is buying her a private jet or an estate in Texas(hehehe. Jk) but whatever it is, it shouldn't be so out of reach contextually (there is a reason for keeping that a Ssssikrit)..

Eitherways, the heart wants what it wants, You can begin to influence, mold and shape twenies into that man you want him to become without being demanding, overbearing and uninspiring. Twenies seems, to be, like the MVP here.... If I were in your shoes, I'd call my son and ask him who he prefers. Well, the anwser is quite obvious and shiny too. Goodluck.

Thanks. That's exactly what I'm doing now, cutting him some slacks but I want to make sure my emotions are not beclouding my judgments. Sometimes I feel I'm being too hard on him, other times I feel I'm making too many excuses for him. You just can't have it all. As for my boy, he'd definitely choose the one who buys him games, skate shoes and chocolates....I would too

nobodii:
You dont even no what you want self??

I don't

On a more serious note though, I know exactly what I want and it happens to be the younger guy. But my issue here is about his childish acts, poor decision making, always avoiding serious conversations. How do I cope with such? I don't want to change him or nag him into thinking I'm unbearable. But how long should I wait for him to grow?

harbibi:
Go for the older guy.

Ok but could you give your reasons why you think I should?

emeraldknytt:
Well, you haven't said enough about the Man in his forties like, if he's ever got a wife or still single. You still need to know who understands you better and most especially, he who is forgiving and very very sexual (not prurient ). So far from your story, the late twenies has a trait that turns you off (or at least gives you a rethink) while Boss, huh, is yet to exude his not-so-good demeanor (maybe there is something you're not telling us)... I am not so good with things that aren't money making though, I believe you will gravitate towards he that gives you Tranquility and Bliss

Lol no! Like I said it's nothing about money here. We've only spoken for a couple of weeks now and I've seen him just once with his family. Trust me it's nothing close to what you're thinking right now.

As to why he's not married at forty. He said the doctor-lady he had wanted to marry said she wanted something more "unique" than he could offer. I don't know what that means but it's damn too funny . So since then he hasn't found someone

Yes the late twenties has a trait that I'm not very okay with, and that is the only reason I've been going back and forth with him because I don't know if he's ever going to change.

Yieldings:
Which of them do you love the most?

My post pretty much gives the answer to that question

I don't know why this always happens to me. It's either I'm single with no one saying hi or I have to choose between two people who want me at the same time. It's never in-between.

I met this guy who's just a year older than me (he's 29). He's a nice person with a really good heart but I have a little problem with the fact he's a bit immature. He's always on social media posting very irrelevant stuff, plays mind games with me, not always sure about his decisions and sees nothing wrong with breaking promises. And each time I complain, he thinks I'm overreacting. And even when he apologizes, he goes back to the same thing after a few days. But even with his flaws he has his great sides too. I was really skeptical at first dating someone within my age range because I know the maturity level always differs but I decided to give it a chance and not just assume things, afterall no one is perfect, not even myself. I really do like him but his behaviors gives me concerns. The last time we had a heated argument and I tried breaking up with him, he got really sick and hypertensive and had to take days off work to see a doctor. I had to make up with him. He specifically said he doesn't know if he'd survive if I ever left him.

Now my big sister introduced me to her friend's brother who is way older than I am (he's 40). He's very mature and patient, goes straight to the point, doesn't play any games. He pretty much knows what he wants. We've only spoken a couple of weeks and talked about variety of topics concerning life, family, work, dreams and aspirations etc and trust me nothing beats having a partner you're intellectually in sync with. And although things are not defined yet, you could easily tell where this is going.

The both men have absolutely nothing against me having a son (whose father died few months to our wedding four years ago). The younger guy particularly likes my boy a lot. Never goes a day without asking about him, bought him a game for his birthday and is currently asking what he wants for Christmas. The both men have also introduced me to their parents. I spoke with the younger guy's mum on the phone. The older one took me to his family home and I received a really warm welcome from them. None of us live in the same country but my job takes me around the world and I get to see them whenever I travel to the country they live.

Now this has nothing to do with money or even age but everything to do with me making the right decision and having peace of mind at the end of the day.

Bottom line is I like the younger guy and feel more attached to him and can tell he wants this to work out. He's always talking about having a road trip someday as a family with "our twins" and my son, but it's emotionally draining being with a "man-child" and don't know how long I can wait for him to realize that certain behaviors should be left for teenage boys. If I complain tomorrow, the usual tagline would be "did you not see all those behavior but you stayed thinking he'd change?". At a crossroad now and need a tough-love kinda advice but please don't roast me.

Thanks in advance

You're yet to write jamb and you're already thinking about "more salary" . Life is yet to happen to you. Wish you all the best still

You mean the same people who condemned Chidinma are condemning Flavour for condemning Chidimma?? Shocking!

Viccur:
Another looting strategy to reloot the already looted loots. Keep on looting the loots

Imagine the criminals. Fighting corruption indeed!

fiizznation:
This clowns keep contradicting themselves. That loudmouth said the account has never had anything less than 500,000 naira in it. And all of a sudden, the clownish SA is saying another different thing.

But what I even find more disgusting in all this debacle between the loudmouth and EFCC is the innocent infant they are trying to bring into their mess. Why involved this innocent infant in your sorry situation with EFCC? This is pure evil.

The FFK guy don't have to involve this innocent infant in his corruption charges with EFCC. Just because you want to score cheap political point, you told your bleached up girlfriend to use the infant as a shield in case EFCC comes for her in ekiti state

Can you read what you just wrote? Pointless and unintelligent!

IhateYorubafool:
Taiwo Ademumu Olakankita

This tribe, always raping something

Jesu!!!

I got a six months schengen visa through the German embassy last month. For personal reasons I changed my mind about travelling. What would happen if the visa expires without me using it?

graciabelle:
just look atew na ur type dey hustle on their back. Mma ino

I hustle, on my feet! And it's worth every single hour I put in. Get brain or die trying

CrazyQuinn:
what of if she bought it with her hard earned money?

Don't mind her small brain. And someone is actually attacking me for her stupidity

iwadobo:


And how much do you really think you have ? Can you actually deduct 450k from your salary or savings and poured it in a phone which is basically useless? I have an iPhone and a Samsung note note 5(6) and I can tell you iOS is basically useless. Screen on Apple phones, including the iPhone 7 is just a bit better than chinco phones. Apple won't use AMOLED till 2018. What a horrible company ripping people off. You can't use ear piece except you are ready to cough out another 15$ which is around 6,000 going by today's exchange rate. Yet, on top of all these, the camera, sub par, screen same , then why the noise? If I'm buying a Samsung, and paying 800$ , i know I'm paying for quality but not certainly an iPhone . Yesterday, I downloaded my statement of account online with my iPhone and the horrible phone couldn't save it anywhere so as to enable me attach it the email I was to send, and I have to revert to my trusted device ,my Samsung Galaxy note. Voila, the thing was saved under downloads where I picked it and attached it to my email and the job was done . The iPhone 6 , to me is just a waste of money . Taking pix and vid, I have to use the galaxy with better camera, watching movies, it is certainly the galaxy. The only thing the iPhone does for me is girls. It brings me girls, girls are always wowed by an iPhone . Some don't even know what is called galaxy note till they saw it with me and discovered it is even more powerful than the iPhone which made them open their legs for me . It is disgusting how brainless girls could be . At the end, my girlfriend who was saying iPhone 6 for birthday or nothing finally agreed to take the Samsung s6 and she can't be happier . She did a lot of pix and video comparison before accepting my offer

I don't know what you're blabbing about young man. My only problem with her statement is the fact she feels only promiscuous girls or "ashawos" as she put it can afford to buy an iPhone 7. I have an iPhone 6 Plus which I got with my own money and yes I can deduct $1000 from my account to get an iPhone 7 plus if I so wish. So how does this long epistle about those cheap disgusting girls around you and your galaxy note concern me?

graciabelle:
All I can say is, if u see any Nigerian girl with this phone this week just shout " hoooooo ashawo"

Sorry to burst your candies but not every "Nigerian girl" who can afford to buy the iPhone 7 this week is an "ashawo". Work hard and make your own money, that way you won't have such mentality

And who told them how old the baby is?

freshvine:
Abeg.. I've to adhere as a matter of necessity.

The worst news from the pilot I don't wish to hear is "ladies and gentlemen, all be calm we've lost radar signal

Lol!! They actually lose radar signal all the time especially flying over the Atlantic

Just like scoring an offside goal in a footbal pitch, diving on finish line in racing should not be allowed. To make it a fair race, the foot which touches the last line first should be declared the winner otherwise people would start diving into finish line from 100 meters behind

joborskill:
If i were a member of the girl's family i will sue u for libel. Haba this is too extreme. This case has been reviewed by the police and the accused discharged because they couldn't ascertain if she stole under the influence of charms or not. Out of your curiosity u requested to meet her which she declined due to her personal reasons. From what you made us understand, the money belongs to your husband and since he is not pushing it why not let go? If it were armed robbers that came to your house you will willingly handover the cash and still go for Thanksgiving in church for sparing your life. You have done an irreparable damage to this girl's personality and this could haunt her forever. Going to publish her details all over the internet is overboard. The internet never forgets. You are more wicked than the said girl. Women are truly their own enemies

And since when is it a rule of law to discharge people who steal under the influence of charms??

Hypoxia, the most likely cause of his death. The higher you go, the less oxygen there is in the air which causes 'flu like' symptoms as he mentioned he had, and eventual death

We all know this story is a huge lie, but in fact this can happen to anybody in real life. Kidnappers wouldn't need to call your family members anymore for randsome, all they need is your ATM card and pin. Many countries are now using ATMs with fingerprints recognition and I think Nigerian banks should adopt the same

Ayobami93:





Oh well, i didnt really fill the form myself. I had no idea you have to request for it but i was granted one year tourist visa on two separate occasions.

One year tourist visa from German embassy?

Psoul:



To tell you the truth, I looked out for those things that i kw will stand for a very long time and those that are temporary, i also want but they were never a do or die factor for choosing my wife.

Let me give u an example, as a bachelor, i never had anything to do with a dark skinned babe. You are a turn off. I always hope to marry a very fair complexioned lady. But the day that love hit me, it was on a dark complexioned girl that i found some of the characters....i said characters (inbuilt qualities)....follow-come not plug ins...in a dark complexioned lady. Since then i came to love dark skin so much dat fair skin mean nothing to me now. This is because the thing in dat woman has changed that outward factors.

Love wat he/she possesses inside and not just wat he/she acquired materialistically.

That is precisely my point!! Just like you every single man also look for materialistic qualities in ladies(fair skin,tall,beautiful...), that's why most end up marrying the wrong ones and eventually regret it. Some men are still lonely waiting for the "perfect" woman. So stop making it look like that behavior is only exhibited by ladies

and it's just a ladies' thing?

OP you as a man, don't you also look out for certain "qualities" in a lady you'd like to spend your life with?

1) Asking people to pay for your meals would be devaluing your self worth. Have some respect for yourself! How much is lunch that you have to stoop that low just because you want to save money? And you're a working class? Even as a student way back I never begged people to pay for my food or transport, not even friends yet I was able to save. You might think you're being smart but trust me nobody wants to be in a parasitic friendship

2) Never tell people your problems. You only come off as an insecure drama queen when you constantly keep bugging people with your issues. Guess what? Everybody has got theirs, even the rich people. Asking people to help you secure a job is totally fine but that should be just about it. And clinging to your boss and discussing your problems with him just because you want a free ride is way too petty

3) Giving would be the only valid point you made but it would be contradicting your first point wouldn't it?

Technically he wasn't sleeping "on the job". He would be if he was on a jumpseat in an aircraft dozing away, but he was on standby. We also have specific rooms with comfortable couches for crew who are on standby, and you can either sleep or watch tv while waiting to be called for duty.

I'm sorry but if I read correctly, you've dated her for 5 years and still comtemplating to marry her. It only means you're not really sure if you want to marry her or not. She's probably trying to get away from you and maybe give a chance to someone who's serious

Are there even supposed to be charges for POS transactions outside the country?