pryme:


perhaps he is jealous.

My dear I have no time for people like him

Ogbeche77:
Lol.. One of the greatest lie ever written on Nairaland.. You have visited US 14 times and got denied now? Its either you are not saying the truth or you abused your visa in one of your visits...
Perhaps, recent holders of B1/B2 visas are not required to attend an interview but rather apply again through dropbox.. Stop lying aunty, this was your first visa application

Uncle "I too know"... I am a flight attendant with an international airline in the Middle East. I have a valid C1/D visa and have been to the US multiple times. I only even mentioned 14 times because there were some which I asked them not to stamp due to the rapid rate my passport was filling up, but it's documented in their system. The lady even acknowledged that. I have other valid visas for other countries I've been to on holiday. They had no reason to reject my B1/B2 visa but because I'm Nigerian.

Perhaps you should ask questions before calling someone a liar!

But of course they'd say that so people don't stop paying the N54,400 visa fee.

I was at the US embassy on Monday and was rejected visa for the very first time. Their reason: I don't have a very 'strong tie' to show that I'd come back to Nigeria. Meanwhile I've been to the US 14 times, and came back 14 times!! With clear evidences on my passport and their system.

Nigeria may not be among the 6 countries with an obvious travel ban, but trust me the new executive order has Nigeria on their watchlist too

Ironically I got my Toyota Camry "big light" (full option) as Nigerian-used and it's never given me a single problem for one day, never been to the mechanics except for normal servicing. The a.c is out of this world, the engine is sounder than many brand new cars. My friend who was vehemently against me buying a Nigerian-used car is still shocked how I got this lucky.

My point is: not all Nigerian used vehicles are unsellable. Many people still know how to maintain their cars and if you get lucky you could be buying from one of them.

davidif:


Hold up! You mean you are seeing two people at the same time?!?! Wow!!
Do they even know that you are cheating on them? Na wa o. Talk about someone going out of there way to put themselves in a confusing situation.

Your confusion is on you. You are eating from two plates at the same time. Sorry girl but you can't serve two masters.

Thanks aunty for your contribution, but if you read my post clearly there's absolutely nothing in it that says I was cheating on any of the stated men. And if you've never been at that crossroad where you're not sure which path to follow, then your life must be perfect.

And because you brought me back to this thread, I'd like to let those who're still following know that I finally made a decision, the right one and happy I did. Introduction was last month and wedding coming soon

realnas:
she should endeavour to return his 700 K, remember there's a recession in this country besides sef I don't blame the grl sef

Yeah she wasn't supposed to take the gifts but the guy was very stuuuuupid to have spent such amount on a girl he's not married to. I can bet my last kobo that he has never spent close to half that amount for his mother or sister on their birthdays

He admitted he hasn't been the best boyfriend to her and is planning to change. Still planning o. He also admitted he has a temper. It's possible the girl was already fed up and dumped him. And he thinks buying 700k worth of gifts would make her stay while he keeps planning to change. Lol. Joke's on him

This is why we're still backwards. The whites would commend and celebrate him for using his imaginations to put out such artistic work at a very young age, but we Africans would always want to attribute everything to occultism, evil spirit and so on.

She should have called the receipient bank immediately. What they do is block off that amount in the account so the person can't withdraw. Then they call the recipient to go and transfer the money back.

cybriz82:
how did he get the pin number?

pcguru1:


Am curious about this too

I'm guessing when he put in the wrong ATM card, he made the girl punch in the pin while he was standing beside her pretending to help her. Must have memorized it before he left

7footre:
1st bank and ecobank try for mua .... but if you don't have immediate need for the money, you can try treasury bills.. it's safe and much better

Can you please explain how treasury bills work?

MMM was fûcked over by the greedy guiders, and the only way to magically resurrect this scheme again is to subject all the guiders to put down a certain amount each, enough that the total amount can pay off all GH. They've made millions to billions of naira so yes they have the money. That way people can get their money back and probably continue to PH. But alas even in the midst of adversity only the same guiders are getting matched to be paid their bonuses. GREED!!

This is too funny

You know at my workplace they'd normally let Asians especially the Koreans and Thais wear tight fitted clothes but it's a no no for us Africans. I once got a verbal warning for my skirt. I thought it was double standards but pictures damn well speak for themselves

I started wth exact same salary after NYSC 2013. One year later things changed for the better. Don't despise little beginnings, it's only a stepping stone for better things to come

I don't understand what this obsession with MMM is about..wth?

SlowlybtSurely:
I don't pity anybody who is involved in domestic violence.

It's a choice.

People like you are what's wrong with our society today. People like you are the reasons ladies and women don't speak up about räpë and domestic abuse. Would you say the same if this was your own sibling?? Do you know if she knew the man was a woman beater and willfully went ahead to marry him? How can you see such gory pictures and still say you don't have pity for anyone involved in domestic violence. You're just pure evil and wicked!!!

How did you even put up with a cheat and a liar for four long years?? when there are so many girls out there who can love you equally and give you peace of mind. She even admitted she didn't lose her phone and she was with another man, and you're still asking what to do I am done!!!

fifty:


Nothing to worry urself about, the participant on the other end also has 48hrs to confirm your payment. Especially being that he/admitted receiving the alert. Sometimes the account is being handled by someone else on their behalf.

You have done your part, he/she knows the implication of not confirming. So just relax

Modified

Out of 72 passengers and 9 crew, only 6 survivors so far. Op where are you getting your numbers from?

Ask4Info:



They start by offering water and once i say "i mind", they assume i don't want anything throughout the 45mins or so flight. I am always even too tired to talk or start calling any hottess on that particular route.


Are you an Air Hosttess for Qatar Air?

yeah most people on dubai sectors are usually coming from connecting flights too stressed and too tired, that's why it's a rule not to wake the ones sleeping. But the next time you travel, by all means ask for whatever you want.

Yes I am

Ask4Info:


How come i never get served anything on that Dubai to Doha (and vice versa) route? i offend them? I fly Qatar Air but only get to look out of the window with nothing to be served.

If you're sleeping within that time you don't get woken or served, because we still have to collect the trash anyway and get the cabin ready for landing. It's a short flight and we need to expedite as much as we can. Pele, Try to stay awake next time

dubai to doha is only an hour and about $200. They also get served with sandwich and juice so what exactly is your complaint? Its the same on all short haul flights across the world

megastu:
Your greatest undoing is dating two men.

You have made a big mistake already because no matter what happens you will keep comparing which will not make you have piece of mind.

Very precise and very correct too. That's why I've decided to let every other thing go and concentrate on one person alone, which is me. The best advice I got here was to cut them all loose, work on myself and decide what exactly I want. That way it's easier making a decision and sticking to it without swaying from one person to another

sisisioge:
Lobatan!

OP, how far with our well groomed, grounded and mature bobo? You could also send the two love birds derailing your thread away. Their pre-intimacy is unsafe to read

My dear, you can even imagine the disrespect. But oh well, let them play away.

DarkRebel101:


What we like to think are not always the truth.

You seem desperate. If you are not, then you wouldn't be considering marrying a man that's at least twenty-five years older than you are.

Do you know what this means? It means at the time of your birth, he was probably just graduating from the university. When you were in kindergaten still learning the alphabets, he was probably doing his youth service, maybe even had a girlfriend too at the time who he planned on getting married to.

Dear, pick somone your age and who is from your era, and who thinks like you. It's just so comical I can't even picture it without laughing my brains out. I wonder how you would discuss topics like sex with him without feeling like you're talking to your pops.

I'm curious, when you guys discuss, what do you talk about? ‘Cause it is for this reason that such marriages/relationships are unravelled – one partner ultimately gets bored of what the other talks about and vice versa, because since they were born at two very different times, their interests and taste(s) hardly overlap, which consequentially leads to extramarital affair and calcification of the love existing in the union.

The generation gap is just too wide. If it were a ten-year difference it could have been manageable.
You may think he's right for you but trust me, such arrangements wherein the age of one partner is disproportionate to the other never last (you can investigate this).

Besides, it's rather easy to hoodwink a woman during courtship, the veneers of deceit usually crack midway into the marriage – so don't think those indirect questions you say you ask him would do the trick. Do you know how many women he must have wooed before you? He must be well abreast of what makes women tick that he could easily cause any woman to fall for him.

The women telling you they would opt for the older man are only telling you what Nairaland wants to hear, in practice you would be hardpressed to find any of them keeping to their word – unless the man is super rich.

Cross the old man out of your list...That he's even on it proves you're desperate. Stick to the immature young man who cares for your child – who's to say that the old man wasn't even more immature when he was much younger. Your problem is you want a finished product.

Put your Bf on probation, if he doesn't shed off his immaturity then chuck him out without looking back.

Points noted. But I don't remember saying the man was twenty-five years older than I am. So I don't know where that figure is coming from. Thanks for your contributions all the same

SkinnyDude:
this babymama even has has a choice.. mtcheeeeew

Well I wouldn't be a single mum if my fiancé didn't die in that terrible car crash. Thanks for pointing that out. And yes I do have a choice!

Mindfulness:
anitank,

you are more attached to the younger of the two because you spent more time bonding. If I were you, I would take my time to get to know the older of the two guys better too and then make my decision.

Doing that already. Thank you

Pinkdiamondz:


Ain't that too much work sis. In life I think it's a simple case of take it or leave it. All those clichés come out you know like it's your bed so watch how you make it cause you'll have to lay in it.

Have you spoken to him. Not nagging but sharing your fears with him concerning this relationship?

I have tried several times, but he always avoids having serious conversations. Only recently after I left him sick with a high blood pressure like he claimed, he finally listened to me

Thank you guys for your contributions.

Like ifyalways adviced, I should definitely cast my net wider and check other possibilities. I've just not been good at handling more than one man at time, much less two or more. But who knows, the best is yet to come.

Darkrebel101 I'd like to think I'm not desperate. I definitely have my reservations about the older man, knowing there could be a much more reason he's not married yet at 40. Maybe he's too picky looking for the perfect trophy wife, maybe he's the type that thinks women belong to only the kitchen and the other room with no career and would want to have total dominance in his home. I've been monitoring him closely, sometimes throwing indirect questions at him to see his view. And trust me the moment I find out he's one like that, I'm out!

sisisioge:
Hmmmm...Biko marry the 40yrs old so long as he doesn't act like your ancestor and you feel strongly enough for him.

The younger one here has the tendencies of making you a serial poster of advice-seeking threads eventually. I think you should save yourself some drama. This isn't to say younger men are grossly immature o, na this particular one I dey talk about.

He already has. This is number one....Lol! And I find myself reading the "how to's" on google, something I had never done before. Arghhh

Captainbells:
I do not see any problem with the younger guy here except for his maturity level which is next to none!!
He seems very caring and endearing especially towards your son, I personally would go for a guy that totally puts my child in the equation..
Stop making excuses for the younger guy, you are overriding your feelings and giving way for problems in the future!!
Being with a man is hard work enough, you don't need a grown baby as well!!
If you choose the younger guy, do it because you want him.. Stop waiting for him to grow up!!

Learn to modify his behaviour, but don't be his mum!!

I swear you confused me more Are you saying stay with him or no. What would you do?

emeraldknytt:

All this typing seriously needs to add up in figures in my bank account abi

Haha I know. Dankeschön for your remarkable comments. Ich schätze