₦airaland Forum

Loveabove:
Please I need you people's advice and I want to be as brief and straight to the point.

My sister gave birth to 2 children under circumstances I'm not to explain here. She took ill and passed away last month.

Since we were just two of us, (our parents are late) the responsibility of taking care of this little kids of 8 and 5 has fallen on me.

God knows I love these kids and would take them as my own but I don't have a job and struggling seriously to survive. It's killing since they became my full responsibility. I was thinking any of the extended family member or a good person would come up to take them.

House rent has expired and problems everywhere.

Since no where else to take them to, I'm considering taking them to the orphanage. It's not my fault please. If I have the means, i would keep them and take very good care of them as they are very dear to me.

Like i said, i love this two boys and would take them as mine, providing for them now as it should, is the challenge.

Their presence is even affecting the small thing I am doing, especially by way of paying attention to them.

Please advise me on what to do.

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i'd like to adopt them. if you cannot take care of them, i would gladly adopt them, but we must sign an agreement. You must visit them at least once every 3 months, always speak with them on the phone and never be to far away from them. Never take those kids to any Orphanage, please.

IconicR:
😂 just like Obi is forcing himself on Nigerians.

You reek of both folly and shallow-mindedness

RingRoadMafia:
But he didn't hold the entire country to ransome, he didn't bribe the electoral umpire to help him manipulate both the process and the outcome, he didn't offer ministerial positions to Governors to help him gag their people and force his aspirations down their throats, he didn't ask his touts to threaten a certain demographic of the country with violence should they vote his opponents

Obi did not threaten the country with anarchy if the PEPT does not support him. Obi did not choose to go to war with a country sorting out its own internal issues to avoid being kicked out of office. Obi did not restrict access to his academic records because he has something to hide. Obi did not imprison the CBN and EFCC heads for reasons best known to him.. I could go on and on!

Obi has done NONE of this. All he did was provide substantial evidence to plead his case in court just as he was advised. He even called on his supporters to shun anything like protests and allow him focus on litigation, yet this is the man you call desperate?

Your stupidity stinks to high heavens!

Your days on Earth shall be long!

Taylor90:
Low key I’m very happy Obi was robbed by INEC

Imagine it was Obi that damaged Nigeria and it’s economy half of what this urine device has done

APC supporters would have acted like if it was Tinubu the economy would have been better than USA

It’s good that the rubbish they voted in is the one doing this colossal damage

The only sensible person and sensible writeup i have seen all day.

Moh227:




Mumu people

Next Ibo President might be 2075


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Fools like you are the reason I fear for the future of our kids. To you, it is about Tribe and not what needs to be done for Nigeria to be Great. Really, you aren't to blame. If you were raised right, you'd have thought, spoken, behaved and typed better. Tribal bigots like are the reason why I do not like my kids interacting with just any body.

IconicR:
Conspiracy everywhere God will judge all of you , it's very unfair to start all these for a government that has barely started. Moderators should be cautioned not to be pushing this kind of topics to front page, they should be taken down. It doesn't speak well of our country

People like you are the reason Nigeria may never grow.

Tayorshd87:
From a friend though


Am the last born in my family and there are too many ups and downs and wahala in my family because it was a polygamous home and my father was one of the man I mistakenly ever met on earth and unlucky for me he is my father 😭😢
So how I wish I should start my life with my own fresh lineage from my wife and children. Like I don't want to be part of the father tree again.

I gave birth 3days ago and I don't want my son to bear my surname 🤔 I want my own name to be his surname so my father lineage will be cut off
☹️

Please is there any future implications in this decision?
Or rather something bad behind this decision??

Thanks 😌

I understand your pains. na the same boat carry both of us. I am from a polygamous family and wish I never met my father.

Agozskey:
she did suction abortion, she bled 4 5days

every successful abortion would have the woman bleed for 7 days straight.

Agozskey:
Hi guys, I know u guys will banter me... I accept any form of insult tnx...
My girlfriend and I have been together for a year now and the relationship has been great, so we usually have unprotected sex buh I make sure I don't release inside her buh as God may have it, we found out she was pregnant and I wanted to keep the bby buh she didn't want to keep the pregnancy, so we decided to abort it, which we did with the help of one of our friends (girl). The first week wasn't okay, because she was experiencing pains everyday, due to the abortion, the second week seemed perfect no issues, she wasn't feeling anything at all.
This week now all of a sudden she's exhibiting symptoms again... And she has not seen her period, meanwhile we've not had sex since... I don't understand again, I'm not really ready financially yet, buh I'm a bit okay buh the problem is her family, She's just 19 and I'm 22, pls any advice... Thank you

Did she bleed for seven days after the abortion?

DaisyMellow:
Hi guys. I usually don't bring relationship issues to Nairaland, but this one is very serious as it concerns the man I am engaged to and scheduled to marry before the end of the year.

I have known him for a year and few months and we are in love. When we started having sex, it was all vanilla and although he was a bit rough; as in throwing me around and putting me in different positions, I was okay with it, and honestly, it was kinda exciting because some of those styles were new to me

However recently things have gotten really weird whenever we are having sex. He requests me to do certain stuff that honestly creeps me out. Sometimes he would tie my hands behind my back so tight and stuff the pillowcase in my mouth, then have his way with me. Sometimes he would blindfold me with my scarf and ask me to beg him to free me, while choking me with his two hands. There was even a time he got a knife and pretended to want to stab me and asked me to play along and act scared. Sometimes he would ask me to forge tears so he would watch me cry while we had sex.

It's gotten real bad that a week ago, I almost passed out when he was doing one of his weird choking sex-plays. In the past I have talked to him about how I didn't enjoy some of these things and how we should do it sparingly or not at all. He sounded like he understood, but after a few weeks he seemed bored and uninterested in normal sex, and begged me to go back to the rough stuff because that's the only thing he likes.

I know he loves me because he takes good care of me and is even friendly with my parents and siblings. But this extreme sex thing is really making me uncomfortable.

I can't imagine going through this sort of sex every day when we eventually get married and live under the same roof.

I need serious advice on the next steps to take.

Simply ask him to quit watching porn.

Old Men That Have Refused To Retire And Hand Over The Reins Of Leadership To Much Younger People.

Bleeel002:
my brother not all Yurubas are tribalistic. Majority of us are civilized people and we can never support what is wrong and unacceptable in a civilized society. It is very unfortunate that our evil and corrupt politicians has succeeded in weponizing some of these poor people's ingnorance. And is working for them. May God help u s

Amen, My Brother

blackpanda:
Madam go back to your state if lagos is too hot for u. Cry me a river

Humans like you pose a great danger to a sane society. You are blinded by your love for both the APC and the Yoruba tribe, that you fail to acknowledge the fact that Nigeria is bigger than the Yoruba tribe. You seem to lack sense of reasoning and it is ignorant people like you that give me a great concern regarding the future of Nigeria. One thing about the Yorubas is that they like supporting their own whether they are good or evil. You need some growing up. Travel round the world, get some exposure and I dare say, your mentality would change.

Ransomware:
In what state was your father born?
When you answer that truthfully, you will see the hypocrisy in your statement

Don't mind the fool. If the foreigners that we all travel to their countries gave us this treatment, fools like him would cry foul, but it is ok to encourage tribalism but absolutely wrong to encourage racism.

References1:
SOURCE

Buhari's Government scores no 1 for "killing" over 200 million Nigerians and subjecting them to avoidable suffering and poverty.

DrAkpamudehe:
Building bungalows is a waste of land space

Lol. But na where pesin money reach. I got mine for less than 15M. Duplex costs way more.

I have 3 Duplexes and 5 Bungalows, all were bought by Mortgage. It took me years to buy them, financed with business profits from my businesses and my wife's and boy, am I happy. Just take it a step at a time.

Totilopussylick:
The minute it takes you to type this gibberish could've turned you to a millionaire

This right here, made my day!

deewhydoski:
Can you give the details of what you did?, It might help some people here

OK. If I told you, you may doubt it but I have no reason to lie. We did quite a number of crazy things, some out of desperation and others, well, let's say we were just being humans. 1. We knew we only had to trust in God and his word. What options did we have? 2. We took all the instructions my Doctor-friend gave us. 3. We were prescribed hormonal drugs for my wife. We always prayed and fasted. My wife and I never stopped buying stuffs for random kids and carrying them every chance we got (this always works). 4. We made a vow to God that if He gave us kids of our own, we would forever serve him. Generally, we CHOSE to trust God, always love, carry and bless little children and pray for ourselves and our unborn kids each time we carried them. Like i wrote earlier, you may not like my answer but I promise, those were all we did and had to do.

JapaToDNext:
I love this your advice, but not everyone can be like u

U have the Money for all the test and also seeing different doctors with experiences,

Which at the end of the day, u achieved your heart desire(children)

What of those that do not have money to conduct test or see a doctor,

What will they do then?

To tell you the truth, the tests we carried out from time to time, weren't even expensive, neither were they regular. Some tests cost 5k, 9k and i think the highest we paid for a test was 25k. We did all sorts from hormonal to virginial. A desperate person never really calculates their loss, not when they have their eyes on their set goal. I refused to go for Ivf because my Doctor-friend kept reassuring us that we would be fine, eventually. We followed all the routine instructions and today, we have 3 children of our own. Was it easy? far from it. But with time and patience, our story changed.

MetroLane:
You Put a Muslim in Charge of INEC and you expect a Muslim-Muslim ticket not to win.

All the Urchins that were praising Buhari in the beginning, remember how it ended with you guys swearing for him the past few weeks ago.

Tinubu will be no different, After all, Mc Oluomo's son already said They own Lagos and Nigeria.

Urchins, any of you that dare to leave this country within the next four years. I'm here to tell you that you're going nowhere, if you try it, na Death straight.

AMEN!

eglobalcafe:
Good morning to everyone, please i sincerely need your advice please, i see no reason why people should insult me but all i plead is just a sincere advice. Am confused on what to do thats why am here, help a brother.

I have been married for 4 years now and my wife has pcos which is preventing her from ovulating and now am 35 years of age and she's 30 years now and our marriage is 4 years but we have been together for 6 years. Please what should i do, yes i understand this is hereditary that's why she can not conceive according to Doctor, but she can only get pregnant if she uses supplements thats going to enhance her ovulation that's when she can conceive, might not be easy but the drugs will assist.

We have done 1 ivf that failed already and we are about to go another round of ivf again. Am positive it will work, the last ivf we did, she had miscarriage so am kind of scared for another miscarriage again, ivf is expensive cost almost 2m because of other drugs you pay weekly 54k for tge next 3 months.

Please i don't want another wife because i know its not a good road because Walhalla, once i carry another woman my wife will start to give me different treatments as a wife. I love my wife so much but how long can i continue to stay childless, and this thing makes my wife cry almost all night and even i cant sleep because of we can't have a baby because of PCOS that she has.

So mentally it's drains me cos am only pretending am okay while am not okay because i dont want her to panic. Please advise me, my family members advised i get another woman pregnant but i should not divorce her. And sometimes i says to myself will i be happy if i was the one who has this problem and i said to my myself if i was the one with this issue i will let my wife go marry another man.

And my wife loves me so much and she hate to see me or hear me talk about another wife or another woman

Please help a brother, what do you guys think i should do please.

My wife has clearly told me if i want to take another woman she will leave me instantly because of the wahala of polygamy.

Please should i get another woman pregnant.
Should i still be patient
Or what's your advice but just know its not easy as i have been doing my best not to hurt my wife, this days people die any how, sometimes i feel what if i die today and no children that's my greatest fear because i have hustle so hard to build a house and financially we are managing.

Should i get another woman pregnant or divorce my wife by telling her this thing is not working please advise me. According to doctors me as a man am healthy no issues with me

My wife had PCOS and Fibroid too. It took us years before our first child came. It is never an easy process, but in the end, you get to realize how divine the process is. My wife didn't really get any treatments for the PCOS cos we were told some of them have adverse effects like blocking of the fallopian tubes, increasing the fibroids, et al. However, we have three kids now. PCOS could be hereditary but then, it is not untreatable. We considered a lot of options like adoption, IVF, Surrogacy and all, but i stood my ground that i was never going to take any of them. Just be patient and calm, consult fertlity Doctors and Gynecologists and i tell you, you would carry your kids too. All the best Sir.

Racoon:
Tinubu, Gandollar, El-Rufai in the mud again. Now, Tinubu, all these criminal governors, all their urchins and miscreants can go to hell.

They were never on the side of the masses for the past 8 years. Suddenly a currency swap turned them to overnight patriots because their looted monies stashed outside the banks are being threatened. This present leadership of the Supreme Court have gone down to ignominy.

You couldn't be more right. This just made my day!

THIS MAN IS LOVED AND ADMIRED BY A LOT OF NIGERIANS

MaryAye:
I recently noticed my boy complaining of itching on his back. When I checked I noticed is boil. I quickly googled it and found out is chickenpox.

I took him to a chemist and it was diagnosed as one. Please house what must have caused it?

Picture attached.

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hot weather is a major promotor of all poxes.

peepydelano:
Anytime I see this Peter Obi in our regalia it makes me so angry, what could be going on in his deceitful mind? Does he think his deceits and lies will work with us? Well, since he has chosen to labour in vain, he should continue. I can’t have that Peter Obi’s voice that sounds like a virgin been disvirgined address me as a president, neverrrrrrrrr.

DO YOU REALLY THINK ANYONE GIVES A FLYING MELINDA HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HIS REGALIA? YOU HATING HIM WITH A PASSION STILL DOES NOT TAKE AWAY THE FACT THAT HE WOULD BE YOUR PRESIDENT IN THE COMING WEEKS.

Danisaint112:
End that freaking mindset of yours because it's possible. And you still live in Peace. I have seen it multiple times over the years compared to people that have been dating for ages.

My wife and I married 4 months after our first date. We have been together for 10 years and counting...

oyin44:
But some one tells me that south east is as peaceful as south west ....

But now..l don't see it that way l consider it as a war zone

see how this foolish man disgrace se

IF YOU KNEW ANY BETTER, YOU WOULD KNOW THAT THE ENTIRE NIGERIA HAS LOST ITS SECURITY SYSTEM. I LIVE IN ABUJA AND I COULD TELL YOU FOR FREE THAT A DAY NEVER GOES WITHOUT SOMEONE BEING KIDNAPPED HERE IN ABUJA. IT HAS GOTTEN TO THE POINT WHERE THEY KIDNAP SOMEONE AND DEMAND FOR A RANSON OF N50K. YES, IT IS THAT BAD. YOU GUYS SHOULD STOP MAKING EVERYTHING ABOUT NIGERIA ABOUT RELIGION, TRIBE OR ETHNICITY. HOW CAN WE GROW WHEN WE HAVE THIS INDESCRIBABLE HATE AND DISGUST IN US?