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aribisala0:
nigerians are really quite easy to please. this-a beautiful write up.?

please read it again. without mincing words it would be flattery to call it mediocre. the standards of journalism in nigeria have plunged into abysmal depths.
those old enough to remember newspapers of the late 70s and 80s would cringe to hear the  fawning superlatives being thrown around here. they are misplaced and unmerited. even  a journal club article in my secondary school would supplant  the drivel being celebrated here.
i never read the awolowo article but can say i expected a bit more  flourish from one who generated so much heat. really no one has anything to fear from this guy he is average on an exceptional day

[b]Sir,

Whenever you see a beautiful piece of prose, appreciate it. Nigerians have this problem of being hyper critical of others especially on intellectual grounds and where superiority of thought rears its head. No need coming here to assume an intellectual high ground when from the very few sentences you wrote, we see no creative spark, yet you come here denigrating someone over a virtue or strength you don not possess.

This write up by Sam Omatseye was a beautiful write up, and even if you do not agree with his logic, do not cast aspersions on his craft- he is a wordsmith. I have never liked him for one bit, not since he did an article comparing Wole Soyinka and Achebe, thinly veiling his contempt throughout the article for Achebe- the greatest, and very recently, that scathing article on Awo’s family. I cannot, however, for the life of me, and based  on those two articles refuse him credit on this one- he wrote beautifully- and beautiful write ups only annoy people given to intellectual posturing (like you).

Nigerian journalism has not sunk to any depths. Nigerian journalists are rubbing shoulders with their foreign counterparts and winning laurels left, right and centre, and none of them needs your validation for the generality to accept their genius. Maybe you are one of his haters, but its plain silly and dumb trying to throw up certain analogies- like your literary club in secondary school writing better than what this Head of Editorial Board of a Newspaper wrote. You cant even write half as well as Omatseye, so don’t come here to pontificate and try to bash a man who obviously shares shares very little in common with you. And you talk about superlatives? Hello?? Do you know what that means? Last time I checked, superlative meant ‘excellent: of the highest quality or degree. In what context or form did Omatseye use as you put it ‘fawning superlatives.’

And if you are so in love with the newspapers of the 70’s and 80’s, why don’t you go back to reading them? However much you would want people to believe, old school reporters/journalists, though unique and with their own strengths, are no better than today's. Have we not heard that in many fields?. In the next 40 or 50 years, these same people, being disparaged by your ilk, would be the same ones who would be mentioned as beacons and benchmarks for excellent journalism.

The worst thing that can happen to a man is to let his sentiment cloud his sense of reason as it clearly did you here. Without even reading his Awo article, you declared: i expected a bit more  flourish from one who generated so much heat. really no one has anything to fear from this guy he is average on an exceptional day.

If you must crucify him, do so on the double cross of inherent logic and grandstanding, definitely not on his flowery rhetoric. He is ahead of you, and many others  like you by a mile. No need coming here to assault our sensibilities with your peculiar kind of literary pretensions.
Make sense, dad!
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Eyaaaaa, if only u were beautiful, unfortunately, you are just der, nothing to lose sleep over, take wateva comes ur way and be happy

enter oshodi, frm iyana ipaja, den enter apapa wharf. drop at last bus stop, dat shd be near eleganza i think, pick a bike to park lane, shd be 100naira. goodluck, must u guys come here to ask of everything? dnt u hav neibors u can ask?

u be local man, so wat if person hold ur woman for waist?? der r is a certain circle wen u mingle in dat certain things shdnt bother u. holding ur woman by the waist, pecking her, even being dovey dovey wit her in a club, party, soiree or wat hav u.obviously, dis guy is a club owner, so he has a alot of women around him, this isnt strange, except u r part of the world that only looks at the happening crowd. take heart boy, nuthin is happening, ur woman is for u. believe.

anyway, u still dey jump cabs and u dey talk? go and buy a car with the money u r spending for gifts for her, else, she will leave you pretty soon

Dis Chi Baby girl is sweet, i wont lie. So there are actually fine girls on NL? I always tot the fine girls were always too busy popping champagne in da club or struggling to stave off amorous advances from their bosses or lecturerers to bother with NL. Maybe i shd start looking at profile pictures, if i get dis one, i go happy die

My dear, I really feel you, but in this situation, there is very little you can do. Don’t listen to all those people telling you to sshag him more, or cook more, that he will come to love you more. Once a man's mind is made up about a woman, there is nothing a girl can do. For guys, its still a possibility you can change the mind of woman who has thrown you out, so long as you get the right breaks in life.

You are walking a tight rope. He could have left this Ex cos she banged another guy and he caught her. So, if he is seeming to go back to her now, it is only because he loved her, probably more than she loved him. But catching her with another was too much, he had to man up and leave her because that is what common sense dictated, not necessarily because he stopped loving her. After 5 years, the pain has gone and he is thinking about hooking up with her again, though everything seems to be tentative for now.

If he is tagging her in pictures, it also means he is living a life he is not averse to her knowing, meaning he has moved up economically, so maybe he also feels that he can afford her now- maybe the reason she went shagging another guy was money. If you, yourself, you are so afraid of him leaving, amaybe apart from loving him as well, he has money to throw around, so his love isn’t the only thing you will miss should you pack it up.

From what I can discern, the ex, being the LovePeddler she is also sucking up to him, but everything hasn’t gone full throttle cos maybe she is in another relationship as well and wanst to be sure before she quits and comes back to your guy, her ex, who is now richer. Either which way, you are on borrowed time. In such issues, your effort doesn’t matter. Many guys are still in love with their ex’s and should such an ex give a guy a green, he’d go running back to her, especially if she is steamy and hot. It don’t matter what the present girl does. Your only prayer should be that the ex is not interested, else, there is nothing you can do.

Try the National Biotechnological centre, in abuja, the DG there is Prof B.O Solomon, he was a former HOD, chemical engineeering OAU IFe, you can just go you know, maybe bamboozle him, tell him anything, maybe that he was your brother, or sisters, or cousins lecturer in OAUife, if he asks wat course, say Transport Phenomenon- CHE 303, or improvise a lie so you can build a camaderieship with him. He is a nice guy, cool, unassuming level headed, he studied in Germany, maybe do a litle bio check on him

As a microbiologist, NAFDAC shd do, but they dont retain.The havent retained anybody for the last couple of years. Their last two batch of corpers are still hanging. You can go there though, Ask to see the SA-DG, he is another nice guy, he could give you 5minutes.In minutes, you will ahve an opportunity to sell yourself, change your destiny. Schoole and worked in the US, Another god guy. Or ask to see the PA to the DG- Eric, He is stuck up, but who knows. Or try Dr Alli, Deputy Director, Laboratory Services, another good guy

CAC always retains, they retained all their about 40 corpers last year, but that is not anything to do with you. Try your luck. You can also try NCC, the chairman on the 12th floor, he is another jolly good fellow- the Peter Igoh, he is called the wild headed prof. You cant see though, but if you ask of his PA, they may let u up. His name is Mr F, wait o, NCC and microbiology. sorry jare. You are miles apart

hmmm

@Ujuhoan, i pray this is your portion, what happened to this man should happen to you too. Your are here supporting the woman and probably wishing she were you. That you have suffered at the hands of men shouldnt make you support evil. Look at the poster who even left her husband due to abuse, saying what the woman did was bad.

So, what if he tried to keep a broken marriage together? Much as I blame him, and much as I wont hit a woman, if a woman ever tried to hit me, i'l hit her back so hard, she'l be lucky if she didnt go to meet her maker. And legally, am covered. You think if he had killed her that night, he wont walk away scot free?? Self defence is admissible under the law. He'll get mansluaghter, a suspended sentence maybe, and then parole.

The man is by no means ruined. Yes, he is washed up in Kenya, but now he is back in Abuja, he will be removed from the public glare, given a desk job as a Director or Deputy Director. After all the storm is over, he will be reposted to either SA or Uk or Japan. You think we are the only ones that have the facts here? His Perm Sec must know about his wife, so will his Minister, (Ajumogobia). To them, they know, they know about her whoring ways, so its not something new they'l worry about. GEJ  right now has been briefed and Wigwe is in the cooler, he is under wraps till all the indignation from from uninformed aggreived feminists disappears. Then he is back on the beat.

The woman is real village. A 30 year sojourn in all the glamor capitals of the world since 1978 has taught her nothing. You dont bring down a man who has worked that long and that hard with mere pictures in a sleazy newspaper.

boobfan:
@Upendo,Apache77,Zahnda, you are FOOLS! Did you not read my replies where i expressed my surprise on how a woman would tell me that she is falling for me because of those features? Most of you do not read to comprehend,but read marginally. It would be childish for a man like me; (who has swam many expensive punny rivers and running away from cheap ones), to be carried away by such confessions from a lady.I did not imagine that, she confessed that to me in her chart which i see as being absurd (Though two ladies had told me about my lips before).

I am not gay but a full man that pound punny fiercely.For several of you that call guys with pink lips gay,I remember a topic here on NL that tried to find out if women love guys with pink lips and all the ladies replied in affirmative and you are now talking trash!

To be serious Genevieve Nnaji also confessed that she wants to marry a guy with Boris Kodjo's lips (He has well shaped pink/red lips like mine and my kind of eyes). I am tempted to post my pix but can not due to security reason, but i share a resemblance with Boris Kodjo  in Lips, eyes and smiles. What would i benefit from advertising myself on NL.

Look at this lout…imagine the nerve. Who are you by the way. He is jumping buses and he has the nerve to come and pass himself off as a big boy, even saying that he has an official car. Marketer like you. Girls hit on us everyday, if all the guys girls hit on, come on Nairaland to tell, would we read anything else??

And why does the fool keep on and on about pink lips or is it yellow lips? Are you alright? Boys are padding their accounts with benjamins, collecting numbers of hawt shawties over bottles of Dom P ala Moet, Ace & Cristal, and you come here talking because a girl was foolish enough to try to hit on you, in of all places, a bus. I don’t know why poor girls keep on hitting on poor wimps like you. If you were even talking about how green your wallet is, I’l be tempted to keep quiet, you come here talking about how pink your lips are. U stupiddd gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan. Are you just leaving university?? I only pity the poor girl(what ever her intentions) who complimented a low lifer punk like you.

You lack class!

Go sleep!

@TIMA,

Ha ha ha, i think say you get mouth? I be nigerian naa. Where you think say i come from be4? I think say u sabi talk, stupid girl, run mouth naa. yeye, we sabi your type, constantly seeking attention and self validation. Where correct girls dey, we know. when we see correct girls, we worship them, no be your type. And please, pull off that picture if you must keep posting the threads you do, Next!

upendo 98:
Interesting. A guy that has it all doesnt parade it or talk about it especially his physical features.people tht blow their own trumpet always have something hidden or some inferiority complex.This doesnt need advise, just grow up.This kind of women are all over so know how to handle them.No big deal

Abi o. Thank you, my sister. You have said it all. A guy that is having, a guy dat is a holderness and Lambert doesnt brag, except those lousy uneducated traders. It shows.That is why i was so annoyed when he came saying all that. He has an official car-marketer given an official car and he is talking, he is this, he is that, dumb, dumb, dumb. I consider this the ugly self promotion of an upstart. He is just one of this ridiculous kids who are just starting to see Womanliness. So he is awed. I once had a neigbor who who wont let me be- I had to keep tip toeing into and out of my own house. She just fancies me and wanted to shagg me at all costs, but she was a neigbor's gf and to me, that was off limits. Did it change my perception about her? No. Did I think she was a slut? No, at times, especially for some women, their emotions just overwhelm them

@all.
The annoying thing about this Tima girl is that she is a local breed, an mgbeke. Look at her…she is as straight and as flat as an iron board with blisters, and she is talking. Face, zero. Beauty is subjective, but don’t come here talking about a virture or attribute you aint got.

Look at her top, so frayed, it has dreadlocks. Look at her cheap bangles, you get those at orile for N200 for a set of 10. Her ear rings are worth N150. Her thights, those black things dirty girls wear for 10days without washing comes from any bend down place at N120. Her total worth, less than Nk. I don’t have a problem with people like her or her ilk, but, don’t come here and start making mouth, when you yourself, you are nothing. That, I dont accept.
Who are the guys that step up to you sef?? Traders, Omata or some equally run off the mill guys?

Who did you call ugly? she asks. Your thread reads- Why Are Ugly Guys To Attractive To Preety Girls? Even the topic, sef doesnt make sense. Did you go to a night school?

rokiatu:
apache77, Tima has the right to express her opinion anyhow she wants. Just because you don't find her attractive so what? A dozen others does.
Like we all know, beauty is subjective and relative. For all you may know, some people out there considered you a gorilla. Does that limit your opinion and slide your mouth forever to not say how, what you feel? I supposed no

Everyone has the right to think as they wish about themselves and to construct their world view as they wish. You don't need permission to be an attractive person or to get it confirmed from other people.

@rokiatu,

Look I dont engage in this pastime of u guys here, dissing, and venting so much hate, so i dont join issues with people except they annoy me. Do you want to join that small group? And anyway, so, you can actually make sense when you chose to? Dont keep holding brief for silly girls here, even if that flatters your ego. My grouse with her is, dont come and assume a high ground here, be it moral, intellectual, pedigree or status. Let others do it for you. Once you do that yourself, I'll humble you. If you try it yourself, I'l do it to you. Word!

Mrs, Chima:
I see manbitches circling.   

If you mofos can create threads about Nigerian or African women being ugly or need to look natural then Hottie Tima can create threads about Ugly men and how to fix your chiclets (teeth). 

What is good for the GOOSE is also good for the GANDER.   

@Mrs chima
You see, a couple of guys out there naw make you suffer from a siege mentality, all men must be bad, or all men bash women, so I must attack all men.So when you see a dense girl come here and spew rubbish, you jump to her defence, trying to put down a hapless guy who tried to put her right. She can create threads about ugly guys if she is fine, but, she isnt. Why is pot calling kettle black? And there you go, you use a word (chiclets) and you feel inclined, without anybody ever asking you, to tell us the meaning.What was the point?

That girl is dense, with a fish brain, and except you are like her, quit talking here

mikeansy:
another ridiculous comment, when did the Igbos have a referendum to produce the SGF?

The President chose who he thinks he can work with and should solely be held responsible for the success or failure of this SGF.

Leave the Igbos for this matter abeg!!!!!!!!

Dont you follow current affairs? Is it now you are knowing that the SGF was zoned to the south east? or that the Senate Presidency to the North Central If you you no knw, go sit don, you shdnt be here

J12:
I'm a very ugly guy, but i don't play hard to get because its hard for we ugly guys to get chics. An ugly guy like me playing hard to get must be doing that for a girl uglier than him.

And: Why do people act like there is no such as "ugly"? I hate it.

Just the same way there is nothing like a small girl, but a small boy, bro, there really is nothing like an ugly guy. There is something like a poor guy though. For a man, once u got money, u are fine. Didnt you hear 50cent? or Timaya where he said,

i no care, if u want say i ugly, but money don make me fine?

How does a guy play hard to get? To get by who? Only a rich guy can play hard to get, bro, and only a real ugly girl can go 'tryin to get.' A realy pretty girl sits backs and keeps screening guys that come her way, leaving only probably the richest guy.

And you dont go about calling people mad, when you yourself you are mad, neither do you go calling people poor when you yourself you are poor. Likewise, when she came saying ugly guys keep hitting on fine girls, the assumption was that she was or is the fine girl. I expected a cinderella, in the profile picture, I only saw a run off the mill shawtie, the type that come a dime a dozen on the streets of Lagos. So, I had to put her right. Let Ini, or Omotola or Beyonce or any of the other fine NL girls here tell us about beauty or ugliness, not Tima. Who, as her user name implies, feels she is even hot, self delusion.

Anyway, self appraisal can be jaundiced anyway, just as tastes are subjective and individual. I was even more annoyed cos i have only very little patience with people who cant even speak English, or rather, write English, yet struggle to heard or read on public fora like this.

I rest my case

J12:
I'm a very ugly guy, but i don't play hard to get because its hard for we ugly guys to get chics. An ugly guy like me playing hard to get must be doing that for a girl uglier than him.

And: Why do people act like there is no such as "ugly"? I hate it.

Just the same way there is nothing like a small girl, but a small boy, bro, there really is nothing like an ugly guy. There is something like a poor guy though. For a man, once u got money, u are fine. Didnt you hear 50cent? or Timaya where he said,

i no care, if u want say i ugly, but money don make me fine?

How does a guy play hard to get? To get by who? Only a rich guy can play hard to get, bro, and only a real ugly girl can go 'tryin to get.' A realy pretty girl sits backs and keeps screening guys that come her way, leaving only probably the richest guy.

And you dont go about calling people mad, when you yourself you are mad, neither do you go calling people poor when you yourself you are poor. Likewise, when she came saying ugly guys keep hitting on fine girls, the assumption was that she was or is the fine girl. I expected a cinderella, in the profile picture, I only saw a run off the mill shawtie, the type that come a dime a dozen on the streets of Lagos. So, I had to put her right. Let Ini, or Omotola or Beyonce or any of the other fine NL girls here tell us about beauty or ugliness, not Tima. Who, as her user name implies, feels she is even hot, self delusion.

Anyway, self appraisal can be jaundiced anyway, just as tastes are subjective and individual. I was even more annoyed cos i have only very little patience with people who cant even speak English, or rather, write English, yet struggle to heard or read on public fora like this.

I rest my case

I don’t drop too many posts on this NL, I merely read, but there are some threads, especially the really useless ones that really up my bile
@ 190…You be terror for this place o. The minute you came on, the other two ladies slinked off leaving only Tima to her brutal fate.

@Tima
Really, don’t call people ugly when you are no better yourself. Maybe you are just passable, so why arer you surprised ugly guys keep hitting on you. Like begets like, because I know so many fine girls who are expressly only approached by fine guys.

And really, keep your sentences short and sharp. Your English is so awful. Am having a headache now trying to piece together the drift of your talk. And please and please, try not to be nasty on here. Nobody has monopoly of bad mouth.

And 190, leave her alone

Anyim is a very poor choice for the SGF. If the position was zoned to the south east, do the Igbos want to tell us that there is no technocrat or career civil servant who shd have been given this job? Anyim has impecabble credentials when it comes to principle maybe, but giving him the number 1 civil service job in the country Hell no. Asides from a very junior position in, is it refugees commission sometime in the 90's. he has no experience in the civil service. How does he co-ordinate perm secs? Ministers? Heads of extra ministerial parastatals.

Like a poster noted above, all the 16 Nigerians who have been the SGF, starting from Mr. S.O.Wey (1961-66), through M.A. Ejueyitchie ((1966-70), A.A. Atta (1970-72), C.O. Lawson (1972-75), Alison Ayida (1975 -77), Ali Ciroma (1977-79), Shehu Musa (1979-1983), G.A. Longe (1984-86), Chief Olu Falae (1986-89),  Aliyu Mohammed (1990-93), Mustapha Umara (1993), Aminu Saleh (1993-95), Gidado Idris (1995-99), U.J. Ekaette (1999-2007), Babagana Kingibe(2007-08), to the current Alhaji Mahmud Yayale Ahmed, had been core and competent career public servants.

How does Anyim compare to these people? How does he compare to people like Shehu Musa, Olu Falae,Allison Ayida, astute men of timbre and calibre who were referred to, in their day as super permannet secretaries How? The SGF is not a political appoitment, and Anyim is a politician through and through. He will only politicize the civil service and ruin it. Junior directors who are card carrying memebers of PDP will be made perm secs above their superiors who are apolitical, politically minded civil servants will be made MD's, Executive Secretaries, Directors-General, and heads of extra ministerial parastattals and MDA's.




This is bad news for the Federal Civil service and i guess, in 4years, I will be vindicated

Leave GEJ alone. I was never his supporter, didnt want him to get there, since he is now there, he is 'our president.' Yesterday, our President was spot on. He was daper n was looking really debonair. Refreshing change from those stiff ND attires he wears. Dame may have spoit the show, but by and large GEJ covered up for her. MY President rocks

sexyLeamon:
Typical mentality of a stup!d man. And what make you think only poor people take buses? I have a very good and expensive car, I drive very well but sometimes I take the train/bus due to other reasons.

@Poster, all that self praise was not necessary. Now tell me, what is the point of this thread?

What makes him think only poor people jump buses? Where are you from? when was the last time u took a train from oshodi to vi? or lekki to ikoyi? or for dat matter, asokoro to maitama? abegi, go sit down. if u live in nigeria, rich folks dont take buses here, dumb.if u dont want to drive, u cab, u dont bus.if u bus, it shows u dont have money or u r not prepared to pay 1k5 for a cab drop.either way, u dont have money. even the so called BRT, do u know the queue, or is it circle that u always see at the bus stop. no rich person will queue for hours in d sun to jump BRT. u simply aint rich. if u r thinkin of speed in lagos go slow, u can be forgiven for being seen on okada. but bus? hell no. even if u live in yankee, am still waitin for d day trump or ellison will jump a bus 'due to other reasons.' does havin a good and expensive cr make u rich? u cld hav gotten it via a sales promotion? is dat impossible?
so study the context within which a reply is posted before u talk.

pls there is nothing wrong in taking a bus.but when u r jumpin buses and you start feeling like one don juan, when u r nothing, then we will all point to the fact you are jumping buses and then, make a meal of it. so when u r down at the heel with your luck, be humble.

sexyLeamon:
Typical mentality of a stup!d man. And what make you think only poor people take buses? I have a very good and expensive car, I drive very well but sometimes I take the train/bus due to other reasons.

@Poster, all that self praise was not necessary. Now tell me, what is the point of this thread?

What makes him think only poor people jump buses? Where are you from? when was the last time u took a train from oshodi to vi? or lekki to ikoyi? or for dat matter, asokoro to maitama? abegi, go sit down. if u live in nigeria, rich folks dont take buses here, dumb.if u dont want to drive, u cab, u dont bus.if u bus, it shows u dont have money or u r not prepared to pay 1k5 for a cab drop.either way, u dont have money. even the so called BRT, do u know the queue, or is it circle that u always see at the bus stop. no rich person will queue for hours in d sun to jump BRT. u simply aint rich. if u r thinkin of speed in lagos go slow, u can be forgiven for being seen on okada. but bus? hell no. even if u live in yankee, am still waitin for d day trump or ellison will jump a bus 'due to other reasons.' does havin a good and expensive cr make u rich? u cld hav gotten it via a sales promotion? is dat impossible?
so study the context within which a reply is posted before u talk

medstyle22:
Who saw GEJ dancing with his fat babe?
very ugly sight

IT was no ugly sight, GEJ was looking very dapper and debonair, its just Dame who was looking bloated. GEJ was cool enuff not to make the scene ugly

puhleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeze what are you feeling like? You met her in a bus, so you still jump buses and you are talking. Why do you assume every girl is desperate for marriage. She may just like you, as a friend, or boyfriend or she may just want to get laid. If you dont like her, tell her so, dats all. Why come here to ask for advice over a non issue. Is dis the first time a woman is hitting on u If we all did that, do u think there'l be any other thing on NL?

u r comfortable, tell her you bare rich, that infact you are a millionaire. Lie that you have N10 wen infact u hav only N2. So long as as u r a tad comfortable, your lie should sail through.You are in a win win situation. If you tell her you earn much, 2things wil happen- you'l get to shagg her and leave her or 2. she will shagg you and stay, and come to start bringing herself to love you. Either way, you should be ok. The reason why a woman starts liking a man should be inconsequential- a woman can love a man for money, another woman can love another man for for fame, another can love a man for his looks, another for intelligence, there must be an initial reason why a woman feels the way she does about a man. Dont feel bad that your own reason for her love is money. If you've got charisma and personlity, she's even come to love you more than you love her. Only poor guys seem to have a problem with the fact money is heavily tied with love. If you aint got personlity, then leave her alone. she will only collect your money and run, or when she sees there is no money, she will take a hike. Dont leave her becasue she seems to like money. Leave her when it seems, despite what you do for her, she doesnt seem to like you or barely tolerates you

My brother, you are in trouble o. first is it now you are noticing these things about her? Just when you are about heading for the alter? And why leave so many things into her care? Venue? Caterers etc? Probably you are not resident here so you had to send money. But I guess there are still wedding planners.

Anyway, your woman is a loose cannon. She could suck you dry, not deliberately, but because that is the life she is used to. So if you are complaining now (about sauna and steam baths), then clearly you are not rich enough. Leave her alone. You already said she is spoilt, so except you have the capacity to indulge her excesses or keep her in the comforts she is used to, she is not for you. She will not only ruin you by running bills, she will make you commit suicide. Obviously, her nonchalant attitude tells you she is cavalier about such issues. Today, it is only money for aso ebi. Tommorrow, it could be your shares and stock or your entire wealth, when she manages to kill you.

And dont bother talking to her, she wont change, except through deliverance. And what is the meeting with the family to achieve? Those sort of girls are over pampered, they dont change, they cant change. If you do not provide the money, another man will. And it will take her nothing to have a man broveling to fill in for you. Except the holy spirit, there is nothing you can do about her, even if for, she tell you she has changed.

Don’t go for beauty- cos am quite sure she is a stunner, that is why you have put up with her for so long. Don’t go craving a trophy wife who will kill. If your ex is still available and you still fel the same way for her, go back to her. Don’t leave your wife for another man to come and marry, and more importantly, don’t go and marry another man’s wife. She will dispatch you very prematurely to your maker