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kimbraa:
So she gave up everything to be with her dream man? Like seriously? Who won't give up everything to live in a castle with prince charming?

A true feminist wouldn't put her life on hold for a man Kim.

stupidity:
Lol, anytime I see people say “what is this generation turning into” I can’t help but laugh. Una never see anything. It will get worse by the day

Hello Junbi.. Remember what I told you yesterday on another thread. This brother shares the same thoughts.

Aquariann:
Haha. Something like that. The decline will continue until we get to a point where what we complain about now becomes normal and some other crazy norms begin to worry us. Then we would refer back to these present time as "good old times". Lol.

junbi:
This isn't good

Sad reality Junbi..

junbi:
You saying all hope is lost. No salvation

Haha. Something like that. The decline will continue until we get to a point where what we complain about now becomes normal and some other crazy norms begin to worry us. Then we would refer back to these present time as "good old times". Lol.

AvatarMode:
Some facts here. We just have to find a way to do a better job than our parents did . To make that possible, we need to go back to basic moral values. Reading books on these, joining organizations that uphold moral values can also help. Quality mentorship is a plus too.
Good thoughts...Aquariann

The first step to healing is to admit you're sick, go run a lab test, visit a doctor with the test results etc.. The problem is a larger size of the society sees nothing wrong with the way things are. Today you dare not call out a kid, your friend or relative going down a wrong path without being called old school, insulted, told to mind your business, avoided or even insulted.

So I honestly do not see anyway back from where our society is headed. For those who still want to raise morally upright families, it's best to seek and vet for partners with same ideals.

junbi:
To the men: make your girl child's generation different from ours... ours is far gone to be redeemed!

Raise your daughters right.

Which men are you talking to? Same men raised under the same roof with these girls?

Our fathers failed us all. The boys (and young men) you see today don't know jack about what it is to be a father, you know why? Because our mothers made the job of keeping the home easy for our fathers. So our fathers didn't bother to show us the way and how to handle our homes or kids. The fatherly abilities is already missing from these men you're talking about.

That is why divorce rates are at an all time high these days because these men expect women to do all the work just like their mothers. But the train has since left the station. The society is no longer suppressing and ostracizing like before.

10 - 20 years from now when the kids we've sired with baby mamas all over the place grow up, we'll come to know what a society in chaos means. But for now, let's all enjoy the decline that are part of the consequences of being free to live as we want.

Omoluabi9:
Bros you no know maybe the driver na woman or na ''Leaner'' wey never get mind (Composure) yet.

True. The driver obviously panicked.

HtwoOw:
God forbid bad thing, but driver panicked , He/She stepped on the break , that's why the vehicle drifted forward, press and release repeatedly slows car down faster ... Learnt that from a Tokunbo Driver , but again, God forbid bad thing

Exactly my thoughts.

Not supporting the guy for stealing or justifying his subsequent accident/death, but it was a bad driving from the driver IMO.

After hitting the guy, s/he still had plenty of time to swerve and avoid running over him after the initial impact (which might be what led to his death). You don't just stamp the break pedal and keep your legs there in emergencies, you swerve accordingly.

seguno2:
Kindly google and share instances where a British or American official sent a replacement to their parliament or congress.
If you don’t, then please withdraw your comment as it shows that you are uninformed about the subject matter.

Sometimes you guys just talk like you're bereft of any education. Are we being governed by the British or American constitution for them to be used as a yardstick?

ayaomen:
not for rape victim alone but for women, its a group on facebook with over 1million women all over the world sharing their life experiences.

Okay.

ayaomen:
I believe you 100%, I am a Finster and I know sey Finsters plenty here and will be able to relate.

What's Finster? Is that another word for rape victim?

PenisCaP:
This is a big lesson to all Yorubas gals out there.
Who always say "tú o ni joor"... "pour it in joor"
I can handle it..
just like kemi and and jumoke my EX's.
No sensible guy want to settle for less.

Kudos to every well trained igbo gal out there.

PenisCaP:
For where? Davido neva even see pant Hez been with him for long and since them he has given 2 yoruba gals belle. And keep the best one for serious relationship. If na sef na wetin sef na wetin I go. Every sensible man wants a good woman for lifetime partner.

PenisCaP:
There is a big difference between igbo gal and yoruba gals na

Sandra Okagbue and Anna Banner (supposed Igbo princess) must be Yoruba then.

Continue pointing a finger at others while your remaining fingers point back to your sisters..

InyinyaAgbaOku:
She cut the cord herself and pulled out the placenta?

I swear she did all that. Twas her fourth (child) delivery. Mom had already prepared her (and the delivery room) and told her to call when contractions started.

Growing up, I witness my mom aid in the delivery of more than 20 births and depending on the time of the day, the lady usually left with her child same day or the following day..

Once, my neighbor who was in labor pushed out the baby alone in the room without any noise, then calmly strolled out to call my mom to the surprise of everyone.

ifyalways:
You waltzed in to the wrong thread. I didn't see where the OP wrote that her ex-husband is evil and a wizard(you are the one doing so), nor any poster here mentioned the husband.

OP was overwhelmed and just needed a little encouragement, something that happens to even the happily married.

I don't know if it's cheap gossip/entertainment that you seek by probing her about her ex. It's not like she's begging for money, neither did she type that men/my ex are scum. She for now does not want to talk about her marriage or ex, deal with it.

How can a father abandon his own blood? No calls, emotional or financial commitment

Ify, these were the OP's words. And with them, she painted her husband as evil and a wizard. And yes, the fact that she mentioned he abandoned them without any care meant she wants to talk about him.

We can show or pretend to all the empathy in the world to her plight, but w shouldn't also pretend not to have seen many women take the kids always from their fathers in the hope of getting back at him (possibly block all communication channels) and then turn around to say he doesn't even care about his children. At least there's (or was) a thread here about a week ago or so where the man complained about his wife running off with the kids and cutting contact despite his attempts to get access to them.

So people asking about how it got to this stage aren't out of place. These were also her words: I know that I am not a perfect person but i know that i gave my all to my marriage to make it work but it didn't work out

So the question is, what did she do or not do. Hardly does any sane father deliberately abandoned his kids (not saying some don't) but it's wired in the biology of men to take care of their kids. So what is madam not telling us.

PDJT:
-Until you understand the glaring difference between political appointment and elective position and the oaths attached to them, you and I are not having any discussion about this matter.

Am I Surprised at your change of narrative? No. So do enjoy your evening sir.

ofai:
Keep vomitting your oluwole statistics.

Always findings ways to conceal their shameless incompetence.

No tribe was more educated than the Igbo in the 40s down to the 60s.... Prove me wrong or forever remain leprous.

By the time we were building a thriving and modern society, your forebearers were still living in caves and covering their bodies with green leafs.

triblehaul1:
What drives me crazy about a lot of you Igbos with your pathetic reasoning is that a clique from among you destroyed this same regionalism simply because they wanted the wealth of the nation to themselves.

Now that you have been outsmarted, n others are enjoying your own wealth instead of the other way round you without shame come online n asked that we revert back to regionalism you banished.

Why in the first place did Aguiyi Ironsi discard regional government for unitary government ? Until Igbo are able to come up with a logical answer I say we stick with this federal system which we all can attest is a lot beta than the senseless Unitary system the Igbos introduced.

Other nationalities in Nigeria are not fools for Igbo to be dictating whatever is comforting for them to. Igbo should wait patiently till others feel uncomfortable to request a change in system. If they can not wait they should go to war n waste another 2 million or more of their kinsmen. I am tired of their noise.

Thank God we have a Buhari who does not give a flying Bleep what noise is coming from the East.

You sure you're quoting the right guy sir? You might wanna go through my post on this thread.

PDJT:
-I think you’re getting it all wrong. The quota system or federal character principle is to ensure near effective representation of the society by hiring or employing people from most parts of the society but not at the detriment of standard or qualification.
What you see in Buhari’s Nigeria appointment is just a manifestation of his bigotry.

This is Exactly what I'm saying. When the first VC of UI did it, employing 95% of his tribesmen, it was okay. Stella Odua did it in the aviation ministry, it was okay. It was done again when 76 (wo)men were picked from the SE zone alone as principals out of 104, leaving 28 for the other five zones, it was okay. Only 28 other qualified Nigerians were found in the other 5 zones, hence the SE had to keep a lion share of 76 for themselves. These to you are/were effective representation.

But every other zone was watching amd learning from you guys the act of nepotism (remember how leaders of other zones were killed and none from the SE was murdered in the Jan 15 coup). Now that you lost out in a game you play very well, you start crying and disturbing everyone with noise of marginalization.

4dankey:
You will be surprised to find out that this person that hate igbo's so much will even be married to an igbo person. I have nothing to say to you cos people like you can hardly reason objectively.

Jeez... Nobody hates you guys. Instead you guys do the hating on others. Again, not everyone think of Igbo women as snowflakes because there's really nothing special about them. So no, I'm not married to an Igbo lady (nor any lady for that matter) and it has nothing to do with hate.

Talking about being objective, Go and ask Dr Modestus Ezenwa ranting about only 2 Igbo principals out if a possible 104 when these changes were made. It was only made between January and February of this year. When 76 (confirmed) principals were appointed from the South East zone alone out if 104, with the other 5 zones sharing the rest, did he come out to complain about how unjust that act was? He also forgot only 12 colleges were un the East because his brethren were benefitting as principals all over the place.

Did he complain that 45% of the budgetary allocation of the Ministry of Education were allocated to unity schools alone? No. You know why? Because majority were headed by his kinsmen and they benefitted by being at the helm of affairs.

But feeling you've lost out, he's suddenly seething with anger and you're talking about objectivity. The earlier you guys learn Nigeria belongs to every tribe found in it and not just you guys, the better. Stop crying when given the same bitter pills you give others when you lose out. Simply. Nobody hates you.

Omololu2121:
are you saying this present arrangement is working

Nope.. It's not.

uchman48:
where are u based becaused here in lagos they are trying.

Benue Links have lost their glory. Used to be very efficient early 2000s under Akume. Reckless drivers, poorly managed vehicles/buses etc. Pleasure Travels and other privately owned transport companies are the in thing in Benue now. Though Nyaya and New Nyaya are not that better, but they are doing well. Very efficient. I think about Benue links, the worry is their fares would no longer be "cheaper" than the rest. Besides, not even all the buses are owned by the state government. Private individuals register with them also. B

LZAA:
me i am an omoluabi but i'm from osogbo
i hate when all of us claim lagos cuz our oda states na bullpoo

How's it my business where you come from you this wanderer from Afikpo? Should I apologize for my state of origin because it is the state you lots envy and would live to convert to yours so much?

jusRadical:
I sincerely wish that someone who went to primary, secondary and tertiary institutions through quota system will attend to you or your dear loved ones when you are in critical situations.

Not my issue that you failed to understand the post you quoted. Keep your wishes for yourself.

emmysoftyou:
if I call you pained afonja, you will claim naija delta now.

Re you expecting we the igbos should apologize on his behalf?
We don't even know if he was advised to do so. Some past dictatorship leaders practiced Unitarian system of government.
So because of that you're so pained and frustrated about the igbos. I have read about two of your comments and it end with hatred and blaming the igbos.
Guy we are the new generation of ndigbo, we're not born when aguiyi ironsi took such decisions that later favour the north but since Nigeria is not practicing true federalism hence our criticism.
Guy, if you can't move on and you keep castigating the igbo then we'll insult you back..

Imhotep, onyeoga, lzaa ,nonaira1

Someone is crying and frustrated about the igbos here.

Frustrated about the Igbos? Lol. You guys are so delusional. Who opened the thread complaining about what's happening in Zamfara unity school?

Nah, I'm a proud Yoruba man from the South western state of Lagos. I have no reason to deny my origin just like I'm not a wanderer looking for something in Zamfara state. If either of Kings, Queens, FSTC Yaba or FGC Ijanikin Colleges had denied my tribesmen or statesmen admission even when qualified, I would have been bothered. . I don't give two fvcks about what happens to you lots, or what goes on in Zamfara FGCs for that matter. Once in a while, we just have to point out the hypocrisy associated with your eternal cries of injustice. Cry babies.

Turantula:
Quota system have permanently damaged your thinking faculty

No sir, I'm from the Southern part of Nigeria (I'd like to assume you are too) and I'm strongly against it and would rather things were done or positons given based on merit. But we cannot deny the fact that the present Nigerian arrangement isn't working, because even the merit system can (and would) be abused.

Take for instance, currently all service chiefs save for the CDS and CNS are from the North. The south has only two, with the south east having none.

The government of the day can safely argue they appointed qualified hands into all the positions held by Northerners. Would they be right? Yes. But does it seem fair? That no single south easterner was qualified enough for even one of those positions? No, not fair.

The quota system was meant to address situations like this when followed in sincerity. So you see, the quota system wasn't/isn't that bad to say when applied right. Hence, nothing wrong is reducing the cut off mark for the educationally disadvantaged northern kids to be encouraged and be able to have quality education like their southern brothers.

Again to show how silly the quota system can be, take the case of the super eagles team that won the last Nations cuo for Nigeria. The first (and winning) team with exception to Ahmed Musa and someone else (cant remember the name) were all from the south east. If quota system was to be applied in that team, every zone (NE, NC, NW, SS, SE,SW) should have been represented with at least two players from their zone. If a man from the SW was to be substituted he must be replaced by another SW player. It doesn't matter if one is a striker and the other a defender but the player needed at that moment was a midfielder.

So you see, this is the ugly situation we find ourselves in. My solution? Let us go back to regionalism and resource control. But before then, the people who destroyed that arrangement due to greed and selfishness must apologize to the rest of the nation and stop crying victims all the time.

Arsenella007:
First, the Quota system was established prior to 1960 to give a sense of belonging to all the different Ethnic groups in Nigeria, this gave rise to the establishment of the Federal character commission in 1979,so what is the relationship between the quota system and the Igbos?
Secondly not all the Eastern States have 3 unity schools. Get your facts right.

My bad, that was supposed to be minimum of two unity schools. A mix up of states I've had dealings with. Modified previous posts accordingly.

Meanwhile, Delta, Bauchi, Kano, Jigawa, Kwara, Kogi all have two each.

knowledgeable:
Fool, if you implemented decrees/policies that have stunted the transformation of any society over 50yrs ago, can't such policy/decree be changed a s a p for that society to continue progressing??.

Are you such a subhuman that you stop evolving??..

You haven't answered the question of why it was implemented in the first place.. Wetin Una been dey find for other region their government matter?

And secondly, why should it be reversed? Because you lost out in your own schemes at the end?

Algebra12:
Stop throwing unfounded and unsubstantiated figures and allegations around. It can only deceive the gullible. The bolded happened In this country and we did not hear you and your likes shout your usual way.

It is obvious you glory in injustice and what you are propounding is akin to throwing away the food in the midst a lot of hungry and malnourished children.

And I know what it is. It is only hatred that can make one think that way. What exactly are you afraid of

For someone who doesn't know just like most states in Nigeria, the Eastern states all have 2 Unity schools each and was already trying to weep up the sentiments of his kinsmen that they have fewer unity schools, how will you know that your tribes men took 72 slots out of a possible 104 during the last administration?

And two possible reasons why you didn't hear about it is because you choose not to see it as injustice to other Nigerian tribes because it favours you or simply because me and my likes didn't come to the media to cry like your trade mark. We simply waited and voted out your hero which I suggest you do too or shut up.

Nobody hates you lot. Get that into your head. Play the politics you started/introduced into Nigeria i.e winner takes all.

Algebra12:
I see it that you saw nothing wrong in the inbalances in this quota system. Of course, you had to resort to your revisionist diatribe.
Is it out of place to fix other qualified kids from other regions in these other schools that dont get up to their carrying capacity? Granted, you gave the East fewer unity schools and makes admission tougher for them, yet you still denied them admission when there are empty spaces looking for someone to occupy.

Aquariann, I think you need to go and examine your sanity

How did we get to a stage when we talk about quota system? You need to answer this question first.

Secondly, you know So much about quota system, yet none of you complained when 72 of your tribes men were made principals out of a possible 104 slots.

The problem is that you lot always bury your heads in the sand when the situation favour you but are the first to scream injustice when you feel you are losing. Your hypocrisy stinks.

And No, the Eastern states, just like most states in Nigeria all have a minimum of two unity colleges. This information is verifiable So stop shouting like someone shortchanged.

I ask again, why did Aguiyi Ironsi and co make the unification decree? What were they looking for in the North? Until you answer these questions, suck whatever you get and shut up.

kraftyiyk:
Can you argue with reasonable logic ?please do not shift the goal post.

The question is why set different cut off points for different geopolitical regions? Why not allow a level playing ground for the little lads to slug it out. amidst themselves?

Understand that even at no cutoff, only 28 pupil decided to turn up from the whole zamfara.

How about the schools that doesnt get to fill their carrying capacity? Why will Govt continue to make burgeous budgets fr seemingly empty schools when igbo lads are earger to fill up those spaces?

Was it the fault of the igbo lads that they have this natural gift of higher IQ which is engraved in their DNA.? A sane country would have pampered and encouraged the igbos to the long term benefit of everybody .

The North were okay with how things were been ran in their region, including understanding their educational challenges. They were okay with the pace with which things progressed in their region until some greedy foreigners decided to invade and take advantage of them through the back door with the infamous unification decree.

Fortunately/Unfortunately (depending on where you stand), the situation turned out to favour them and they've successfully held the rest of the Nation hostage since then. My question now is, why is it that the same people who disrupted the regional arrangement and set up of the country (with the aim of overlording the rest of the nation) are always the first to cry when they feel cheated by the North?

Until they answer the question of why the unification decree was passed and the motive behind it, they'll keep screaming injustice, pretending they don't know how we got to this sorry state.

And no, I'm not shifting goal post. I'm just saying when ever an injustice favours them, they keep quiet, but scream the loudest when they don't have their way. Something they've always done. You know, hypocrisy.