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MissRaine69:
The most heartbreaking thing is that there is child who seems unwanted in the middle of all this.
You knew she had a child so she comes as s package so this is no brainer. Accept the child and be the father she needs.
Secondly kindly stop having anymore kids as your hands will be very full from hence forth .

Missy, I've seen and come across some of your posts and threads and you strike me as one who always knows what she's talking about, but that's not the case here.

So the man should automatically change his own life plans (perhaps his own three are already a handful), stop having kids of his own just ti accommodate the child of another man who is alive, healthy and capable of raising her but chooses not to just because of another woman.

I keep advising single guys to flee single moms because of shíts like this. What nonsense

Anextin:
An sure the stupid man might have threatened and cajoled her into giving her daughter up now he feels it's ok to dump her like a sac of potatoes. God punish devil. Its hard to leave your child for another. Op if you reject that child, your marriage will crumble before your eyes cos your wife will never understand why you said no.
The dad dropping her off doesn't mean he won't contribute to her education and upkeep.
So you all can have a meeting and discuss how he will contribute towards her growth.
Don't make your wife chose between you and her daughter. Its not right, and in the long run she will chose her girl. Any mother would.

Nice choice of words there. The biological father doesn't get a stroke of cane from you, the new wife who made him return her after seven years with him isn't called out, her maternal grandma doesn't get a word from you, but the op gets called names for not wanting to take care of her knowing her own dad is able and alive.

You assumed he threatened her to give the child away? What do you mean by that? The father accepted his child for seven years and suddenly because of a woman like you choose to reject the child yet you blame Op.

Let's flip the table a bit, can you willingly raise your man's child who wasn't in the picture when the marriage was contracted in the first place?. Yes you knew he had a child but was with the mom. Now you a have a young child of your own and a set of three months old twins, can you honestly deal with another seven years old knowing her capable mother dumped him just to be with another man?

Let her go ahead and choose between her husband and the child and let's see who loses out because you can be sure he'll take his kids from her.

Netanyahu1:
That child would never be your biological child, but you can earn her respect and she will call you father for the rest of her life.

Morevoer we all want to be identified as real men. This is your chance to prove to your wife that you are a real man , the one of her dreams and her knight in shining armour .

Alpha fvcks, Beta Bucks.. What an insult. He put a roof over her head, fathered her three other children and doesn't abdicate his fatherly duties. He is not a real man all these years.

But your twisted idea of him being a real man is accepting responsibilities of another child whose biological dad is hale, healthy, alive and capable to take care of her but chooses not to because he wants to be with another woman (who also rejected the child).

Sorry bro, a real man doesn't raise another man's kid while that other one is alive and capable. Stop the emotional blackmail.

Odobopa:
No I won't send my child away just to marry another woman who is not the mum.
I will also accept that child if I was in the op's shoes..
And yes he can inconvenience himself to make his wife and the child happy. What's marriage without sacrifices ?

But her own bio dad can't inconvenience himself, his marriage or make those sacrifices for his own seed?

You guys need to face reality please. She won't do it for him yet she wants him to do it for her.

The father should take his responsibility end off.

I have a step elder-sister, and my parents have been married for more than 35 years and I've never seen her mom only on pictures. Till date she's closer to my mom than our dad. And if there's any lesson I learned from him was for me to always accept and face my responsibilities as a man.

The child should go back to her father end off.

Odobopa:
I already said the biological father is insane. The op married her because he loved her. He was aware she is a single mum and anything could come up in the future.
He should do the right thing and make his wife happy. This is a child we talking about here sir. An innocent soul..

He should make the wife happy at his own expense and inconvenience? Why couldn't the Child's dad new wife accept her to make him happy? A child that has been with him for seven years.

And don't forget the Op stated clearly his wife wouldn't take the child if the reverse was the case.

And I ask you again, will you send your child out of your home just to marry another woman who's not the mom?

MsGood:
Thank you o. I kuku no blame the wicked man, na the woman wey leave her pikin because of marriage I blame. I hope she doesn't regret it in the future.

Mrs Good, hope you realize a woman like you rejected the child (as condition for marrying her biological dad) which suddenly made him return her to the mom.

And don't forget the Op stated his wife wouldn't accept the child if the reverse was the case.

Yoshy:
Take the lesson from Linda, I'm very sure that at larger part of her life, she was celibate and it helped her.

What lessons? Same lessons she tried to twist when called out for her hypocrisy?

And you're sure she was celibate and it helped her? What does this even mean? You know this as per what?

Odobopa:
Obviously the father of the child is insane. Must the op be inhumane too?
He married a single mum and should be prepared for a situation like this.
You sef hug iroko tree.

He married her because the child was with the father. He didn't sign up for this.

The bio dad doesn't want her, no one in his family wants her, her maternal grandma doesn't want her, but yet the Op is the only inhumane person.

MsGood:
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So, its better to abort? Or even worse, lose one's womb and be crying for children on mountains? Mistakes are part of life. If you don't like women with kids or as you put it, 'baggage', then don't marry one. It's quite simple.

How about you women learn to make babies with men who are willing to take responsibility for the child by being physically, emotionally and financially present? That way the thoughts of abortion doesn't even prop up. And no, pregnancy (asides cases of rape) are not mistakes. She and the child's father consciously had unprotected sex

Odobopa:
He is not supposed to do it for the child to be appreciative in future. He is supposed to do this because that's the right thing to do to make his very good wife happy and also to help that kid. You can't just say no to your wife in a situation like this mehn...

And the man who sired the child gets a pass and shouldn't do the right thing? His own wife couldn't make him happy by accepting his child? Will you throw your own child out because of your marriage?

And the grandma too?

Mr, pack well.

pweetyphola:
I really don't blame him. He is definitely not at fault. Who I blame is the wife the poor girl's mum. Maybe because she was so desperate to get married she did not get married to a man that who will love her daughter as much as her, to a man who does not see the girl like an inconvenience. She should have considered that this situation might come up before even saying yes to him.

Hope you realize that the biological dad's wife must have seen her as an inconvenience, hence the reason the dad suddenly rejected her after seven years? And no, as a single mom, you really do not have a choice on who you marry.

tjadeba:
You are a selfish wicked and thoughtless guy...very immature and need not to have gotten married to a single mum...do your worst nigga

And the child's biological father and grandma are what?

InvertedHammer:
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I believe that you are naturally wicked.

Are you telling me that you cannot train another person's child? But in this case, a child of your present wife. I cannot believe what I just read. A girl needs her mother to guide her through teenage years. I guess you already know what the future holds for you. You think you are better than those families that get wiped out in a single accident? I wish there is a way around it because I will advise your wife not to bring the girl close to a devil like you because you fit the profile of someone who will kill or maim a step-child with the level of hatred in your soul.

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Mr kind man, will you throw your own biological daughter out for another man to train just because of a new wife who's not her mother?

janellemonae:
I feel so sad for the girl. In between 2 parents dt dont want her. Smh. She will grow up and resent all her half siblings if shes abandoned like this.

This op is just a selfish demon . All these pple dt live fake lives, controlled by what people will say. They don't even know their own self. Zero character. Nonsense!

And the child's biological father is what for throwing his own child out because of his own marriage? Isn't it possible the other woman too rejected the child and asked for her to be returned to her own mom?

Linda Ikeji has successfully bullied everyone from digging into her affairs. But if it were to be another celebrity, her tentacles would have gone overdrive to expose what she assumes to be a secret forgetting she's infringing on their right to privacy.

After shouting girls should be celibate for years (while she got dicked down raw herself in private) and realizing her pregnancy couldn't be hidden forever, she quickly announced an engagement with an unknown man till today.

A month later she breaks the news of her pregnancy herself. Yeye the smell..

This was my post on the Akpabio's defection thread

Aquariann:
Future senate or Deputy senate president..

Meanwhile something tells me there's actually no rift between Akpabio and Udom. I think both are in on this (alleged) Akpabio defection.

Udom has always been pro-PMB albeit silently. I think this is a ploy to deliver a certain amount of Akwa Ibom votes to Buhari.

This picture was taken November last year when Udom joined PMB and Tinubu to Ivory Coast

Dave Umahi was with him to Morocco in June. Forget the noise about him refusing APC the use of Abakiliki stadium or APC saying he would lose the state. All na distraction.

Ayade accompanied him to Togo only last week.

These three PDP governors, whether they defect or not are surely working for PMB.

Now read Tonye (who by the way is now in Udom's camp) post. Read in between the lines to know there's no rift between the two.

TonyeBarcanista:
No worry we go enter deal! Una no go fields governorship candidate for Akwa Ibom and we no go field Presidential candidate for 2019. We go adopt Baba as consensus candidate

Besides self interest, Akpabio as senate president will also be of great benefit to Akwa Ibom state. If Udom will defect, it'll be after he had won the election and Akpabio made SP.

Politics 101: Interest

Why is no one calling her out for what she is? A cheat.

Funny how in situations like this, women are allowed to have a pass (not keeping all eggs in one basket) but men are called cheats for keeping multiple partners like the Op.

Hear her

Kenneth is this guy head over heels for me n i love him too

Yet she's still looking (and dying) for the love of another emotionally/physically unavailable man

Femi is this yoruba dude who works with an organisation but is too busy for me, atimes i see him just 3times a year and never creates time for us to see, he isn't showing love by frequent calling or any sign that he is really ready and no atom of jealousy comes from him, not even caring to know if anyone asks me out while he is away or if i m still with him

Not forgetting even with her eyes on Femi and Ken, she was still seeing her baby daddy but not willing to settle with him (probably a bad boy or dead beat)

Obinna is my baby father but i am not ready to settle with him (emotional hurt and all led to our break up)

but was still seeing him and finally

I ended things with my baby father after this consultation

Funny thing if this same Op finds out Femi has another partner he's also seeing somewhere else, she'll lose her cool and call men cheat.

i really beseech on u guys helping with advise on what i should do n perhaps who you would choose if u were in my shoes and why?

What you should do Stop keeping multiple men in your life

Who I'll recommend Ken

Why At 28 and a single mum, your Marriage market value isn't exactly high. While as a lady you can choose who you have sex with or whose child you choose to keep, you're not exactly gonna choose who you marry. The man is the one to choose you.

And from all three men, the only one who has chosen you (and you claim to love back even though cheating on him) is ken. Focus your energy on him and build a solid relationship.

Your prophetess said you might have a problem with his parents (perhaps you forget you're a single mom and will likely face that same challenge in any other family), but Ken loving you despite your child from another man should make you know it's a storm you can overcome.

Idrismusty97:
Saraki and Tambuwal .

Baba, what of Dogara? With this deft move by APC, is he still defecting or would sue for peace like Shehu Sani? The guy has been quiet this past week.

abescom:
I read a report in which he was quoted as saying he isn't happy that the president and Senate president are from northern states. More like he wanted someone from the south.

Didn't see it. But no sweats. Fingers crossed.

abescom:
The Senate president won't be from the north again judging by the statement credited to Buhari few days ago.

What was the statement he made?

KenOne:
APC should not make that mistake again of handing a PDP new comer the party structure. The party structure should remain with Nsima Ekere NDDC boss.

Unless they want another betrayal like Saraki, Tambuwal and Dogara after 2019 election. The best they could do for Akpabio is to give him ticket back to senate and a major stakeholder.

Exactly. And asking for the SP position seems really big for me because there have been some loyal Northern senators holding the forte for APC in the senate all these years. The DSP looks fair enough.

Bethel4Life:
But i tot he is 5 % na?

No he is not. PMB was clear on the people he referred to as 5% and Akpabio and his people weren't one of them. The 5 "percentiles" know themselves.

seunmsg:
Funny enough, Tonye has seriously reduced his criticism of Buhari and APC of recent.

I noticed this too ever since he switched to Udom's camp.

First we're told No one in the SE would come out for an APC rally. Imo rally proved them wrong.

Now Ebonyi people are out again for APC and they've changed the narrative to "They were promised N500)

Same people saying Ekiti people are hungry and sold their vites for N5000. Going by their logic, it simply means Ebonyi people must be starving to actually come out for N500

Earlier today in the APC Sokoto thread, they said the crowd were simply jobless and had nothing to do. Using their own logic again, Abakiliki people are simply jobless to come out for an APC rally.

Future senate or Deputy senate president..

Meanwhile something tells me there's actually no rift between Akpabio and Udom. I think both are in on this (alleged) Akpabio defection.

Udom has always been pro-PMB albeit silently. I think this is a ploy to deliver a certain amount of Akwa Ibom votes to Buhari.

This picture was taken November last year when Udom joined PMB and Tinubu to Ivory Coast

Dave Umahi was with him to Morocco in June. Forget the noise about him refusing APC the use of Abakiliki stadium or APC saying he would lose the state. All na distraction.

Ayade accompanied him to Togo only last week.

These three PDP governors, whether they defect or not are surely working for PMB.

I won't die because of a woman so help me God.

ADADAB:
PMB will surely win.
I swear with my life.

Please don't talk like this. You love him and want him to win? Yes, but not with your life.

Cool. I just love anything art.

Why are Igbos against Okorocha?

Barrysleek:
Saraki is one smart-ass politician, he may even decide to influence who becomes Kwara state APC gubernatorial candidate since he still controls the party structure

Lol.. Which structure be that one? You never hear the news?