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OssyMalik:
I hope you are not planning to kill your sister because of inheritance? From the way you are really pained and as a cultist too, i fear for your sister’s safety.

Even if he kill her, there is no way he can legally own the investments.

UC92:
The knowledge of building Climatology comes to play here. It may interest you to know that windows on the leeward part of the site will receive minimal ventilation no matter their size.
Things like these are considered for thermal comfort in dwellings.

Building Climatology!!! That was when land was cheap and not scarce. When you finish school that is when we know that there is a huge difference between the wall of classroom and reality

Johnames:
Am an introvert, so my girlfriend came around, am not the gisting type, I wish I was, so there is this guy that stays with me, the guy is cool, I have no problem with the guy, so the problem now is that, he is always gisting with my babe and whenever they are gisting, the 2 of them will laugh so hard, the thing come dey make me feel somehow, I will be outside, I go they hear the 2 of them dey laugh for inside house, I don't know how to handle this situation, what will be the best thing to do here.

The girl is not homely. One's partner should be one's best of friends. You been an introvert is not a yardstick, a good woman should know how to relate. it is so disappointing today that the calibre of girls that we have are just after satisfying the man on bed.

ceelog:
I am open to suggestions

I would want a maximum use of the space without the feeling of being chocked.

A 4bed duplex with an extra building at the back for tenant/visitors is what I prefer.

The main building should have the basics of a well built building: sizeable kitchen, living area, rooms with self contain (or 2 rooms shared a toilet and bath), a distinct master bedroom etc.

A parking space outside. A side walking passage. A small but separate backyard from the other building.

Drop your mail or any contact. let me send a sketch to you.

Having sex with prostitutes makes you one with them. It’s deeper than you think. A prostitute is always having sex with numerous men, and for that, you’ll do same with numerous prostitutes unending. The crave is now on the both sides. To break it down for you, whatever dwells inside a prostitute is now dwelling in you and it gets so strong and wild because you been doing with different prostitutes.


Solution? If you are a Christian, start fasting. Start with 7 days, increase it to 14 days. 6am to 2pm. Do this every month.

Sexual urge is an appetite, it needs sex and also needs food to grow out of control. When you fast, you starve it and it diminishes with time.

When fasting avoid viewing seductive photos, porn, masturbation, don’t entertain sexually active women because the moment you start this journey, “women of that kind” will start chasing you with sex and you relapse. Rid your phone and WhatsApp of all the prostitutes you patronized. Don’t block but delete them. Occupy your mind with God and he’ll clean it from all sexual immoralities.

Try all these and give God the glory. I got saved.

It is not a matter of 'if he is a Christian'. If he want change indeed, he has to the the advice. It was same advise that I gave him before reading your contribution.

Tired2022:
I'm a scientist, so I know I'm clearly addicted. I just had to create this account to stay anonymous because what I'm about to spill is so shameful to me. Even worse, is that I don't know what the end will be because I lack total control of my third leg.

Alright guys, my dick is my only problem right now. In fact I feel so depressed and traumatised.

I have everything going well for me, I make enough money to buy just anything moderate. I have not been to the hospital for over a decade because the need never arised.

So what's my problem? I can't answer that question because I'm so confused. I know I'm addicted to prostitutes and I haven’t been able to tame this dick of mine.

I'm a very shy guy, I find it hard to socialize with men not to talk off the opposite sex. So, I started with masturbation which lasted over a decade. Then I started making good money, I felt masturbation wasn't what I want, that I had to stop it.

I started visiting prostitutes. Its over 5yrs now, and all I want is to Bleep them all. Yeah, that's how I feel. Bleep all the women, yet I can't even approach one. So, I go for the easy way, prostitutes!

My biggest problem right now, isn't that I'm so addicted to prostitutes or spending money (over 70k every month), but I have had 35 prostitutes without protection. I'm so mad right now because I just bleeped a public toilet without protection. It's the only reason I decided to share this with you all. I'm sufferingggg...............

I have decided to get a girlfriend, I wish to marry next year, but I'm so ashamed, I don’t deserve any woman. Apart from the prostitutes I had without protection, I have had sex with 102 prostitutes in total. And I'm just 33yrs. Gosh! I feel so dirty!

I'm so obsessed with women, and I feel masturbation is the culprit. I fear more that I may not stop even if I have the most beautiful girl on earth by my side. I read the story of a lady who claimed her husband was obsessed with prostitutes in Canada, it shocked me so hard.

Is there anyone who has faced same predicament as mine? How did you win? No woman is safe with me, not even minors because I can't control this dick of mine.

Without alcohol, prostitutes are never attractive to me. So, I must take some alcohol to be in the mood.

Last night, on my regular routine, after drinking alcohol, I met this chubby lady. She was so sexy. I told her exclusively, I find it hard having sex without condom, that I only wanted her to give me a handjob. I pay well, so this girls know me already, it's a fight to have me in their room.

She gave me a Mouth Gig which I wasn't okay with, but I felt save to some extent. After giving me Mouth Gig for a long while, I didn't reach climax. I started mastubating, hoping to reach climax. Still it didn't happen. The lady was already like, f××k me without condom, but don’t release inside. I was contemplating in my mind, Gosh! Not again. Eventually, I reasoned, f××k it! I had her without protection and it took less than 5 minutes for me to reach climax.

This is exactly the same scenario that plays out in all my shameful adventures with these women. And I'm so feld up right now.

I can go on and on, but I don't like writing long epistles. Gosh! I have sex evey 2 days! I can't even go just 1 week without sex. Although I haven’t masturbated in the last 5 yrs, addiction to prostitutes is killing me. How do I even stop this whole sh××t? I feel suicidal.

Please note, it took me a whole lot to share my problem here. I won't take it funny with anyone who says this isn't real. I just want your honest opinion (castigation or advice), please state it. If you don't have anything to say, please and please keep your mouth shot.

I want more opinion on my predicament. Thanks!

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First, talk to God about it.

Engage yourself in fasting. This will help you with physical weakness

Get a confidant.

Occupy yourself with meaningful activities like reading of books, bible, watching movies etc.

Desist from watching any romantic or love making movies and books

ceelog:
Dear architects on here, please a request.

I have a narrow plot of 28ft by 92ft and I am wondering if a befitting house can be built on such a plot and I don't feel clustered or chocked within the space.
Is it possible to achieve this with a reasonable set back on one side for external passage?
Or I just look for a more square plot to build on?
Its for a family of 6 occupants.
Looking forward to your thoughts.

It firstly have to do with what you want to have on the land. State your brief first,.

salbis:
Devil don reason dis guy matter oo. I pray he arise after this fall.

Amen

MulticolourDeco:
It's called a kitchenette. It's just to avoid the stress of going downstairs everytime to get water to drink or to get a quick snacks perhaps in the mid night, during emergencies or when you don't have the energy for that long walk.

Well explained. And to save the aged from defending and ascending.

cuddling44:
Morning nairalanders... pls how long does hand mould blocks last on ground..


And is it advisable too mould all 3200 blocks and keep or I mould as i need.. eg I need 800 blocks for foundation.. should I mould dat and do d foundation.. then wen i get to block laying to lintel i can mould d remaining 2400. ... I don't want to be Penny wise pounds foolish. Cos d project may not really be a fast one due to my financial capability so i don't want d blocks to rot away.


Pls elders and senior landlords, help me

Nothing will happen to it. Just stand it after it has gained strength to avoid adhesion with the ground. I moulded for a project since May, it still standing and looking good.

Unclesmart12:
I met this girl few weeks ago online and we kinda vibed instantly, a couple of weeks later she came over to my house for weekend and we had sex the first night. I asked her about her relationship status later and she said she was in a relationship, though she doesn't love the guy.

She showed me proof of countless times she's told the guy the truth but he would always persuade her to stay with him with hope that she would warm up to him. So she stayed since he was paying the bills.

I can't tell her to leave the guy because I am not ready to pay any bills for anybody now. Just like most Nigerian girls she gets lots of calls, but one made me upset this night.

She was on call with a guy for almost an hour, from the tone of the conversation the guy might just be a friend, because the gist was centered around school and other random stuff. I felt she disrespected me by staying so long on a call and I made my feelings known when she was done. She got moody and stopped talking to me afterwards.

She finished cooking and dished mine in a separate plate even though we have been eating together since she came. She placed the food on the bed without notifying me and went on to eat hers alone. I tried to adjust and kicked the plate away breaking it in the process.

I packed the food and threw it into the trash can, she immediately went to the kitchen and dropped hers too. Took her bath and went to bed, though I know she's not sleeping.

She's supposed to go tomorrow morning and I intend deleting her contact after she leaves, however I really like her. I've not met someone I liked in a while. I don't wanna beg her since I didn't do anything wrong. Or was my reaction to the call extreme??

Should just free her or attempt talking to her?
How do I approach it without coming off as weak?

No advice for you. Shun couple's life when you aren't yet one.

debeey87:
OTA behind Obasanjo farm

I have one that stays in Ota.

JiniBula6:
Help me!
Is this still gonorrhoea?
I had unprotected sex with a girl in September and I got gonorrhoea.
I treated with some harbs for long time and later went for injection in a phamarcy with some drugs.
After treatment the gonorrhoea symptoms left leaving my penis hole open without pain. For some time now... I complain to the pharmacy and I was told it will close up by itself but up till now it hasn't.
I didn't have sex since September till December 25th when I started again but now I'm steady on a condom.

The whole of my penis is wide open. Today I noticed a little purse coming out again as it became wider. I'm worried.
I've searched online and I learnt it's Gonnocal Urethritis.

But I want to know if anyone here experienced this before... Please help.

Mature Minded Please. No insults

If you want to have sex, go and marry then.

Excellent. Thumb up

Dennis3D:
Thanks for your comment. Well appreciated.
Yeah, soil test determined Raft. Also prevailing buildings in the estate is same. To my knowledge here, no one has done anything differently.

To your inquiries on yours...
If there is a major difference between your new plan and your existing then I would suggest it be filled up with sand or hardcore preferably in that regard then a fresh Raft done...

Its a bit treaky to say demolish the existing and firm new one completely unless the old ones would be used as rubble at some point in the foundation.

Anyone reading here with other options can still make their opinions known.

Thanks everyone reading.

Well done Engineer.

Keep up the good work.

To the question posted, since he is still going to do over site conc, definitely the foundation can still be use. There is always a way to convert existing foundation to a new different floor plan.

Rachel98:
Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.

Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!

What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up.
I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.

I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.

Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.

Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments??

What I will say is this, avoid premarital sex. Sex is meant for the married and not singles.

Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

You have done all within your reach even beyond. Please, put the matter behind you and focus on other things( work, your life etc). You can't do anything about a split milk. If you keep concentrating on the matter, I pray you don't lose from two sides.

God will comfort you.

debeey87:
Eleidi. Don't have an exact description

My office is not far from there.
when you are around you can call me, help me come and say hi to you.

debeey87:
Yes o. He even won a position as PRO for the association recently sef. His office is opposite Obasanjos farm

Where is your site there?

michlins:
this picture is triggering my phobia for height. I don't sit at my balcony like this else it feels like I'm falling.

How do you guys deal with this type of heights

You can. It may seems daring at first but when you gain mastery in mounting, the phobia will disappear.

Inception:
Smart solution.
Use beams with sufficient profile (depth) to provide adequate sectional modulus to resist the slab deflection.

Connection of beam to slab can be via bolting (using concrete drilling machine to drill through) at specific intervals (depending on slab length and as per analysis) and passed through top and bottom beam flanges or using plates washers

Beams should have adequate connections to the ground (via either existing adjacent beams that have closeby columns or even making them have their own columns, cast or steel)

Beam numbers and spacing should also be sufficient.

The best is for him to take a competent structural engineer down to the site to diagnose the problem. The problem cannot be solved without seeing deficiency.

EgunMogaji2:
Thank you very much. Means a lot to me coming from an architect.

I specifically chose that area. When I bought it, each plot was N500K in 2016 or so. They are now N5.5M in the immediate area and up to N10M nearer to Akala Express.

That is real estate for you sir. There was a site in Sango Ogun State, theclient purchased it at the rate of 10k in year 2000 but now you can't find a virgin land there again. Same in Otta, land was 250k in 2017 but 3m.

Good work there from plastering to painting. The environment is fascinating too. Well done sir!

debeey87:
Holy crown (zero 8 zero three two five one 63 five five) helped to source 300bags. He also supervises my build in my absence behind Obasanjo farm. You can reach out to him

Holy Crown a property agent? I think I know him.

Noah9:
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life . I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life . What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here . Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.

Don't feel bad too long. Your wife had gone too far with her reactions. There are some things that should not be denied in marriage when couples are at loggerhead. When you made advances to her, that should have been the opportunity for her to open up her emotional issues and the offenses you committed which would have paved way for reconciliation but she didn't. Don't let me say you didn't go too far. The only area I didn't like in the situation was the aspect of slapping her. Pls, don't punish yourself emotionally. The deed has been done, think about solution and not wound yourself.

Mylordmygod1:
Hello nairalanders...

i got my girfriend pregnant since september, and it really got me crazy..

when it was 2 months, we tried to abort it, and so we met a chemist who gave her drugs and injection, he told us that the blood we rush out, but it did rush out just small and stopped.. So it did not work even after i paid him 8k..

now, we are about to carry out D & C abortion tomorow, but she keep saying she is scared.. Even me, i'm scared too..

i don't know what to do..

please, don't feel bad reading this, i only need advice on this, it is a wrong move but my mind is already made up to do it..

how i wish i can just allow her to birth it..

though, one of my mind is still telling me to keep it, but how can i be able to take care of her and the baby?

And she is just my side girlfriend, not my real babe..
pray for me nairalanders, i need strenght this moment to take the right decision..

Please don't abort it. The consequences outweigh keeping it. You might think you made mistake but it might not be planned by God.

spyder880:
Some home finish works we did in 2021

Excellent.

mufutau55:
Following this thread. My project is somewhere around there at Isorosi town, close to Ijako Tipper Garage. Good work. Thanks.

Hajji M.

That should be around Owode.

shilenji:
As we begin the countdown to the New Year, I keep reminiscing on how 2021 was spent by me. There are some decisions I regret taking and there are some I am glad to have taken . It's been a tough year tho.

But Quitting smoking was the best decision I took this year tho and it's been effortless judging from the fact that I was nicknamed WIZKHALIFA OF LAGOS(I did them all) due to my smoking prowess,lol.

The second best decision was cutting off some communications( association). Well that's it for me�

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God will help you to stick to this new life and decision that you have made

Requirements for Ogun State approval processing.

1. Survey Plan - They request for a red copy survey against the blue copy Lagos State often accept. But with much plea, favour can still be shown to those having blue copy survey.

2. 4 Sets of Architectual drawing- Lagos will always request for 5 copies of Architecture and structural drawings but Ogun State demand you submit four copies of Architecture and structure each.

3. Stamp duty

4. Tax and development levy. Taking Ado Odo/ Ota as case study, you don't need to stress yourself searching for your tax clearance or document as we have it in Lagos. This local government will already have a fixed amount for bungalows and multiple floors. Each of the floors tax levy is very meager. Less than twenty thousand for a floor.

5. passport photograph- Only one passport photograph is requested for.

6. Site Photograph.

These are the requirements requested for for approval processing in Ogun State ( Ado -Odo/ Ota precisely).

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