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Idowuogbo: Eeeeem... So far.. Yea! Bedt, some short brudahs wiv small feet dey carry certain things o! I remember wan wey I c, hin own fat like yam. As I sight d thing, omo I para strx. i''m like "dude dat shyte ain't entering any hole in my body. I refuse to die young.

yeah lol ,

I heard tall dudes with big feet have massive meat . So far I have no idea if all this is rumour or genuine.

Ijele-igbo:
A perfect man or woman is someone who tries to near perfection in everything he/she does, someone who tries to be the best of him or herself and stands out amongst the crowd

Yes, true, but no matter how hard we try, some will be nearer perfection than others. How do the other gender view perfection and how do they decide on who is suitable for them based on their preferences?

RedBenson: Fuckluv, are u he or she or transgendered? If she, then........

@Atheist-D, did u find such romantic and compassionate worthy of advising others? I think b4 this can happen, the duo must thickly be in luv with each other!

Yes, but there are other factors too. It can be too demanding. High flying career people sometimes lack the time and energy for such serious commitment.

Idowuogbo: Complexion(u gats to b dark skin), brains and shoe size.

Shoe size?? Is that rumour true?

albridge: What you just said is a clear indication of the fact that the world has indeed gone crazy. And we complain of bokoharma and evil when this warped way of thinking is the womb that creates all the madness. Soon you will say it is ok for a man to sleep with his fathers wife if they both consent to it as adults.

Consanguinity would make the fathers wife unacceptable. But an open marriage is not an issue if both parties are happy with it. People already live liek that. They just lie about it to their partners and everyone else.

albridge: If husbands now allow their wives to have sex outside marriage and see it as normal then I think we are in trouble. Is that how God ordained marriage?

And how did God ordain marriage? If both parties consent and are adults then so be it. People do the same thing now, they just do it in a hypocritical way, and deceive each other and then cry and beg for forgiveness.

nairabacks: Many years ago (I lived abroad) I once had a gf also called yetunde.

She was always pestering me to take her to NEXT when she came on holiday. Finally we went, as she was telling me buy her this dress and that shoe, she was also buying this tie, that shirt, that watch..

I paid for her stuff , while she paid for the men's shirts and I said " Oh baby, why you spending the little money you have on me ? I have all these things.. "

She said, "Oh don't worry, they're not for you.."

A few days later, she went back to Nigeria.

I was 'a learner' back then..

Ouch.

Ijele-igbo:
I'm not gonna give up on this! You want me to answer your questions, I'll give it to you

Go for it bro

And condemn others for acts you regularly commit. When caught out, cry out loud, weep profusely and blame Satan.

Ijele-igbo:
Hmmm...... But the MIND of man is so powerful that if utilized properly can be used to near perfection!

Yes. But near perfection is not perfection . Also, the closer to near perfection we get the rarer we become. Also, what is a "perfect" man/woman? What character/traits would they exhibit?

I doubt it is true but are virgins really worth all that effort? Are they good in bed? I am uncertain and would like any virgin conquerors to give me some inside information

A majority, maybe 70% of people within a certain age group.

Ijele-igbo:
I thought the bible emphasized somewhere on perfection? Man being semi - gods?

Do we seem perfect to you? If we were perfect there would be no broken marriages, cheating, rape etc... in fact no sin or evil.

RedBenson: I must say am jealous of this couple in my area who loves and appreciates themselves in what i call an 'excellent way'. What do i mean here? I mean you can hardly see one without the other. They go and move around with each other 24/7. Apart from being husband and wife, they are also very good friends who keeps each other company at all times. The man is the handbag to the woman and the vice versa. If paradventure one is seen without the other, the person would be asked, 'where is your handbag?'

Waoh! What an interesting couple.

The question now is, who are you to your partner? Apart from being in romantic relationship, are you his/her friend? Do you keep him/her company always! Do you go with him/her to wherever you've to go? Do you attend occassion and functions together with him/her? And finally, how interesting is it having your partner as your handbag? Any challenges that could come in the course?

Let's hear from you.

Been there, done that. It is too emotionally draining and time consuming. But in some cases it can work.

albridge: Can a husband agree to such? Should a husband agree to such? Is it not abnormal?

A husband can agree to such and it takes a special kind of person to do that. It is known as c@@@@@@ing. It is not as rare as people think. It is mostly whites that are into that however. Some men even enjoy allowing their wives sleep outside the marital bed.

I dont see anything wrong with it as long as the man agrees and is happy with it.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]If she was cheating, she'll be more careful than leaving condoms in her bag. [/color]

Gotcha

mekaboy: During the relationships, they claim they are not, but when it ends they have to calculate, they don't want to loose out. Lol

This applies to men as well. How often have you heard of a guy whining about how much he spent on a girl while dating her when the relationship ends? If she refuses to marry him and dumps him, he would calculate all the meals, clothes, phones, car, education, rent, toiletries, pregnancy test kits and claim everywhere that he spent that amount of money on her. Who cares?? He spent it willingly right? No one twisted his arm when he spent it? Only a slightly disadvantaged man has a right to moan over such. Others I reckon should be modest and call it a loss.

People are too picky and choosy. Everyone wants the "perfect" specimen. Perfection does not exist. The closer people get to perfection the rarer that person becomes.

Paschal007: maybe atheists are trolling on your thread as usual.

Typical christian. Blame atheists for everything.

@ Nadia,

What happened in Hillbrow?

I dont understand those christians who advocate. It was never a christian thing. Where in christianity is polygamy accepted? People blame Paul but think of it this way, if God wanted polygamy He would have created Adam, Eve, Lucy, Tanya, Natasha etc.. just for Adam to enjoy. Why did God create only Eve?

So if Polygamist christians want to accept polygamy then why dont they accept polyandry? Polyandry is still a form of polygamy and the bible does not speak against it either.

mekaboy: Lol, maybe they multiply the number of rounds by the estimated value of each round, and then multiply by the number of years, then divide by the guys average income.

Lol. I was waiting for that answer

This world is really sick So they compare themselves to love peddlers in a sense .

mekaboy: Well, according to them, they say the guys should either give the girl capital to start something or set up a business for her. Else whatever the girl does to the guy is acceptable.

So how do they determine how much start up capital is required for the business? Is she worth 2 mill? 5 mill? 20 How would it be determined?

lovelydoll: Last night i was speaking with my aunt, she asked if i was single i told her "yes" and she said she would find a husband from Nigeria for me.The thing is i am not so open to the "nigerian/african mentality". I want to tell my aunt that if she is going to search for a guy for me he has to be born here in america or atleast grew up here for most of his life.I have already tried to date guys fresh from africa but they all just seemed to fall right into that Typical nigerian/african mentality. that i just do not like and can not cooperate with. I am not trying to be offensive or anything.

I want to know how to tell my aunt this,without sounding like am looking down at my african men ,(which am not).

i also don't mind if he was born in africa or has african parents,i just don't want the "african mentality" type of guy.Cause i know we will fight day and night and end up in a big divorce/breakup(past experience).

So why haven't you been able to meet someone so far? Have you been looking long? America has a lot of eligible bachelors so take your time and enjoy yourself. If you dont want an African then dont go for one. Go for what you want.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Interesting.

There are many angles and reasons so no need speculating. I'd rather face my bees wax. [/color]

Stop being boring and give us a suggestion as to what you suspect. You reckon she is cheating huh

mekaboy: In relationships, the girls count each sexual intercourse as a giving on credit, with the hope that the guy will marry them in the end. If he does not then they want compensation for the accumulated sexual credit they have been given the guy.

That is an intricate analysis. If jilted, will these ladies sue through the courts to get the "expected" financial reimbursement based on their market value? Who would be the assessor of booty value? How would disputes be settled if you felt she was worth less than her assessment and refuse to pay the requested amount?

mondi_cheeks: It only seems like a favour if u cannot satisfy her

Exactly. If she enjoys it then it is mutual.

Birth control. Birth control does not stop with marriage. A married couple should still consider birth control during marriage.

cutiepie01: Hello Nairalanders,am new here,av been seeing this acronym SMH Pls someone should tell me the meaning.

Shake My Head... as in shock or disbelief or disappointment

jntyjnty007: My instincts. I said to myself if you want to marry him why not ask him, and I am wild about the man.

There was none of this "why has he not asked me to marry him yet, why is he stalling, am I abnormal". Most definitely not, I need brain space for more important reasoning and questioning. That's just me.

Sounds good. Did you drop any hints first or were you sort of already expecting a yes? What if he said no?

lil jboy: @OP... This is just the order of the day, these stupid gals will demand something when they even "enjoy it more", i repeat 'enjoy it more', dont mind their pretence. Sex is a two-way thangy and should be appreciated by both parties, after all here in nigeria the guy does his thing alone, [b]the gal will just lie there like a log of wood while the guy bangs hopelessly... Haba! [/b]If we convert that banging strength, carry am do cycling, walahi! Armstrong no go win anything even if he take dope twice the way he did.

Well there is the problem. It needs to be more interactive right . But you are right in regards to everything else.

mekaboy: Its funny how african women pretend a lot. That is why they see a girl who asks a guy out as wayward. They are always expecting something in return.

When a guy wants sex they expect him to pay for it. Even when they want it, the dress up, look seductive and go out looking for a guy who will pay and satisfy their sexual needs at the same time.

So much pretense. This is how they force guys to say I LOVE U to them before they have sex. Even when they know he would not have said otherwise in the condition. After they will want to hold the guy to the promise he made under duress.

Precisely. These women have intimacy needs too. They want the man to pay for intimacy but they want to be sex.ually satisfied as well!!! And if he fails to keep them interested they will just make up the numbers with a couple of extra boyfriends

jntyjnty007: Made me laugh, thanks. I could not sleep until we met the next day.

Not an easy nights sleep. So what made you decide to go first?